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 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 202
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?Page 3 of 17    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17)
Again....just look around you........it's plain and easy to see..

it's particularly evident with some women's profiles on this site..............

and of course their lack of substantive contribution.....

unfortunate indeed...


Happy Holidays
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 204
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Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/20/2008 10:14:25 PM
You know Srq.....considering all the things that have gone awry in the last 8-50 years, it's kinda hard for me to get worked up over CLOTHING .

With poverty, unemployment, child pornography and the sex trade rampant, women stoned to death in public for adultery in a country that permits the slavery of women, religious fanatics pressuring government and war profiteering accepted, manipulation of a nations and a worlds resources, outsourcing jobs so that we have a country rich in the rich and greedy but are losing a middle class and ignoring the rest. I find it difficult to be overly concerned about what someone wears when we've been shoved into a moral and ethical morass.

Personally I think that the styles today have more to do with designers creating styles that cost them less money to produce for a market that's declining for the most part; cheaper fabric, much less finish work and less material per outfit and on top of that produced in a foreign country for slave wages ....but they're charging the same on the rack as a well made product. We have a growing poor, not much need to get dressed to go down and get an unemployment check do you think?

Personally I find your elitist attitude a waste of time.... dress well if it gives you pleasure, ignore the rest, after all who gives a rats patootie in the grand scheme of things .

Create a strong ethical country, a decent dependable living... and the fashion will follow.
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 208
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/21/2008 7:48:33 AM
Just about everthing in a 'dating site' web-based forum may indeed

be construed as a "waste of time"..........that's one of the by-products of

cyber-contribution....you can elect to participate, to read, or to ignore

and push one's overweight self back from the glow of the flatscreen and

go to the gym, or for a cup of coffee.......................




It seems abundantly clear that we have certainly had a LACK of what may be

termed 'elitism' , yes, even down to "dress".......and look at what that has provided

us.....'Trash Appeal" a la Britney Spears, and of course young men wearing

baggy short pants, practically failing off their butts, with their underwear showing

I might add......................



No, I don't subscribe to the notion that maintaining reasonable standards of dress

is 'useless', or is in conflict with the pursuit of individualism (or 'fashion')...........


A pursuit of 'decency' and 'appropriateness' is never a waste of time...........it's

only a waste of time for those who believe that the pursuit of 'decency' is frivolous

in re how our wives, girlfriends, and daughters are 'viewed', therefore judged.


Empiricists never seem to grasp how true knowledge is gained......Empiricists

oftentimes attempt to discredit the 'rational' as merely 'elitist'..............even in

"dress", there are 'finer fabrics'.......and then there is 'hemp'...........perceptions

within society are equally stratified...............thank god..........or every young

lady would be permitted to 'leave the house' looking like Britney Spears, or

the gang-banging thug from the ghetto.............


methinks I shall pursue a bit of a so-called 'elistist attitude' to go along with the

'trash reasoning'.


No age group has a monopoly of wearing 'trash'....again, just look around. True 'sexiness' is never debased or degraded.

Sexiness exhibited by a woman, does not necessarily translate into her 'desirability'.

Lingerie is still undergarments.....Wearing lingerie as outerwear for example, doesn't make a lady sexy OR desirable....in some cases it can make a woman look like
a downright buffoon........









Women of all ages should use mirrors....especially those that are old enough
to accept the aging process, and truly take advantage of it in a reasonable
fashion.............."when I was a child, I spoke as a Child.........."





Happy Holidays
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 211
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Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/21/2008 12:35:45 PM
Well obviously SRQ, you seem to have an obsession on the subject, which leaves little room for discourse.

Does seem that you're here too with the proletariat, on the free site and complaining about the menu.... as well as cruising incognito without profile or photo, kind of like shooting ducks in a bucket don't you think? Perhaps you need to pay for more rarified options?

As far as I've discovered, there's no guarantee that a suit makes someone a better, more civil man either.
 kbodley
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 213
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Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/21/2008 1:16:09 PM
Oh Please! Can we get past the idea that the only way to be comfortable is to wear ill-fitting jeans and jumpers?

I am really tired of people, both men and women, who believe that it is acceptable for them to adopt a standard of dress that sends a clear message, "I not only don't care about myself, I also don't care about what the generally acceptable standards of dress are."

I am not a petite size 5, or even a petite size 16, but I can assure you that I make sure that when I walk out the door each day I am dressed appropriately for my intended destination! And I certainly don't have heeps of money to spend on clothes either!

I shop carefully and spend wisely. I tend to not purchase trendy items (unless I find them on a really great sale and they look fantastic on me). And - yes, I take care to make sure that my hair is clean and styled attractively, my makeup (minimal though it is) is appropriate for what I am doing, and my clothes are clean and pressed.

I am astonished at what I see my young co-workers come to the office wearing, and the lack of respect for themselves and other that they convey by their dress doesn't seem to occur to them.

I also have to tell you guys that when you show up for a meet and greet in dirty, stained, poorly fitting jeans and tee shirts, with an unshaven face, and a dirty car, the impression I get is that they have little respect for themselves or me. There seems to be a perception that if you are more than 40 years old, and more than 5 lbs overweight, appearance doesn't count! NOT!!! At least not to me! I work hard on my appearance, and I would not be attracted to a man that didn't take care of his - and this has nothing to do with weight or body image! It has to do with respect - mutual respect!
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 215
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/21/2008 6:06:21 PM
It's telling that I have yet to 'personalize' argument or discourse....but

there are those here who seem hellbent on doing just that...........as opposed

to commenting on the substance of a post........in other words, a 'personal attack'

on the poster................again, that's more revealing about the attacker as opposed

to the 'opinions' of which I have offered..................that, clearly smacks of an

entirely different issue...................one of feeble argument, and visceral frustration.

There is never a rational need to overly 'personlaize' argument ..even disagreement.




But....if one has no substantive retort or contribution, that person shall always take the low road in an exchange of ideas.........


Agreement is never necessary in intelligent discourse........personal attacks never buttress an argument....it detracts from it............but the easily intimidated or shallow thinkers never do fully understand rational thought, do they ?
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
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Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/21/2008 11:21:33 PM
"Legally" you are correct SRQ as you never used my name, however the thread title is "Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?", it wasn't a discussion of 'the moral decadence of dressing like floozies being a crime'. And I do dress my overweight body in front of the pc screen comfortably and don't display cleavage, ass or anything else vulgar (hmm...sounded strangely personal to me ;-) ).... or is just existing imperfectly, in my body and age, on your planet, with an opposing opinion.....offensive?

Perhaps you need to start a new thread...
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 224
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Posted: 12/22/2008 11:10:27 AM
hmm


Perhaps we should have the God-given sense to articulate a reasonable

diagreement, or express a divergent point fo view, without the sophomoric

urge to 'personalize' the attack on 'substance'....



Perhaps some should become 'hall monitors' and forum police in
their clear abundance of worthless spare time as 'cybersquatters'...




Happy Holidays
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 227
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/22/2008 5:53:28 PM
hmmm


A symptom of our societal problem is , in fact, generational 'identity'................

Mothers that 'borrow' or wear their daughter's clothes may actually think that

is 'appropriate'.......as a thoughtful man, I would never endorse an almost 50

year old woman wearing her daughter's clothes....even if they DID 'fit'.........but

clearly the point is not whether they actually "fit"........... the message that is sent

to the daughter seems a dangerous one...........one 0f generational 'disrespect', and

that of 'overfamiliarity' viz childhood and parenting................. I know I don't want

my 'wife' (not married now) 'borrowing' the fashion of my "daughter" no matter

if they are the same size............... again, some things are simply not done........a

grown woman....a 'mother' and a 'mother figure' should know what lines not to cross...

and messages NOT to send..................................

Again, there ARE axioms in family life....but some don't seem to get it , hence

the predicament that some mothers put us in as a society......thinking their

behavior is innocuous and not subject to review...


Simply amazing lack of wisdom we have....I lived outside Memphis , TN(Germantown)

for several years.......now I realize why the parochialism couched in psuedo-intellectualism is only one reason why I'm back on the beach here in Sarasota, FL...


truly amazing stuff, but certainly not unexpected



Happy Holidays
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 229
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:15:44 PM
Yes a 50 year old man looks like an idiot wearing BillaBong surfer pants, and a

a ball cap turned around backwards..................there is NO doubt about that....


the 'incidence' however of a FATHER, 'borrowing' his son's clothes however seems

a bit 'rare'........men don't generally 'shop' or compare fashion notes with their sons...

although I'm sure that does exist................



I stand by my original point about the sanctity of a woman's role in the family

in re "dress"........and I don't think it's a positive idea to "borrow" your daughter's

clothes.........under most if not all circumstances..........



In fact, in retrospect, it seems 'low-rent' and 'low brow'





ps // see you at george's on the deck !
 SRQManaMan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 232
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:52:23 PM
clearly a FATHER 'borrowing' his son's clothes is NOT the same as dressing LIKE

him......................but indeed the fallout and results may be identical.....but the

family dynamic truly different....................obviously......

but both, in my view are clearly inappropriate...yes, even in 2009 and beyond......








Note:

yes, some women couldn't care less about 'clothes'.......or their appearance...

and that seems increasingly obvious by just looking around.........sometimes

women don't know the 'damage' they do......and still others are impervious to

reason, even in the face of undisputed truths...
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 240
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/23/2008 6:14:31 AM
The style I like,, is when my lady ( when I have one) wears my shirt in the morning, and we are not even married,, I sure that's going to wreck family values. I see lots of style as she walks, and the fashion statement,, Oh baby,, as that incites some creativity,,
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 241
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Posted: 12/23/2008 7:05:12 AM
I had a date with a man who said he was past dressing for style and dressed only for comfort. He said he wore nothing but crocs, and had a black pair for "dress up."

When I met him, he had on muscle pants (in 2008), the promised crocs, and a colored t-shirt with an emblem on it stretched across his big belly. He had that thin gray hair ponytail thing going--none of which was evident in his picture.

I wore a mid-calf white skirt, lavender top, brown high-heeled boots. It was winter, and I was very comfortable--but I also dress well when I go out because I want to look as good as I can. The thing is, HE thought I looked good--why shouldn't I be able to appreciate the same in/from a man. Had I shown up looking like a frowse, he wouldn't have wanted to see me again.

I didn't see him again, not based solely on how he dressed, but I admit: it was a part of it.

Style does not have to negate comfort, neither should we be slaves to fashion. Comfort doesn't mean wearing crocs all the time or wearing jeans all the time. (By the way, jeans in and of themselves do not negate style.)

Dress for the occasion.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 242
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Posted: 12/23/2008 7:06:12 AM

The style I like,, is when my lady ( when I have one) wears my shirt in the morning


^^^Believe it or not? I am still young enough to remember those times! Sad part is? Only going from memory these days!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 243
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/23/2008 7:13:28 AM

The style I like,, is when my lady ( when I have one) wears my shirt in the morning


...You realize of course, depending upon the material....."she" will leaves bump marks on some of you're shirts and tee shirts


...maeflowers
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 244
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/23/2008 7:32:01 AM
Ok ladies,, I'm suggesting a fashion show,, at my home starting at 9pm it's an all night affair. Many shirts to choose from, guaranteed to be soft, clothing that is,, LOL.. playful I am this morning,, I'm certainly open to new fashion ideas, so for my viewing pleasure, and humble opinions,, therefore suggesting that you bring your best collection of lingerie.. Now going with my past memories, There is no doubt I would enjoy such a show. Your efforts will not go unrewarded,, PS the theme this year is a naughty miss Santa,,

Style and comfort is and should be a individual choice, who cares what others think, it's our confidence that will out Shine stating "I am me",, take it or leave it,,,
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 245
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Posted: 12/23/2008 8:04:49 AM
....So....is this a Christmas wish? And......have you been a good boy?


...maeflowers
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 246
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/23/2008 8:24:02 AM
Not only do I dress for my comfort, it's been my experiace, my dress and style portrays the good boy / bad boy as with my attitude,, therefore it's not uncommon that the women that I have known like that,, demure, as for good ,, that can mean bad boy with a twist,,

To answer your question, it's not only a Christmas wish, year round is what I do hope for,,
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 248
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Posted: 12/23/2008 8:51:04 AM

Skirts and dresses give your legs room to move and aren't confined in material. I think I dress pretty darn comfortably, but always feel I am in fashion.


I totally agree. I love to wear dresses for several reasons. Again, there is no reason why style or looking nice should negate comfort.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 255
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Posted: 12/23/2008 2:55:09 PM

when you're so short.. and you have to hem a foot off of the style.. it no longer holds the same shape.. or have the same look.


When I weighed 250 pounds, I sewed a lot of my clothes so that they would fit.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 257
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/23/2008 7:15:37 PM

And, like the lady above...I wear pearls.

Redheads should wear pearls



...Gonna have to buy me some pearls....Hmmm, wonders how they would look with a man's shirt.


...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 259
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Posted: 12/23/2008 7:27:04 PM

^^^totally hot!
Oh, you probably wanted a man to say that..lol...



...Would have been nice (lol)...but hey, I'm not fussy, a compliment is a compliment.

...maeflowers
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 260
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Posted: 12/23/2008 7:49:23 PM
Just an opinion, but....

A lovely woman wearing just a man's shirt and a string of pearls is about as Hawt as it gets.

Excuse me for a few minutes while I go take a nice cold shower........
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 261
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Posted: 12/23/2008 7:57:39 PM

Just an opinion, but....

A lovely woman wearing just a man's shirt and a string of pearls is about as Hawt as it gets.

Excuse me for a few minutes while I go take a nice cold shower........


...Hmmm... * Pearls in hand she frantically searches through her closet for a white shirt*.......any you guys out there have a white shirt I can borrow?

...maeflowers
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 12/23/2008 8:10:23 PM
I'm wearing an off-white/Ivory shirt right now. I would gladly loan it to you!!!!
I'm a little short on pearls right at the moment, but I'll see what I can do!
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