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 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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I loved every min. of my interview when this last happened to me.

It was at a 65th birthday of a friend. Most folks there were married couples.

The interview started with a women who knew me slightly acting all surprised that I was still single after 16 yrs of being a widow. I stated that I was have far to much fun to give up my independance to marriage especially with what is on offer. All the women's attention shifted to me, while the men started to smile (they knew I was almost spoofing). I regaled them with funny stories of life in datingland, and .............I swear several of the married women were a tad green with envy.
 Mike72801
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:35:57 AM
Nobody ever asks me why I am not married.

Maybe it is obvious to them. Thanks, now I have to worry about this all day long.
 Avalon96
Joined: 9/1/2006
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 4:03:39 AM
yes lots of times, sometimes in the form of ,
"Why isn't a nice guy like you settled down with somebody?"
my answers vary,

Me a nice guy?? You don't know me very well.

Could never understand why any woman would want to live with me, I don't even like living with me.

Lived alone too long, and am no longer house trained.

Can't stand criticism.

When you live alone nobody knows how crazy you really are.

I used to be married but now I am cured.

Unlike an earlier poster, I don't have to worry about anybody setting me up, people keeps their friends away. LOL
 breath~
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 29
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 5:28:35 AM
This is a great answer to give when asked "why aren't you married?"...
When you live alone nobody knows how crazy you really are.
I can just see the person with their mouth open, not knowing how to comment on that! I like it!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 8:50:10 AM
Q. Why aren't you married:

A. Because my IQ is over 150.

A. Because I served my 25 yrs and was finally PAROLLED!

A. Because I like sex.

A. Because I'm too poor for another dependent.

A. Because you can't MAKE me!

A. Because I don't like TV.

A. Because I like it light when I'm awake and dark when I'm asleep.

A. Because I'm not allergic to vegatables.

A. Because not everything has to be an argument.

A. Because some things are fun.

LOL! There...that'll get ya started; there are millions more good reasons!
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 31
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:02:46 AM
^^^I used to say that I was meant to be a mistress and would tell them to hide their husbands. It shut them up quickly.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:06:44 AM
"Been there, done that!" works for me...
 monkeywelder1
Joined: 11/3/2008
Msg: 33
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:12:16 AM
A. I like my quiet time
A. I leave the seat up
A. I leave the seat down but cant aim
A. Gas problems
A. I sleep sideways on the the bed
A. and take my half out of the middle
A. I have a decent health plan already
A.I wear bowling shoes
A. I pay half price at restaurants
A.Not enough thongs in the world
A.I get to stay up late
A.Theres nothing wrong with eating wings 4 days a week
A.I know how to wash and iron my clothes
A.I dont care if my socks dont match all the time
A.Taxes
A.Steaks
A.No scheduling conflicts
A.I like dark beer
A.I like cheese with my wine
A.Sleep problems
A.I know where my razors are
A.I like the sin part of not being married
A. lack of viable long term options
A.I want to live in France
 hondo91
Joined: 11/11/2008
Msg: 34
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 12:22:05 PM
Because I refuse to settle did it once, never again
 winernotreally
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 35
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 12:34:15 PM
A. Had one of them 'husband' thangs, don't want another one...Thanks for asking, though!

A. Why? Is your hubby (BF/SO) soon to be available?

Actually, I rarely get asked that anymore. HA!(?) Usually by folks that I just meet and barely know me. My friends have 'given up' on me, in that area. Though, one friend attempts a 'set up' about once a year...think its become a standing joke, in a way.
 RoadTrip3500
Joined: 10/28/2006
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:58:33 PM
At my 20th high school reunion, my single classmates said "Don't worry, you'll find someone... no one's in a rush now". The married classmates all said "I just adore [my spouse], and that's why I brought them with me!"

At my 25th reunion, those same married classmates came by themselves... and both the single and married classmates all said to me "You're still single? STAY THAT WAY!"

So when someone asks why I'm not married, I say "Because I've been told not to!"
 Mizz Demeanor
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 37
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 5:47:50 PM
Never having been married, I occasionally get the question
from people that don't know me well enough...
A couple of standard responses from me have been:

I haven't been that drunk....yet
Sometimes a plan does work out
Until it becomes law...I'm not doing it
I'm too young to be married

I notice that I get asked this less and less often now.
I think the ones that went through that whole marriage/divorce thing know
very well why I've remained single.

~mizz
 SmartAlec
Joined: 2/8/2005
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:56:49 PM
wdb - what a perfect answer!!
 pondmaster
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 39
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:15:58 PM
I get asked this quite a bit. My usual answer is a very simple WHY?????

A new one I've come up with is.................."I don't think I've done anything bad enough to deserve that kind of punishment" I always get a good laugh but that pretty much ends the conversation on that subject
 umeandthestars
Joined: 2/22/2006
Msg: 40
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:52:12 PM
I find jokes to be the best answer. When I'm asked if I'm married, I usually answer with the question; Why, do I look miserable? If asked why I never married, I say; Why, do I look stupid?
 Leo354
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 41
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 10:08:25 PM
LOL:

Get away from that crowd man and make some new friends.

J
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/7/2009 10:33:20 PM
Tell them "haven't found anyone who I want to be married TO".
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 43
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 4:59:06 AM
Thankfully, my parents and siblings never harp on the fact. Maybe they know me too well and understand I wouldn't put up with it.

I'm not sure if I've reached the "tipping point" of being unmarriageable, but prospects don't look good.

Mo
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 5:08:23 AM
^^Now that is the loss of some good manflesh for some gal right there I tell ya! lol

I like Miss D's "until it becomes law, I'm not doing it"!!! Have to remember that one for sure!

I don't get asked much about the married part anymore. I DO get asked about the fact thta there isn't a steady man in my life. They almost make you feel that because there isn't one, you are hiding something about your sexuality and need to come out of the closet. Gawd!
 caringwithhumor
Joined: 7/10/2007
Msg: 45
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 5:11:44 AM
This post had some great reads.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 7:31:51 AM

I DO get asked about the fact thta there isn't a steady man in my life.


Well, just ask if they like to go to the same restaurant every night of their life, or would they rather dine on different dishes once in a while....
 PcolaSteve
Joined: 12/10/2008
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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 9:20:25 AM
Love those senerios. Actually, I have never been asked why I am not married, but rather how can a 51 year old man escape marriage entirely! That is right, I never have been married and when I tell them it is none of their damn business, they assume I must be gay....which is farthest from the truth.

If I am feeling generous, I will answer the question with all truth. I tell them that I have been engaged 4 times and caught 3 of them cheating on me; the forth was a distance issue that caused it to fail. This honesty usually stops them dead in their tracks.
 ~charmed~
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 48
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 9:28:44 AM
I think the hardest question to answer is when I am out on a date and he asks me why I was never married... I think that is the most difficult... I think they are paying me a compliment by asking but how honest do I really want to be at that point? I usually smile and laugh, if they persist I tell them....

~Charmed~
 AAuroraAA
Joined: 8/18/2007
Msg: 49
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 11:27:43 AM
My friends & family never ask, but guys do. Like ~charmed~ says, I think they're making a compliment. I get asked why I haven't been snapped up already. I only want to let the right guy do any snapping around me. LoL

Quality; not quantity is the most basic answer as to why.
 kissme1973
Joined: 11/11/2008
Msg: 50
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/8/2009 11:55:03 AM
The question I get is "Why are you still single?" It's been 16 years, since you husband died. Then they generally assume I'm a one man woman and he was that one man. Not the case here. Loved him with all of me, but I'm not single because I still feel married to him. I'm single because I wanna be.

I go where I want, do what I want, with whom I want to be with. Nuf said?
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