Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > Improper English and/or Grammar?      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 ndulj
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 120
Improper English and/or Grammar?Page 4 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
The one I can't get past is "prolly"

prolly is not a word, not even close. I am guessing they mean to say "probably."
For some reason it just drives me to distraction. I have even seen it in business correspondence.


{Thank you for allowing this much needed rant}
 CMonster
Joined: 12/4/2004
Msg: 121
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/5/2008 5:47:28 PM
The one I can't get past is "prolly"

"Prolly" is the only non-word worse than "irregardless."

Thought I was going to say "worse then 'irregardless'" didn't 'ya?
 TheOriginal
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 122
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/5/2008 5:53:51 PM
I have heard some of the most proper speaking IDIOTS!!!!!!!!

and that was just today
 Ramility 2.74
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 123
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/7/2008 11:14:03 AM
Our Langwage is moving It`s getting better and simple to communicate. where taking out all the useless crap u see Why do extra when i can get my point across with fewer words and/or characters? Mindless? no it's progression gtg peace:)
 athomeinportage
Joined: 11/28/2008
Msg: 124
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/7/2008 8:59:51 PM
Language is a living art in continual change. The Internets impact on language is huge. The things you are talking about are new conventions and like it or not is now part of our language.

If you don't accept these conventions how can you communicate effectively?
 jakeya99
Joined: 5/9/2008
Msg: 125
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/9/2008 6:21:30 AM
If I see "dunno" or "cuz" or "I seen" or the improper use of "too, two or to" or even "there, their or they're" I cringe. It's so immature, lazy or uneducated not to use proper English to express thought from one adult to another. I will lose interest quickly if I see habitual abuses.

I am prone to have typos from time to time, and I am not the world's best speller... but I do use spell-check and I try to look over a message before sending it. To me, my e-mails represent me and my level of education and caring about the message or conversation. Why would I represent myself poorly to others when a little more time would do wonders??

It's a peeve of mine... but in the end I am a grammar Nazi; for better or worse.

The most attractive thing about women to me is their wit and intellect.
 oldsoul
Joined: 3/10/2007
Msg: 126
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 12/9/2008 8:35:42 AM
A woman who can demonstrate these will be good in my book:


His post having piqued my curiosity, I just had to take a peek at his profile.

They're crazy...their ideas are crazy...there are a lot of crazy people throwing their crazy ideas around.

Crazy people have no effect on me. However, some of their crazy ideas have the potential to affect me greatly:)

To whom it may concern; Who the hell are you to call all those people crazy?

Thank you for the nice compliment, and yes I agree, my granddaughter complements my life beautifully.

It's sad that so many people seem to use the word crazy to describe anything but its true meaning:)



I couldn't resist, even though I have no idea how to use a semi colon or how to properly structure (most of) my sentences. English is my second language and I only began to speak and write it later in life. So I compensate by being extra careful with my spelling (and I always use a spell check) and I try my best to use the right words in their proper context. The dictionary is my best friend and I use it often.

One of my biggest problem is my love of run on sentences, but I am getting better with practice. My other problem is not knowing how to use an apostrophe in words like anyone, as in: is it anyone's business if I'm crazy?

My spell checker tells me that it's wrong, so I don't know if I'm supposed to write " is it anyones business" and forget the apostrophe altogether or what? Crazy minds (and crazy old souls) want to know (and are much too lazy (or crazy) to look it up;)



JMO
 ISLANDER1089
Joined: 8/22/2007
Msg: 127
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/1/2009 7:45:00 AM
Metalvixxn, I couldn't agree more. Sadly this writing style has even become the norm for some older people who should know better. I think to some extent that the whole texting thing is most common with young people who can't afford the phone call but it's infiltrating into the business world where for now at least it's completely inappropriate. The other observation is that it seems to be somewhat cultural because I notice it more in the United Kingdom than in North American messages. I also think that some people actually think that it's "cool" to use a text messaging style of communication. I am totally turned off by it myself and assume the author of the message is either mentally challenged or illiterate. I think I'll scream if I see one more "LOL". I have never needed to have someone tell me when I should be laughing. I only laugh if there's humor.
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 129
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:16:34 AM

I couldn't resist, even though I have no idea how to use a semi colon or how to properly structure (most of) my sentences. English is my second language and I only began to speak and write it later in life.


OldSoul brings up a very good point here. Many intelligent people don't write well in English because English is not their native language. Living in California, I know many very smart folks for whom that's the case. It's foolhardy to criticize someone's writing when English may be that person's second or third language. "Textspeak" is easier to learn, so many novice English speakers and writers gravitate toward that. Only ignorant snobs would prejudge someone based solely on that person's writing style on a dating site.
 Zuglo
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 130
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/1/2009 10:23:35 AM

Many intelligent people don't write well in English because English is not their native language.

I am one of them...But I do try to make an effort, use spellcheck, look up words.
But I've known to make people smile, putting sentences together.
Don't bother me at all, if someone judges me because of it.
But I don't know about "Textspeak". I wouldn't say that's easier to learn.
There are "text" word, I have to think about, what they mean?
My daughter says "IDK" a lot..I know that's I Don't Know..But she is 8.
If the grown women would talk like her, I would question her sanity.
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 131
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/1/2009 12:41:53 PM
This is a huge pet peeve of mine on dating sites. I think our current "texting" society is ruining the English language. My grammar and spelling are not always perfect, but I at least make an effort to pull out a dictionary if I'm not sure how to spell a word before I message someone. Most who message me, do not, which AMAZES me.

To me, if you send me a message with no punctuation marks in your sentences, or you say things like "u r" instead of "you are", that's just darn lazy to me. It also tells me I must not be worth the trouble for you to put proper grammar in your message, so why would I make the effort to reply? It also makes you sound ignorant. Maybe you're an intelligent person, but if you can't even put the effort into spelling out an entire word, you're not going to "sound" very intelligent to me.

If I get messages like that, I just hit the delete button. I really, really hate "text speak" in messages. I just find it ignorant and lazy sounding for the most part.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 132
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/2/2009 6:57:01 AM
Actually, I'd like to encourage the guys to continue to be lazy and write poorly. I recently contacted a woman and told her that one reason she should reply is that a contact message containing complete sentences and proper punctuation is a novelty. I did get a reply, so keep up the good work guys.
 wild heart
Joined: 10/14/2007
Msg: 133
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/2/2009 9:21:23 AM
I don't mind textspeak. What I don't like is this:

"soIsaid to her the oter daethatIwas gona get some intalligantmen bcause......"

And I see a TON of this on here from people over 30. Whether they are intelligent or not, I don't know, but the way they write doesn't lead me to believe they are.

Honestly, a little boo boo here and there is not a big deal. Writing a few run-ons, no issue.

When I write, I try to re-read what I wrote to ensure that it is correct.
 jm0405
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 135
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 2/16/2009 10:07:34 PM
I don't communicate with people who cannot type proper English, use correct grammar and avoid initial abbreviations. Might be cold, but I figure if they speak like they type or have stunted intellectual growth like their writing skills demonstrate, we won't have anything in common anyway so it's best to ignore them or simply move on.
 BEST~ONE!
Joined: 1/21/2009
Msg: 136
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:18:08 PM
I THINK , WELL NOT THAT WHAT I THINK MATTERS! You are all way to serious! lighten up! enjoy adversity, or different people! Except a little! live a little! Hell, you might enjoy it! or U mite n joy it! lol :modhammer:
 shipoker58
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 137
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:30:14 PM
the moment I read ..SUP! or DUDE or anything similar, I just delete. The conversation is over. I really dislike ..KEWL! In other examples of Text type, it is meant to shorten the message. But Kewl and Cool have the same amount of letters. Just my way of thinking about things. I wouldn't want anyone to change their actions for me. But address me with respect and I will do the same. People are not wrong...but it turns me off, immediately!

Guess it doesn't matter, as I don't respond to POF e-mails anyway. But in real conversations or phone conversations, it matters. Just a matter of preference. I also wish people would recognize that some people may make typos...that doesn't make them bad spellers or dummies. Some of us never knew we would have to learn typing skills when we were younger. So this keyboard thing is still uncomfortable for some.


...JMO
 evrybdy
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 138
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:12:59 PM
Knowing a bunch of Prince fans, I got used to 4 U instead of for you or any other ways of lingo that he and his fans shared, and I would get enormous emails from a friend with all kinds of letters and numbers and would have to take an hour to read something that should have taken a few minutes. It literally burns the eyes! But I am pretty lenient since I do use some textspeak in emails and writing, mainly LOL. I should try and clean it up a bit at times, but I think I am doing pretty good with the sentence structure. For me, if it looks too ghetto and I know they are not a Prince fan, I might not know how to write back, or I might just say yo, yo, yo! I getz youz yo!

M
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 139
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:39:07 PM
I post occasionally on the IMDb forums, and my sig line on that forum reads, simply: "Spelling, punctuation, and grammar -- learn it, live it, love it"

I don't mind the occasional typos or casual grammar in writing, but it gets on my nerves when people are simply too lazy to write in a comprehensible fashion. To me, it is a sign of a lack of respect. If they don't respect me enough to write to me in a readable fashion, then I don't see why I should care what they say.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 140
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:42:21 PM

I have no idea how to use a semi colon or how to properly structure

Or how to not split infinitives...

And, of course, prepositions are something you should never end a sentence with.

Never use no double negatives, either.

When dangling, be sure to watch your participles.

And never use commas, when they are not needed.

It ain't right to use slang words, either.

And of course, be sure none of your words are mispelled.
 throwingitoutthere
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 141
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 7:27:58 AM
Here's something I found interesting form CityTV

The pod person used his WiFi at hyperspeed to listen to some tuneage, complain about plumber's crack, saw a gay-friendly drama queen and - bada-bing - wound up with some bling.

O.K. that's not the most literate or sensible sentence you'll ever read.

But for the first time, every word in it appears in what's acknowledged to be the world's most prestigious language guide.

The editors at the Oxford English Dictionary spend untold hours deciding which precious bon mots belong in their coveted edition, and this year, they've added hundreds of new words to the list of what's officially correct English. - taken from City TV


I will admit that I'm part of the generation that grew up as a kid watching "School House Rock" Saturday mornings, but let's get real here for a moment. The English language is a living language and often a **stardization of other languages, so let's get off our high horses.

Given a choice I do prefer classic English to Techno-canter...but for me IT'S THE MESSAGE NOT THE MEDIUM. And, someone who can use both is more attractive in my eyes than someone who is either stuck in old conventions or someone who can't elaborate beyound e-speak.

I find it amusing when people who say those who use e-text are lazy. I work with some youngin's who do more communicating in a day than those who don't use it in a week (not that volume nescesarily means, good communication). It would be just as easy for them to say that many on this thread "ARE LAZY" because they refuse to keep up with the times.

Then again the JMHO....oh, no I didn't.
 shipoker58
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 142
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:11:50 AM

I find it amusing when people who say those who use e-text are lazy. I work with some youngin's who do more communicating in a day than those who don't use it in a week (not that volume nescesarily means, good communication). It would be just as easy for them to say that many on this thread "ARE LAZY" because they refuse to keep up with the times.



I agree...although I don't like it...I don't think it is laziness. Again, "...The Times They Are A-Changin'"...Bob Dylan. "...get out of the new one if you can't lend a hand."

I just keep my distance and CHOOSE to hang out with people who speak the way I do!


...JMO
 elles-belles
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 143
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:12:38 AM
Text speak annoys me. I don't mind some words being shortened but it annoys me when there are no vowels in any words. I'm not fussed so much about spelling or grammar, I just want to be able to read the message, not have to fill in several letters a word.
 iilah
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 144
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 9:41:00 AM
Sounds a little immature to me.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 145
view profile
History
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 10:02:53 AM

but for me IT'S THE MESSAGE NOT THE MEDIUM.

Tell ya what, I'll send you an e-mail, but before I do, I'm going to encrypt it with a 256-bit encryption algorithm.

Hey, the message is still there, but good luck understanding it.

This is the way I often feel when I see messages that are sent in heavy text-speak. It hardly matters anymore what the message is, because I get a headache trying to figure out what it is. I agree with you that it's not necessarily laziness, but it *is* a lack of respect for the listener.
 throwingitoutthere
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 146
Improper English and/or Grammar?
Posted: 4/10/2009 10:43:06 AM
PirateJohn09

Point taken. To each his/her own.

As in most cases on these forums there's no right or wrong. Just giving my perspective which is more of a compromise.

Maybe I find beauty in math so an alogrithms and it isn't a bad thing. If didn't understand I would like to think I would give the person a chance to clarify....instead of writing them off (no pun intended).

If the person kept on communicating in a form that I couldn't follow and also wouldn't meet at least half way then sure - NEXT!!!!

BTW I did enjoy your play on words (splitting infinitives and such)

This has brought up a question...would anyone rather...have frequent e-speak texts (I luv u) or extremely infrequent poems. That's what I was trying to get at with message vs. medium (I see each as equally valid forms of saying "I love you" - some may have a preference but both are good).
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > Improper English and/or Grammar?