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 MELANIE1953
Joined: 7/3/2012
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Just as so many have said on here.. you are not alone.. however, it is frustrating and does make one more wary and cautious. Yes, as i read here, men do have the same experiences as we do. There are ignorant, selfish women and men out there ready to pounch on your good nature.. I have been on and off of here for several years.. and have pretty much seen it all, and heard it all as well.
Like you, it pisses me off to make a connection when meeting a man who appears to be a nice person, that you enjoyed talking to, and then not hear from him again..... not even a "I'm sorry, but" or a " this is why I can't see you".. explaination. I ALWAYS get back to the person and tell them my thoughts and feelings about the meeting. While going thru this trial & error I try to think that the worst that could happen in a "meet & greet" is that you make a new friend, but many men I have encountered can't seem to understand basic human behavior. It is and has been, "you need to have sex with me on the first date then I wil see if you are worthy..." and more than once, i have had a man tell me on the phone, "I hope you don''t want to meet for dinner, because most women on here are just looking for a free meal". I ask all women reading this forum, it is terrible that many men on POF think we cannot feed ourselves.. who out there is perpetuating that stereotype?????? Not I..
In the over 50 - 65 group, I have met more than one man who after the first date thinks I should behave toward him as though we have been dating for months...or more the second, wants to have my house and take over my life.. generally I believe because they do not have a life themselves and are pretending to be someone they are not... they need what you have and what I have worked for..
The thing is, I really want to share it all... me included.. I just dont want to give it away to the lazy, the untruthful one and the "I think I am all that and you should too" man!!
I want to find my last love and have a great rest of my life. I wish we had a finger clamp (like at the hospital) that measured truth, pulse and intention.. at least then we could make a informed decision!!! LOLOLOL.
 iain06
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Over 50 and not sure of dating etiquette
Posted: 3/18/2013 7:03:07 AM
it occurs to me from my experience, that P Cs break down, I have lost more addresses and names than you could shake a stick at, often lost contacts,or women I have been talking to have wanted me to travel hundreds of miles after two chats.
 SingleGuyKelowna
Joined: 3/12/2013
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Posted: 3/18/2013 3:36:45 PM
A movie comes into my mind (He's not into You), some people just don't want to deal with the good byes. My self I'm polite.
 Madailein
Joined: 6/9/2012
Msg: 60
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Posted: 3/19/2013 12:40:15 AM

They all want a blonde fluffy with big boobs,and not too much brain.

That’s funnee, lol. Given that I do not know all men, I disagree.
The most clever men I’ve known love to talk with and take counsel from their women.

MY ex=took medicine for penile problems,because it didnt work.

Poor guy, wonder what caused his problems.


I tried to phone him to straighten out this misconception and there was no response. That was 2 days ago and still no response.

No response is a response. When someone barely knows you it is often difficult for them to formally advise you that they are no longer interested.
 stargirl59
Joined: 1/17/2010
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Posted: 3/24/2013 9:11:03 AM
It has been my experience that it is difficult for men to take the stand to end a relationship when it is going nowhere. Take the hint and move on. Don't get caught up in calling and texting with no response. Chalk it up to life experience and move on.
 falleneagle
Joined: 11/30/2012
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Posted: 3/24/2013 12:36:15 PM
I have had the same things happen to me. I have had three women that said they wanted a long term relationship and I was ready for that with each of them but once the relationship started getting deep they bolted and without explaining why or what I did or didn't do?
I think it is fear that makes a person bolt like that. Scared of the " What if " thing and all the demons.
All I say is, Don't say your looking for a relationship if your not sure you really want one and can handle it.
 sturbo001
Joined: 4/17/2011
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Posted: 3/24/2013 2:34:59 PM
did ya have fun together?
 lbou
Joined: 10/12/2010
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Posted: 3/24/2013 2:54:39 PM
I think we all should have married a friend that we grew up with, they always know us best and love us anyway!
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
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Posted: 3/24/2013 8:43:11 PM

lbou
I think we all should have married a friend that we grew up with, they always know us best and love us anyway!


Then I'd been screwed all around. As a Military family we moved every few years and I don't have any real friends from then.
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