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 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 44
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.Page 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)


The asker already made their choice because they asked. The ball is now in the other person's court to say "yes" or "no". As we know the "asker" could be either male or female, but since men usually are the askers the general thought for a lot of people is "women choose the man". The way I see it they choose each other.



Women seem to think they pick the man and that are no exceptions and it is never vice versa. Many even say it with an air of supremacy.




FYI, men do not pick their partners ever. The selection is ALWAYS done by a female. And if you are not aware of that fact by now, you must not be as clever as you like to think.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhyYcY2RH8Moq1D8BjR6uP0jzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20090417200210AAnjtZH





Whatever the case it is clear that women are pickier and tend to marry up (very rarely an equal and never down)
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 45
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:10:14 PM
All men may want to pursue the cad strategy; however, their choice of the mating strategy is constrained by female choice. Men do not get to decide with whom to have sex; women do. And women disproportionately seek out handsome men for their short-term mates for their good genes. Even women who are already married benefit from short-term mating with handsome men if they could successfully fool their husbands into investing in the resulting offspring. The women then get the best of both worlds: Their children carry the high-quality genes of their handsome lover and receive the parental investment of their unknowingly cuckolded but resourceful husband. (In order to help the women accomplish this, evolution has designed women to be more likely to have sex with their lovers when they are ovulating and therefore fertile, and have sex with their husbands when they are not.)


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200804/why-handsome-men-make-bad-husbands-i

So men don't get to choose who to have sex and have to worry if they are raising their own kids and women justify it because of evolution.
 wings on my butt
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 46
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 9/21/2009 7:46:58 AM

The woman always chooses the man.



What a load of bullchit! So that means women, any woman, gets to choose any man she wants to be with and he has no choice? I say again bullchit! If that was true then Enrique Murciano would be in my bed right this very second.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 47
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 9/21/2009 11:49:44 AM
You can chase a woman to the ends of the earth and back, but ultimately SHE will choose wether she wants to be with you.

Men only really choose NOT to be with a woman if she is just too ugly or too crazy.
 wings on my butt
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 48
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 9/27/2009 7:06:46 AM

Men only really choose NOT to be with a woman if she is just too ugly or too crazy.



So then I guess you do have some choice in the matter? If you don't find a woman attractive enough she could chase you all over and never get you because you would say no!Men have just as much say in who they end up with as women do as this poster acknowledges although he will vehemently deny having said it. People choose each other. No one can force another into a relationship if one is not willing as you pointed out yourself.
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 49
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:40:57 AM


So then I guess you do have some choice in the matter? If you don't find a woman attractive enough she could chase you all over and never get you because you would say no!Men have just as much say in who they end up with as women do as this poster acknowledges although he will vehemently deny having said it. People choose each other. No one can force another into a relationship if one is not willing as you pointed out yourself.



If a man started rejecting women he didn't like the way women do most men would never be in a relationship.

This is how it works in the dating world and there are almost NO exceptions.

-Men chase women. There is no such thing as a woman who chases a man. A woman might approach a man and let him know she is open to being chased. She will give signs that she is enjoying being chased and he should continue. As that psychology article said men do not even get to choose who to have sex with.

- Since a woman has so many options she becomes choosier than the man. As such men develop good personalities and traits. Women don't develop that many good traits and all women end up marrying up in terms of finances and personality and whatever.

-The average man will never have as many women chasing him as the average woman has men chasing her.

-Women do not consider a man's character or looks. They look at his accomplishments. The love is shallow.

-Therefore if men and women started asking out in equal numbers the rejection would still fall on the man.


I can't see how any one believes the power distribution is equal.

And this power distribution has nothing to do with men's sex drive but with female entitlement and the fact that men love women more than vice versa.
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 50
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/7/2009 1:47:37 PM
Also women have a habit of keeping men as back ups. whereas men are totally devoted to the relationship.

that's why you never see women competing or physically fighting over men the way men do over women.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 51
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/7/2009 2:17:54 PM
HC123,
Would you like me to call a whaaa!mublance for you?

If a man started rejecting women he didn't like the way women do most men would never be in a relationship.

So what are you saying here, that men just "settle" for a woman based solely on "she didn't reject me"?
In a sense, your dad is right, women choose the men they will encourage to chase/pursue/court/whatever. But most of them, if they offer encouragement to a man who doesn't, for any one of a number of reasons, pick up and follow the encouragement, she figures he's not interested. And there are like 800,88 gajillion cases, where with online "meeting" that the lady will meet the guy and the guy doesn't feel sufficient spark to continue seeing her. So yeah, guys DO reject women.
Cindy O
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 52
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/7/2009 3:28:15 PM
You will never see women chasing men. A woman who says she does is a liar. I doubt women even say i love you first.

And guys reject women much less than vice versa.

Most women have no respect for men. They date multiple men and have back up men.
If men did this they would be called pigs.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 53
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:45:47 PM

Unfortunately, that often means he's just the guy outfront, the short flashy runner who gives up the soonest... not necessarily the one who can stay in it the longest...

Yes, and many men will chase the prettiest package even if there is no discernible evidence that there's any content IN the package.
Cindy O
 keystoyourheart
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 55
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Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:30:20 AM
Women will always have the upper hand when it comes to choices in relationships. It really sucks to be a single guy nowadays.
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 56
Dad always told me, The woman chooses the man.
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:03:11 AM
More men are unfaithful though. Although you can't blame them if you truly examine female dating behavior. I am surprised not all men are unfaithful though.
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