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 smhrgs3000
Joined: 7/7/2008
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OMG, of course we can . What we lack in endurance & virility, we make up for in guile and cunning,....gless, plus years of some serious know how when it comes to touching, climax techniques, erogenous zones, romance, and foreplay. Besides, you ladies have the incredibly unfair advantage of being able to climax over, n over, n over, while we have to ration our "vintage bullets". But as we get older, we learn to use that to our advantage, dam the good luck, hehehe. And those weekend getaways to viagra falls don't hurt a bit either, hehehe.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 44
Can a Man of plus 45 hope to still woo a woo-man without the tools of his younger counterpart?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:23:37 PM
Jumbie has the right attitude.
At about 39 heading into divorce land I took a long hard look at myself.
Was getting alittle pudge. No stamina.
Figured I'd work on that and took up running.
First few weeks couldn't run 20 feet without gasping for air.
Took 6 months for me to go a mile nonstop.
And it was a slooooow none too graceful mile.
Ran at night in a park so neighbors wouldn't laugh at me.
After two years I could go three miles non-stop.
Bout killed me but I could.
Started working out also.

I can now outrun my twenty something sons.
Faster and farther. Ticks em off plenty.
LOL
I can run 3 miles like nuthin now.

We do grow old. But it's a myth that we have to go to hell.
I mean some people do get struck down by illness, arthritis, or something.
That's unavoidable and bad luck if it happens.
But if your health is good you can stay strong way off into old age.
I remember Jack LaLane doing pushups on TV in the 60's.
He was forty then. He could still drop and do a hundred well into his eighties.
Still much buffer than most as well.

If we take care of ourselves we can make those three pointers from anywhere
on the court. One handed if need be. Dunk it too.

May take a few years if you wish to get started down that road.
sounds long. But the time will pass anyway.
Make it your ally instead of time wasted.
 Jumbie564
Joined: 5/20/2008
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Can a Man of plus 45 hope to still woo a woo-man without the tools of his younger counterpart?
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:47:12 AM

I'm being selfish I know, but I want her to outlive ME!
There's nothing selfish about wanting a partner that matches your health and activity level.

A word about osteoarthritis, chronic tendinitis, achy joints, etc... These aren't symptoms of aging, they're symptoms of abuse and neglect. When muscles atrophy around joints, a greater load is applied to bones, tendons, and cartilage. Eventually these areas become damaged, resulting in pain. Pain then becomes the reason (or excuse) not to engage in exercise and the condition feeds on itself and increasingly becomes worse.

Three words: SUCK IT UP. Take a pain killer, whatever, but start exercising and building those muscles around the joints. What exactly is "chronic" tendinitis? By definition, tendinitis occurs when you tear the tendon away from the bone. So do you mean to tell me that "chronic" means I'm always tearing the tendons away from the bone? Of course not, "chronic" has come to mean continuous pain in the area. The initial pain suffered from a case of tendinitis is from the injury itself. Pain prevents us from using the joint, which is a good thing so that the tendon has a chance to heal. But after the healing period has taken place - usually in about 6 weeks - scar tissue may continue to form in the affected area and now this becomes the source of the pain. How do you prevent this scar tissue from over-forming? Exercise. How do you break down scar tissue if you let it get to the point of over-forming? Exercise. Yes, it will be painful at first. Again, SUCK IT UP.

What's the best way to alleviate osteoarthritis? DIET and EXERCISE! What's the best way to compensate for pain caused by deteriorating cartilage around joints? EXERCISE!

A couple of years ago I had an MRI done on my back after injuring it doing squats (caused by bad form on the exercise). The pain was in my lower back and by the time I got the results of the MRI a few days later the pain had greatly subsided and after 2 weeks I resumed doing squats (paying much closer attention to correct form). In any event, when I spoke with my primary care physician about the MRI results he asked me if I had an chronic pain in my back - especially the upper area between my shoulder blades. I told him no, never. He then told me that the MRI results showed moderate arthritis in my spinal area. On one hand I wish he had never said anything. On the other hand I can only attribute the lack of pain to the fact that I lift weights to strengthen my upper and lower back.

Three years ago my right knee became inflamed after participating in a road race that entailed downhill running. The orthopedic doctor examined me and asked me how long ago I had torn my ACL. News to me. I had to think back some 35 years when I severely injured my knee playing basketball. At the time I was a kid living in the Virgin Islands and there were no medical facilities to properly diagnose the injury. An MRI was ordered which confirmed the ACL tear plus significant loss of cartilage. The ortho's recommendation? Stop running downhill. Other than that, he said to continue to maintain muscle strength and even suggested I start doing dead lifts to improve hamstring development. The bottom line is, despite having no ACL and virtually no cartilage in the knee, I experience very little pain in the knee. Why? EXERCISE!

SUCK IT UP men. Pain is no excuse. Exercise increases testosterone and maintaining testosterone levels helps prevent aging. http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/19/health/19aging.html In addition, you'll find that exercise will alleviate the pain that people mistakenly attribute to the inevitable effects of aging. It's not aging, it's neglect.
 Chibob
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Posted: 1/17/2009 10:38:13 PM
Everybody just needs to aim lower. If you think your an "8", shoot for a "5" because you are probably a "6". A 45 year old guy is not going to have any success with a 35 year old woman, because a whole slew of 25 year old guys will say anything to get laid and the 35 year olds will believe them.
 BuffyfromSunnyvale
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 47
Can a Man of plus 45 hope to still woo a woo-man without the tools of his younger counterpart?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:10:25 PM
There is a really funny country song with lyrics "I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was....." All us babyboomers are getting older, but 50 seems to be the new 40. If we don't use it we will lose it. Let's all stay fit, leave the cigarettes alone, and take reasonably good care of ourselves. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but ugly goes straight to the bone-just kidding, thru that in to see if you were paying attention. There is good treatment for anyone with ED, and love and affection have brought out the best in many.
 Jumbie564
Joined: 5/20/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2009 5:49:46 AM

I think that those of us who have been fortunate enough to remain in good health, keep our bodies fit, are energetic and still active, no matter what age, usually look for someone who is likewise. Being fit and in shape, healthwise, takes work. The older we get, the more effort we put into it. We don't do all that, only to settle for someone who is not on the same page.


I wish I could come up with a more emphatic response but for now, BINGO will have to do.

I'm getting just a little tired of men and women complaining about others having unrealistic expectations about what they seek in a partner and then follow it up with some Hallmark phrases about looking past the physical in favor of peering deep into a person's soul, capacity to love, blah, blah, blah...

Listen, it's called "leagues". If you want to play in a certain league then you need to work to belong to it. Stop pointing fingers and accept that you, along with EVERYONE else, looks for certain characteristics and won't accept less for yourself. Rather than piss and moan about what others are seeking, try working on yourself if you feel you are being by-passed by people you are attracted to.

The fact is, if people spend time working on their bodies, minds, and souls, they want to be rewarded - and they should be. That reward includes finding someone who shares the same commitments.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2009 11:08:41 PM
Perhaps instead of worrying about whether or not you fit in with someone else look for those who fit in with you instead. After all, there are those who will be more to your liking and those who will be less to your liking. It is probably not so much a point of open discussion but more a point of quiet reflection and contemplation. There are those that do not mind a person who has physical problems as they recognize that they too have them or could very well get them at some point in time. There are those who will always believe that they are better than that and no matter how much you think you want them they will be too emotionally unavailable for you to obtain. There are so many variables to people in general that make us choose them or not choose them. Things such as compassion, empathy, understanding, intelligence, humor, dedication, passions, drive, motivation, and so much more that you have to weigh in when deciding what you can live with or not live with. People often see a different type of person with any of those qualities. While 0ne person might see motivation as someone determined to continue to live through grave obstacles another person might see motivation as someone who runs and works out everyday. One person might see intelligence as someone who knows when to give up and another person might see intelligence as someone with the forethought to not accept the status quo as being the only way to believe. We all see people in different manners and we all have our own preferences as to what is right for us and what is not. It is when we continue to look to those that are not what we want or what is not good for us that we continue to be disappointed.
 ohthereugo
Joined: 2/12/2008
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Can a Man of plus 45 hope to still woo a woo-man without the tools of his younger counterpart?
Posted: 1/25/2009 4:35:48 AM
Can a Man of plus 45 hope to still woo a woo-man without the tools of his younger counterpart?

Piece of piss mate .
 Peacenik 53
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Posted: 1/25/2009 11:30:25 PM
You sound extremely bitter, forallintents...hey, I'm cynical...but bitter? No way.
It is simple. I would rather be alone than select someone whom I didn't really feel comfortable with, who didn't make me feel great , who - in a couple, didn't increase our joy. Just because a man is "nice" or "thoughtful" or any of those great Boy Scout qualities we ARE looking for, doesn't make him fodder at the wave of his hands. There has to be major pluses along with chemistry.

My mother, married at 21 and still Ozzie and Harrieted with my father, told me years ago that it is particularly difficult to mate later in life because we are set in our ways~
OUR meaning each own's way of living. Meshing two people is the difficulty and crazy love doesn't guarantee a melding match up.
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