I DO NOT get off from anal and anal hurts
There must be a good anal lube used to prevent FRICTION.
The anus does NOT have self lubrication like the vagina does.
The anal lube is thick, it goes on and in your anus, on the condom.
The guy needs to get you opened up to allow easy passage of his penis.
If he is lubed up and you are too, there will be no friction and no damage.
He should allow you to go the speed you want to allow yourself to get into it and not get hurt.
It is your anus, control him with speed.
He doesn't have a clue the pain you sustain from friction, the tearing and scarring.
He should be ashamed of himself.
All men should who don't allow the woman to control what is happening to her!