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 Pisces22469
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 132
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!Page 4 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
Good News!!!! You Didn't waste a lot of time with him before you found out what *ss he is.
Sounds like you will be much better off without this guy in your life.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 133
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2013 3:00:26 PM

come to aussie land id do my best top make u cum if u don't so wht no big deal


Why resurrect a thread that's 3 years old just to say this to a woman who's long gone?
 Glad2help8597
Joined: 2/2/2013
Msg: 134
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/16/2013 3:20:43 PM
I think she should have told him " Thank God you said that because I have been laying here for the last 7 1/2 minutes wondering how I was going to tell you that this was the worst sex of my life. You didn't even last long enough to let me have a fake orgasm.
 deuber67
Joined: 11/2/2011
Msg: 135
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2013 12:39:09 PM
who cares if you cum
 darkhairedgirl81
Joined: 6/20/2012
Msg: 136
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/17/2013 9:19:03 PM
I would have dumped him. I am one of those fortunate women that knows my body well enough to cum almost every time. I figured out which positions work best for me and if all else fails I use my hand during sex. He's an idiot. In the rare occasion I don't get off during sex I just blame it on the condom. That's what they do when they can't cum. Or they blame it on drinking too much. You're better off without such a shallow guy.
 TPG1956
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 137
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/18/2013 8:50:00 PM
He was pretty cold and not worth your time. While I have been with a woman that never came while we had sex. It was hard, to me, that is very important that she is fulfilled. I felt very frustrated but we talked about it and she was very reassuring that it was nothing I was doing, she just didn't. We remained friends for many years till we finally just lost touch.
 1WishList
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 138
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 2/18/2013 9:04:03 PM
His behavior leans towards him being an anti-social type - he wanted the sex, but didn't want to spend the time to make sure you were satisfied and then wanted you to get lost (distracted) by his post sex reveal.
As others have already noted - be glad you are rid of him.
 dmrcowboy
Joined: 12/12/2007
Msg: 140
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 3/25/2013 2:01:18 PM
Maybe if he knew what he was doin you would have.
 LittleDreamGirl
Joined: 4/27/2016
Msg: 142
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 6/13/2016 2:45:44 AM
Well I know this is an old thread but it is indeed an interesting topic, that being why a man or woman would dump a new partner after only 1 roll in the hay. In this case the OP was dumped because she didn't cum. The guy was an idiot and clearly had delusional expectations. For him to dump someone because she didn't orgasm the first time - ridiculous! Anyone who knows anything about sex knows that a) a woman is never going to have an orgasm EVERY single time and b) the first time you have sex with a new partner it is never going to be the best since you don't know each other's bodies or turn-ons well enough yet. So the guy was a shallow moron.

Having said that, I recently had sex with someone for the first time and despite the fact that I a) had an orgasm b) HE had an orgasm and c) He had YET ANOTHER orgasm when I gave him a blow job the next morning that still wasn't good enough!!! Got dumped right after anyway! And here I was thinking "WOW, pretty freakin' good for our first time together. Just think how much better it will get as we get to know each other sexually and keep experimenting...this could get REALLY good with time." But nope. So really, a girl is left scratching her head....I mean what the eff do men want? If you're anything less than a complete porn star in bed the first time and they aren't head over heels in love with you when they f*ck you for the first time, then the attitude is "I'll just dump her and go back on my POF profile to see if I can get someone even HOTTER!" No one can live up to those expectations. That's okay, men like that will die alone and their bodies will get eaten by rabid raccoons who will break in to their house....but I digress....
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 143
wasn't coming, so definitely was going
Posted: 6/13/2016 5:47:40 AM
oh well, back in 2013 someone asked why this thread was resurrected. The Rolling Stones once sang about making a dead post come (back to life). I'll take a WAG that some dork who breaks up with a woman for some dumb reason...was just using the DR as cover for his real intention:the hump and dump.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 144
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 6/13/2016 1:04:04 PM

So really, a girl is left scratching her head....I mean what the eff do men want?

I really don't think the guy walked because she didn't have an orgasm. I think the guy was lying and came up with a bad excuse. The sex was probably not great for him, and he wanted to refer to something concrete and stupidly said that. People give false reasons All The Time, and may actually believe them to a certain degree (especially when they don't want to sound shallow).

And also, the guy could have felt his performance was sub-par, so he wanted to turn the tables. You'd be surprised how many guys may play this angle when they're unconfident about their sexual abilities and feel that they were sub-par in their experience.

If you're anything less than a complete porn star in bed the first time and they aren't head over heels in love with you when they f*ck you for the first time, then the attitude is "I'll just dump her and go back on my POF profile to see if I can get someone even HOTTER!"

I don't think it's like that, no - lol. None of my friends have been like that. It's been more like "I can do better," after the sex was had, but nothing Wow'd him to stick around to date, she wanted to date-or-bust, and he went the bust route.

By the same token, some girls will walk from a guy who sucks in bed. Not that he needs to be a rock-star, but gals will walk after the 1st time if sex was had early on and clearly sub-par. It's certainly not a rarity.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 145
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Posted: 7/4/2016 10:06:59 PM
Why would you even believe such a statement was true?
Maybe the guy wanted a one-night stand, and by dumping you immediately he doesn't have to worry about you calling him. Pretty insensitive, but maybe it works. Seemed it worked in your case - you're so angry you never want to see him again!
 emeraldeyedlady1
Joined: 8/19/2016
Msg: 147
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 9/12/2016 11:34:51 AM
yup, the guy is not sexually attracted and cant perform and get his rocks off, he just out to get sex and he could not care less about anything else. Don't invite a man over to your house ever. I dumped him too cause he did not cum, sorry to me that is a sign, he is not into loving you...just a sex thing for this guy. Get rid of him fast.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 148
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 9/12/2016 12:24:35 PM

the guy is not sexually attracted and cant perform and get his rocks off, he just out to get sex and he could not care less about anything else. Don't invite a man over to your house ever. I dumped him too cause he did not cum, sorry to me that is a sign, he is not into loving you...just a sex thing for this guy. Get rid of him fast.


I don't know about this. It takes me about three sessions before I can ejaculate. I may have several orgasms, but they are dry.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 149
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 9/13/2016 10:55:19 AM

yup, the guy is not sexually attracted and cant perform and get his rocks off, he just out to get sex and he could not care less about anything else.

I don't quite understand this. If a guy can't have an orgasm (dry or standard), that's going to be Frustrating for him -- he is going to care. You're clashing two contradicting concepts together in that statement there. He is going to care and going to want to move away from the gal if he's not sexually attracted to her to the extent he can't even orgasm.

I dumped him too cause he did not cum, sorry to me that is a sign

So you encourage the OP gal to get dumped if she too can't cum -- correct? :) I realize for a gal, a guy should have more patience, and some girls take a lot to cum... but in the end, dating is about feeling out the compatibilities. It's so much better if the gal can cum, after learning the ropes together somewhat if necessary. If that can't happen, well, she shouldn't complain if the guy loses the passion about her during that dating phase. Now, if she has trouble doing so, but Otherwise is great in bed (many times the two do not go hand-in-hand, btw) and she shows Zero frustration about not cumming and is loving it all -- then I would say the guy shouldn't get so bent out of shape.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 150
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Posted: 9/13/2016 8:17:44 PM
A simple hump and dump. NOT a relationship. No one was "dumped". The line given was just one of a dozen "quick exit" excuses used by players who only want to hit it and disappear forever.

Don't think twice about it - just always use protection so those type of guys don't leave anything behind.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 151
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Posted: 9/13/2016 8:22:26 PM

"I'll just dump her and go back on my POF profile to see if I can get someone even HOTTER!" No one can live up to those expectations.

No one is SUPPOSED to live up to anything like that. The guy who does a hump & dump doesn't care how great your personality is, or how big your bank account is. All he wants is a one-night-stand. You delivered the goods - so he's very happy - AND on his way. He's not comparing you to the next girl, he doesn't even remember you by the time he gets to his car. There's no reputation at stake, no standard to meet - his business is done - THE END.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 152
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 9/13/2016 9:19:40 PM

A simple hump and dump. NOT a relationship. No one was "dumped". The line given was just one of a dozen "quick exit" excuses used by players who only want to hit it and disappear forever.

Don't think twice about it - just always use protection so those type of guys don't leave anything behind.


A one night stand. I get it.

For the rest for, that were looking for a relationship. Yes, with a lot of sex, a lot of doggy, missionary, more fellatio than an gellato store, it is worth learning about your partner's patterns, instead of the ubiquitous f v ck and dump.

I used to prefer to be more picky so those that became entangled in my web, I wanted to keep them. And did they.
 misslynne89
Joined: 7/10/2011
Msg: 153
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Posted: 9/26/2016 4:24:15 PM
Should've lied, apparently. Stupid little boys...
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 154
Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 9/28/2016 7:55:34 AM

Should've lied, apparently. Stupid little boys...


Why?

If the boy didn't give you an orgasm, make him work harder next time. When you fake it, then they never realize they are doing something wrong and you never get your kicks the way you may want them.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 155
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Posted: 10/16/2016 10:36:15 AM
I thought men loved a challenge. The hunt for the ultimate "O".
I think he wanted what he got and used an excuse that worked for him.
Theres lots of men with the goal to please his lady....just hang in there.
 hersh1flame
Joined: 4/7/2016
Msg: 156
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 10/17/2016 9:27:27 AM
I agree! Nothing turns me on more than watching my partner moan and quiver!
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 158
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Posted: 10/19/2016 9:07:11 PM
Up to the woman to show a guy what turns her on, after all. If a man does not want to please you in in bed, move on. Men are not mindreaders and faking orgasms is just self sabotage.
 Lordbenji
Joined: 6/13/2016
Msg: 159
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 10/20/2016 7:47:25 PM
Sexaul incompatible I view it as.
 inlawsnoutlaws
Joined: 1/20/2016
Msg: 160
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Dumped cos I didnt cum!!
Posted: 11/5/2016 12:29:17 PM
Women don't often make me cum. I'm sure it gets to them. I can just jerk myself off on them or something. Its my sexual issue. Like i can't hold someone for very long. But...I can last. I stay hard. I just don't bust. Im really turned on. It feels really good. I just don't bust. They don't always understand. Some appreciate. It's better for me I guess. But honestly its not important. It's about being close. And if you can make them cum that one time. Be happy. If they love you. They love you. This is what it's come too.
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