|Age GapsPage 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3)|
|‘A restless vitality wells up as we approach 30. Almost everyone wants to make some alteration. If he has been dutifully performing in his corporate slot, he may suddenly feel to narrowed and restricted. If he has been in a long period of training, such as medicine, he may wonder at this point if life is all work and no play. If she has been at home with children, she itches to expand her horizons. If she has been out pursuing a career, she feels a longing for emotional attachments. The impulse to broaden often leads us to action even before we know what we are missing.|
The restrictions we feel on nearing 30 are the outgrowth of the choices of the twenties, choices that may have been perfectly appropriate to that stage. Now the fit feels different. We become aware of some inner aspect that has been left out. It may make itself felt suddenly, emphatically. More often it begins as a slow drum roll, a vague but persistent sense of wanting to be something more’.
Gail Sheehy, Passages
Its quite clear that Sheehy is relating to peoples needs on nearing thirty, but this extract can also be used in relation to the discussion. I would imagine, well i know lol, that in most cases the younger of the two will outgrow the relationship. Only in very rare cases would an eighteen year old guy/gal stay in a lifelong relationship with someone ten years older. The problem is, yes two people can click and fall in love, the reltionship might last two, three or five years but 95% of the time it will end in failure because of the outgrowth.