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 Sweet_Sexy_Sassy79
Joined: 3/5/2004
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I think it would be much more special if it had thought into it instead of just the traditional rose. I mean, if he knew I liked a certain colour or knew a flower had a certain significance to me and gave me one of those...I would appreciate it all that much. Anyone can buy a rose just to score points...there's no real thought in that...unless u know it is special to her.

However, I'd still be flattered/pleased rose or other flower...but I'd be MORE impressed if it was a flower/colour special to me.

Kimberly
 multiangel
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 114
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 11/3/2007 6:47:02 PM
Adorable....one rose is perfect ....not too much....It's extremely sweet....
 BadBoy4204U
Joined: 8/15/2007
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Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 11/6/2007 9:38:18 AM
cosmos. Al Paulchino is correct. This link you posted for Al Paulchino to read is basically for people who are married and in love. Which the page also happens to sell flowers . So let me get this stright. A web-page that sells flowers is also a web page that says you should buy flowers for a loved one? What a coincidence.

This post is about giving a rose to a stranger.

It's no secret that women love attention and loved to be treated special and many like to be spoiled. So naturally many women who post here will say "Oh yes bring me a rose It's such a sweet gesture. " Of course they will say that because it makes her feel good whether she is attracted to you or not. I can remember when I used to think that I had
to buy women jewelry, flowers, and gifts to get heir love and approval and affection.
I did that for years. And it never worked very well.

There is a time and a place to do buy flowers and gifts but doing so upon meeting a woman is not the time or the place for it. Most men meet a beautiful woman and they feel compelled to start spending money on her, bring her a rose and buy an expensive dinner. It’s natural to want to be generous towards people you really care about but a woman you have just met (or a first date) does not qualify as someone you genuinely care about. The feeling behind the rose is not there for a stranger.

Most guys run around chasing after women... buying them things... and generally acting needy with women that they hardly know... hoping to get some love and approval. When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to bring you a rose to try and buy your attention and affection to win points out of the gate".

You might say you disagree, OR, “When I like a girl, I want to show her how much I care about her or how generous I am.”

I’d say bull-crap. You want to spend money on her in hopes that she will like you in return. Let me put it this way, if she were unattractive, would you feel the same way? Would you show up with a rose? If she looked like a demon, imagine Gene Simmons of the Rock band Kiss with breasts, (how is that for a sick visual?) would you still show up with a rose?

Women are attracted to you because of the FEELINGS that they get when they're with you (as opposed to the thing you buy them)

Buy something for your mother if your in the buying mood, after all she is the real woman of your life and she will always appreciate it much more....

But please, do not waste your money on strangers you barely know.....

BadBoy~
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Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 12/2/2007 10:39:06 AM
Yep, it did happen and it felt g r e a t!
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
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Posted: 12/2/2007 10:49:20 AM

But please, do not waste your money on strangers you barely know.....


Why does it make you angry that other people do nice things for people they don't know? Does that mean you get angry when people give to charity. Or show a little kindness to someone in public, like in the grocery store line-up? I think a lot of the people who give flowers on a first date are people who just like to make other people happy. We're all human, and if people just showed a bit more kindness to their fellow human beings without asking for anything in return directly, then this would be a much more pleasant place to live in.

I was thinking about how easy it is in a big city to feel disconnected to people, and it's really sad. Road rage and internet dating are great examples of where it just takes a small barrier to make you feel disconnected to people as people. In nasty driving behaviour, it's just a layer of metal and glass that makes you forget to empathize with people. With internet, some people will write the rudest things in an IM to someone, that they would never say to someone's face.

I say, bring a flower if you want to. It's a nice thing to do. And if bitter, angry people don't appreciate it, pity them, but don't become them.
 AussieChill
Joined: 1/29/2009
Msg: 118
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Posted: 3/2/2009 11:59:16 PM
cosmos, you are absolutely correct... roses convey significance by their color. other flowers are supposedly appropriate for differing occasions, not certain what they are though. - well never give a woman Lilies, they're for funerals. I'm usually one to take the cautious approach and give a single, non-rose flower; a small potted flowering plant is generally well received, especially if a card with a pleasant, non-stalker sentiment is attached :)
 Czech Roma
Joined: 10/7/2009
Msg: 119
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Posted: 10/14/2009 9:04:21 PM
Yes, I always appreciated roses on the 1st date. One time I got a dozen roses on a 1st dtae. One guy I dated for 5 yrs bought me roses almost every day, and a dozen roses once a month!
 mermaid140
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 120
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Posted: 10/15/2009 12:50:50 PM
Yes,
A flower or flowers on a date is will always put a smile on my face... :)
 Sassysouthernbelle762
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 10/19/2009 6:34:55 AM
I had a date a few months ago.......this man gave me 2 dozen long stem red roses......geez....and he kept doing it for almost every date. We had 10 dates then I found out he was a stalker type guy and had to let him go BUT I sure do miss those beautiful red roses, lol
 ep4friend
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 10/20/2009 2:03:35 AM
On a first date, I suggest you only bring your great sense of humour LOL. Try to just be yourself, bring her nothing and see if she sticks around. If she does, she is worth it. If she doesn't then she is materialistic.
If you want to be romantic, there is plenty of time left for that when you enter into a relationship.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 123
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/8/2013 1:36:30 PM

I was wondering how you would feel if a date gave you 1 single rose on your first date? Would it be something that you would appreciate or not?

I think most women would appreciate it and think positively of it, in and of itself. I've looked around online and men & women's perspectives and it's definitely a mixed bag.

It depends on:
(a) What she's like (traditional and/or likes a guy to take care of her)
(b) Whether or not she's wanting/looking only for a relationship
(c) How she feels about you & how you landed the 1st date

If you Know she's solidly (a), then go for it.

If she's (b) and it's clear that she likes you and it wasn't difficult getting her #, etc -- then sure, go for it.

If she seems to have so-so interest, and agreed to a date, while not really seen as a traditional girl or one who wants a guy to cater to her -- don't do it.

In the end, IMO, it's not something you do by default as they can be appreciative of it but think there's too much too quick if things are up in the air and it's just a (first) date. IMO, you'd need more than just-a-first-date to feed off of, to run that route.
 Theme_Pack
Joined: 5/3/2013
Msg: 124
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/8/2013 4:59:15 PM
My dates are usually walks.....so along the way I will pick something up...anything, a rock, a stick....hand it to them /her and say this is to remind you of our first date....Its funny to find out that the relationships I had made on here two that lasted 3 years each kept those silly rocks....Yes all admit I have a few acorns put away....

I think there's a time and place for a rose you know like on the Bachelor...

I usually tell my dates once they are abut to leave.....the next flower you see on the side of the road is from me to you....as long as its not winter....they think its cute. Use your imagination people its a great gift don't waste it....
 April1963
Joined: 6/7/2013
Msg: 125
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Posted: 10/8/2013 7:15:52 PM

I was wondering how you would feel if a date gave you 1 single rose on your first date?


I would feel flattered and grateful of that chivalrous gesture.

Yes,please bring One single White Rose on our first date....White Roses are my favorite!!!!
 sandytm
Joined: 9/25/2013
Msg: 126
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Posted: 10/9/2013 7:31:52 AM
If I liked cut flowers, the color wouldn't matter. If I had to take a train home from the city, I wouldn't want a rose in my hand.
 Theme_Pack
Joined: 5/3/2013
Msg: 127
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Posted: 10/13/2013 4:20:21 AM
I have also received flower/s on a first date....I don't over think this stuff.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 128
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Posted: 10/13/2013 4:30:35 AM
Once I receive a single rose on a first date, which I thought was very sweet, but odd at the same time. Luckily, it was during the winter months, so the rose was ok in the car while we were on the date. I would hate to see if it was a warm/hot day or evening where the poor rose whittled away in the car (I definitely do not want to carry a flower around, with me on the date.) Overall, I think it's best not to do any flower(s) on any first date. I think it could be an awkward moment.
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 129
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Posted: 10/13/2013 3:14:37 PM
First date - no.

First meeting after trading notes and photos on social media for years
Sure
but that wasn't a date - and we both knew it.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 130
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Posted: 10/13/2013 4:06:38 PM

Hey ladies...:).. I was wondering how you would feel if a date gave you 1 single rose on your first date? Would it be something that you would appreciate or not?


Absolutely….I’d appreciate it even more if he gave me my favorite flower. Personally I’d rather have a small bouquet of wildflowers he took the time to think of me and act on it, than handing me a dollar rose wrapped in cellophane from the gas station.

Some guys think “roses” are part of some magic formula with women; I can’t stand that.

Theme_Pack, you sweet sentimental thing. :)
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 131
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/13/2013 4:37:11 PM
" Absolutely….I’d appreciate it even more if he gave me my favorite flower. Personally I’d rather have a small bouquet of wildflowers he took the time to think of me and act on it, than handing me a dollar rose wrapped in cellophane from the gas station. "

+1 Fleuron

I think that it is incredibly sweet for a man to present a woman with a flower on a first date.....and even more special when he has taken the time and initiative to discover her favorite kind. For although it is the thought behind a gift that counts, some of us women really dislike certain kinds. For instance, I really dislike roses for personal reasons....
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 10/13/2013 9:10:34 PM
I think that it is incredibly sweet for a man to present a woman with a flower on a first date.....

Well, if he's traveling 1,000 miles, I would certainly hope so! :)
 nyceguy85
Joined: 1/11/2013
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Posted: 10/14/2013 9:22:35 AM
Save the flowers until there is a committed relationship established. If you give her flowers on the first date, she will expect you to shell out top dollars on restaurants and gifts. Dont do it.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 134
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/14/2013 10:39:06 AM
Once I receive a single rose on a first date, which I thought was very sweet, but odd at the same time.

I think that's the reason why most guys, who are into chivalry, wisely don't think about doing it in most circumstances. You're not anti-chivalry, right?

I think the best question would be (to a gal): If you haven't recently had to emotionally deal with guys being too anti-romantic, and those thoughts are not in your mind... and the guy you're going to go out on a 1st date with you're sorta-interested in (not ga-ga about) -- would you Want him to bring flower(s) -- or would it be best for a better time when things started to get off the ground between you two?

I think instinctually in some people's minds, a "Yes" pops up if the question is "Are flowers good for a date?" ... Due to never having had that in a long time, too many anti-romantic boyfriends, a yearning for chivalry, etc -- or just the concept by itself, ignoring what the situation may be and what it commonly entails surrounding it.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 135
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/14/2013 11:22:21 AM
Is there a way of preserving picked dandelions in the non-summer months? I get the occasional dandelion on my lawn, but my neighbors have tons of them, and I'm sure they wouldn't mind if I took some to make a dandelion bouquet. If dandelions didn't have such a bad reputation, everybody would love them. Seriously though, I'm with the crowd that says flowers, trinkets, and gifts should wait until you know for sure you're interested in the person and start the dating segment of the mating ritual.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 136
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/14/2013 1:36:32 PM

For although it is the thought behind a gift that counts, some of us women really dislike certain kinds. For instance, I really dislike roses for personal reasons....


That’s odd…me too. I think a thoughtful gesture like flowers (that aren’t roses) on a first date would make some women more inclined to agree to a second date. :)


If dandelions didn't have such a bad reputation, everybody would love them.


No no no….it depends on the giver. When my son was little he used to bring me dandelion bouquets, and I loved them very much. :)

Plus they can reveal whether or not you like butter. :)


….start the dating segment of the mating ritual


Yeesh. My heart’s all fluttery over talk like that.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 137
Flowers on the first date?
Posted: 10/14/2013 4:40:41 PM
"That’s odd…me too. I think a thoughtful gesture like flowers (that aren’t roses) on a first date would make some women more inclined to agree to a second date. :)"


You know what they say about great minds.....lol

But honestly it really is about the thought and feeling behind it. I once had a guy give me a mechanical pencil on a first date (there is a story behind it)!



"No no no….it depends on the giver. When my son was little he used to bring me dandelion bouquets, and I loved them very much. :) "



That is sweet Fleuron! Children give the best gifts because they are pure in heart!
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