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 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 11
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after 1 date and a few conversations...Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
She did also say a few conversations. You can get to know quite a bit about someone on the phone if you are talking for long stretches, and she is at least asking if she is seeing red flags because they are there or she wants to see them.

You know, I am pretty big on giving people chances, and second chances but I was talking to a friend the other night. The last guy I dated made a comment fairly early on but after we had spent hours on the phone, hundreds of short e-mails exchanged, so he knew that I would never do anything to hurt his daughter.

He said anything that threatens XXXXX I will not allow. When I read it, I literally felt someone walking up my spine; I have never felt that before or since and I wondered at the time without it ever really crystallizing in my mind, if he would subconsciously use his daughter to keep distance between us.

Guess what, that's exactly what he did. Gavin DeBecker is a security expert and wrote The Gift of Fear. It is a book about listening to your body because it nearly 100% of the time warns us of danger but beginning when we are really young, we are taught to ignore these bodily responses because acting upon them would be rude. So we get into a sound proof chamber when we would really like to run the other direction, and we ignore that feeling in our stomachs when we feel logically that we do not know enough to make a judgment, etc.

I still think people need to function from instinct and intellect but sometimes we don't give that old intuition enough credit.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 1/27/2009 9:55:37 PM

Says the woman who has no children

Says the woman who reads my mind and btw with whom I concur on the second half of this post.
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