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 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 63
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I think you took it the wrong way or are a bit defensive, thinking that if a hot girl goes to a club like this- that you might have a chance with her.


nope don't want a chance with her or any girl..especially with one who is younger than my daughter

.if you will notice I said I wasn't saying she was snobby ..i just was pointing out that in the same sentence where she said the people there were snobby ...she then started pointing out that the people there were inferior to her standards ..after saying that she was just there out of curiosity

im not criticizing her morals or actions ..just her frame of mind ...and I am a little touchy/defensive on people that talk about other people being snobby ..and in the same breath start putting other people down

city gal I have read many of your posts ..and I think most of them are well thought out and interesting..my criticism of this post was not to put you down ..it was however designed to make you think


I have been to many swinger parties /clubs and just like everywhere else ...have found all kinds of people ...even a partial generalization of these people is wrong ..other than the fact that I have found most of them to be ..nice nonjudgmental people
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 64
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 10/29/2010 3:40:11 PM
When I went I was surprised to see so many twenty somethings... people of all ages and most seemed to be in decent shape...but then I'M the overweight over 40 guy!
What I did notice (well, my GF noticed and pointed it out) was that MOST of the men seemed fairly effeminate or METRO at best... as over weight and over 40 as I am.... I seemed to get plenty of attention.......but then I fare well at vanilla clubs too....in fact, I met my current GF at the vanilla club I work at...
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 65
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 7:35:32 AM
There are three kind of swinger clubs/parties ...along with two types of patrons ..first you have the off premises clubs where people meet ..party and go elsewhere for sex usually a room in the same hotel ....you will find all kind of people in these parties

then there is the on premises type ...usually the more hard core swingers go to these and they many times erupt into orgies ..many of the more moderate /selective swingers avoid these events

then there is the combination of the first two ...the party starts out in the ball room for dancing and socializing and then at a certain time the party moves upstairs where the club has rented a whole floor of the hotel ..and then sub lets the rooms to the party goers ..in these parties you will see pretty much all kind of patrons ..some stay to move upstairs and play some go upstairs and just watch ..still others leave after the party moves ..either going home or going home with someone they met or getting a room on a floor not involved in the party


the one thing in common with all these parties is the rule ...NO means NO ..I have been to hundreds of these parties ..all types ..and have never seen anyone pressured to do anything they didn't want to do

all of them have security to insure this ..That is what I do ...but unlike vanilla bars ..I have never had to do anything ...swinger bars/clubs parties ..are 100% safer than vanilla clubs/bars /parties ..as I said I have never had any trouble at a swinger event ..and when I work vanilla events there is always some kind of trouble ..very few vanilla events have I ever worked where there was not someone who had to be escorted out ...and there have been a few complete ..call the police and clear the premises type fights ..I will never work a vanilla bar if there is a choice between that and a swinger party ..security has to stay on their toes at vanilla bars and expect anything ...security at swinger bars your just there... just in case .. and you never expect any trouble ..its like getting paid to party ...and most times they invite and expect you to party with them ...but I still never drink ant any place when I am working
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 66
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 10:16:12 AM

some go upstairs and just watch


^^^DeerDog: Do the others playing mind voyeurs? I just can't imagine getting one's nasty one, and having some stand/sit and watch! Kind of like having a "Peeping Tom", but knowing they're there!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 67
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 10:55:56 AM
^^^DeerDog: Do the others playing mind voyeurs? I just can't imagine getting one's nasty one, and having some stand/sit and watch! Kind of like having a "Peeping Tom", but knowing they're there!


oh yes some love to be watched ...usually there are door tags ..red means private..yellow means come in and if invited you are welcome to join ..green means come in and jump in the pile

really though .. within kinky people there becomes an acceptance of people just watching ...modesty is one of the first things to go ... why ??/ my guess is that everyone there is involved to some extent ..judgmental people are usually just not there ... its like a nude beach ..or bike rally ..when in Rome ...do what the Romans do..inhibitions fade rather quickly

with a peeping Tom he is invading your space ..at a sex party its known that many of this weeks voyeurs will be next weeks participants ..every one of the participants started out just watching and deciding if it was for them

nope no one minds you just watching !!!
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 68
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 10:59:34 AM

oh yes some love to be watched ...usually there are door tags ..red means private..yellow means come in and if invited you are welcome to join ..green means come in and jump in the pile

really though .. within kinky people there becomes an acceptance of people just watching ...modesty is one of the first things to go ... why ??/ my guess is that everyone there is involved to some extent ..judgmental people are usually just not there ... its like a nude beach ..or bike rally ..when in Rome ...do what the Romans do..inhibitions fade rather quickly



^^^Makes sense! Forgot about the exhibitionist!

I'm sure this is NOT for the shy.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 69
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 11:07:24 AM

^^^Makes sense! Forgot about the exhibitionist!


I think no mater how shy we are ...we all have a bit of exhibitionist in us ..I know not too long ago I would have never thought I could ever do a strip table dance at one of these functions ...Now I look forward to it ..Its a hell of an ego trip ..having many women around the table encouraging you to strip and dance ..I totally understand why women do it aside from the money ...I have been tipped for a table dance too...and you want to talk about something that will stroke a average guys ego ..let a pretty lady slip a bill in your g-string during a dance
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 70
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 1:29:26 PM

I think no mater how shy we are ...we all have a bit of exhibitionist in us ..I know not too long ago I would have never thought I could ever do a strip table dance at one of these functions ...Now I look forward to it ..Its a hell of an ego trip ..having many women around the table encouraging you to strip and dance ..I totally understand why women do it aside from the money ...I have been tipped for a table dance too...and you want to talk about something that will stroke a average guys ego ..let a pretty lady slip a bill in your g-string during a dance


^^^Was your wife there cheering you on?! That MUST be a good ego-stroke, and exciting (all the attention on you)!

Whoot-whoot on you, Deerdog! Who would have thunk?!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 71
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 2:00:04 PM
^^^Was your wife there cheering you on?! That MUST be a good ego-stroke, and exciting (all the attention on you)!

Whoot-whoot on you, Deerdog! Who would have thunk?!


wouldn't be in a place like that ...doing anything like that unless she was there ...she is my biggest fan ...and I hers ..we are pretty permissive of each other having fun and letting their hair down ..but we NEVER!! go alone ..there is no jealousy among us ..as long as nothing done is hidden ...we discuss the limits and rely on each other not to cross one of them ..actually she trust me more than that ..and I her ...we both have given each other permission to go to these places when the other could not go ...we have both declined to attend stag ..and we have developed a way of communicating consent or non consent when a event arises ..just by exchanging glances ..we both know whether the other approves or whether to tone the party down without saying a word..she also knows when to save me from an over excited wayward woman ...and do it with tact and class
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 72
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/1/2010 7:54:59 PM
Deerdog....... way to go!
 1suburbs
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 73
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:55:07 PM
Deerdog...I think her point was that she would have been willing to partake if she found a hot guy. Meaning- she's not a gal that would go to a place like that JUST to have sex...No matter what.

She has her own personal standards of the types of men she would allow herself to have sex with and that's her business.

I don't think she's snobby at all for it.

I think you took it the wrong way or are a bit defensive, thinking that if a hot girl goes to a club like this- that you might have a chance with her.


I agree. I think her point was that she went to a few swingers clubs to see what it was like. She may have considered having sex if she saw a man that she was attracted to. I don't think she was refusing to have a conversation with these men simply because they are overweight and / or 40+ yrs old. She was simply stating that she wasn't attracted to these types of men.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 74
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/3/2010 5:13:33 AM
Deerdog definitely has a point about security at the two types of clubs.....I do security at vanilla clubs... I'm the guy out front telling people they won't get in....it can be rough at times.

Inside is way different too... in a swing club, if I'm making out with two girls people watch and often compliment or begin their own thing. At a vanila club when I've made out with two women the guys started getting aggressive and pissed off and the women either wanted in on it or made rude comments about the women. I've actually had guys approach one or both of my girls and be like WTF? ...as if somehow if I wasn't there they'd have a chance! ...never happen at a swing club.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 75
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/3/2010 8:38:46 AM

I agree. I think her point was that she went to a few swingers clubs to see what it was like. She may have considered having sex if she saw a man that she was attracted to. I don't think she was refusing to have a conversation with these men simply because they are overweight and / or 40+ yrs old. She was simply stating that she wasn't attracted to these types of men.


again I never criticized her for having standards on who she would sleep with..I hope everyone has standards ..I was just pointing out that in the same sentence she both complained about clicks and stuck up people and criticized others for their age or looks ..from her other posts I concluded that she is not the shallow/arrogant type .. I was just pointing out how she was coming off in this instance ...I will never judge her on what type she would consider having sex with... and like other posters I just don't see the things she saw at such events ... over all at these events that I have attended .there have been a majority of attractive and nice people .. but in ant crowd there will be inevitably some stuck up and/or unattractive people...it really has nothing to do with the fact she was at a swinger club
 1eastshore
Joined: 11/3/2010
Msg: 76
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/6/2010 5:39:19 PM
I went to some sex / swingers parties with some female friends. None of us were in a LTR at the time. The majority of people were polite and respectful. But I would agree with the person who stated the majority of the people were over 40 and overweight.

Disclaimer: It's not a criticism. It's simply an observation. Also this only applies to the ones that I went to. Obviously I don't know if all or most sex / swinger parties are similiar to what I had described.
 datd00d
Joined: 6/22/2010
Msg: 77
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 11/10/2010 9:35:09 AM
Well I know there are a few sex parties held here in the Atlanta metro area in Georgia. I haven't been to any but heard a great deal about them. I do know that there is a Swinging Group in Atlanta that host parties at various clubs in the Metro area that I hear are very interesting to say the least.

I definitely plan to attend a few in the coming months after I drop some poundage and feel a bit more comfortable with my physique. Not necessarily into the Swinging or Sex Club scene but just want to attend to people watch I guess.

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 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 78
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Posted: 11/11/2010 4:27:29 AM
I went to one sex club with a couple friends and GF,
In Sydney, a place called Arrows. its very GLB friendly , say hi and politely accost someone, mostly you'll be successful if not then accept "no" move on the next may be a "yes".

It was the first time I saw two men at it in real time. They were accompanied by a woman lending a hand or finger or whatever, later we sat around and talked.
the guys said they didn't judge themselves as straight or bi or gay but just havin' fun safely. The trio like having people watch/ fondle/ join in. to them it was just having fun.

All consenting safe sex practising common-sense fun. thats it.
all adult ages, [over 18 of course]
Generally I would say most were over 30 y/o and women were outnumbered.
all hanging around similar age groups - no nasty forty year old men taking advantage of poor little 19 y/o economically disadvantaged petals ....blah blah blah.
It was more civilised than my corner pub in staightsville!

don't go if you're a screaming homophobe.

It would not supprise me if a few POF ters frequent the place...heh heh.

POF ters =joke .. as in Plenty Of Fish persons.
Enjoy
 lookingforbigo
Joined: 8/10/2011
Msg: 79
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 1/30/2012 12:26:19 PM
there are lots of sex clubs now most on site clubs are in toronto but there are a few off site clubs in other places i go to an off site club in london. No sex just lots of sexy dancing and flirting going on in the club.
 NEEDING4REAL
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 82
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 2/2/2012 11:24:20 AM
I love sex granted,but I would never pick up a chic in a bar. I think they are bad news and I'm not that desprate.
 DeborahCampbell
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 83
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Posted: 8/19/2018 7:39:12 AM
Hi wee is the swingers club down down
 acrosstheplains
Joined: 8/1/2017
Msg: 84
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 8/19/2018 2:25:24 PM
Hi wee
? really ?
sounds a little like a different type of party to me.....
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
Msg: 85
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Posted: 8/21/2018 9:39:57 PM

Yes, most clubs will not allow single men in unless they are invited or are with a female companion.


That varies. Some sex / swingers clubs won't allow any single men at all. Some will allow single men on certain nights. Some will allow a limited amount of single men. Some won't have an official limit for single men. But the price for single men is much higher. Thus the price is a defacto filter.
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
Msg: 86
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 8/21/2018 10:57:24 PM
Not interested in any high-risk sexual behavior. Condoms don't protect everything and you can still contract an STI from giving or receiving oral sex. And who's going to be sucking a condom or using a dental dam? No, I've been in the medical field long enough to know when the reward isn't worth the risk when it comes to random sexual encounters.
 acrosstheplains
Joined: 8/1/2017
Msg: 87
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 8/22/2018 1:38:51 PM
it really really spoils the pleasure when using any sort of dental dam (cling film, cut condom, the wrapping the doll came in..........)
So much so I just won't if one was needed. Might as well chew on a cold British Rail bacon roll while it's still in it's wrapper. (which was notoriously difficult to remove without a very sharp implement anyway)
 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
Msg: 88
Sex parties in clubs???
Posted: 8/22/2018 8:37:21 PM

And who's going to be sucking a condom or using a dental dam?

I once used flavored condoms for giving oral sex. It was better than regular condoms. But it still was not the same pleasure and enjoyment.
 1manlookingfornow
Joined: 2/13/2018
Msg: 89
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Posted: 8/22/2018 10:43:21 PM
Just go on swinglifestyle.com I'll tell you everything you need to know
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