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 J_in_SD*
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 61
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
It's not only sex. People are clueless about a lot of other things.
 EvilLolli
Joined: 12/7/2008
Msg: 62
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How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 1/21/2009 12:40:14 AM
Well damn, after reading this I guess I was a lucky girl. I had open honest people I could ask questions, even encouraged me to ask questions. I was allowed access to good reference materials and sources for information. I didn't have to rely on my peers for information.

I just am kind of amazed that in an age where information is so easy to come by that so many people are still asking their peers for information. Maybe if more schools and parents realized that having more information, instead of less, lowered the transmission of STD's and pregnancy, more people would be for it. Just a guess.
 pinkchocolate_2
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 63
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:31:45 AM
Ok, for all your fun sexual needs and answers look up www.sexinfo101.com I was once clueless...and this totally helped...shocked me beyond all reason but helped. Good luck. Just remeber, sex is fun and its awesome learning about the other person through it...enjoy and dont be too serious and `get`er done`
 yew4ic
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 64
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:44:04 AM
Pink[[["What's the G-Spot, where is it, does it exist?" Sorry but I dont feel this is basic. Certainly not where it is and does it exist. Hell does it exist is still debated today through studies on if every woman has a G-spot in the sexual sense or not.]]]


Ok, confession and too much info time-----I shouldn't be putting this, where profiler readers will see it. But I haven't a clue if I have one, or where the hell it is.

 serendepedy
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 65
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:53:18 AM
Well this dating site is 18 plus.... I dont know about you, but at 18 I was likely thinking the same questions..... So your answer these questions are coming from what the government considers adults but at 18 they are just starting to be invlolved romantically and have questions... You should be a role model for such younger ages, and answer. As for when we failed as a society to teach our youth about soceity... Well you just did! It is not up to our educational system to waste there time teaching our children about sex! Sex in most places is still seen as something you keep to yourself, and dont talk about, therefor these embarressing question that a youth can not ask an adult they know come here online and do it.. Is there something wrong with this? They have to learn some how like you say right?Grade 4 was when I leanred about reproduction and all that jazz. It scared me, grossed me out! I as a child was not ready to see ANY of that! Teaching such young children about sex, I am sorry but out of that class of 32 students I am the only one that was not pregnant by the age of 22.... Putting that topic into our school systme implied, that they are ready to learn this, and ready to start doing it, if they werent why are these adults around us teaching us this... IMO but then again by grade 6 I slowly started to see little girls get pregnant..... And society is doing enough on their part with all that crap on TV and on movies, trying to inform child no, this is only how it is done on tv.
 jovah
Joined: 6/2/2009
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How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:55:35 AM
It's because when we are little we are taught that sex should only be between two loving adults. Don't take this the wrong way. I believe in love, but as hard as it is to find someone that loves you as you love them. It's no wonder we feel that sex is dirty if we have a hard time finding love. It's drilled into our heads, so we don't learn about the dirty details until later in life when we have found "the one". Then it's too late. We've wasted so much time worrying about what someone might think about the fact that we had sex, just to have sex, that we've not educated ourselves with what we need to know. I know some people think that they really don't care what others think, but we all do. The sooner that we accept that we all like sex and that we all want to have more of it, the sooner we will stop worrying about what Joe, Henry, and Nancy think about the fact that we're the ones getting laid and they aren't. It's on us to learn the things we feel the need to know based on our orientation and preferences.

 Flaman49
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 67
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:28:57 PM

posted by Yew4ic
Ok, confession and too much info time-----I shouldn't be putting this, where profiler readers will see it. But I haven't a clue if I have one, or where the hell it is.


Every female mammale has a g-spot. It's proper biological name is the Skenes or Paraurethral gland. It is the homologous equivilent organ to the male Prostate gland, and it's located in the wall between the urethra and the vagina. It swells when the female is sexually aroused because it's filling up with fluid. Some research suggests that the swelling acts as a buffer or shock absorber to protect the urethra during coitus. A damaged urethra in early human females could result in a bladder infection. Since we didnt have antibiotics 25,000 years ago, a simple infection could turn worse, and that would have resulted in a lot of female deaths. This is a defence mechanism.

In some females this Skenes gland fluid can be discharged at the moment of orgasm thru two pinhole sized openings on either side of the urethra called Skenes gland openings or ducts. That's known as female ejaculation. The4re is a small percentage of females that will not be able to ejaculate due to the fact that the skenes gland openings are no longer fully developed in all women. I suspect this is one of those "unseen" examples of evolution. If a female doesnt ejaculate this fluid during orgasm, it will simply be re-absorbed back into the body.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 68
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:42:27 PM
But I haven't a clue if I have one, or where the hell it is.


Join the club....every woman has one....stick your finger inside your vagina facing UP about an inch or two in...press upwards and RUB.Or better yet...get a man to do it for you! Or get on TOP and find it that way.Damn that thing is hard to reach sometimes.
And don't feel badly...no one TOLD Me either.I found it mistakenly when I was 33.


I shouldn't be putting this, where profiler readers will see it.


lol...THIS is an important question to KNOW the answer to and worth it!
Now at least the men who contact you might help you stimulate it knowing you've never had a G-Spot Orgasm.

The combo is best...clit and g-spot...work it girl!
You have some LOST time to make up for!

Oh....and on topic,I live in the South in the bible belt....and they teach ABSTINENCE is school here....talk about IDIODIC! This state doesn't have one of the highest teen pregnancy rates for nothin'.I talk openly with my teenagers about sex.

Someone has to teach them,because the schools sure as HELL won't.
 yew4ic
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 69
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:11:16 PM
I have always discussed sex with my kids in an open, honest way. But I am still waiting for my mother to have that talk with me.
 TOwoman1
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 70
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:16:03 PM
I am coming late to this thread and have not read all the posts thoroughly, however, I would like to add my two cents worth.

One of the programs that Public Health here offers is workshops on raising sexually healthy children. When parents come from homes where sexuality was not discussed or was discussed with disgust, there is no role model to follow. We help them look at their own upbringing in order to have some insight into their perspective on sexuality. In schools, we help teachers learn how to teach about sexuality. They also came from diverse backgrounds in terms of their attitudes and knowledge. They do not cover this very well in their courses.

It has been clearly demonstrated that abstinence based education does not work and is in fact harmful, as some posters have noted. The recent Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality has an excellent article on sex education (SIECCAN).

Adults who are clueless may not feel it's OK to learn. That's why some of these forums have been useful. It can be a reasonably anonymous way to ask what you think is a stupid question. There are no stupid questions.
 Monkey_brains
Joined: 6/25/2009
Msg: 71
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:20:39 PM

How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?

The Joy of Sex circa 1972.......almost 30 years old but meh?!....highly educational and still workable for the layman...
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 72
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:25:24 PM
Because there's still too much mis-information out there, their parents were too embarressed to talk to them about it, schools don't have enough "thorough" sex ed since the religious right only wants abstinance taught (which is ridiculous and unrealistic), and on and on. God forbid we actually talk to our teenagers about anything related to sex. Oh, the horror!

There are many reasons for the lack of sexual education among adults. There is also still the double standard. A woman who knows too much about sex or talks about it too much is still seen as "easy" while a guy who is the same, is seen as a stud who knows how to please women. There are many, many women who still don't know how to properly give themsevles orgasms, because they've gotten shaming messages about sex growing up, or just never learned anything about it from anyone.

There's also still a lot of secrecy with sex in American society, which honestly, keeps us all sicker sexually. If we can't be open and honest with each other about this issue, nothing is going to improve. Plus, (some) pornography can give the wrong message about sex, and that can twist some folk's view on what others need to be sexually satisfied. If your only education on sex is porn as a teenage boy growing up, you're going to get some wrong assumptions about sex, if no one else fills you in on the details, instead of just the act itself.

Personally, I like sex, but I also had a mother I could ask anything. So I was far more educated about it, before I even took sex ed at school. I never got a shaming message about it, and I got the proper information, which was very helpful as I got older. So, even though I was older when I finally lost my virginity, at least I was more prepared for it due to the education I did recieve. It makes a difference.
 BstKptScrt
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 73
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/13/2009 12:13:50 PM
Illiteracy and hypocrisy...Two components of willful ignorance. We live in a time where technology literally puts information at your fingertips. Yet we are awash in a sea of information while possessed of nary a drop of wisdom. To reach adulthood without a natural curiousity about sexuality is not normal and there must be factors that inhibit that aspect of development.

Hypocrisy results from acknowledgement of the fact that there is a natural biological process to sex and conception and development in all animals, yet denying the fact that this process and knowledge of same is the only reason that we are all able to post on this thread, i.e. we were born. If my mother hadn't been a health practitioner, I shudder to think how I would have learned about sex. Probably in the streets as some of my peers did with predictably disastrous and statistically accurate results...

I'm bothered that the U.S. is supposed to be a world leader in so many ways and yet we struggle under the oppresion of religion when it comes to subjects the church deems taboo. The notion that if there's no moral crisis then the churches would cease to hold sway over the populace means that they must allow this trend to continue or they will perish. Yes, I know repression occurs in other cultures, but I am a citizen of the U.S and that is where I want things to change for the better for all of us.

Namaste...
 GGSN
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 74
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/13/2009 12:28:02 PM
It's what happens when you have a sexually repressed society that doesn't discuss or properly educate about sexuality.

Thank you local conservative. Might find them busy banging hookers.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 75
How come so many people seem to be clueless about sex?
Posted: 8/13/2009 1:38:18 PM
Ummm. Scant experience, maybe?
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