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 fiddlenotes
Joined: 8/24/2008
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Do I ever miss physical touch!Page 2 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
Yes, I miss the physical touch too. Very much. But, I am rather tired of men who think that they can skip the preliminaries and go right for the "act", then insinuate something is wrong with ME, for not responding. It's about connecting, and really feeling close to the person, not just fulfilling an "itch". I have a female massage therapist, that I have no sexual feelings for whatsoever, but who definitely understands the importance of touch. And, I have a one year old grandson who gives his hugs and kisses freely. For now, that will have to suffice.
My touch need is still in major deficit.....
I play my violin for others who are in need, and touch the untouchable....
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 3:42:47 PM
Mae ------------- you know I love and respect you.

"...I don't lose sleep over it either...."

Thank God, you had me worried.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 3:57:13 PM
Mabe part of the problem is our society. We simply aren't a touchy feely society without wanting sex.
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 65
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/17/2008 4:03:26 PM
Not really...or perhaps in cold days sitting by fire place and cuddling...with the perfect ONE...
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 4:55:43 PM
"with the perfect ONE..."

And when the perfect one doesn't exist, how do we deal with the physical distress of winter?
 exiss
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 68
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/17/2008 5:00:43 PM
Well, it's been so long i've forgotten what it's like, but yes, I do miss it. I try not to think about it because it's so sad.. especiall when the "holidays" are rapidly approaching.
Maybe that's why i'm still here when common sense says to quit the search.
 SueCat51
Joined: 8/11/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2008 5:07:06 PM
OP - when I got divorced in 1987 - the hardest thing was getting use to the other side of the bed being empty. There's nothing more wonderful than to be able to "spoon" before falling asleep. For me, it tends to whisk away myworries. Do I long for touch again? You bet - I also believe the wait is worthwhile, for a very special fella.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 11/17/2008 5:29:38 PM

"I guess I am confused about when this thread became about you again? "

I am getting a little tired of the nonsense that actually has to do with you being annoyed over another website and a man names George. That was all over more than a year ago, get over it.

It gets tiresome people having their own issues and trying to put their issue over on others that don't have that issue.


I have only talked to one man named George, and he had issues knowing how old he was, he invited me to go on a cruise with him the first week we spoke and it was just to needy for me to be interested in him, he wanted me to leave my underage kid and my 19 year old in Tn and travel with him between Canada and Florida...Gosh I would hope you wouldnt have fallen for someone like him!

I think you must have me completely confused with someone else. I wasnt aware of your existance until I read some of your posting on the forums here last spring...at which time you didnt seem to be as bitter as you have been lately, or maybe I just didnt notice it. So sorry if you think Im someone Im not.

As far as missing someone's touch I dont think anyone is confusing the need for the Right touch from the Right person vs just any touch for anyone. I have to agree that missing that ache is also a wonderful thing...a daily reminder that when I find someone WORTHY of spending the rest of my life with Ill never let them forget how much I appreciate them being a part of my life.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 73
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/17/2008 5:33:57 PM

Mae ------------- you know I love and respect you.

"...I don't lose sleep over it either...."

Thank God, you had me worried.



...Don't be.....I'm recieving therapy....massage therapy, that's always "stimulating"

...maeflowers
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 81
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:11:59 PM

Now, things have changed considerably in that I have met someone who is every bit as affectionate as I can be with the right person.



...Love to hear those success stories...I will continue to wait for "my turn"


...maeflowers
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 83
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:45:00 PM
Ayumu, I know exactly how you feel when you mention the safe and secure part...there isnt another feeling that is close to it and it is hard to explain..I do think you did a great job explaining it.

I also know the feeling you are talking about with your ex, while the other person might physically be with you all the other emotions they are feelings, guilt remorse etc are being shared and while you might not know why you are aware they exist. And you are right it is a very ugly feeling.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 84
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:48:38 PM
Thank you all for reminding me.

I have now lived alone for close to five years (yes I have a dog and a cat but).

I work from a home office and seldom even leave the house. It gets pretty dang lonely.

I talked to my ex wife just tonight on the phone and found myself hinting at a “date”.

The #1 thing I always try to remember is ......

Not once - not one single time (except for naked having sex) in 20 years - did she touch me. Not my arm - not my leg not my face. Any type of affection is just not in her being. Her mom is even more of an ice queen. In all those years I never saw her touch anyone - not her husband - not one of her three daughters - not even a grand kid.

This is the very thing I always try to remember ... it helps me realize - there is just no logical reason to miss her. I've not even seen her in almost three years now .... maybe she grew another head (that could be another reason not to miss her lol).
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/17/2008 8:50:29 PM
"I think you must have me completely confused with someone else."

Same name and picture and attitude and need.

People can want touch, crave touch, demand touch, but unless the relationship is right the only feeling they will end up with is unfulfilled.

Of course, I want it all just like everone else in datingland. I won't waste my time dreaming. If it is mean to be, it will be. In the meantime, I have good stuff to do.

 lilmopeep
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/17/2008 9:16:17 PM
I can live without it definitely! Go for a massage. Get a pet.
Not willing anymore to complicate my life. Wish I could find others who can understand this!
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 11/18/2008 8:08:28 AM
I was telling the OP that I used to do volunteer work in an old age home. Those lil faces would light up when I came into their room to chat. The stories they told me taught me much. To hug them or hold their hand? Gee, you would have thought I gave them the world. Just goes to show that the human touch can and does so very much for all of us....now quick, someone touch me!
 Ahoytheredave
Joined: 8/29/2006
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Posted: 11/18/2008 10:21:06 AM
How that touch feels is a matter of velocity.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 100
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Posted: 11/18/2008 1:01:34 PM
Rossal, I think that is the *key point some people have failed to realize, just cause you miss a physical touch doesnt mean you are offering up your body to all comers...it has to be the RIGHT person and for the RIGHT reasons ...otherwise it isnt the right touch!

I remember when my aunt was in a nursing home and we would go after church, my kids would be all dressed up and some of the other people there would come out of their rooms to try and get to hold one of my children. My aunt would be shooing them out of her room ...it was so sad to watch how much they missed interaction with other people. The schools here in Tennessee have a program where the kids go to the different homes and sing at the holidays. I know some nursing home have pets but to me none of it is the same as when the right person takes your hand.
 selfsong
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 11/18/2008 1:47:09 PM
op

oh god, i can relate to this.

went out not to long ago, ended up dancing. we did the slow dance thing and i was so overwhelmed by what i felt. the touch of a woman, me touching a woman, felt so great!!!!!

we both ended up talking about this, how one responds to that need that is missed

so yes, i had no idea how much i missed contact with a woman, guessed i got used to being alone!

 selfsong
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Posted: 11/18/2008 5:26:36 PM

need is to lower my truck insurance right about no



that will work too
 selfsong
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Posted: 11/18/2008 6:11:45 PM
you know, i think being alone is easy, yes once in a while one is reminded about that touch but still it is no big deal, we can just shrug our shoulders and think oh well.

the question i have to ask myself is is worth it, should i take the time to find another, take that chance to find someone to play with. At times i think no but I see in myself that changing and I am in no hurry but know when the time comes things will happen.

So if you miss it and feel you want it in your life then go for it, else smile, enjoy what you have.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 106
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Posted: 11/18/2008 6:17:57 PM
thats what HUGS are for -to get us through the lonely times, -but keep practicing when you affection bucket is full, never know how the person your hugging is feeling
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 11/18/2008 7:57:40 PM
I get those hugs and soft touches (non-sexual) from younger ladies including those that are also married; I can't get them from many older ladies, WTF???
 MacKevinized
Joined: 2/15/2006
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Posted: 11/19/2008 8:57:57 AM

I was so not aware of how much I missed skin against my skin. I've been quite prepared to live my life solo but now wonder, how can I go through life without ever feeling the touch of another again. I actually find the idea upsetting. Is this the point where one gets a pet? Hire a skin stroker? My dentist is far from hot.


Admitting you have a problem is the first step in finding a solution.

There's nothing wrong with wanting touch and recognizing that you have the power to fix it. Old age homes, hospitals, orphanages, etc. are great places to give the touch you desire and keeps you in practice with the "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".

Or... you could spend a couple of years convincing yourself the desire is some 'sickness' you need to 'heal' from. But then, you'll have to convince everyone that you've gained some sort of superiority over your human emotions and repeat the same crap over and over and claim you can't find anyone worthy of letting close.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 11/19/2008 9:29:13 AM

Or... you could spend a couple of years convincing yourself the desire is some 'sickness' you need to 'heal' from. But then, you'll have to convince everyone that you've gained some sort of superiority over your human emotions and repeat the same crap over and over and claim you can't find anyone worthy of letting close.


lol Mac...that was priceless and great way to express exactly what we see written in the forums so often!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 117
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Posted: 11/19/2008 5:52:59 PM

Or... you could spend a couple of years convincing yourself the desire is some 'sickness' you need to 'heal' from. But then, you'll have to convince everyone that you've gained some sort of superiority over your human emotions and repeat the same crap over and over and claim you can't find anyone worthy of letting close.




lol Mac...that was priceless and great way to express exactly what we see written in the forums so often!



...I concur...nothing can take the place of just being held in someone's arms.


...maeflowers
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