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 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 98
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?Page 9 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
Even if the OP wrote this thread as tongue and cheek and didn't expect serious answers, the subject has elicited them. Why? Because to many people the subject “is” serious, since it goes to the core of what many think is wrong with this society – it’s over-reliance and obsession with surface looks and, by extension, status and materialism.

I can yuk up a subject as good as the next person, but something about this thread touched a nerve and I don’t mind responding to it, and I can see by what I’ve read from others it’s touched the same nerve. And we shouldn't have to apologize for it.
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 99
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:41:48 PM
I'll give a brief insight about how perceptions of "Hotness" colors one's thinking on wider issues, and not positively, either.

Here's was a brief exchange I just had with a woman that apparently had a different take on my profile (btw, she initiated things, not me; her email came out of the blue):


Her: i agree with most.. a serious player, a freak or you suck in bed... one of the 3 im sure

Me: Oh really....what's your excuse for being single, Princess?

Her: Men, men and men!!!

Me: I see....guess you better turn gay then.

I could say the same about your gender...I can’t begin to count how many shallow, vacuous, superficial women I run across that say all the proper things about what they’re looking for, but rush instead to the selfish, egotistical, shallow GQ guys out here.

You obviously think I’m that type of guy, even though my profile says otherwise. But you didn’t read that far or apparently didn’t comprehend just what I was getting at, did you, and instead made a snap judgment about who you "think" I am and lumped me in with all the shark scum that burned you over and over again. I have NOTHING in common with them so don't frickin' judge me that way.

Next time date smarter, and quit going for all the pretty boy losers that love to abuse women like you.


End of transmission....username withheld to avoid incriminating the guilty.
 Indigo rose
Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 100
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/14/2008 9:00:09 PM
wasn't me. I have always found you to be one of the HAWTEST males around!!!
Yes, beauty is subjective. There’s nothing more personal or individual than what one
finds attractive. No two people will ever agree fully on what’s beautiful.
I know I am pretty ...what? I deal with it!
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 103
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:45:17 AM

What I do know about myself, and don't mind sharing with you, is that I don't mind finding myself in situation


A most beautiful and honest statement as you are open to share with us in

what is real and good. Your have a gift. ~smile~


and what other people think about me ~ him ~ them ... let them think and wag their tongues, c'est la vie.


To find a open heart is a treasure indeed...
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 104
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 8:31:23 AM
As it’s already been brought up many times in here – “Hotness” means much more than the physical or superficial package.

You could have an accident and be badly disfigured tomorrow? You could base your appeal on income, ambition, and how many expensive “things” you’ve accumulated in life, but can lose your job, have your business fail, or be wiped out by bad investments in a heartbeat?

You better have much more going for you, deep down in your core, to weather such catastrophes and still emerge whole. This inner strength is not based on looks, money, or blind ambition, but your character, values, compassion, and humility.

Most people SAY they have those things, but until you’re actually confronted with supreme tests it’s all lip service.
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 105
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:08:25 AM
I'll put even simpler -- The minute you start actually "believing" in all the adulation, attention, and worship of your "hotness", you're done.

True humility is not measured in words, but actions.

I HATE blowhards or false modesty. I have radar for such things and can spot people that really buy into their own hype a mile away, and I don't care how hot they are (or they "think" they are). I avoid them like the plague.
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 106
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:46:48 AM
^^^ Beg to differ. It's not "all" about confidence. The most arrogant a-holes I know have a lot of "confidence" going for them, but also suffer a complete lack of humility and sensitivity. Because of all the attention they get, they think they're the center of attention (they "buy into" their own headlines, their own hype) and have a disregard for anything or anyone that isn't part of their own, special, selfish universe.

Confidence without commensurate humility, maturity, and grounding means nothing.

 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 107
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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/21/2008 11:36:34 AM
In my best Fat **stard voice, "I'm just down right sexy" .....LOL, seriously though, the word "hot" will never be used to describe me unless they're referring to me after I have just finished running after the ice cream man in the summer.
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 110
Hot is an Inside Job - NOT about the Surface Illusion. Pot's gone too .. coffee pot!! sheesh .. ;)
Posted: 12/23/2008 1:33:25 PM
OK, after 8 pages, have we finally figured out who's Hot?

All I know is all the wimmens in this thread are Smokin' Hot.....I need to do some road trips.

Hope everybody in the colder climes is keeping warm.
 dickwaad
Joined: 12/15/2008
Msg: 112
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 12/24/2008 5:49:42 PM
[Does it really matter if someone else thinks your hot?
What if you don't believe it?
What if You think You're hot, but no one else seems to?
Is it "cool" to know you're "hot" or is that "hot" too?? ]

WHAT?! lol
it's fine if she doesn't think so as long as she lets me think so cuz if i think so then she doesn't really need to think so, as long as she's not too down on her-self, cuz then it's like; i don't think so!
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 115
Hot is an Inside Job - NOT about the Surface Illusion. Door prizes are all gone. :devil: ..
Posted: 12/25/2008 12:42:45 PM
Happy Holidays to all. Oh, and don't eat too much (I already did )

Mo
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 116
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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 1/17/2009 1:21:52 PM
I am usually hot when the temperature inside me is that much greater than that on the outside........

OT........There are many that know that they are decent looking and able to attract others that think they are as well........but........knowing it, and acting accordingly, are two very different issues.

There are some that think they are much more than they are, and work very hard at building themselves up on the put down of those around them. There are others that know they are decent looking, but prefer to let their personality and style lead the cause, not their looks, and then there are those that will work very hard to fit in, no matter the situation, and prefer actions to be their guide, not just their looks.

A good looking car with no engine will get you as far as only those that pass you by, while a good looking car with a well tuned engine, will get you much much further along........and........the real key, is who, and what is driving that vehicle in the first place.........

Just my opinion.......
 snowstorm22
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 118
He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot?
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:01:58 PM
hot is a word invented by high schoolers.
shouldn't be used by adults
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