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 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 151
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Jamesbondson, I think you do deserve a little something in return for all your efforts. I give you kudos for being able to make her cum orrally, and I don't think it's selfish of you, to want a little oral yourself once in awhile as well. If one partner is not getting their sexual needs met, that leads to resentment and that can make the sex suffer over time. I think, she is the one being selfish here. But you need to talk to her about it. Why won't she go down on you? Does it gross her out? Is she too closed minded about certain sexual acts or it's "dirty" to her? Was she abused sexually in some way as a child?

I don't think many women realize how important it is for men to get theirs in "other ways" too. Yes it may be easier for men to just get on top of us and cum in two seconds, but sometimes, they like variety too.

However, here's the one thing men need to understand about us giving you head. Some women don't want to do it even once, because then we assume a guy is going to want it all the time, and we're not always up for it. Personally, I enjoy it, but my jaw can start to cramp up after a while if it takes a guy a long time to cum that way. It's always nice for us, if a guy can cum sooner then later, with oral.

As long as we know a guy isn't going to give us grief or pressure us about giving him oral all the time, we're more likely to give it.

But you need to set the same ground rules for her. If she "expects" oral all the time, but never gives you any in return, then you need to talk to her about this and just be honest with her about your needs too. You enjoy pleasuring her, but you'd like a little something oral too every once in awhile. But you want her to do it, because she wants to, not because she feels obligated too. If she gives you a guilt trip about it then maybe it's time to move on to someone else who's more "giving" sexually. Because if you're not getting what you want over time, you'll start to resent her, and then you'll just be miserable.

You need your sexual needs met too, not just hers.
 Freqy
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 152
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:51:08 AM
I can't believe the hostility directed towards OP.

My question though: is this happening regularly or are you pissed off because she didn't reciprocate once?

A good sexual relationship is about give and take, and ummm, if you like to orgasm that DOES count.

Unless your girl has a previously expressed dislike for giving oral sex, you have to wonder what sort of lover would leave you hanging at the end of it all. I thought the ladies here would relate to that!

The only solution is to talk to your partner about that and let her know you want more. If you don't ask, she may never know how you feel.
 VinceDaPrince
Joined: 11/4/2008
Msg: 153
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/11/2008 7:01:30 AM
yes , but a smart man would have her please him first , or simaltaneously !!!!!!!
 ryno_05
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 154
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/11/2008 10:54:40 AM
yes she should,chances of her doing it 30%
 ShutTheFrontDoor
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 155
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/11/2008 12:47:08 PM
I love Lkng4fun66's answer:
No,

She doesn't have to.

If you expect oral after pleasing her orally, it becomes formulaic doesn't it?

Kind of like in porn. She blows him, he licks her, missionary, doggy, cowgirl, money shot.

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I say AMEN!!!!!!

the back and forth gets boring really quickly!!!

but I'd understand if buddy hadn't gotten any for a while. It might be worth a talk, because if she's not into returning the favour there are most definitely other issues at hand... starts with a T and sounds like 'lust'.... or she might just be a selfish beotch.
 flirty-n-fun
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 156
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/11/2008 1:12:42 PM
I don't think sex is all about just one person. Sex is something to be shared between two consenting adults. If a man makes his woman cum orally, thats great and he shouldn't expect anything in return. If she does it, then just be grateful that she did. Not all women like to do it...I do...but not everyone's the same. Also, you shouldn't be keeping score. This question obviously came from a selfish lover.
 sunkist76
Joined: 4/21/2008
Msg: 157
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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/11/2008 4:45:23 PM
it doesn't matter whether he does it to me or not because i have to be in the "mood" to "give"
 Romantic Heretic
Joined: 10/24/2007
Msg: 158
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/12/2008 12:12:13 PM

In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow?


It's not a favor. It's a pleasure. She's not obligated in anyway to do this and if you insist you're treating her like property instead of a lover.
 Sexy Nutty Bird!!!
Joined: 9/14/2008
Msg: 159
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/12/2008 2:23:07 PM
Personally, if a man gives me an orgams, either orally or through intercourse. I am, definitely, going to return the favor. It is only fair, and besides that, I am one of the very few, unselfish people, that actually enjoys giving rather than receiving
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 160
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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:20:33 PM
You're not obligated to anything. Relationship is supposed to be about mutual benefit. Some people don't want the same benefits. What if you're into anal sex i.e. you like doing her, does that mean then you have to let her do you the same way? Not all guys are into that.

Sex is supposed to be fun. It isn't fun when people feel obligated. If you and your partner don't feel like it's fun pleasing each other, something is wrong.

It can take time for some people to get used to some things, men & women both. Pressuring doesn't help. You should never pressure your partner. Invite. If they aren't into pleasing you, if over time they can't get over inhibitions that are important to you, then you have to decide if it's worth it.

I really like oral sex and had a partner for several years who wasn't into it. However, he was so good at other things, such a tender and sweet lover, and so compatible in every other area, that it was worth it to me. I missed it occasionally but the overall package was so satisfying that I was pretty happy.


I have never know a women who I made feel good who did not make me feel better after.

Brilliant. Now there's a guy who gets it!
 bobbc
Joined: 12/4/2008
Msg: 161
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/12/2008 9:38:03 PM
Well personally I love giving a woman an pegsam orally so I never expect to have a "repayment". Although most of the time that's exactly what happens. Funny how that works!
 tall2526
Joined: 6/24/2008
Msg: 162
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/13/2008 12:55:49 AM
i dont think it matters its about enjoying it. and there is always another day for you to get yours haha
 david46
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 163
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:58:30 AM
"""""should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow?""""
Wow I thought this was the end of and the best rainbow ever, dude get a clue
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 164
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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/17/2008 12:33:39 PM
I don't think so that bringing each other to heavenly plateau is a favour given. It should come naturally, and without any "terms & conditions" attached. Plain & simple.
 floatman
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 165
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:30:37 PM
I enjoy oral sex. If the woman I was with didn't enjoy giving, then I'd not be with her in the long run. Simple as that.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 166
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/18/2008 4:16:08 PM
imo, lovers love for the love of the other and never expect or demand as bliss can be a endless flow and very natural.....
to think outherwise and as zentral said then you may simply be incompatiable.
 wdriver
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 167
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:07:57 PM
In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow?

I think if you are giving your woman oral because you expect it in return, then you are doing it for the wrong reason. I do it because I like to. I like to make her feel good. If I make her come several times that way, and she does not want to do the same, ok. There are other ways of her making me feel good, too. I'd rather she do something to me because she wants to, not because she thinks she owes me.
 Sexy Nutty Bird!!!
Joined: 9/14/2008
Msg: 168
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/18/2008 11:06:05 PM

Because I don't enjoy it doesn't make me selfish...............and because you like a****in your mouth doesn't make you unselfish. Maybe your vagina doesn't smell the best and that is why you would rather give then receive..........I'm not sure if it does, and don't want to find out, but you have as much right talking about people being selfish or unselfish as I do talking about your vagina, because you don't know everyone else.


I was not implying that. I hope I did not offend you. I did not mean to be. What I was saying, that I am the type of person, who enjoys being the "giving" it has nothing to do, if my vagina smells or not( it does not, because I am a very clean individual and I also take care of myself); but, my point is, you are right, everyone has their choice in the matter. Most people enjoy giving and receiving, and there is absolutely nothing wrong that!=)
 Jamesbondson
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 169
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/24/2008 3:52:49 PM
So, what if I give you two ice cream cones and your money back.....then will you people be happy??
 runtbaby
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 170
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/24/2008 4:02:30 PM
It is not about being equal at all. It is about pleasure no matter what happens. If she gives or you give there is pleasure to had in what your given not just in getting. you should get pleasure from giving her the pleasure not really expecting any in return.
 psyche1954
Joined: 12/20/2008
Msg: 171
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 12/25/2008 7:59:47 AM
QUID PRO QOU? If this than that? Is sex and exchange? If I come I have to make you come...Come on now...There is nothing genltmanly her quit lying to yourself and others...
 Jamesbondson
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 172
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/6/2009 10:04:26 AM
From most of what I read on this forum, sex should me mutually pleasant......right? So why should I have to settle for below average? Ladies, if your sexual partner constantly leaves you unfulfilled where is your incentive going to be to give it your all? If I was a woman and wrote this post all my sisters would show strong support for my perspective. Right?
 QeteshK
Joined: 11/21/2008
Msg: 173
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/6/2009 11:53:32 AM
So you know if all things are equal I say yes she should return the favour? But as you said equal if i do for you i would expect you shaved completely, showered right before, and yep if you can orgasm twoice and still be good to go no problem. (i think thats where most guys can't be equal lol). And the first part of your question about are you obligated to continue in the future? Well, if you know this is the deal that she's not going to reciprocate and its a deal breaker for you I guess you have your answer. If you can accept that not everyone likes to do and play the same way then enjoy.
 cfb62
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 174
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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/6/2009 12:09:17 PM
Waah!!!
What a joke!
 jonash2007
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 175
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:07:34 PM
There is never an "obligation" to do anything...it has to suit both of you. It is not a transaction. It is an agreement between a man and a woman, unless of course it actually IS a transaction...then all bets are off!
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