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 hotXXbunz
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 152
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My gf won't even let me touch her down therePage 7 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
Well at the age of 24 if she has only had one other sexual partner, wouldn't you find that a turn on that she is feeling enough to want to make this a great relationship. It seems that she is wanting more from you, just not able to give it at this point. The choice to stay with her would have to be a personal one. Do you want a wholesome girl that has been sexually careful and wated for a loving relationship, or are you looking for a woman that is easy. If you want someone more experienced, move on, if not, talk to her and tell her your feeling and what you would like out of a relationship...be honest, she may open up to you in more ways than one
 LexyAlexia
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 154
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 2/28/2009 3:48:48 AM

Maybe he could be a little more patient but on the flip side, she is calous and is being very emotionally abusive to this person.


Yes, he is only slightly wrong and she is very evil. No, she explain why she feel as she does. One can accept this or leave, but she is not abuse any body. Even OP conclude it is perhap her personality or upbringing that cause this, not blameing her.


He's already posted more than once that her attitude is very uncaring in more ways than just sexual and THAT is his main problem.


If sex is not the main problem his first post would not be entirely about sex and touching her "down there". It is after many negative post did he change his story to sex does not matter.

Also, in post 76 he admit to playing game and trying to manipulate her into giving what he wants. He lose any credibility of careing about and respecting her when this happen. I hope they are no longer together.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 158
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 3/1/2009 10:48:42 AM
Wow and double wow !!!!!! Perhaps your gf is turn off the way you manhandle her, a woman can sense a man who just want sex with out feelings" that makes most women *feel dirty*". Intimacy is two way street, most men knows the magic touch that a woman would soar to ecstacy. If_ I am a man _the first thing I would do to a woman is tender/loving/care = sensuality,that is the magic touch. Reading your post makes me puke, a real macho man won't blabber to this forum that his GF won't let him touch her down there, but at least you have a bit of decency not to post your picture in your profile. I hope there are still lots of men here in POF who are decent and not repulsive.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 159
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 3/1/2009 10:58:50 AM
Mgs.193 Browngreeneyes your reply to the OP is a A GOOD SHOT for the content of the heart is love and the content of the mind is SEX.
 discrete_contact
Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 160
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:12:20 AM
Yes try her heart and her...."mind". Its not about you guy try and learn it. Its about when she "feels confortable" does not matter what price you pay and what you may feel. Your feelings or what you feel means pretty much crap for her anyways.
That's her respect for you..-->.."her needs". When she needs it its fine, otherwise go for a walk and suck it up.
My approach in these case its use the "backup" and wait as long as it takes if you still interested. Open the next option .... and work on it.
Isn't the case here? Why when its about any other planning of any types its about the backup plan? When you apply for a College or a University you just go for one single place?.....
You never know she may do the same thing in the "background" and just let you know one day....."I am sorry"...or maybe she is just waiting for the "right one"....no mater if you are called her "man".
 sanddallor
Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 162
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:57:43 PM
Waisting your time? If this is how you feel about this girl, then you really aren't treating her any different than her former boyfriend.

She is your girlfriend, not your wife and as such you don't have a rightful expectation to sex with her, neither does the fact that she isn't a virgin. Even your notion that you only want to pleasure her is imposing your will on her.

If you really like this girl, then be flattered that she calls you her boyfriend and be grateful for the imtamacy that she does give you. If you can't wait for more, than move on and don't jade her anymore than she already is.
 Zephyr2553
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 165
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:41:27 PM
You fricking moron. Leave her alone. It is obvious that the only thing you spend time with her for is to get in her pants.

She deserves better than you. Go use your hand if that's all you are looking for from her. Sex is just that, sex. She considers herself more than that. Hey, I hear fertility clinics provide magazines....why don't you go there and spread some seed?

Go buy some sexy magazines and choke the chicken...

She is a person with self value. Consider someone besides the little head in your pants. What does she like? Who is she? Does she like chicken or beef? What kind of movies does she enjoy? Is she a Cancer or a Sagitarius? What are her spiritual beliefs?

If its nooky you're looking for, go find an easy chick and I wish you the best of VD.
 lissylue
Joined: 7/13/2010
Msg: 175
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/5/2011 8:19:50 PM
Coming from a girls perspective...
If the girl is with you, and calls you hers and you truly care about her, you will wait. There has to be some proven boundaries shown. This is one of her boundaries right now. It will loosen up. She just doesn't want to get hurt again which is understandable. You can get sex from any two cent hooker, but a girl that's worth it, might just be laying some foundation for your relationship to stand up on. Girls' get horny, just like guys, I'm sure there have been days where she wants to rip your clothes off, but she is showing self control. I know you are as well, and it's okay to be a little antsy, but the choice is ultimately up to you.

Just a few suggestions.
Be intimate with her in other ways, kiss her, give her back rubs, rub her feet, there are other ways to be intimate without going down her pants.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 177
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/6/2011 1:33:19 PM
People in there early to mid 20's acting like preteens make me sick
honestly your generation urrrrg!!!!!
 coznviny
Joined: 3/19/2011
Msg: 178
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/6/2011 9:22:12 PM
Could be many reasons but i think she is telling the truth, i understand the feeling though im a guy too LOL

Keep communicating with her an tell her how you really care about her.
Just give it a little more time, maybe another month and if nothing explain that you need to make love or it wont work & that you're going crazy and you're faithful to her only.

Good luck Chief
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 182
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/8/2011 4:07:22 PM
Have you made sure she doesnt have an adams apple?


That might explain it


 ravenhair4u
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 183
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/8/2011 4:08:54 PM
She said she isn't comfortble & has only 1 other partner, why do you continue to pressure her? You have only been exclusive for 1 month! I wouldn't let a guy down there either if I was only exclusive for a month, it takes time to get to know someone, & to feel comfortable with them. Leave her alone & back off already, give her time to feel comfortable. Go play w/yourself & stop being so obsessed w/sex.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 185
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/8/2011 9:49:45 PM
Well, obviously she doesn’t like it. Why is it so important to you to finger her? Can’t you spend your time on getting to know her and on the things she actually likes, instead of being so damned persistent about stuff you do to her that she dislikes? Unbelievable, are you that dense?
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 187
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/9/2011 3:04:41 AM
One of the things that always fascinates me with this type of topic is that where its a woman that is the one not interested in sex, or holding out it tends to be majoritively the view that the man should respect her wishes. wait etc etc and this will often also be reflected within relationships and marriages too as though in some way a womans sexual wants or "not wants" should for some reason be more than 50% of the equation and should therefore be the ones that are more important and the ones to dictate what should or shouldnt happen

Not necessarily saying anything specific there other than what I've observed time and time again not just with threads on places like this but also with real world discussions

But it does scream of both indoctrinated double standards, social stereotypes and inequality as though where sex is concerned what the female in the equation wants or doesnt want is for somereason more "right" and whether the man wants more or less sex he should be the one to "consider" what the woman wants far more than the reverse or some kind of equal stance where a compromise is sought

As the woman isnt that much past being a teenager then when being dated by another not long out of teenager status this scared, unsure almost adolescant form of stuff is I guess a bit more understandable to some extent but in an actual bonafide "grown up" I'd have already put this one into the "too many issues and hang ups" pile and moved on tbh

And I reckon that if this is what shes like now and this relationship goes anywhere youre likely to find yourself having another "dry spell" whenever you wont buy her the new kitchen, sofa, carpets, holiday or dress she wants even if your reason is because you just cant afford it personally
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 191
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/9/2011 8:39:10 PM
this is easy OP...

get a new GF>
 Saturn111
Joined: 1/19/2011
Msg: 192
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/10/2011 5:57:53 PM
Obviously she is not into sex that much. Let's face it, if your horny things happen. Your wasting your time! Time to find a girl who is on the same page as you sexually or you will be frustrated for a very long time. Good luck.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 200
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 8:27:50 PM
I agree with FreeFalling1231 and the others.

If you are not compatible now, more than likely you will not be in the future. There is a slim chance you can work on this, but it will require time. If you think your time is more valuable move on.
 ryobi2800
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 201
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 8:33:32 PM
then this is the girl for you. be patient with her,if u like her then everything u guys do will be a first for her. id hang in there if i were u
 Friendly widow
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 202
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/11/2011 9:40:30 PM
that sounds like rape to me.
if it works so well why are you here...
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 203
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/12/2011 8:15:48 PM
This threads from 2008 wonder how it turned out...
 unspoiled
Joined: 9/25/2011
Msg: 205
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Posted: 10/13/2011 9:10:32 PM
This is where maturity (or low sex drive) really helps. Being antsy in wanting something so badly puts you at a big disadvantage and I really know how it feels like. The woman controls much of what will or will not happen. You have to be willing to let her control that, albeit with some nudging but if she is not succumbing, you have to back off.

There could be some unfairness between how SOME women will allow themselves to give in to bad guys and to give less to a guy she thinks is a keeper, at least in the beginning (I know to men sounds so illogical and while in it , it can drive you nuts). What is not fully recognized by younger men is that capturing a woman's heart is a greater accomplishment than having sex.

I think if you could just ask her this, perhaps your decision to hang around could be made better: "Are you contemplating making this a long-term relationship, and if so would you help me out a little, even if you just lend a helping hand?"

Perhaps a woman could amend some of what I said above.
 brownie360
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 206
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Posted: 10/23/2011 3:27:13 PM
Exactly...guys always btchng about not having a good woman yet whenever they get one, they waste no time screwing it all up...
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 210
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/24/2011 1:52:26 PM
Hey, it isn't 1894 anymore and she isn't 17 or 18. In todays society, In a healthy relationship, it is perfectly normal for a mid twenties woman to want to be sexually involved with a guy she has been serious about for 4 months!

This woman has issues. do you really think a wedding ceremony is going to flip some kind of switch and turn on her sex drive? Send her down the road where she can find some guy with sex issues, who is satisfied with sex 4 or 6 times a year! Then they both can live happily ever after! And you can find a woman who matches your sex drive. win/win !
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 211
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My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/24/2011 1:58:49 PM

This threads from 2008 wonder how it turned out...


He's a Priest now, and she runs a brothel in Louisiana.
 BigEddd
Joined: 9/9/2011
Msg: 212
My gf won't even let me touch her down there
Posted: 10/25/2011 8:50:26 PM
You should just get her drunk all the time lol jk
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