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 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 19
Comic Book GeekPage 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
well, I think that balance is the key and given the nature of your "obsession" I personally think as a man, that you are going to have a lot of trouble, in the dating world, until you shed some of that baby fat...I mean that, metaphorically...



oh right and your success with women has been nothing but steller.


. Some women don't like geeks, they prefer the type of guy who sits around swilling beer, watching TV, and cheating.


but anyways enough of the stereotyping it's getting old fast

being a geek....with great power comes great responsibility...



Women, like men...Not little boys


for the most part this is true...but I'm sure out there some where there is a female comic geek waiting to be found and cherished by the OP.
 thatnickguy
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 20
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/23/2008 9:51:58 AM
Further, I happen to know for a fact that my boyish charm is one of the qualities that many women I've dated have called my best quality. I'd much rather stay young at heart than become a stereotypical "man". I'm curious to see what your definition of a "man" is supposed to be.
 madamoisele1
Joined: 10/12/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/23/2008 10:02:28 AM
OP, you are destined to die alone and childless because of your love of comic books.

JUST KIDDING! :)

Seriously - are you trolling for a girl? Because you know as well as I do there are women out there who love that stuff.

Love your smile, by the way. :)
 Further
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 22
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/23/2008 4:27:37 PM
Well, it seems to you people that i have a poor understanding of the word "geek" however, Websters dictionary, describes it like this:

•The word geek is a slang term, noting individuals as "a peculiar or otherwise odd person, especially one who is perceived to be "overly obsessed" and also,
•A person who, Normally wears a tanktop, thick rimmed glasses and a bow-tie,
and isn't a ladies man.

LOLOL!!!! well guys, how do expect me to interpret this???

Just a s I said, overly obsessed and geeky to look at...It just seems strange to me and I am entitled to my opinions, that a grown man seems to have a need to dress up as Super Man...Geeezus...Okay guys, I come from the mean streets in a big city,
I guess it is my "conditioning" that has led me to have a poor understanding, towards you "geeks"...that word in my world, is used in a derogative sense all the time.
I constantly here women, go oh so and so is a complete "geek" and I wouldn't' go near him...I have honestly heard that many times...So, what is truly a geek???
Enlighten me please...and don't go on and on, that I haven't had women in my day.
I assure you, I have had a lot of women in my day, probably a heck of lot more than you lot and They all tell me that how much they appreciate my masculine, "strong" traits...that is my definition of man, one who can take charge and can balance his interests and doesn't become obsessed with them and especially doesn't go running around in children's costumes, behaving like a little boy...
.I think G W Bush is a COMPLETE GEEK....So, I apologize, it appears that some women, like Geeks...wow, ya learn something everyday!...

Again, tell me what is a true "geek" it seems to be an ambiguous term...
and subject to many definitions...

Again, what is a true Geek to you guys???...i am confused and explain it to me and I will re-tract my previous posting, if you can clarify it for me that is,
fair enough?...

ps didn't mean to sound so harsh, in the previos post, it is obvious i hit a nerve and that wan't my intent...




 thatnickguy
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 23
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/23/2008 5:32:29 PM
Wow, for someone that doesn't want to hit a nerve in your previous post, it feels like you're trying harder in this new one.

A few notes:
-I don't use the term "geek" in the classic dictionary sense. My definition of it is someone who gets great enjoyment out of a particular hobby. This can also include anything from a baseball geek to a Star Wars geek, a cooking geek, a yoga geek, etc. Someone that enjoys discovering new terms from a dictionary could be considered a "word nerd", which a girl I dated briefly called herself.

-I don't dress up as Superman. I wear the shirt. I would define dressing up as putting on a cape, tights, etc. I rarely, if ever, go out in public with both the shirt and the belt buckle on (except for last night, to a wrestling event, for fun).

-Who's to say that I DON'T have a balance or that I don't have whatever your idea of masculine qualities? Does hitting the gym and benching nearly 200 lbs count? Or having chivalry, holding the door for people walking into a building? As I asked before, what defines a guy as a "man". Does reading comic books make me a bad person in any way?

I look at it like this: way back in High School, when I was starting to collect, my father complained that I was wasting my money on those things. My response? "Would you prefer I drink, smoke and do drugs?" That, to me, is worse than comics because you're doing considerably damage to your body (drinking, maybe not, in moderation).
 PardonMeMiss
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 24
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/24/2008 2:27:28 PM
They're not cartoons, they're graphic novels! lol
 Further
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 25
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/26/2008 1:11:04 PM
Okay OP...I will meet you on what you said, now that you put it that way.
I am a music "geek"...lol...that is my passion and hobby...Don't take anyone's postings so seriously, again i just responded quickly with out really giving it a lot of thought.
and I apologize if i offended you...I personally don't think "geek" is a good word to tag ones self with. Given what you have shared with me, I don't see how that makes you a "geek"...Comics are cool...Many of them have brilliant satire in them. I just thought the word geek is something that is used in a negative sense...and i see in certain circumstances it isn't, if yu had said that you had many interests besides the comic books then that certainly would have changed my mind towards your original posting..So thanks for, letting me know this... I did learn something and i like to learn...

 Further
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 26
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/26/2008 1:45:39 PM
ps..OP I looked at your inerests on your profile and you like Jazz...So, in my books you are no geek!!...lol....

 geekybroad
Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 27
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/28/2008 11:24:34 AM
As long as you can recognize the point when someone's eyes are glazing over, then you're ok. This is pretty much true for any subject, though.

I had a co-worker who shared a geeky interest with me, but I couldn't stand talking to him about it at all because he never shut up. Didn't recognize non-verbal signs of boredom. Didn't let other person offer their opinion or interject. Didn't understand verbal directness (i.e. "I've got to get back to work"). Still would go on about it when you had your back turned, walking away from him, and you were out the door. Of course, since we were the only two people in the office with this interest, he was pretty insistent on talking about it...
 Evosworld
Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 12/28/2008 7:45:08 PM
I think it's good for people to have different interests. I would support anybody elses interests as long as it wasn't an obsession that completely took over their life. Equally, I would not stand for someone telling me not to do something I loved if that was something I was passionate about. Also, I would not try to get someone interested in something I liked if I could see they had no desire to get involved at any level. In fact, with some things I'd rather keep them separate especially if I use that as a way to relax or let off steam. Nothing wrong with anything you enjoy as long as it has a balance in your life and not something that turns you into a bore. For instance Football bores me to tears yet 90% of the population love it. Bored bored bored.

lol
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 29
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/28/2008 9:04:39 PM
As long as you can recognize the point when someone's eyes are glazing over, then you're ok. This is pretty much true for any subject, though.

I had a co-worker who shared a geeky interest with me, but I couldn't stand talking to him about it at all because he never shut up. Didn't recognize non-verbal signs of boredom.


I'm very much the same way.

I have quite a few geeky interests, but I don't enjoy obsessing over them. I'd bore myself. Unfortunately, few with geeky interests know how to moderate themselves.

I can tell you how video cards and video games work, but I'd rather not. I've seen most of the FOX cartoons. I used to be into anime.
I happen to enjoy watching Stargate.
Even though table-top gaming has never been my thing, I sort of get it.
But, if I try to find people of similar interests, all I can find are nerds who won't shut up! sigh.
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 30
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/29/2008 5:52:10 PM
OMG, where have you been all my life???? Marry me???

Comic books rule, period. It's a shame there aren't more girls into it. More are getting into them, but it's taken a couple of decades for us to catch up with the boys.

I don't mind trying something new even if I'm not that interested in it, but I'm dating someone who digs it. I don't want to have to do it ALL the time mind you, if I'm not into it, but a little sacrifice every once in a while is no big deal.
 foxyari
Joined: 11/15/2008
Msg: 31
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:26:30 PM
Are you kidding me!!

I think it's ok for people to have different interests but it's not ok for them to belittle yours!!

This is funny because as I was reading your post I thought of all the times I've dressed up as WonderWoman or Catwoman or Princess Leah to go see movies or for Halloween. I've never gone to conventions but boy, would I love to!!! Just the other day I saw the preview for the upcoming movie "Wolverine, The Origins" and I tell you, I was screaming as I realized Gambit is coming out in it!!! I was always disappointed that X-men excluded Gambit from their movies!!

Anyways, as you can see, there are some of us girls that will be more than happy to share you comic-book world with you!!!

Good luck,

Foxy
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 32
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 7/17/2011 1:58:21 PM
If she has a penchant for 19th century Russian Literature, 18th century Brit Lit, and a good dose of Transcendentalism - I would forgive the fact that she doesnt speak Russian......
cant have them all, at least not locally anyways.

If you love comics so much, you should try drawing your own. I have a friend taht started his own publishing house in NY; all from the drawings he used to do in Jr High when he was supposed to be paying attention in class. His most famous is the Pork Choppers (ok, it has a cult following, but really great stuff)
 ndralcasid
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 33
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 7/25/2011 3:18:25 AM
The whole thing is honestly a giant gender issue.

Fact is, women, sadly, are generally not into that kind of stuff. I love my geeky hobbies, but most women don't tend to appreciate them. It makes things harder to connect with them in that sort of medium.

I would 100% be open if a women shared her interests with me, and would respect those interests.
 ndralcasid
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 34
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 7/25/2011 1:39:04 PM
^sadly, nerdy women are low supply, high demand. Its virtually impossible to find a single one
 WhitePanda
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/25/2011 2:02:00 PM
Go to conventions or travel abroad.You can meet all kinds of geeky women.
 ndralcasid
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/25/2011 2:09:28 PM
^ traveling for conventions is ridiculiously expensive (hotels, tickets, food alone..and thets not counting the convention itself). And most girls that go there go with their boyfriends
 priestessoflemons
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 37
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 7/25/2011 7:19:44 PM

Fact is, women, sadly, are generally not into that kind of stuff. I love my geeky hobbies, but most women don't tend to appreciate them. It makes things harder to connect with them in that sort of medium.


I find this to be true with online games. More men seem to play it then women. It's seem to be so much so that I am always called a he and it's also part of the rules of internet if you ever heard of that.

[url]http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hGJMaELLh3E/TcRbf-IXRqI/AAAAAAAAAlw/ZM051c4b6w8/s1600/Funny-Internet.jpg[/url]

[qoute]You don't have to have 'everything' in common.

I find this to be true and I don't think that everyone is the same even if they did have all the same interests as another. There still will always be some sort of compromise. I personally think that more in common is a plus though.


They're not cartoons, they're graphic novels! lol

+ 1
 priestessoflemons
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:57:42 PM
ohhh and I knew this guy from online who met his wife through an anime chat room. So it's possible. I also know some of my friends who like to go to borders and barnes and nobles a lot. I bet you could find a geeky girl there. One of my friends actually goes right to the anime section take the manga off the shelf and just start reading it. lol
 WhitePanda
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/25/2011 9:45:32 PM

^ traveling for conventions is ridiculiously expensive (hotels, tickets, food alone..and thets not counting the convention itself). And most girls that go there go with their boyfriends



I wasn't suggesting that he travel for conventions, but that he should just get out and travel in general. But if he does have to travel to get to a convention, there are a lot of ways to cut costs of such a trip. Hostels are generally a lot cheaper than hotels, if there is a motel near by that could also be an option. If he has friends that want to go, they can split the cost.
 ndralcasid
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 40
Comic Book Geek
Posted: 7/25/2011 9:56:12 PM


I wasn't suggesting that he travel for conventions, but that he should just get out and travel in general. But if he does have to travel to get to a convention, there are a lot of ways to cut costs of such a trip. Hostels are generally a lot cheaper than hotels, if there is a motel near by that could also be an option. If he has friends that want to go, they can split the cost.


I've been to conventions aplenty. They're going to be expensive no matter what kind of costs you cut.

Also, they're good for supporting your hobby and checking the stuff out for your own interest. They're generally a bad place to pick up girls
 WhitePanda
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/25/2011 11:10:48 PM


I've been to conventions aplenty. They're going to be expensive no matter what kind of costs you cut.

Also, they're good for supporting your hobby and checking the stuff out for your own interest. They're generally a bad place to pick up girls


I've been working in the travel and tourism industry for almost 2 decades. Maybe we have different definitions of expensive, but I don't see how this would be much different than people who spend money on concerts or festivals.

The only cost you could not reduce(unless you know someone) would be the entrance ticket. You can stay at a truck stop for free or join couch surfing also free. Public transportation is not expensive either. If you are creative and determined, you can cut a lot of costs.
 frenchfry929
Joined: 4/22/2015
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/12/2016 4:16:43 PM
Hi, by any chance you in Michigan?
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/19/2016 8:40:53 PM
sweetness-one- Ding Ding!
Op, this reply nails it. (post #16)
What she said, x100.
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