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 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 2
If you got your heart's desirePage 3 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
My luck, eh? Yeah, if I got my heart's desire I would have a heart attack and die from the shock. I would never have the chance to enjoy her company.
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 6
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 1/25/2009 3:50:02 PM
I've put a lot of thought into what I want and yes, I'm more than ready for it.

I'm a bit of an "analyzer" so I pretty much am aware of the changes that it can/will make in the future.

I always remember:
"Careful what you wish for........you just might get it"

So I always consider carefully what I want that is of major significance.
 Alabamamam
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 13
If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 1/25/2009 4:32:17 PM
Absoultely. And why to pose a question that will dram the majority responses that they are ready? Hah?
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 26
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 1/25/2009 10:05:15 PM
My heart's desire came riding in with a sarcastic email that challenged something I had written in my profile. I wound up and fired a volley of my own *SMACK* right back at 'em.
(let's see what he does with THIS I thought - and I giggled out loud waiting for the return email).

A year and a half later, we're still volleying, still snickering under our breath and waiting with wicked anticipation to see what the other does with this one or that one. He was every bit of the fun I anticipated... what I did not anticipate, could not have anticipated in a million lifetimes was how much his love would touch me, effect me and also him. How loving him and being loved by him would change me and open me - free me really. I look at this man and see that the ever deepening intimacy and spirit of discovery we share is changing him too. Bit by bit we are becoming grounded in the foundation of our love and simultaneously soaring to places we've not managed to explore before, or perhaps, even lacked the imagination to believe exists.
 cookie22222
Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 33
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 1/26/2009 6:26:50 AM
I always say "be careful what you wish for"...we can get our heart's desire - but is it worth it when you lose it? Yes...but...LOL...
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 36
If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 1/26/2009 1:12:55 PM


Msg: 13 -- Why? Is Johnny Depp available?


Hmmph!!!! Typical response. As are most others here. I am
disappointed, but not surprised. Women CLAIM to be open to the
standard man, but such is NOT true, any more than the Men CLAIM to be
open to the standard woman.

BUT, I remain hopeful, at LEAST for this moment. PERHAPS there exists
ONE woman on this WHOLE internet who wishes for a CONNECTION to a man
who has a mutual DESIRE for a ROCKING relationship BASED on such a
desire. I won't hold my breath, though, since my HOPE for such is
diminishing RAPIDLY. This HOPE diminishes RAPIDLY day by day. Soon,
the LACK thereof will cause me to retract ALL hope and disappear from
these forums. When and if you see my profile disappear, you will note
that MY profile has disappeared PERMANENTLY, and NOT voluntarily
UNLESS stated otherwise.

IF I state that my profile has been destroyed by MY chosen
intervention, all is well. BUT, if it ends by some ODD default, then
my profile has been destroyed by others more powerful than I am.

BUT, regardless of how this ends, my end is as it should be. Am I
destined to be assassinated by someone infatuated by me or in LOVE
with me? My response is, "Who CARES?".

If I die, my desires become MOOT and of no concern. If I live, others
may sense that my satisfaction is the ULTIMATE goal, which is NOT
true.

My happiness depends upon the relationship between myself and the
"IDEAL WOMAN", the existence of which seems to be MORE **DOUBTFUL** as
each day passes, and my hope and joy for such becomes gradually more
hopeless as each shovel-load buries itself on my worthless grave
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 44
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 2/24/2009 7:41:40 AM

Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
~ Rumi


Wow, I really like that...But how exactly does one find the barriers within, how would you recognise them?

There's a lot of wisdom in a 13th century sufi poet-philosopher, isn't there?
In my experience, to find the barriers - you do nothing. They find you quite effortlessly.

Some of the barriers to love are:
* the walls you have erected; they falsely promise protection and security. However much they manage to block out some hurtful stuff, they equally block out joy from coming in at the other end.

* the illusions about our selves and the world and how the world "should" work .
For starters, try on:
The myth that someone 'right' will come along and our walls will magically come down. The magical thinking that someone 'right' will reach through our walls and 'see' us and rescue us from the prison of our own making. The illusion we have that our walls are us - part of our identity.

* the fears we have and the fears we do not face. The fears we rationalize away as "good sense". Sometimes we have more of a commitment to maintaining our fears than in giving them up as something that doesn't serve us.
 heartseekertrue
Joined: 6/24/2008
Msg: 46
If I KNEW my hearts desire....
Posted: 2/24/2009 8:00:59 AM
lol i might recognize her when she sashays out the door!

Truly, one cannot give what one doesn't own.
...nor can one own what one cannot give away.

Are you ready to give away your greatest desire?
...then and only then...you are ready for it....

Need change for your tupence?
err, thats not the change ya meant!
 heartseekertrue
Joined: 6/24/2008
Msg: 48
what IS your desire? are you certain????
Posted: 2/24/2009 8:30:49 AM
Its margo; how true. Wisdom is found where you seek her. Always seek her...
the other things will come anyway.

A safe and intentional community...affords the self-scrutiny we each require to tear down these damning defenses.

Do we trust enough to be authentic? Are those within our "safe village"....
"truth-tellers" enough to tell us what we are afraid to hear, or admit, of self?
Will we begin that daunting task? Our own defenses....hem us too close, and dark.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 56
If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 2/24/2009 8:03:38 PM
I’m easy. I think in three tiers (in case I have to lower my hopes)

1. Diane Lane locked in my basement (her husband Josh Brolin might not like that one too much)

2. See Jennifer Love-Hewitt’s bOObs - in person. This might actually happen someday. I am still waiting on her reply to my email (sent it in 1998)

3. A home made meat loaf (one that don’t taste like cardboard - like the one I made)
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 58
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 2/25/2009 8:47:26 AM
(msg 75) I think you are fortunate rune.

My interpretation of heart's desire is the longing to be with someone who really resonated with me. It is a bit of a paradox in that the longing for something can 'pull' one into looking for it rather than being exactly wherever you are. Or question it if it actually did fall into your lap one fine spring day. Maybe, perhaps, because we attempt to "name" the unknowable. (If I recall correctly, crazy posted something to that effect on an earlier page of this thread, or one similar).

If I am not totally mangling his words, he said something to the effect of how he didn't know what his heart desired until his heart recognized it. I didn't have that wisdom *grins* I always tried to figure out what my heart's desire would be and look for it... which led to questioning and evaluating each potential candidate to see if they measured up to what I thought ought to be the perfect relationship for me.

Silly me, to imagine I could:
1. figure it out ahead of time,
2. "think" my way through something one "feels" their way through

The critical insight for me... it's the relating not the relationship... I learned from you and crazy here in the forums. One relates with people from exactly where ever you are - and either that resonates with you, or not.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 61
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:30:56 PM
i relate to what you are saying OP, regarding being versus doing. i've always appreciated the being part of others. but, i did a lot of compensating and denying for myself in the spirit of accomodating, compromising, joint venturing--both doing and not doing. now, i am just being me. really, i'm a pretty neat person and becoming my own cheerleader to boot!

i wish to slowly and steadily unfold in the presence of one very special man who i can trust, respect, love, appreciate for who he is. some things we will share and some we will support in the other's individual journey. there must be honesty, in order to trust. i believe it will happen. we discussed this on another thread, in which you led me to this one.

we all think we have gotten rid of our own internal barriers. maybe we have or just grown some neurological detours in our brains. the other part is to recapture what was good in us and what we squelched in our own cellular memories. love, prosperity, et al are all forms of energy. our past ablity to nourish, love and nurture needs to be rekindled and i for one, am tapping into the universe to send it out and take it in, while i grow stronger and more peaceful with myself, each day.

good luck to all, in finding "you".
 lovellyman123
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 62
If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 5/11/2009 5:55:56 PM
I agree, time preparation, and patience is key, I will meet someoone who is right for me someday. In the meantime, relax, sit back have fun ,yet work at all my other goals in life and eventually I will find her. Lay the groundwork for good things to happen.
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 64
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 5/11/2009 6:41:37 PM
My heart's desire isn't wrapped up into one person or thing.

I already have SOME of my heart's desire right here with me!
 rainman12
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 70
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 11/27/2009 1:20:35 PM

Are you ready for the change it will make in your life?


I think the change in my life is what my heart actually desires. I don't think it would actually change my life all that much though.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 71
If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 11/27/2009 1:26:08 PM
^^^^I agree. If I had what my heart truly desires, my son would still be here and I wouldn't be needing the types of changes I am about to make. BUT, as has been said a million times, "Sometimes life isn't very fair." so, the changes are what they are. New scenery, new professional endeavor, new everything (but my shoes of course, those are status quo as I require it...LOL) as my life is now, nor will ever be, as it once was. I think sometimes we think of change as the fix, but for me, it's not the change that will be the actual "heart's desire" it's what's on the other end of the changes that will make the differences. JMO
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 81
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If you got your heart's desire
Posted: 9/30/2010 10:28:04 PM
Bring it on.......................my heart is aching for desire
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