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 Malley
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 2
Can't get off during sexPage 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)

I also tried this website to find a girl to date and go out with, and failed miserably.


Hmmm .. ever consider perhaps you should learn the words and not just hum 'em in your profile ???

Cum on buddy. How do you ever expect to attract anyone with that ???
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 5
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Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 1:40:51 PM
please please PLEASE dont take offense to this..

but maybe you masterbate to much!
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 7
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 1:50:38 PM
You sound more like a 16 year old, instead of 20-something. If you have issues, you should probably seek medical attention...
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 13
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 3:04:00 PM
I think the issue is with you, you should seek help. A doctor who can figure out why, or even a sex therapist. There are ALL sorts of reasons why it won't work, but until you address them... it will stay broken.
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 15
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 3:28:47 PM
i think i might know the answer. perhaps your inner psyche' feels that you need to be in love.
maybe you have a fear of getting the girl pregnant. either of these two scenarios would have a possible effect on your inability to cum.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 16
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:33:30 PM
well huney maybe women just aren't for you.. perhaps you should exsplore your other side you may find that you love an are happier at home with just men.. or that you come to terms an realize that your BI an you love both men an women an just havent figured out yourself completly yet. since your only 23..


you'll eventually figure out who you are an what you really want..
 tarheels65
Joined: 10/19/2008
Msg: 17
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:50:14 PM
WTF is a rattle snack? I think you are a fag, and just can't come out of the closet!
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 1/29/2009 4:55:06 PM
karatekid: If the fact that you're not a pig and you actually have to feel a connection with someone to have sex is some sort of problem, then you should be glad you have it. I'm pretty much the same way. Sex is better the more I know and care about someone. I could never do the one night stand thing. It doesn't matter how alluring or beautiful someone is, if I don't like the personality of the person or don't know them enough I can't make it happen. I don't think it's having a problem, I think it's having depth of character.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 19
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:07:23 PM
Roflmao at some other posts here!

Well, as I see it's a combination of several factors: 1) you don't have sex often enough as each time will make you more experienced 2) jerking off too much means that your d|ck will get used to another form of stimulation and a pu$$y is obviously different 3) you concentrate too much on the problem itself and want to get off and the result is that you won't 4) maybe you don't sleep enough 5) alcohol 6) drugs 7) maybe you have sex too late in the night (that can cause one to not cum easily too) 8) having sex on the first date for example means that you don't know what she likes, she doesn't know what you like, etc. etc. Who knows. The explanation is usually psychological. In your case it's probably that plus the fact that you aren't used to having sex. The more you do something the better you get at it, simple logic will tell you that. So start setting up dates and give your d|ck a ride it's never experienced before and you'll start cumming like a porn star.
 ohio07
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 21
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:33:04 PM
Been there, you just have a dry spell. Maybe lost some confidence. See message 21. It takes a while to get "back in the saddle", after a while. Just find somebody who are comfortable with. Play with each other, get her off... And if that doesn't help, Cialis or Viagra should fix it. But if getting another girl off, doesn't get you going, and oral and extended foreplay doesn't work... take the pills. But most of all, find somebody you trust, and who likes you. If you still can't go, then see a doc. Don't be discouraged. It happens. You just need to find somebody you are into and like is all, I bet.
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 22
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:44:19 PM
There is nothing wrong with you OP. Things like this happen.
 Bonjour mon amant
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 24
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:49:21 PM
BRAVO !!! mayoroftempe
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 1/29/2009 6:08:33 PM
Ditto.. bravo mayoroftempe !!
 lhunt29
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 1/30/2009 12:19:19 AM
one night stands are nothing, the interpersonal connection a key
 Spykendat
Joined: 12/10/2008
Msg: 30
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 1/30/2009 3:09:51 AM
Dude I can help. Go get a porn do her from behind so u can watch the tv....

Imagine she's someone else?

I wish I had that problem at that age. Wooda been a superhero.

Seriously go without porn..spankin or any other thing for a week. Then try it again. Your making it less sensitive.

When I knew I was gonna get some at your age my routine was masturbate shower and then date that way I could last so I might not be your best adviser

 Indestructible23
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 32
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:21:32 PM
I have the same problem with my girlfriend. I masturbate to some pretty kinky 'out there' kind of stuff, and maybe the sex is just too conventional. That was what I thought. She told her social worker about it and she said maybe it's something psychological, then she had asked if I had ever been raped as a kid. What the hell? I've been doing some thinking....I have an asphyxiation fetish and what not, and every time I think of being choked by my girlfriend, BLAM! instant erection. She actually went so far as to tell me she thinks I'm gay. Wow. I can honestly say, that kinda made things a little worse.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/2/2014 12:03:26 PM
Try changing positions. Missionary never worked for me; I thought there was something wrong with me. Tried Cowgirl; SCORES...almost every time.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/2/2014 12:05:36 PM
*Duplicate Post*
 WantNoFakes
Joined: 1/29/2009
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Posted: 2/8/2014 8:52:22 PM
I have the same issue and have recently become open to the idea of professional help and am currently looking further into that. here is something i think you should read and then do a google search and you will find more on it as well.
note : a sex therapist might be able to help as the issue may be in the subconscious

"Delayed ejaculation, also called retarded ejaculation or inhibited ejaculation, is a man's inability for or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm, despite typical sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Generally, a man can reach orgasm within a few minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse, whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or cannot have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30–45 minutes or more.[1] In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse. It is the least common of the male sexual dysfunctions, and can result as a side effect of some medications. In one survey, 8% of men reported being unable to achieve orgasm over a 2-month period or longer in the previous year"

I hope this helps
 Crystal_Planet
Joined: 10/30/2013
Msg: 37
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 2/16/2014 10:28:26 PM

Try changing positions. Missionary never worked for me; I thought there was something wrong with me. Tried Cowgirl; SCORES...almost every time.


The o.p. posted the question five years ago. It's pretty safe to assume he has got this sorted by now.
 fetish4u
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/14/2014 12:00:46 PM
I can't get off with sexual intercourse either.I can with self masturbation.I get off by orally pleasing a woman front and back.Mostly into BDSM Play.
 billingsmason
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 39
Can't get off during sex
Posted: 8/10/2014 3:14:09 AM
Fuck harder............
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