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 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 4
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Munkeechi & Printer..............get with it and make the most of what you have with those who are with you now. We all know that life is what gets in the way of our plans, but dont forget to celebrate what you have in front of you, as things could be a lot worse. I'm sure that everyone has something that can bring them down, but Christmas is in your heart and soul first and its only a gift if you share that with those closest to you. Put up your trees, gather your troops or family and go for a drive to look at lighting displays. Then stop for a coffee or hot chocolate and talk amongst yourselves about what Christmas in the past was the best one in each of your minds and share your memories. Sickness, death and tragedy is all part of life but you dont stop living because of it. Savor and enjoy each moment with those you have around you now, as we never know when our time will be up. Its better to enjoy a holiday as best you can, than have regrets because you failed to celebrate.
Happy Holidays

 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/10/2008 9:31:22 PM
Printer, I agree that people need an opportunity to heal, unfortunately we can't stop the calendar from moving forward and we can either find a reason to go on, or we can become consumed by some bad event. We are unable to change what has happened in our life, but we can control how we deal with it.

I would prefer to remember the good things or do someting that brought me joy or someone who is no longer with us, than be miserable because they are not here. My mom passed away in 2005 and that Xmas was very difficult for my daughter and me. We decided to do something totally different than our usual Xmas traditions of a family dinner. We went to Florida and instead of the traditional xmas dinner that we were both dreading that year, we decided to attend a performance of the Medeival Dinner Theatre. We watched the show of men on horses jousting and other old world games. Our dinner was served in the old world style on pewter dishes and without utensels, so we ate with our hands, as they did long ago. We spent a lot of time talking and remembering about what my mom and her grandmother would have thought of spending xmas doing what we were doing and how my mom would have liked Florida as she had never been there. We had an opportunity to talke about my mom/her grandmother and what she liked the best about Xmas and we shared our favorite Xmas memories. As sad as it was to not have my mom there, my daughter and I found a way to include her in a different way and not feel guilty about enjoying the holidays.

My comments were not meant to be condecending, only to offer suggestions to do the best you can/could with what is available to you.

Munkeechi, the suggestion of enjoying the xmas lights was to offer a suggestion to think about something your dad would enjoy about the holidays and doing it and making sure he enjoys the holidays as much as he can. I would have enjoyed one more xmas with either of my parents before they passed away, even if it would mean spending part of an evening doing something they enjoyed, just for a little more time with them. As its all about the company more than the activity. I am sorry to hear that your dad is not well and I offer my prayers for him and your family. I think its important to just try and enjoy the season as much as you can, as being together and trimming the tree with your dad as supervisor would create some lovely family memories as you either sing carols or joke about the silly things people do when trimming a tree.
 SmartAlec
Joined: 2/8/2005
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/11/2008 5:02:00 PM
Unfortunately Christmas holidays are a difficult time for lots of folks. Poor health can sure put a damper on things like celebrations. Hoping that the next year will be kinder to those that are having a tough time this year.
 Belle Requin
Joined: 2/17/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/4/2009 12:52:09 PM
This is my FAVOURITE time of year. I've been listening to Christmas carols since Nov 12. Tree is up, as are 5 strands of garland (over hall closet doors, over patio door, over bedroom closet doors, over kitchen opening to dining room, and over bathroom mirror) and decorations hanging from chandelier...

I admit I got my mother tickets to Charlie Pride's concert in may (She has all his records, but is the dude going to still be alive in May?), and am renewing her pool and gym memberships, Dad gets his gym membership renewed and some shirts (and likely the other ticket to Charlie Pride- but that's up to mom), brother... well, to be determined. My friends are all either getting homemade jewelry, homemade liquors (uh yeah, guys seem to like cotton candy flavoured vodka...) or home made baking. I absolutely LOVE gift giving season. It's not about money spent as far as I'm concerned, its about the thought that goes into finding a gift the recipient will truly appreciate.

The only thing about the holidays I find stressful is trying to see everybody. With Christmas parties and helping out with my church's Christmas production, as well as my volunteer work, it's hard to find time to have people over for dinner.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/14/2009 12:34:24 PM
NO SCROOGE HERE!

I love the holidays. I make it a special point to go throught my phone list and call people I have not spoken to recently, and do the same with my email list.

The holidays are what you make them. Too many people are caught up in melting the numbers off their credit cards by believing in the commercialism of the season.

To me the holidays are about appreciation. I appreciate the birth of Jesus and everyone that has touched my life.

I revel in being able to be with or in contact those who are family and friends.

I enjoy the simple things in life, a decorated christmas tree, because its beauty brings joy to all who look at, even if there are no presents under it.

I enjoy receiving and giving gifts that are things we each find special and usually forget to buy for ourselves. When my grandfather was alive and living in Deer Lodge Hosptial, long before it was the nursing home it is now, he looked forward to my container of home baked cookies and packages of humbug candies, and some xmas candies not avilable all year.

I have given a card with a home made coupon in it, to a friend who enjoys my cooking who is not a great cook, or has had the time to learn. I gave a coupon for her to come to my home for a home cooked meal, and she got to take home the leftovers. I was told this was better than any store bought gift.

My friends and I share time together instead of buying some dumb-a$$ gift for one another. Lets face it, we can all go and buy any beauty product we need, clothes we need, a bag of junk at the dollar stores, or some ornament/gift that we have no room for. I get together with my friends anywhere from November to February and we meet at a restaurant where everyone buys their own meals, the only catch is that it must be an evening or afternoon that we have a clear schedule and can spend the time together without having to keep an eye on the clock for another appointment. Its amazing how caught up you can get in 2 - 4 hours.

Time is the best gift you can give.......shovel a neighbours driveway, cook, do a little task for someone, and share yourself. I never realized how important these little gifts of kindness are, till I did some mending for a lady who could no longer thread a needle and do mending for herself. I made it a regular thing to spend a few hours at her house over coffee, telling her I felt like doing some hand sewing and asked if she had anything for me to do, cause I had fidgety hands.

One year, I gave out knitted slippers to many if not all of my friends, as I had used my idle time nursing a broken leg, to knit slippers for our church's craft sale, and then found out the church was not having a craft sale that year - go figure. I had boxes of ready made slippers. After a friend showing his slippers and his kids slippers to a friend of his, this friend asked if I would sell some to her and her daughter, as she relaly liked them. Sell.........no way, gave and was quite happy to do so. Simple, random act of kindness for people living in a home with cold floors.

I don't mourn the holidays thinking of people I have lost, but remember them with others and talk about traditions, holiday quirks and how much fun life is when you are surrounded by family, friends and can extend love to those around you.

Merry Xmas everyone...........................enjoy the season. Its not about the money.
 CuriousDav56
Joined: 3/16/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2009 2:21:04 PM
this year I gave them a couple hundred pairs of gloves, 50 toques and 150 pairs of socks.


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