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 mykidsmama
Joined: 10/9/2007
Msg: 118
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?Page 3 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)

She gets to fly 4 times I'm told to just go ahead and cum


but as a guy, you only get one shot at a time right lol

if you seriously feel this way, why are you still doing it?

and if she is acting that way, she is just there for the favours, not the romance, believe me.
 mykidsmama
Joined: 10/9/2007
Msg: 120
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/16/2008 10:22:56 AM
oh??? you can have multiple orgasms? sweet
 lapperleo
Joined: 10/20/2004
Msg: 122
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Posted: 11/22/2008 12:34:31 PM
I agree with you, it is absolutely NOT about keeping score. Personally, I prefer giving to receiving, and recently I had my first encounter with a woman who could squirt. This is something which most men think is fake or only in porn films, but the gratification I felt when I was able to bring this woman to extremes she had never before experienced, made my day.
Yes it is true, some women CAN squirt, as I now know first hand, and it is delicious.
I'd just like to know what the source of the fluid is. It isn't urine, and it isn't white either. It was a clear, sweet liquid that came from within. The look on her eyes of absolute surprise (and bliss) when it happened was worth every minute devoted to get her to that special place.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 125
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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/30/2008 10:06:54 PM
Maybe I'm just selfish or whatever, but I personally don't stay hard when I'm focusing on pleasing the woman... so a bit of reciprocation is more than appreciated. And If I'm going out of my way, I would rather assume to get the same in return. If she won't, then I won't. I don't understand why everybody in this thread seems to think that it's self-centered and selfish to expect your significant other to help you climax after you've helped them, especially when the same people, I'm sure, claim that relationships should be "50/50."

I'm not talking about keeping a score, I'm just saying that in the grand scheme of things, between give and take and compromise and leniency and promises, both people should be happy with their sex life, even if they don't always get what they want right when they want it.
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 126
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Posted: 11/30/2008 10:43:35 PM
You know I just KNOW that a lot of women who would give you a hard time about your question may not SWALLOW let alone give head at all.
HOWEVER, even the ones who wouldn't suck your c0ck in the FIRST PLACE are right when they tell you that you should not be keeping score.
Hopefully, you will start to hook up with the women I have hooked up with. . .I make THEM cum all over my face until they can't take any more and they attempt to reciprocate without my asking.
I say "attempt" because I generally do NOT cum from getting head.
Still, it IS always nice when they go down on ME without my even asking or wanting them too.
Then again, I LOVE eating pu$sy. Maybe if you go at it with the right attitude they will do the same.
If you happen to hook up with women who would not give ANY man head no matter what--THEN you need to consider more than just not going down on them. . .THEN you need to consider perhaps dating women more like the women I date!
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 128
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/4/2008 4:14:51 PM

I will try to make this simple.
Giving pleasure (of any kind) is a bit like giving a present at christmas (or fill in applicable holiday) The joy is SUPPOSED to be in the giving not in wondering what you get in return.


so, that obviously doesn't apply to his girlfriend..

she gets no joy from 'giving', apparently?
 surely im shirley
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 131
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 12:38:38 PM

Not the first time I've seen such silliness from the OP, and I suspect not the last.


I agree that the OP needs to realize that there are ways of communicating his desires, but then again, we don't know the whole story. But......the above quote is completely out of line. The OP may very well be "silly", but this sounds like bullying and discrimination. Each thread posting should be judged on its' own merit and not on the basis of other threads.
 CRAZYGIRL26
Joined: 11/30/2008
Msg: 133
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 1:59:52 PM
well for me, I try to please my man first. But since i dont have a gag reflex, it dosnt take long! then i can take my time! and the squirting thing- it happened to me once, but i think i just peed a little.
 mell861
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 134
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 2:08:50 PM
I would more than gladly return the favor with exception to....
1. too much hair down there that all i'm doing is cleaning the guys pubes
2. that the guy is showing my head further onto his genitals
or...
3. I faked cumming because the guy had no skill

sorry but I don't want to suck on pubes or have my style of oral interupted because a guy is too impatient to be in my mouth... and I certainly won't do jack if you yourself suck
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 135
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 2:16:31 PM

1. too much hair down there that all i'm doing is cleaning the guys pubes


always hear women saying that..do y'all get sucking on a lot of guys packing 3" ?

there aren't any pubes on the head & shaft, usually, only down around the base..
 flcntrygirl80
Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 136
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:19:17 PM
OP... that is an immature view on sex. Giving oral pleasure is your choice. I am quite sure no woman held a gun to your head (either head) and said go down on me or else. If you chose to go down south and didn't discuss her thoughts, feelings, and hangups beforehand, that is on you. Grow up!
 mell861
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 137
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 2:31:10 PM
believe it or not I have went down on guys with about 3" to 5" hair down there, as well as hair stuck to the shaft and I don't want to end up with a hairball being coughed up ty very much
 ajwantsu
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 138
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 2:33:15 PM
No she should not return the favor It is all about the women don't men get it Just please the women as often and as many times as you can.... that is my motto any takers?
 flcntrygirl80
Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 139
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Posted: 12/5/2008 2:37:11 PM
aj, more guys need to take your motto to heart. Personally, if you please me I will please you. Maybe not with a bj, but I will work to give you an orgasm to blow your mind.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 140
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 4:35:41 PM

Msg: 1 -- In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman
cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to
continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm
first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your
rainbow?


If you are in a situation in which you even have to ASK questions of
this nature, you are with the WRONG woman. Drop her and find someone
else. The RIGHT woman for you will show you no doubt.



Msg: 7 -- One of the greatest pleasures in a sexual relationship is
the amount of pleasure you can bestow upon your partner. Not once have
I thought - it's my turn and he won't get his if I don't get mine!
That would take the pleasure out of any encounter!


I see that Ms Leeanne chimed in with an excellent parry. Perhaps I
should change my response to you and simply inquire as to how
compatible you two really are. In any case, I think, judging by what
you say, the both of you most likely ARE quite incompatible, so you
probably should search for another mate after all.



Msg: 14 -- But keeping score ideally, is just foul play man. Really.


Wow, keeping score? Is THAT what this is all about? Whoa, I thought
this was about compatibility and maintaining the pleasure level of the
relationship. OP, if this is about score-keeping, then perhaps you
should extricate yourself from ANY relationship until you get a clue.
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 141
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 4:37:33 PM
I would not do anything, nor want anything done to me, that was a "favor".
Do it becasue you love it, or dont do it. Both ways. if a man wanted to eat me out as a FAVOR i would rather him not.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 142
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/5/2008 6:39:47 PM

Msg: 26 -- I get so turned on by going down on a woman it doesn't
matter what she does or doesn't do next. I guess I'm a giver.....


I'm more of a pragmatist. I consider what I give as opposed to what I
get. I am more lenient, though, on the currency of exchange. I am NOT
hung up on oral. I enjoy it and the mutual exchange of such.

BUT, come on, folks, let's get PRACTICAL here. Women have MUCH more
difficulty with orgasms than men do. Generally speaking, they get off
more easily with oral than with full penetration. Contrast that with
the fact that MOST men get off with penetration. Considering this,
TRULY, where is the "sacrifice" if a man does oral and she spreads for
penetration. BOTH get off. What seems to be the problem?

Women get off on oral. Men get off on oral and/or penetration.

OK, SOOPER-STOOPEEED UNEDDYCATED question: if BOTH get off, WHO
**LOSES**??? **I** go down, admittedly, for the SELFISH reason of
getting HER **OFF**. OK, STOOPEEED me, by ACCIDENT, I accomplish the
deed. I poke in, hump, and get off for myself.

Now, truthfully, WTF do **I** care if she goes down on me? Examine the
momentary stats: SHE got off. **I** got off. BOTH of us are satisfied.
I FAIL to see the problem. Would I have enjoyed her blowing me off as
well? OF COURSE!!!! BUT, alternatively, I enjoyed fVcking her raw and
enjoyed all that such entails.

OK, such an event occurs and BOTH of us are **MORE** than QUITE
satisfied. Umm, in the back of my mind, though, I think "I went oral
on her, but she did NOT reciprocate". Why should I deliver energy to
such a thought? She got hers, I got mine, we BOTH were quite pleased.

ULTIMATELY, we BOTH got what we "cummed" for. So, the question
presents itself as such: We both got off. Why does it matter HOW?



Msg: 29 -- Well, there are other ways to reciprocate. My lover usually
perfers to have regular sex of some sort than oral after me. I can't
imagine how boring a tit for a tat would be. Very unimaginative.


I only PARTIALLY disagree with this. It would be NICE to have oral off
this, but NOT mandatory. I expect ONLY pleasure, however it may be
attained. Oral is nice, but NOT essential. Oral is more for HER rather
than for me.
 RichardNous
Joined: 11/30/2008
Msg: 144
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Posted: 12/6/2008 1:01:36 AM

That has to be one of the funniest things I have ever read on here; avoid those hirsute men, I do……actually if us ladies can shave our legs….and more,…not too much to expect a trim.


Good Point!! But a little off-center - non-lady females and all males CAN also shave. There are many that do shave, but few that talk about it. If trading oral sex for oral sex is unfair, then expecting a shave for a shave is unfair too!!

I have asked more than one woman a.) if she shaves and b.) how she feels about a man that shaves... Now maybe it's my bad luck, but 90% of the women that answered that they DO shave; also answered only gay men shave...

The question used to be: Is it going to cost me?? Now the question is how much of a price are you willing to pay... Life is about compromise - sometimes the end justifies the means and sometimes the means justifies the end.

Whomever asked the question that started this thread: Ask yourself if you love her, if there is any hesitation then you don't and need to move on. If the answer is a resounding Yes - then quit whining and SHOW her that you love her. If your answer was neither of these two - then you still don't and need to move on.

Cheers!
 Cherish Luv
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 146
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/6/2008 9:46:38 AM
What you say is very true! A truly caring partner can bring the best out in their partner. It is all about sharing pleasures and giving pleasures to each other with no strings attached to each act Nothing can turn a woman off faster than those men who 'expect' a woman to make them cum orally and make it known you don't bring me I won't bring you. Once it becomes a 'have to' it soon becomes a chore and resented and an empty act with no feelings.
 sunkist76
Joined: 4/21/2008
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Posted: 12/11/2008 4:45:23 PM
it doesn't matter whether he does it to me or not because i have to be in the "mood" to "give"
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 12/12/2008 7:20:33 PM
You're not obligated to anything. Relationship is supposed to be about mutual benefit. Some people don't want the same benefits. What if you're into anal sex i.e. you like doing her, does that mean then you have to let her do you the same way? Not all guys are into that.

Sex is supposed to be fun. It isn't fun when people feel obligated. If you and your partner don't feel like it's fun pleasing each other, something is wrong.

It can take time for some people to get used to some things, men & women both. Pressuring doesn't help. You should never pressure your partner. Invite. If they aren't into pleasing you, if over time they can't get over inhibitions that are important to you, then you have to decide if it's worth it.

I really like oral sex and had a partner for several years who wasn't into it. However, he was so good at other things, such a tender and sweet lover, and so compatible in every other area, that it was worth it to me. I missed it occasionally but the overall package was so satisfying that I was pretty happy.


I have never know a women who I made feel good who did not make me feel better after.

Brilliant. Now there's a guy who gets it!
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 12/17/2008 12:33:39 PM
I don't think so that bringing each other to heavenly plateau is a favour given. It should come naturally, and without any "terms & conditions" attached. Plain & simple.
 floatman
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 161
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Posted: 12/17/2008 1:30:37 PM
I enjoy oral sex. If the woman I was with didn't enjoy giving, then I'd not be with her in the long run. Simple as that.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 162
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/18/2008 4:16:08 PM
imo, lovers love for the love of the other and never expect or demand as bliss can be a endless flow and very natural.....
to think outherwise and as zentral said then you may simply be incompatiable.
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