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 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 187
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My gf won't even let me touch her down therePage 11 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
One of the things that always fascinates me with this type of topic is that where its a woman that is the one not interested in sex, or holding out it tends to be majoritively the view that the man should respect her wishes. wait etc etc and this will often also be reflected within relationships and marriages too as though in some way a womans sexual wants or "not wants" should for some reason be more than 50% of the equation and should therefore be the ones that are more important and the ones to dictate what should or shouldnt happen

Not necessarily saying anything specific there other than what I've observed time and time again not just with threads on places like this but also with real world discussions

But it does scream of both indoctrinated double standards, social stereotypes and inequality as though where sex is concerned what the female in the equation wants or doesnt want is for somereason more "right" and whether the man wants more or less sex he should be the one to "consider" what the woman wants far more than the reverse or some kind of equal stance where a compromise is sought

As the woman isnt that much past being a teenager then when being dated by another not long out of teenager status this scared, unsure almost adolescant form of stuff is I guess a bit more understandable to some extent but in an actual bonafide "grown up" I'd have already put this one into the "too many issues and hang ups" pile and moved on tbh

And I reckon that if this is what shes like now and this relationship goes anywhere youre likely to find yourself having another "dry spell" whenever you wont buy her the new kitchen, sofa, carpets, holiday or dress she wants even if your reason is because you just cant afford it personally
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 191
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/9/2011 8:39:10 PM
this is easy OP...

get a new GF>
 Saturn111
Joined: 1/19/2011
Msg: 192
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/10/2011 5:57:53 PM
Obviously she is not into sex that much. Let's face it, if your horny things happen. Your wasting your time! Time to find a girl who is on the same page as you sexually or you will be frustrated for a very long time. Good luck.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 8:27:50 PM
I agree with FreeFalling1231 and the others.

If you are not compatible now, more than likely you will not be in the future. There is a slim chance you can work on this, but it will require time. If you think your time is more valuable move on.
 ryobi2800
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 201
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 8:33:32 PM
then this is the girl for you. be patient with her,if u like her then everything u guys do will be a first for her. id hang in there if i were u
 Friendly widow
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 202
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 9:40:30 PM
that sounds like rape to me.
if it works so well why are you here...
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 203
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/12/2011 8:15:48 PM
This threads from 2008 wonder how it turned out...
 unspoiled
Joined: 9/25/2011
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/13/2011 9:10:32 PM
This is where maturity (or low sex drive) really helps. Being antsy in wanting something so badly puts you at a big disadvantage and I really know how it feels like. The woman controls much of what will or will not happen. You have to be willing to let her control that, albeit with some nudging but if she is not succumbing, you have to back off.

There could be some unfairness between how SOME women will allow themselves to give in to bad guys and to give less to a guy she thinks is a keeper, at least in the beginning (I know to men sounds so illogical and while in it , it can drive you nuts). What is not fully recognized by younger men is that capturing a woman's heart is a greater accomplishment than having sex.

I think if you could just ask her this, perhaps your decision to hang around could be made better: "Are you contemplating making this a long-term relationship, and if so would you help me out a little, even if you just lend a helping hand?"

Perhaps a woman could amend some of what I said above.
 brownie360
Joined: 8/7/2008
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/23/2011 3:27:13 PM
Exactly...guys always btchng about not having a good woman yet whenever they get one, they waste no time screwing it all up...
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 210
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/24/2011 1:52:26 PM
Hey, it isn't 1894 anymore and she isn't 17 or 18. In todays society, In a healthy relationship, it is perfectly normal for a mid twenties woman to want to be sexually involved with a guy she has been serious about for 4 months!

This woman has issues. do you really think a wedding ceremony is going to flip some kind of switch and turn on her sex drive? Send her down the road where she can find some guy with sex issues, who is satisfied with sex 4 or 6 times a year! Then they both can live happily ever after! And you can find a woman who matches your sex drive. win/win !
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 211
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/24/2011 1:58:49 PM

This threads from 2008 wonder how it turned out...


He's a Priest now, and she runs a brothel in Louisiana.
 BigEddd
Joined: 9/9/2011
Msg: 212
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/25/2011 8:50:26 PM
You should just get her drunk all the time lol jk
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