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 tennisman2388
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 76
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Slighly off topic and I'll probably get a lot of flack on this one.

I like to carry myself with an edge. However.....at least some of this was learned behavior.

I concluded a LONG time ago that nice guys usually end up with the short straw......not always but often. After being dump several times in my early dating years, and watching bad boy buddies breeze through effortlessly....well......the solution was obvious. I've talked to women extensively over the years about this very subject and they regularly reinforce my opinion, even if they don't realize it. That's because invariably when a guy is too nice, too agreeable, too shy and reticent, or too fawning or accomodating, he ends up kicked into the friend zone........due to a lack of "chemistry".

Are we bad boys better in bed? Perhaps. But maybe, just maybe that perception is created more by atitude and confidence.......rather than coming to a woman on bended knee for the privledge of lying with her, we bad boys let them know that we don't care if they "come, stay, lay or pray, that whatever happens our toes are still tappin". By the time we consumate she is on the launch pad ready to go into orbit with intrique and anticipation, plus the dynamic is established of her submitting to her alpha man......a powerful aphrodisac for many.
 Rob3444
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 77
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/30/2012 11:01:59 AM
With nice guys you always cum first.
 degodaddy32
Joined: 5/4/2012
Msg: 78
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/30/2012 11:58:56 AM
Ive dated women who before me were into the bad boys. They loved the thought they would teach me a thing or two. It ended up being me teaching them. Only to find their bad boy x boyfriends were one hit wonders. The thing with good sex is connection. Good sex doesnt come from a man being good or bad. But a good man will make sure his lady is taken care of. My favorite experience was when my X threw out her dildo. "well I dont need that anymore". lol.

But nice guys or bad boys it doesn't matter. Its the mans influence on the woman. You can get a woman so worked up prior to sex that she'll explode the moment you kiss her. Thats a treat.

I can't believe im sharing this! OMG.
 ruffgem
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 79
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/30/2012 12:52:53 PM
sounds like you are my kinda girl...............
 marie2107
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 80
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/30/2012 1:53:27 PM
I haven't spent much time thinking about it. But since you ask, I did consider and in my experience it seems that the guys that think they are the best will leave me wanting more. The most important factor in a good lover is our chemistry together and in our desire to please one another. The best lovers have been the best communicators.
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/31/2012 6:08:18 AM

Because a nice guy doesn't have that dark side, that aggressive killer instinct, whatever you want to call it, that makes him a stallion in the sack. Or maybe it does-! It's necessary to freely let loose that dark beast (if it's even in you) at times, just to show her you're interesting. Get involved with an aggressive sport or activity that shows her that you enjoy taking pleasure in the attack.


Most "nice" guys do not draw any pleasure from the attack, as we're no longer primitive cavemen that abduct and rape women.

Nice guys are faced with the facts that the evolution of humanity is so incredibly slow relative to the advancement of our technology and social improvement that as a species we are stuck in this divide between what is biologically necessary in this day and age, and what we are still programmed to desire sexually.

They do not sync up.
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 82
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 6:16:01 AM
In my experience, "nice guys" are BETTER in bed than "bad boys". The reason for this is simple: nice guys care about the woman they're with and make an effort to pleasure them, where bad boys are generally in it for themselves and don't give a hoot if the woman enjoys herself or gets off.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 83
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 6:46:07 AM
If that is the depth of the logic of some women.......I'd hate to see them at financing.
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 84
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 7:07:15 AM
Interesting how Capn thinks he knows more about MY experiences than I do.....I stated that my statement was "from my experience" and that's exactly what it is. Did I say every bad boy is bad in bed? No. I said "from my experience" good guys are better in bed because FROM MY EXPERIENCE they have been. Maybe the bad boys you've had sex with are better in bed than the good guys, Capn, but IN MY EXPERIENCE, they have not been.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 85
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 7:09:39 AM
Capn, but IN MY EXPERIENCE, they have not been.


LOL Umm...sure.
But it's not what I was referring to, I was referring to the title, and how little I think being a good or bad guy has anything to do with sexual prowess. I actually wasnt talking to you, but hey, your probably right
But hey, carry on
 bigcalm
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 86
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 3:50:17 PM

the worst lovers are those with big dycks.. they think because God gave them 9 inches, they don't have to do much else. Smaller ones work for it, lol


Hey not all 9"ers are bad lovers, some use it at full potential. ;)
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 87
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/31/2012 8:42:39 PM
A guy does not have to be nice or naughty to be good in bed. Just the chemistry between you and doing what comes naturally. Being considerate and aware of the other person. Some women are attracted the confident bad boy who knows his way around women and is a player but not all.
 Mindmeld
Joined: 8/12/2006
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Posted: 5/31/2012 9:21:21 PM

And when all else fails, cowgirl him until you're satisfied.


LOL .. true
 Mindmeld
Joined: 8/12/2006
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Posted: 5/31/2012 9:33:09 PM
Nice guys are nice guys .. but in bed most women like men to be a bit aggressive, and adventurous, with dirty minds and the courage to take her to heights she didn't know existed. .. In public they want arm candy they can be proud of . In private they like someone who is not afraid to be wild. .. Men are similar .. the mirror image. .. In public I like someone I can be proud to be with, someone who can engage my mind, and who gives me little hidden hints that she wants me. but in bed I want an adventurer. Someone who likes to play .. who loves to f**k, who can ride or be ridden and love it equally. Sex is about sharing intimately not just our bodies but our minds and our hungers, our fantasies and our smiles. Sex is about paying naked with your best friend. Great sex often goes with lots of laughter.
 sooperguy
Joined: 6/11/2010
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Posted: 6/1/2012 6:11:15 AM
I think it depends how you define "nice"...do you mean a good, respectful and confident man or a doormat ****?
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/1/2012 6:49:11 AM

There is nothing sexier than a nice guy who surprises me in the bedroom! Nice all day long, sweet to me, and then a little naughty behind closed doors ;)


SURPRISE!


I'm sleeping when you get home...


 Rexrugsnrocknroll
Joined: 4/21/2012
Msg: 92
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 6/1/2012 7:30:50 AM
the nice shy quiet guy is usually wild in bed lol
 tennisman2388
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 93
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:07:56 PM
Interesting.....few, if any female respondants will admit to being attracted to or preferring bad boys on any level.

And yet, there is a big difference between sitting at the keyboard dispassionately describing the ideal hypothetical versus that which inheriantly moves us at the moment of contact.
 sol_DYB
Joined: 6/6/2011
Msg: 94
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? [response]
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:58:33 PM
Nooooooo, with nice guys its getting us to the bed and the action.

I feel nice guys don't take charge, or lack a certain roughness... [this is general, not every "nice" guy]
 bullie62
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 95
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? [response]
Posted: 6/1/2012 2:38:29 PM
Define "nice guy"
Define "bad boy"


For ME, a nice guy is just that. Nice. Almost TOO nice. He has a milk toast way of dealing with life, has way too much estrogen in his system and couldn't turn on an inner freak, sexually, if his life depended on it.

A bad boy is someone who might have a very high powered day job, looks amazing in an expensive Italian suit, rides a Harley on weekends, and owns more than his fair share of sexual accoutrements to spice things up with his lady.


Then, there are the differences in women's taste. Some women enjoy the nice guy.... *shrugs*..... And then there are those of us who won't settle for anything except the bad boy.

Again, DEFINE them before making assumptions. Everyone is going to have a different opinion about what they both are.

So for ME, a nice guy wouldn't be able to rock my world. Once you've unleashed your inner freak, it's kinda hard to accept anything less than that.


bullie~
 Rexrugsnrocknroll
Joined: 4/21/2012
Msg: 96
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? [response]
Posted: 6/1/2012 9:43:48 PM
just because a guy is nice doesnt mean he is too nice. there is a difference between nice and too nice. A nice guy is somebody who will open the door for a lady, and is not self-fish. Too nice is when you let others use you and give them too much chances. You are stereotyping nice guys. Being nice is how you treat others. Why cant a nice guy have a high powered job, spicy sex life, drive a harley or look good in a italian suit?
 mooney49
Joined: 8/16/2010
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Posted: 6/2/2012 6:25:46 AM
can we all be that naive?? the stigma's we give each other are just that stigma's , they never reflect the true underlined issue's we all have with or own inner self sanity , it is the lust for change (when we stop learning new things) and something different in one's life that puts us here in the first place. woman love to gossip about intimate things and like men love to bragg about how pleasing there encounters are , and how many times they reached climax. to me that is the most selfesh point of view there ever was. i agree great sex is about taking each other to as many planes of pleasure you can, but that will only happen if your mindset is to explore all the things you can do in sex to please your partner. men on the other hand have alter ego's that have been passed down in our genes . we sexually peak early in life and have trouble in later years to keep up with our partners when they reach thier peaks so we tend to live more for quick fix's than learning how to improve, this some people call stamina, it puts a lot of stress on a relationship. if the relationship was driven by sex and not love it will end in divorce, if it was driven by love you will learn the "NEW SEX TERM" called "COM"munication. all you need to do to be a great lover, is to listen and feel,
learn to read the body motion. its not nice guys finnish last , its non educated guys will never get the secound date....

just my opinion.
 bullie62
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 98
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? [response]
Posted: 6/2/2012 10:54:53 AM

just because a guy is nice doesnt mean he is too nice. there is a difference between nice and too nice. A nice guy is somebody who will open the door for a lady, and is not self-fish. Too nice is when you let others use you and give them too much chances. You are stereotyping nice guys. Being nice is how you treat others. Why cant a nice guy have a high powered job, spicy sex life, drive a harley or look good in a italian suit?


A "nice guy" lacks the edge........... That is what separates the "Nice guy" from the "Bad boy". This is why I suggest that people define what THEY think is a "nice guy"/"bad boy"..... Because to everyone, it's going to be different. You are case in point.

A nice guy CAN have a high powered job, drive a Harley and look good in an Italian suit, but he's gonna lack that je ne se qua that makes women swoon.... With the bad boys, there's that sense of anticipation that he's going to take her to limits the nice guy can't or won't. Has nothing to do with opening doors.....

Again... it's a personal definition and should be addressed as such.


bullie~
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 99
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Posted: 6/2/2012 10:59:19 AM
Well, for the past 5 years, i've only been with the so called "bad guys" (not my intention to meet them either I swear), and they have all sucked pretty badly in the bedroom. Only thing 2 of them had to offer was bigger penises.

So, not all "bad guys" are good in bed, and not all of the "good guys" are bad in bed. Depends on the individual and no I do not think good guys are automatically bad in bed. My ex husband started off being a "good guy"...loved him with a passion and he was pretty frickin awesome in the bedroom.
 tennisman2388
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 100
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed? [response]
Posted: 6/4/2012 10:32:29 AM

..... And then there are those of us who won't settle for anything except the bad boy.


My kinda girl..........no accident she's also hot! That's because attractive women in particular have spent their entire lives being chased and fawned over by beseeching, vanilla men. Eventually some realize they secretly long for something else......someone dark, mysterious, dangerous, unpredictable, irreverent.......and extremely erotic and naughty........devious grin.
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