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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 106
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?Page 6 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)

I react negatively. It seems a huge burden to put on another person, and I don't believe in soulmates anyway. I read it as "I want someone to complete me", which I don't think is a healthy attitude in entering an adult relationship.

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 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 107
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 10/29/2010 3:50:19 PM

An equivalent turn off for me would be a profile of a woman saying she is looking for "Knight in shining armor to come sweep her off her feet....etc, etc" oh, and she's over 40, LOL I would expect that from a 20-something woman, but someone around my age bracket?


Another idiotic statement I've seen from a few middle aged women is: "I want someone who will make me feel like I did in high school". How much expertise and life experience does a high school kid have in the relationship and love department? I feel like telling the women who say that is why don't you go back to high school if it's so fantastic?
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
Msg: 108
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 10/30/2010 6:37:22 AM
seeing this crap gives me the heebie-jeebies and raises immediate questions about the intelligence & maturity of the writer. "soulmate request" = "automatically undateable". it's just as big a deal-killer as nascar.... maybe more.
 Macgyver_Spider
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 109
My others soles mate is a slipper.
Posted: 10/30/2010 11:11:49 AM
^^^^^Does it count if you met your soulmate at a Nascar race but you weren't actually looking for a soulmate?
 ChillinChill
Joined: 10/2/2010
Msg: 110
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 10/30/2010 12:49:50 PM
My definition for the word soulmate is one who helps you see yourself in the mind of GOD.

So a soulmate could be your enemy. He could be an abuser. He could hate me. He could be cruel. He could be the one who makes you self scrutinize. The one who makes you fall to your knees and BEG God for help because you are in so much pain.

The soulmate is someone who makes you turn to God. For good or bad reasons.

Someone once described it to me.. A soulmate is someone from a previous life that comes to you in this one to teach you a lesson you did not learn in your past life. It is not necessarily a romantic relationship. It is a person that helps either unwittingly or intentionally to help you see yourself in a different light. The light of God.
This is not always an easy lesson. Sometimes the soulmate is aggitating, argrivating, hostile. The relationship is not alway long term. It may be someone you encounter in one day, but they have the missing piece of the puzzle. The answer to the question you have been praying for.

FIREMATE was the term this person used to describe what most people commonly call the soulmate. This is the person God created in the beggining of time to live with you for eternity. This is the man whose rib was chosen to create you. We all supposedly only have one Firemate, but it may take a thousand life times to meet him again.

You can have MANY soulmates. You can have hundreds, these are just people that lead you to realize who you truly are in the eye of God. They teach both lessons hard and difficult or they can ease your burden. It depends on the lesson they were sent to teach.


Do I believe in any of this???? Ha... I'll keep you guessing cause I'm still just guessing too. My last bf broke my spirit. Was he my soulmate?
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 111
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 10/30/2010 2:26:29 PM
Anyone who uttered the word souldmate to me would be filed under "creepy douchebags to avoid".
 Haven_11
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 112
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 11/6/2010 8:03:57 AM
Not really, because I understand its not exactly Soul Mate-GOD-like. I feel it means someone who really understands and "gets" you and they feel the same about you. So, I have never said that I wanted my "Soul Mate" but, I would love someone who could understand me in ways no one else ever has.

So, that being said. I am not exactly turned off by that, but since my profile does state Dating/Casual/does not want anything serious, then I have to wonder exactly what the guy who is looking for his Soul Mate would want from me or expect? Is he thinking I'm just "good enough" to meet for fun while he's looking for what he really wants? Or is he thinking how long its been since he's gotten laid and could use a little bit on the side until he finds what he really wants? LOL!!

The first part doesn't hurt my feelings and I don't feel I'm being used. But, if its the second part, then I would say that is very unflattering and I tell the guy so. Though, I can usually tell if its about sex because of how he talks only about my Profile pics and asks if Ihave more. If we are having a conversation and I talk about other things and HE once again, talks about my pics and asks if I could take more photos of myself to upload, then I just point blank say NO I will not and good luck on his search!
 1eastshore
Joined: 11/3/2010
Msg: 113
Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you?
Posted: 11/6/2010 6:17:02 PM
No. I would be still interested if they matched most of the things that I was looking for.
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