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Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 115
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Why meet right away....Lets get to know each other first.Page 7 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
I think what the OP is trying to say, or rather what I gathered, is that, there are people out there who are psychos and like to hurt people for FUN!

I agree with this statement completely. Although I've always considered myself to be relatively intelligent and used caution when dealing with people on the internet - you just never know. About a year ago, I made friends with a man on-line from another state. We talked online and on the phone daily. We exchanged dozens of photos and became very close friends. And yes, I have discovered that you can indeed form a close emotional bond with someone before you even meet them. I even became close to some of this man's family members. Long story short - I discovered to my complete horror about 8 months after we became close friends that "he" was actually a woman. All the photos that were sent to me were fake. She had about 12 different screen names and was actually portraying her own family members on-line. In other words, when I was chatting with my friend's dad or brother on-line, I was actually talking to "her" the entire time. Pretty darn creepy, wouldn't you say? And the voice on the phone that I had talked to so many times? Sounded just like a man. Yeppers, she was very, very good and was able to dupe several women on-line, including me. So yes, Cheeky, there are some people out there who are psychos and enjoy hurting others just for fun.
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 117
Why meet right away....Lets get to know each other first.
Posted: 1/26/2009 11:40:03 AM
I think it depends on each person, wether good to meet basically right away or take some time to get to know each other. Yes, life is short but no one wants to waste their time. I think should talk and get to know someone for at least 3-7 days online or on phone before deciding to meet or not.
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 121
Why meet right away....Lets get to know each other first.
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:56:28 PM
I like to meet someone within a week or two because if not then it's just a waste of time, I don't want a pen-pal, I want a date.

My 2cents,

Joined: 3/15/2008
Msg: 125
Why meet right away....Lets get to know each other first.
Posted: 1/27/2009 8:58:57 AM
[Talking on the phone and chatting through emails is a good way to find out a lot about a person. If there is a connection I do not believe it is gonna happen within the first 15 minutes of talking on line.]

Spending too much time before a meet gives way for expectations to cloud reality... I prefer to get a feel for the person, and that usually happens quickly, and then meet. Have done it both ways and think sooner is better. Does seem to weed out those who really never intend to meet as well.

Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 126
Why meet right away....Lets get to know each other first.
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:24:56 PM
Guess I'd have to say that I'm somewhat bemused and amused by how many simply have to meet quickly to avoid letting their illusions get the better of them. . . . My own illusions are firmly under *my* thumb. They're not something that comes like a thief in the night. . . . Therefore I don't think that the peeps who ARE under the control of their own fantasies are going to any better (or necessarily) any worse by meeting quickly or not.

My personal preference is to wait longer rather than not. Partly because my living situation always makes any meeting a big deal, and partly because a lot of men will wash *themselves* out of my matrix prior to meeting, thus saving me from having to do anything about ending whatever stage we've gotten to. I've always hated being the "meanie" lol! The one guy I let push me into a very early meeting was just as big a dud as I'd expected, certainly not worth the free hoagie and the afternoon. Live. Learn.

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