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 road_toad_ala_mode
Joined: 5/19/2006
Msg: 176
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I'd say loose that guy...like yesterday! Who meets up at McDonalds anyway-especially for the 1st time? That should have been strike #1 through 30 BILLION (1 for each person served). I understand he has a child, but c'mon (!!!) try to go the extra mile here fella's. Plus he was late a combined time of almost 40 minutes AND didn't bring cash to a date where HE ASKED YOU out! Drop him like a hot rock there sister...but give him an extra 50 cents (sense), so he can supersize his lack thereof.
 steve1976123
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 177
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Posted: 5/27/2009 3:45:43 PM
NO you are not guys like that ***hole should be left hes lucky you gave him that many chances his loss right come on the ****ing guy was late not once not twice but 3times hes lucky he got that 3date in my books but the only thing that i feal was wrong on your part was thinking that he should pay for your meal when hes not eating but the rest like he brings hes kid on the first date buddy come on use your brain dumb ass you should be like
 jj007104
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 178
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Posted: 5/28/2009 7:40:16 AM
Ok...I know this post probably expired but I couldn't help but comment...my take on this is I do not blame the guy as much as I blame the woman who posted this...it takes two to make things go too far and you certainly played your roll on allowing things to get where they got...

1. The theme of these dates seem to revolve around fast food restaurants...maybe I should reevaluate how I do things when I go on dates because I always thought fast food dates were a no no and here we are in 2009 and women are allowing men to take them to fast food restaurants on dates, even worst, first and second dates

2. The guy brought his kid on a first date and the evening was spent with this dude making a clown out of his child for giggles and yet the poster still saw it as a successful first date...yikes

3. If a woman asked me out 3 days in a row I would think she was desperate unless we hit it off to the moon and something magical happened on the first night that I cant explain, no way in hell am I accepting invitations to go out Friday, Saturday and then Sunday...rather freakish if you ask me

4. In 2009 after all that we know about psychos out there, especially someone you met on the internet, you are accepting an invitation to go hang out by the water near his home a place you are unfamiliar with...true you were smart enough to drive yourself but your car would be of no use if this guy (who during the date was already drawing red flags) throws you in the water to rid of the evidence...I watch enough forensic files to know you placed yourself in a very dangerous situation and have no one else to blame but yourself.

My take on all of this was these were two desperate people...I hate to pass judgment but that's really how this all comes off...I hope in the future this young lady who posted this would use much better judgment when accepting dates from men and certain learns that she's worth more then a selection on the McDonald value meal...if a man doesn't have at least 100 dollars (especially in NYC) in his pocket to spare before he ask you out, then stay home and watch a movie and paint your toe nails as there's always better men out there that will come trying to woo you tomorrow.
 zrukaivna1967
Joined: 5/14/2009
Msg: 179
your more then right
Posted: 6/1/2009 5:40:34 PM
obviously this guy is not ready for the dating world yet... he is juggling his kid and ex at the same time he is being with you...

sounds to me more that he does not want to be alone... any night... so thats why he is consistant with the dating nights..

also he is consistant with a ritual that puts you in last place...

my question to you is.... WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU... are you that desperate yourself that even before the relationship statrts he is already training you to accept being last...

please explain why...
 cammiegirl
Joined: 10/13/2008
Msg: 180
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Posted: 6/2/2009 6:38:35 PM
You are better than I would have been....He would have lost me when he brought his child on the first "date". Who does that?
 andjul
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 181
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Posted: 6/27/2009 7:54:44 PM
I am laughinmg my head off here

Firstly most of the intro's on here statebe honest and the do's and don'ts you expect

if someone takes you to an nice restaurant is he being honest or just out to impress, how many marriages break up people because courtship was based on impressing each other.

remember when you were young, your first date was meet in a bar, and the guy bought you a drink

why do everyone one now expect dinner, movies commitment on the first date.

Gee now wonder so many single devorced people on here
 rhodax
Joined: 6/11/2009
Msg: 182
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Posted: 6/27/2009 9:01:51 PM
If I were a girl I'd have tossed the idiot for not turning OFF his cell phone. I'd never have gotten to the 20 minute wait in the first place. Come to think of it, same goes for me as a guy and it was a woman I was seeing.

If you want a date be prepared to pay attention to your DATE, not the rest of the frickin world. After all, what better way to irrevocably prove "you're just not that into them".
 marc100000
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 183
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Posted: 6/27/2009 10:59:51 PM
You have to excuse his lateness.
Its obvious that if his first 2 dates are mickey ds and taco smell that he cant move too fast and you are lucky he was able to show up at all
 astock
Joined: 6/25/2009
Msg: 184
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Posted: 6/28/2009 4:47:25 PM
now i can't completely blame him for being on the cell phone, i own my own business it is not unusual for people to call me in the late evening early night with problems or concerns. it's just a fact of life. as for bringing his child on the date, again i can't see anything bad with that seeing as it has happened to me a few times. this one girl i was talking to brought her son the very first time i met her and it was fun, just flat out fun. i myself love kids. maybe mcdonalds and taco bell were just a nice centralized place that he could meet you. can't condem a man for that. i have met girls at the mall, at chineese restraunts at taco bell, and at wendys. it's not being lazy it's just not making them drive more than they have to to meet

just my 2 cents
 TKO38
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 185
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Posted: 3/19/2012 7:08:13 AM
Honestly, I think you leaving was the best option. Im sorry it was such a crap few days.

Firstly, meeting with his kid, makes me wonder. My kids are way older, and still, a man Im meeting the first time will not be meeting my kids the first time. That is where you two should of been able to talk and get to know each other, not play at Mc D's. That was odd. And late, well, some people are constantly late. And, at least he called to say he was behind. (red flag)

The second time late, no call? That was kind of rude, but you know he has a young child, so possible to overlook his lateness that time. Sitting in the parking lot, weird. (red flag)

Meeting at the park is not a bad thing. Its public so thats alright.

Im glad you made sure to add that you didnt expect him to pay for the food. And like alot of people have mentioned, we all fall onhard times so who's to say why he was short on cash. I know kids cost alot of money, so no judgement on that. That being said, it is still kind of odd to ask someone out 3 times and have no cash any time. (red flag)

So, when you said he wanted to go by the river, it was closer to his house, did you actually go to his house?

The cell phone, thats a 'whole nother bag of worms'!! I HATE cells on dates. If you have kids obviously for emerg is understandable. However if it was that kind of situation, he would of said something and left, not sat and chatted. That is beyond freakin rude! (red flag) Another question would be, did you hear any of the conversation?

Too many 'red flags' to ignore. Im leaning to, if you didnt see inside his home to confirm, he might be married. And the cell conversation, if you didnt hear any of it, could of been another woman. Being late so much, like I said could just be who he is, but makes me wonder if he is with someone else before meeting with you.

I met a guy similar, so everything you said in your note just reminded me completely of 'him'.
I think you know the answers hun.
 Nominal3201
Joined: 5/2/2010
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/20/2012 7:24:40 AM
Hey, it could've been worse: at least his kid didn't greet you with "Are you my new Mommy?"

 ChrisAtiles77
Joined: 9/17/2010
Msg: 187
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Posted: 3/20/2012 3:39:28 PM
He is a keeper!!!!!!! Can I come to the wedding?
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 188
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Posted: 3/20/2012 11:48:24 PM
Oh h3!! no you are not wrong, I would never stayed if some man brought his son, I would of said bye I have things to do, good luck and left, I would of felt no guilt leaving.
If he calls again do answer and tell him you are not interested, bye and hang up.
 Dacouch5677_
Joined: 11/13/2011
Msg: 189
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Posted: 3/21/2012 1:08:22 AM
The guy got what he deserved I think. If I was, on a date the only way im answering the phone is if its the ex calling and it better be an emergency for one of my kids. Otherwise its just rude disrespectful. Being late to a date you set up not once but all three times. Dude needs to growup personally
 excessivemayhem
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 190
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Posted: 3/29/2012 11:36:14 PM
seriously, its a mark of extremely poor manners for a man to talk on a cell phone when the woman he's with took time out of her busy day to spend what little time she had left with him.
this moron obviously didn't get it.
if you're going to go out on a date make sure you have some money, for food, drinks, entertainment. whatever
make damn sure you don't ignore the woman by talking on a cell phone unless it is a matter of LIFE OR DEATH
if you're going to be late 3 times, i would suggest leaving earlier...
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 191
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Posted: 3/30/2012 1:58:11 PM
Nope, guy is an ahole, you were in the clear. Although I think your going overboard on two things;

think it's enough that he was late 3 times (my time is important too)


So I got something to eat (paid for it myself) Strike 3


Okay, 20 minutes is a long time to be late by. But if were talking a few minutes every time, I really dont see a big deal, especially if it ever happens to you as well. I think were all allowed leeway, as long as it doesnt become a habit (which seems to be the case with this guy indeed, but point it, lateness should really be a "strike" per say)
And point #2...the Hell? What, were you EXPECTING him to pay you something? I dont start paying anything for ladies unless they are real nice or real deserving. Why do I always pay for them? Why don't I ever get paid something. Do you realise, in a 32 year existence, I have never had a woman, and I've had several indeed, spontaneiously offer to pay for ANYTHING? I think that's a remnant of that 's mentality of the man providing for everything, when in this day and age, women are more than capable to provide, if not even more so than men. This is a kind of mentality I really don't accept, and for me it's a strike, but the other way around.
Anyways, this is just meant as constructive criticism, not an OP bash. Might want to dwell on it, just to see
 BlackDude619
Joined: 10/18/2010
Msg: 192
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Posted: 5/21/2012 8:46:25 PM
lol I haven't read any of the comments yet because I don't want my opinion skewed... i would say that your are WAAAAAY too punctual when it comes to meeting up and dating... if its a real restaraunt or movie then I could understand... but mcdonalds n taco bell... jus sit back turn on your radio text some people until they get there. i mean wow.... 10 20 minutes??? and you flip out lol... wow. I mean I do usually try to show up on time... but things happen like traffic... or can't find your wallet... etc... The time thing didn't affect anything but your attitude. Kinda crazy that someone really would stop dating someone else because of 10 or 20 minutes here or there.... Especially if you liked em enough to see him again and again....
 BlackDude619
Joined: 10/18/2010
Msg: 193
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Posted: 5/21/2012 9:30:07 PM
it was wrong to talk on the phone for 20 minutes though... that is rude.
 ccpinet
Joined: 8/11/2010
Msg: 194
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Posted: 5/22/2012 5:07:29 AM
Yep, I would say next .... cut the line and move on. You know what you are looking for. The reality is too many people judge way to quickly on here but I feel as though you went through enough hoops to get a good feel for what you are dealing with. I have been blocked by people on here that I have never met ... the world is full of frieks so don't worry about it ... move on and feel good about it.
 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 195
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Posted: 5/22/2012 11:23:38 AM
I realize this thread was started a long time ago, but seriously? McDonald's? Taco Bell? Maybe when I was in high school, but being over 30 and meeting up at those places for first few "dates?"
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 196
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Posted: 5/22/2012 11:45:00 AM

I realize this thread was started a long time ago, but seriously? McDonald's? Taco Bell? Maybe when I was in high school, but being over 30 and meeting up at those places for first few "dates?"


LOL People are cheap man. Either that or their effing poor. What can you do? LOL
 drawing_space
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 197
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Posted: 5/22/2012 12:17:09 PM
hahahahahaha

Yes it's okay for you to be done because in his eyes you two never started..he brought his kid so you could see his sensitive side...The money part was simply because he felt you weren't worth the effort.

You were now and will always be in his eyes a LAY that got away...That's it.

Oh and if you've only met this guy 3 times even after all that you wanted to jump his bones too so don't play innocent..Had he fed you a few drinks and meal you would have been getting pumped in no time..

Don't play the victim princess you just weren't worth it.
 MillwoodsVal
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 198
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:17:22 PM
I would have left before he arrived late the third time. I dont care what he does, kick him to the curb. If he really liked you he would have made of an effort.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 199
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:41:31 PM
I wouldnt bother with a guy that has such a young child. Bound to be delays and cancellations. Does he have full custody? He obviously does not have much money but if he invites you out the second time, he should pay. I wouldnt have met him three times but you must like him???? Lord knows why. However the writing was on the wall from the getgo in my opinion.

He made no effort with you and I would have been gone long before the third so called date. He has no manners and no money or time. Move on. You could have told him that you were not happy with the situation though. Then he will leave you alone, hopefully.
 Lookin4MrMan
Joined: 9/23/2007
Msg: 200
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Posted: 6/16/2012 5:39:13 PM
You are not wrong!!!!! He just seems lame.
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