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 rftv1020
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 167
What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?Page 9 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
Yes I do believe there is someone for you and everyone else in the world. But first you need some meds/counseling for the negative thoughts. Which usually occur from a chemical imbalance. Humans by nature are happy. It is not until a chemical is missing or something triggers an imbalance. My question is: if you know you have suicidal thoughts, are unhappy, why are you not taking actions to correct the issue? Especially when in many cases it can be corrected by a perscription. If you are not doing everything possible to correct your life then subconsciously you want your life to stay the same. Other people are not going to do it for you. You have to be the one that makes the choice. Everyone will suffer anxiety and depression at some point in life. just life. It is usually temporary. When depression and negative thoughts become a way of life an beyond ones control other options need to be explored.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 5/3/2014
Msg: 168
What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 9/21/2014 8:55:14 AM
I think what rftv is saying is not that there is not a REASON for becoming jaded... but what is not good is wallowing in it.

Mindset is literally a choice. Pretending NOT to think things is delusion; it doesn't work. When a person is hurt, angry or unhappy, those feelings need to be owned. But they don't need to be swum in, surrounded with, fed, nurtured and self fulfilled prophecied.

When dealing with those things, doing things that are positive producing (music, dancing, hiking in nature;) things that fulfil and nurture the soul. It wont do awaya with the pain, but it will put it in perspective.

When a person knows that they can hurt AND have joy, when a person knows that they can have friends even though one significant other let them down, when a person knows that there IS hope and that everyone out there is not a user, cheater, game player or parasite, but there are a TON of other people out there who have gone through exactly the same things, it shifts something in the brain and the jadedness turns to cautious wisdom with hope.

The one? Works with dating. The other? Repels.
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