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 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 87
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I think people lie about who they are, because they can. Another reason meeting very soon is a good idea, and not giving out too much personal information is probably smart as well. My life is pretty much an open book, but so far the ones I have met here for the most part all have some sort of "issue" everything from lying, anger management, confused or simply just do not know who they are. Yet they sell themselves to be this "wonderful person". And it is frustrating for those of us who do know who we are and what we want. I may just stick to the forums from now on. Safer, and I dont leave here with a "broken heart".
 animation303
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 88
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Posted: 12/19/2008 8:41:30 AM
Its like the truth to John Gabriel's Greater Internet F*ckwad Theory

Normal Person + Anonymity + Audience = Total F*ckwad

Pardon my french
 4408joseph
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 90
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Posted: 12/19/2008 9:39:45 AM
Good Lawrd,FFS

Phish with your head,

Untrue profiles???

Yea, I got a serious Bytche slap when I came here a few years back, but come-on.

Look at your government(US) your garage mechanic, contractors, ....Cripes even your $24.99 phone bill thats really 50 bucks with all the hidden and NON-disclosed and hidden stuff.

Just like the real world....ask questions, ask questions, ask questions....

Like can I get an email, a cell number, a recent picture, a meeting within means... any of these lead to more questions?????


MOVE-on...Next

 hikerman6001
Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 99
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Posted: 12/28/2008 5:35:52 PM
sorry to hear about all the untruths ... its to bad there so many dishonest individuals ... to me its better 100% true then caught in a lie .... honesty makes good companionship
 misszmsz
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 100
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:40:38 PM
The best thing to do is to meet them very soon after the introduction, this way you can avoid the pitfalls of becoming to involved with a fantasy image you have created in your mind by reading too much into their profile.

I constantly travel so it makes it easier to be able to meet quickly. Then I decide if I want a second date and make arrangements for when I am in town again.
 Patrickthname
Joined: 10/21/2008
Msg: 101
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:43:15 PM
Plenty of women out there that love to play games and are just out for a daily ego boost, it's sickening!
 cfb62
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 103
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Posted: 1/6/2009 1:04:15 PM
How people see themselves vs how others see them is rarely the same.
I've yet to see a profile that reads, "Arrogant jerk looking for arm candy to boss around", yet I've gone on dates with a few of them from here.
 kenfla38
Joined: 1/31/2006
Msg: 104
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Posted: 1/6/2009 1:45:37 PM
It's human nature to put your best foot forward... to present yourself in the "best light possible".... BUT many people online take it wayyy too far.

Age: ...If he/she claims to be 32, but looks 45 and in conversation mentions a recent 25 year reunion, you have reason to be suspicious.

Married Women/Men (an issue more for the women on this site) will tend to be secretive, unavailable, have to cancel dates at the last minute... and drop several hints along the way which should at least make you suspicious. There aren't any guaranteed ways to tell online, or on the phone (but watch for caller ID names/numbers), but there are numerous web resources where a basic search will pull up quite a bit of information including date of birth, facebook pages, etc... Make sure everything you find 'jives" with what you were told.

PICTURES: ...While no one is going to post a picture of themselves they don't like... IT'S REASONABLE TO EXPECT those pictures to look like them, be relatively recent, and be recognizable as the person you're going to meet... Like many of you, I've run across 10 year old pictures, pictures taken before 50 pounds was added, "Glamour Shots" which look nothing that person's "normal look".

While pictures of your dog, cat, favorite vacation spots, friends... you as a redhed, then a burnette, then a blonde may each be good pictures... THIS IS A DATING SITE. Few on here want to see "good pictures"... WE WANT TO SEE WHO WILL BE COMING TO MEET US AT THE RESTAURANT.

...If you're a blonde with short hair, post a picture to that effect. If you're 200 lbs, don't post an old high school picture of when you were 120lbs... If the person looks very different in several pictures, or you really can't see that person well in the pictures, it's reasonable to courteously ask for a few recent, clear pictures... If the other person is unwilling, or makes a big issue out of your request... YOU HAVE YOUR ANSWER and your suspicious are confirmed (or so I've found to almost always be the case).

Honesty is the best policy... If you lie, you might get a few dates, but ULTIMATELY you'll have to come clean... and the other person will then wonder what else you're hiding or lying about...

best wishes
 Patrickthname
Joined: 10/21/2008
Msg: 105
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Posted: 1/8/2009 3:43:31 AM
You aren't arm candy...just same ole, same ole!
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 1/9/2009 2:32:14 PM
patrick5164 said: You aren't arm candy...just same ole, same ole!


patrick5164 said: Plenty of women out there that love to play games and are just out for a daily ego boost, it's sickening!


This coming from someone who, out of the blue today sends me a private email initiating contact saying "No Thanks", when I've never emailed him before or asked him, OR OFFERED him anything. Seems to me like someone is getting his ego boost from trying put women in their place. He says he is "fun to be around" and "not arrogant" in his profile.
Sounds pretty arrogant to me when you are going out of your way to hurl personal insults both privately and on the forums at women who have done nothing to you and have not initiated contact with you, patrick5164. It's fine if you think most females are beneath your standards (too fat, too ugly, too outspoken, or whatever), but just leave us alone and move on then.

 coolcatx
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 109
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Posted: 1/10/2009 10:57:51 AM
hi,all i can say is.....wellcome to life!! I genuinely believe that the only person i can trust is myself,and i am the only person who wont let myself down.People lie and cheat online as much as in real life.Some people do it because they are pathological liars,some people do it for fun,and some people and plain evil.There are risks in everything in life.Even getting to know someone,you can later find out they all theyve given you is B.S,(believe me,i know!!).So its up to the individual if they want to take that chance...
 nyled
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 111
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Posted: 1/11/2009 6:18:50 AM
Being untrue in your profile in anyway just shows the character of that person. Online dating is advertising yourself however since its about you, it needs to be real.
 polandsprings
Joined: 8/17/2008
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/11/2009 7:00:07 AM
This is funny. It is kind of simple in one way.
People will lie to get what they want.
You have the one who is a player, but he or she will be the nicest you met untill they sleep with you.
You will be romanced, wined and dined, sweet talked, and whatever it takes to get you in bed. Once you slept together, your another notch and then gone.
Then you have the "GOOD ONES" and if they find your not connecting, your gone and never to hear from them again.
You have the people who write in their profile "NO GAMES, NO LIARS, NO PLAYERS, NO CHEATERS" etc etc. but yet, they always date them.
Do you think that people will tell you right away they are a cheater and liar? NO!

For all that write the BS to beef up their profile, and say or complain about things and keep going to that exact kind of person. They are only fooling themselves. Let em be.
Its very hard for an old dog to learn a new trick and a leopard will not change it spots for anything in the world.

Just keep trying OP. you will find somene who is REAL.
 Ceridwen
Joined: 5/2/2009
Msg: 115
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Posted: 5/29/2009 11:21:21 PM
The biggest disappointment I've noticed in differences between profiles and real life is guys that claim to be 'nice' and 'decent', but are actually extremely perverted and very rude, heh. Just last night, a guy who was IMing me accused me of being a 'heffer' (his word, not mine, misspelling and all) because I didn't want to meet him in real life the same day I initially contacted him. Such a disappointment :\

And--


The best thing to do is to meet them very soon after the introduction, this way you can avoid the pitfalls of becoming to involved with a fantasy image you have created in your mind by reading too much into their profile.


I actually disagree, I mean yes you shouldn't keep it online only for so long that you lose track of reality, but at the same time, chatting with them a LITTLE bit before the actual meeting gives you a chance to see their inner crazy, if indeed they be so :p
 trailgirl
Joined: 7/1/2008
Msg: 119
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Posted: 6/16/2009 1:59:15 AM

I don't know, I think anyone who partakes in these practices should take stock of their life (or maybe get a life) and figure out why in their mind, it is OK to lie to people.
or deflect their embarrassment whn you calling them on it by telling you what a xxx you are or how you remind them or their recent ex. Some people never learn to be comfortable with who they are. Too too funny!
 chipmunkflash
Joined: 9/21/2010
Msg: 120
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Posted: 12/25/2011 5:31:30 PM
im a single man with a little boy id love to have a girl hope somone love to come on my site
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 121
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Posted: 12/25/2011 6:17:27 PM

im a single man with a little boy id love to have a girl hope somone love to come on my site

LOL
 rec_diver
Joined: 11/13/2011
Msg: 122
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Posted: 12/25/2011 8:51:01 PM
^ I don't think he was kidding and he definitely didn't mean it the perverted way you took it.

If you read his profile, you'll see there's absolutely nothing to read between the lines of his post above even though at first glance you might think there is and find a hidden(rather perverted) joke that simply is not there.
 PeneopDreamwevr
Joined: 9/3/2010
Msg: 123
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Posted: 12/26/2011 11:12:09 AM
I have decided to also only b on here for just the forums. I even changed my profile description bcos, I don't care about "dating". I was extremely up front about what I would or wouldn't put up with. My profile pic is very much real, and there r no extreme shots of me. However, i'd still recieve messages from guys who made it obvious what they r lookin for. And to the guys who say they're lookin for genuine sincerity, they do not understand the definition. The crap comes from both genders (as I have read). Happy reading POF-ers!
 ravenhair4u
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 124
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Posted: 12/26/2011 12:59:42 PM
Ppl lie to draw you in, then hope you'll like them when you meet. They are afraid if you know how they really are, they won't even get a 1st meet w/you. If you talked a lot before the meet, they are hoping to have a connection w/you, so you will overlok the fact that their appearance or personality was misleading in their profile. It's useless to lie, pppl are going to find out when they meet you anyways. I've had guys email me who are either lying about their age, or they just look really, really old for their age like 20 years older. A friend of mine met a girl who had a pic w/an infant, when he met her, she was much heavier, in fact she was morbidly obese, & the child was 5 years old. I met a guy who lied about his height, when I met him he was about 5 inches shorter. He also didn't have braces on any of his profile pics, which wouldn't have been so bad, but his breath was rancid, w/ picees of food stuck in his braces, it was a bit revolting. He could have at least brushed his teeth before the date. All he did was talk about his ex, even dumb guys know not to do that. It may seem from their profile that you do have a lot in common, however, when you meet there is no chemistry.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 125
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Posted: 12/26/2011 1:59:52 PM
^ I don't think he was kidding and he definitely didn't mean it the perverted way you took it. ...you'll see there's absolutely nothing to read between the lines of his post above even though at first glance you might think there is and find a hidden(rather perverted) joke that simply is not there.

Umm, read his whole post in this thread, again...

im a single man with a little boy id love to have a girl hope somone love to come on my site

Read between the lines of his post? I can hardly read THE line of his post. The post itself is "simply not there" -- which is what I found amusing. But thank you for pointing out the potentially-interpreted perverted part at the end. :)

May have been a bit mean, but in all seriousness (and I'm not being a grammar or sentence-structure Nazi), he needs to be able to write legibly if he wishes to garner any female interest online.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 126
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Posted: 12/26/2011 4:47:36 PM
CR:
LOL


rec_diver:
I don't think he was kidding and he definitely didn't mean it the perverted way you took it.

If you read his profile, you'll see there's absolutely nothing to read between the lines of his post above even though at first glance you might think there is and find a hidden(rather perverted) joke that simply is not there.


Really?! Overreact much? Jeez.

What the heck is perverted about “LOL”? Who’s the pervert?
 rec_diver
Joined: 11/13/2011
Msg: 127
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Posted: 12/26/2011 4:53:13 PM

What the heck is perverted about “LOL”? Who’s the pervert?


Yeah you got me.

 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 128
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Posted: 12/27/2011 12:27:37 PM

Isn't a profile supposed to give you some insight into who a person is?


Theoretically, it IS supposed to do that.
But, like so many things in our society, it is not always properly used for its intended purpose.
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