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Joined: 11/30/2010
Msg: 126
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What? Mayhem and Burzum are black metal! And I can imagine most women wouldn't enjoy music about worshiping Satan. Even with death metal...Yeah I like my fair share of technical death metal but I still don't like the glorification of death. Your question really comes down to "Why don't women enjoy music about death or Satanism?". They may see it as a reflection on your values and see you as a...Threat. Hahah.
Joined: 7/24/2011
Msg: 128
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Posted: 9/16/2011 3:56:35 PM
man it is impossible here where i am. i can not find my metal head to save my life. at least not one in my age range.
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 129
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Posted: 9/19/2011 2:19:31 AM
I have fronted a few metal bands in my time. The thing I have learned is that no style is ever going to be perfect. In Death Metal I am totally convinced that people spend more time dissecting the style and justifying why its so bad ass than they do listening to it. So I just go with the flow. I write my own music and am always surprised at what I come up with even if it sucks. To me, that is the best way to embrace music. Writing it. If I can find a lady that understands my endless thirst for the darkside of music, well then, I might have to accept the fact that pigs have wings (according to Flaming Joe's) and can fly.
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 130
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Posted: 9/24/2011 4:13:25 PM
HArrenhal- Taste in music varies as much as people vary. You think pop is garbage, talk about "aesthetically dull or repulsive music", that's your opinion. If someone doesn't like Death Metal, that's their opinion.
People like what they like.
I LOVE music, I took eight years of piano lessons, I still play. Most of the songs I played when I was learning piano were classical. The preference of my teachers, I suppose.
It's not that I can't stand classical music anymore, it's just not one of my favorites.
I still listen to it sometimes, it's relaxing.
My son likes RAP, in the beginning, I hated it. That's what he plays when I'm in the car with him, so I was forced to listen to it. You know what, I grew to like some of it. I still have no use for the "women are ho's, kill the cops" type, but I found out I liked RAP more than I thought.
I'm a huge fan of the blues. classic Rock, like jazz, country in small doses. I also like Metallica, Guns and Roses, I love AC/DC (best concert I've been to, bar none), that's just to name a few things I'm into.
I'll give anything a chance, that's how you discover new types of music.
Different tastes in music would not keep me from dating someone.
If it's that important to you, go to as many Death Metal concerts as you can. You KNOW the women there share your taste in music.
Joined: 10/1/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 10/9/2011 6:46:52 AM
Music is a very important part of my life. I consider myself pretty open minded when it comes to what I listen to and I'm always open to hearing something new from someone. It wouldn't bother me at all if they were big into opera and hip-hop; hell I'd get them to show me some of their top favourites. But if they despised melodic death metal or any of the "darker side of metal", I couldn't date them. To me it's not enough to be with someone who merely "tolerates" my music.
Joined: 10/4/2010
Msg: 133
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Posted: 10/9/2011 8:46:26 PM
Ya I guess we shouldn't be seeking out people based on musical taste, but metal heads tend to think alike. It' s not like any other genre of music really, metal heads *really know what they like and are generally a bit more introverted, dark, cynical, brutal/cold/calculated, generally against most main stream ideas and conforming...I'm generalizing I know but there's some truth to it. People in to country music or pop aren't usually know for being dark, introverted and in to gore/horror/dark content etc.

But what can ya do.. if I found a good girl in every way but hates metal I'd be ok with it, but eventually it would start to bother me that I was bothering her with my music. I think that's another reason why metalheads would want to seek each other out I would think, it's pretty loud and extreme music and if you don't love it, you probably hate it and if you're dating someone that hates a passion of yours and a real hobby or interest, then I don't see how it could last too long.

All you can do is keep you eyes open and hope for the best...Sometimes I think my severe interest in punk and metal music really outcasts myself and limits my options to the type of people I'm going to meet, but I can't help it, my brain just goes towards these types of things.
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 10/13/2011 10:38:43 AM
yall are a bunch of pussies. Slipknot rules and every record they put out to this day is as bad ass as the previous. If your 555 then im 666
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 135
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Posted: 10/15/2011 5:13:41 PM
I love all metal music. I also like other kinds of music as well.
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 136
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Posted: 10/15/2011 5:18:07 PM
I love metal...Slayer,Testament,Gwar an Many Others.
Joined: 8/9/2010
Msg: 137
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Posted: 10/15/2011 11:02:38 PM
how YOU doin?

smooth like butter
Joined: 9/28/2011
Msg: 138
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Posted: 10/16/2011 2:45:28 PM
It's not just metal, it's anything with screaming. Almost no one in Utah likes hard music. I find it a little depressing that I can't listen to my favorite music around most people.
Joined: 9/22/2011
Msg: 139
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Posted: 10/18/2011 8:01:52 AM
Ditto to what Drew posted.

I've been a metalhead for 20 years. Most of it sucks today, but I still listen to thrashy stuff like Kreator and Agent Steel all the way to really extreme stuff like Cryptopsy, Septicflesh, etc. But I also work in IT, so I have short hair, and normally don't dress like a metalhead would. Even when I go out I don't dress like that.. I find it too aggravating to have to worry about how "true" my outward appearance is.

Though the OP is pretty much spot on too - once a woman hears some of the stuff I listen to, I get the "Oh this is terrible" or "this is satanic" BS. It may not be wise to judge a relationship based on just musical taste, but when somebody is that close minded about music, imagine how close minded they'll be about other things. It's usually a big red flag for me.

Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 140
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Posted: 10/26/2011 7:33:51 PM
I like metal. Death metal is cool. But I mainly like metal in general. People really don't expect me to, but I grew up on it. I like a lot of other music too, but I'm a little rough around the edges :) My roots yknow? Love metal guys. sheesh. Weakness for them. Makes life.... interesting \m/
Joined: 6/16/2009
Msg: 142
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Posted: 10/28/2011 5:20:21 PM
I review metal bands for a board in Arkansas, but I enjoy all types of music. Problem is, being a metal reviewer means to people that you "only listen" to metal. So most regular women would consider me "just a metalhead." I've reviewed both popular and extremely underground bands that most of you haven't even heard of before... Hell, that I haven't even heard of them before I listened to the album.

Just recently I checked out a band called Old Forest, from England. Yes, I listen To Woods, Slipknot, In Flames, Septic Flesh, Cynic,Andromeda,Detonation, Devin Townsend,Ghoul, Giant Squid, Hammers Of Misfortune, Pulsar Colony (A local project),The Catafalque, Summoning, Solstafir, and about a hundred million others I've got to review. I'm also a fan of Iced Earth and am impressed with the new disc. Insomnium also put out one of the best albums of the year. Oh hell, I forgot to mention Meads Of Asphodel and The Project Hate. (Which have gone down in the past few years.)

There's also a band called Omega Lithium, that mixes Lacuna Coil with Rammstein. I'm quite into them, but prefer the early Genitorturers a bit more. By the way, the new Morbid Angel sucked.

I don't really dress metal either. I'm an author, so I usually listen to music while I'm writing and editing my manuscripts. I used to be a vocalist, but now I do my own electronic stuff. But as I said, I listen to all types of music, even stuff like Enya, Black Tape For A Blue Girl, The Kills, Portishead, Infected Mushroom and several million more.

But people don't judge one on musical tastes. I guess I can sit through anything these days. Music is music after all, just like movies are movies. But I'd prefer to have someone in my life who is interested in the same things I am. I have had the opposite and have broken the "opposites attract" rule in half.

Just don't get too caught up in this stuff. Love is a great thing to have, but so is structure and stability. No woman wants a man with no way to help support a household. Not these days anyway, when the economy is so bad. When you get older, music starts to matter much less to finances. I wish it weren't so, but live revolves around the might dollar; sadly. I had far more relationships when I had a job and money.
Joined: 4/28/2011
Msg: 143
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Posted: 11/3/2011 3:56:25 AM
I'm having similar issues. My brother was the only person I knew into the same type of metal that I am and since he died it sucks not having someone to simply discuss a new release with let alone go to shows with. To make it worse my ex got me into classic metal and now that he's out of the picture my metal horizons are broadened but I'm still in the same boat to a worse degree.
Joined: 10/24/2011
Msg: 144
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Posted: 11/3/2011 3:39:29 PM
I used to be a "metalhead" but in recent years I've ditched the label and style of clothing. Metal is like chick repellant. You can listen to the music you love, but keep an open mind. I don't like most metal women, even if they are attractive. If you want to meet women you should probably limit your metalheadness to an extent, I'd rather spend a Friday night at a regular bar, or a club, than a all male metal show. Sure attend the occasional concert, but keep it at minimum. I am 33 and have opened my mind quite a bit since I was 23. You need to give yourself more interests. When I was "metal" the only thing I had in common with my peers was music, and probably drinking. If you're just another "metalhead" you're limiting yourself.
Joined: 11/9/2011
Msg: 145
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Posted: 11/14/2011 11:33:52 AM
I'm another female metalhead. It's really hard finding guys who are into the same kinda music genre I'm into. You either have your country-fried rednecks or your hip-hop people.
Joined: 3/30/2011
Msg: 146
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Posted: 11/14/2011 8:46:05 PM
Deffinetly hard to come by women that are into any sort of metal in my neck of the woods (That being hamilton)
I especially love black metal...Emperor, darkthrone, Carpathian forest...ect
Joined: 10/24/2011
Msg: 147
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Posted: 11/18/2011 7:44:42 PM
I can get along and have a common ground with almost anyone, but I like death metal, but only certain bands in particular. typical generic death metal bores me, good dm is like dying fetus, obituary, zyklon, thou shall perish.

Same thing with black metal. I like the good shit, though some is arguable if it's bm or not. Emperor(Anthems to the Welkin at dusk, great disk, I'm one of the few americans who got to see them live during that era), older Dimmu(Enthroned Darkness Triumphant, awesome), Borknagar(pure awesomeness, Epic was great, I got into em when olden domain came out) Old mans child is pure genius.
Notable mention:Finntroll, and Thyrfing, I think viking metal is great, like Suidakra, very under rated band imo.

metalrebel, what do you think of viking metal as a genre? I think it puts a lot of black metal to shame, despite its obvious similarities.

And last but NOT least, noone can claim to be metal, and not mention SLAYER.

If anyone likes a bit of power metal, but doesn't go overboard, and has thrash influence, BIOMECHANICAL, great band, and I don't care for power metal much, why this band isn't huge is beyond me.

However I also like pop, and hip hop, hate beiber, but I like Usher, and Kesha a lot, Lady Gaga is ok, but weird, depends on the song old MIcheal Jackson is great, Rap, Dre, 2 pac Eminem, etc, G-Unit.
Not huge ito country/
Hell my name is oxymoron.

Funny thing is though, I've very old school when it comes to metal I've been all around the genre and back. But I look like a preppy boy, I'm actually wearing a aeropostale shirt right now haha
Joined: 1/12/2011
Msg: 148
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Posted: 12/19/2011 8:08:32 PM
I sing for Arsis and shit shrapnel.
Joined: 4/10/2010
Msg: 149
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Posted: 12/22/2011 4:19:13 PM
Yeah every girl I dated hated it but Ive been able to get most of them slowly into it with bands like D. Something that sounds like a light band then next thing she knows shes listening to metal. I wouldn't just try to jump them into a band like Deicide right off the bat.

But for those that don't like it, the relationship always ends within 3 days cause I mostly listen to metal.
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 12/25/2011 1:16:57 AM
I could date someone not into Death Metal. I tend to listen to it to myself with earbuds or in my car. At times women get turned away that i like death metal, or Metal in general. I see myself with someone who likes the Rock side of thing more. I wouldn't be able to be with one who likes Metal all the time. My taste in music varies. I could be listening to Bloodbath to Pink Floyd to Opeth to Portishead. I do love doing the Death Metal "growl" though.
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 151
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Posted: 1/3/2012 7:53:46 PM
I totally understand what the OP is getting at. It's almost like hiding that you smoke cigarettes or something. You know you have to do it, and it's a part of why should you hide it?

Maybe it's a bad example, cause most metalheads don't tend to care what someone else thinks about their music. Hell I blast my music at stop lights in HOPES that one person or small child will think my music is cool and go look it up online. I know i've done it to music others are playing!

I like it all, but the negative stigma about metal seriously has to go. I dare say it's on the same level as saying you play World Of Warcraft. Being able to say you stopped playing WOW comes off as the equivalent of saying you quit meth to a girl.

Most of my favorite bands (I, The Breather, Of Mice And Men, Tides, Parkway Drive, Of Blackest Oceans) speak little if at all about death or other cliche metal topics. I guess you just have to have the ability to look past the surface of the lyrics.

It happens all too often. They can't relate or understand the lyrics, so they are taken at face value with a tinge of negativity.

What we guys are looking for isn't so much a "metal chick," it's a woman who is introspective, patient and open minded to all things - not just music.
 Frau Chilliknickers
Joined: 12/5/2008
Msg: 152
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Posted: 1/3/2012 10:24:04 PM

It's almost like hiding that you smoke cigarettes or something

And once you get to my age (40s), that's precisely what happens. It's like having a dirty little secret, waiting for the right moment to tell...or gutturally do so.
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 153
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Posted: 1/5/2012 11:40:08 PM
Sadly I usually vastly dislike anyone into the things I'm into. (Black Metal, Death Metal, Hard core punk from the 80s etc). They almost exclusively like it for entirely different reasons than me.
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