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 wolvesatthedoor
Joined: 5/8/2013
Msg: 118
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Hey, I'm a nice guy, and I'm really "BAD" in bed, muh ah ah..........
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
Msg: 119
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Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 8/12/2013 4:09:04 PM
Nice guys...bad boys...blah blah blah. You can't even get a girl, who uses this terminology and thinking, to be consistent or half-sensible in what she thinks "bad boy" or "nice guy" even means.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 120
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Posted: 8/12/2013 9:40:48 PM

What is a nice guy? A guy that treats everyone with courtesy, if not respect.

The OP's referring to not a guy you could apply the adjective "nice" to, amongst others... but a Mr Nice Guy. To some women, sure, a guy who's noticeably nice is a Mr Nice Guy, while to other women, a suck-up/let-me-win-you-over-my-darling/jump-how-high would be required to be taken as a Mr Nice Guy.

A Mr Nice Guy is one who caters to a woman. A Yes Man -- or better put, he exudes the persona that he is a Yes Man, and often times is to one degree or another. It's a turn-off to outgoing, attractive women. Since how good the bedroom experience is also depends on her attraction & view of the guy, indirectly, I guess I would say the thought of how good he was in bed wouldn't be the first thought -- but indirectly, sure, I guess as he's not a sexual turn on for her.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 121
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Posted: 8/13/2013 9:19:31 AM
A nice guy in fishes is not a good thing.
The stigma comes with all sorts of negative connotations such as
suck up, doormat, lazy, wuzzy, etc.

In real life, most people want a nice person in their life. Being nice
isn't a bad thing. Catering to someone you love (who also caters to you)
is also not a bad thing. Being respectful to everyone is not a bad thing.

Rude, obnoxious,**** people who go through life bellowing their hotness and
badness are actually (I suspect) a turn off to most everyone else. Maybe it's the
excitement of a roller coaster ride, this need to have bad in one's life, but I don't
like waiting in line and I don't want to ride a roller coaster everyday.

I'll take a "nice guy" over a "bad guy" any day. I think how good someone is in bed
is directly related to who they're in bed with, but that's just been my experience.
There isn't much about sexual prowess that can't be practiced or learned when you're
motivated.
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 8/14/2013 10:51:18 AM
The N.F.L. player Aaron Hernandez, who was charged with murder and now there are a lot of women that want to have sex with him. Manti Te'o had a fake girl friend because no woman will have him because he is nice.
 Just_Bopping_Around
Joined: 6/28/2013
Msg: 123
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Posted: 8/14/2013 11:00:26 AM

Manti Te'o had a fake girl friend because no woman will have him because he is nice.

I feel sorry for that former Notre Dame and now current San Diego Charger linebacker that just can't get a date.

Women are so hard on men. You would think a professional athlete that's in excellent shape and very fit and is making millions of dollars a year could get a date. But.........he is nice. So no woman will have him.

I really feel for the dude. *Sigh*
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 124
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Posted: 8/14/2013 11:22:57 AM

Manti Te'o had a fake girl friend because no woman will have him because he is nice


I don't think he had a fake girlfriend because no woman would have him and he is nice.

I think he had a fake girlfriend because he was stupid.

Maybe with all the money he's making now he can buy a clue and get a real girlfriend.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 8/14/2013 12:33:54 PM
Manti Teo is a perfect example of how projection can be used against you...:)
Until you meet, nothing is real.
 Just_Bopping_Around
Joined: 6/28/2013
Msg: 126
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Posted: 8/14/2013 1:11:13 PM

Lone Scottish Boy said:
Manti Teo is a perfect example of how projection can be used against you...:)
Until you meet, nothing is real.

Exactly.


Browneyesboo said:
I think he had a fake girlfriend because he was stupid.

It's easy to judge not being in his shoes. He's a very special case and not indicative of normal dating.

I would think that he had a full load with school and athletics and it was much more convenient to have a long distane relationship that he could put on the back burner at times, than having a real live girlfriend and deal with her expectations and whether she was with him for the fame, muscles or money...

And, yes in retrospect he looks exceedingly foolish. But when someone tells you what you want to hear, it becomes easy to believe it. I know that I was overly foolish and stupid in the immediate aftermath of a 10 year divorce. Fortunately, I wised up.

Lone Scottish Boy nailed it.
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 127
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Posted: 4/29/2014 1:23:57 PM
I say... "Do not take my kindness for a weakness".
 Westernguy
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 128
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Posted: 4/29/2014 3:03:12 PM
Women associate " nice " with " soft "


When it comes to sex, women hate .... HATE soft


LOL





Westernguy
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 129
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Posted: 4/30/2014 3:17:53 PM
That is just absurd. What does your public personality have to do with your bedroom personality?

All my exes are nice guys, and they were all good in bed.

I think it's the opposite, the more stuck up, the worst they are in bed, they've believed themselves a hype they cannot delivery. I once had a guy who claimed he could do miracles in a single minute: that was not a minute, it was more like 30 minutes and no miracles occurred. Just the same as I had a nice guy who just didn't really know how to bring it, size nor girth was the issue, it's just that he lacked passion behind it all.

If anything, nice guys are flexible and willing to try things, willing to please, while a$$holes can only think of themselves and tend to be selfish.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 130
Do women think nice guys are bad in bed?
Posted: 5/9/2014 5:52:13 AM
Hmmm...never had a woman complain....and I consider myself to be a nice guy....as for the bad boy thing...most are just a put on....oh I know some real ones....but most are BS....specially when it comes to backing what they say!....lol
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