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 Enchanted8808
Joined: 6/16/2007
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face to face I know in a New York second if i want to....doesn't mean i will...just means the pheromones have kicked in...
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 2/11/2009 9:27:56 PM
~OT~ I certainly don't know via a profile or email. I do know within a very short period of time once in the "real world." It's not hard to determine, there are a few people who I'm physically/sexually attracted to ~ many more I am not. JMO
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
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Posted: 2/11/2009 10:18:53 PM

I have been told that a women knows within seconds if they will sleep with you. The time ranges from 10 seconds to 60 seconds.


Nope. Completely false. I've had women in my life who didn't like me at all when we first met (they told me later) who ended up sleeping with me. There have been other women who had a neutral or indifferent feeling whom I later slept with. First impressions don't always govern what's going to happen later on.
 RobeAndWizardHat
Joined: 2/7/2009
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Posted: 2/11/2009 10:27:19 PM

They'll know in seconds if they definitely WON'T


This phenomena is better known as the "friend zone". This deep, deep chasm of despair has been studied by men for millenia. Though there are stories told of survivors who befell this fate, these remain a thing of legend and as of yet no known method has been devised to climb out of the dreaded pit. Fortunately, a venture capital fund was recently founded with the promise of constructing a large lid to put over the whole damned thing.
 Malley
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Posted: 2/13/2009 8:49:59 AM

The time ranges from 10 seconds to 60 seconds.

I think this is true of a ONS in a bar situation, unless, it's hitting closing time and desperation is heading for an all time high.

I agree with the others. We can discern who we won't ever sleep with immediately, supposing they were the last male left on the earth.

The other possibles will have to prove themselves worthy.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 2/13/2009 8:56:40 AM
I know within ten seconds that if someone is judgemental and fickle enough to judge someone on appearance only within ten seconds that I have absolutely no use for them whatsoever. Therefore if someone has the nerve to think they know me in ten seconds then they're doing me a favor by walking in the opposite direction. It would take a serious loser to judge someone without even getting to know them first.
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:57:22 AM
Nope, I don't always know. Hell, I don't even always know if I'm attracted to them. A couple of times, I felt no real attraction on the first date, but then wound up spending more time with them, and got into full blown relationships. I hadn't ruled it completely out on the first date, but my mind definitely did not imagine me having sex with them or not. It's only that fast if they are extremely attractive or extremely not attractive, and even the ones that are extremely attractive have infinite opportunities to blow it and repulse me anytime after the 10 seconds.
 cw35
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Posted: 2/13/2009 11:49:29 AM
happy: I know exactly what women are getting at. It's still ridiculous in my opinion. You can't know if you're really attracted to a person without judging them on the whole package. If a woman judges you in 10 seconds then she wasn't looking for a meaningful relationship anyway. The women I've had the greatest relationships with were the ones who didn't appeal to me physically for the most part but after digging deeper and getting to know them they became very attractive. To me, this is the proper way to develop a lasting relationship. Basing it on so-called "instant chemistry" is ridiculous. This is just a way to try and candy coat and romanticize lust and justify a trist rather than have an actual relationship that will go the distance. True "chemistry" between people takes a while to find out about. If two consenting adults just want a fling based on the physical that's fine but we shouldn't try to make it out to be something it isn't.
 Ender330
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Posted: 2/13/2009 12:38:01 PM
Hmm so what I have learned so far is this:

1. Women will know within 10 seconds if she will not have sex with someone.

2. With a lot of men...We can see a women in a photo playboy/dating site/porn site and know that we wouldn't mind having sex with her...most men her seem to say they need to know her first....hmm ok!
...but women under the same situation will always say they would not sleep with a person because they need to know them..hmm!

But SEX sales soooo well.......

I think we are all still lying to ourselves and lying to each other....IMHO
 movin_in_life
Joined: 5/27/2008
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Posted: 3/6/2009 10:42:44 PM
Reminds me of the old story...
The guy with flowers knocks on her door wondering if he is going to get lucky tonight. She opens the door and knows
javascript:smilie('')

The gal's consensus seems to be the hormones will fire immediately or not.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2009 11:16:45 PM
I don't know about 10 seconds if I WILL sleep with them, but in 10 seconds I will know if I WON'T sleep with them.

Me, too. It's not rocket scientry after being single as long as I've been single.

~OT~ Ten seconds? Maybe. Then again, it's not really 10 seconds in my world. I've most likely spent countless hours of email/phone time long before a first meeting. I usually have a pretty clear idea about intelligence/sense of humor/commonalities/etc., so I suppose it's just a matter of being in their presence for a little while. I don't usually have thoughts of "OMG ~ sex is on the horizon with this man." but I definitely have "This is friendship material ONLY." on the brain when it simply is NOT there. JMO
 ForeverLong
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Posted: 3/7/2009 6:13:45 AM
Prostitutes know. Only if you show them the money. Women looking for more, will reject you on looks or personality in less than 10 seconds. If they are attracted to you they may sleep with you if other things go right, no guarantees.
 OldSchoolKevin
Joined: 4/2/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2009 7:47:00 PM
I have been told by some women in my life that they made up their minds very quickly, don't know about the 10 second thing though, I'm guessing in the first half hour they had not ruled me out. This is all with some previous communications, by email or phone.

There was a gal I met on a blind date, had never had any interaction what so ever other than what we knew about each other from our common friend, she was just coming along for the ride when I was bringing the boat over from MC to Chi. We were together the whole day, in the car going over to MC and then the 6 hour sail back over to Chi. We had a GREAT time that night, moored in the harbor under the city lights, using the spinnakers as big pillows on the foredeck. Later on, cracked the lid to our big Igloo cooler.

She told me later that she knew in 10 seconds, it took me all day to "get it", I thought I was of no interest to her at all. Thank you Julie!

osk
 textodd11
Joined: 10/27/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2009 8:22:06 AM

When in sexual mode we'd rather go home with a 2 than go home alone with the do-it-yourself kit God placed at the end of our arms.


Speak for yourself, dude! The only way I'm getting anywhere near sex with someone that I would rank physically as a 2 is at gun point. Sorry man, never even been close to that drunk.

But to the OP, hell why not? Men do the same thing. I do. I know almost instantly if there's a chance that I would want to have sex with someone. I just wish that more women felt empowered to be up-front about it. It would save a lot of wasted time for everyone involved.

I saw a girl wearing a t-shirt the other day that said, "Life's too short to dance with ugly men." Amen , sister and right back at ya.
 vapeninsula
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Posted: 7/10/2009 3:07:25 PM
I guess we can now conclude beyond a shadow of a doubt that women actually do think with their vaginas when first meeting a man. So when a women tells you that you think with your penis, let her know she's a hypocrite.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 7/10/2009 3:39:14 PM
When I am with a woman, I get instant sexual feedback, either positive or negative.

Admittedly, most of the feedback I get is negative, but I have had more than just a few positive responses, enough to keep me going.
 MIkeJ1904
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 7/10/2009 3:57:38 PM
"I guess we can now conclude beyond a shadow of a doubt that women actually do think with their vaginas when first meeting a man. So when a women tells you that you think with your penis, let her know she's a hypocrite. "

She is only a hypocrite for 10 seconds. Us men continue to think with our penises for a lot longer than that!
 cw35
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Posted: 7/11/2009 6:40:38 AM
No, you can't force attraction. The trouble is it takes real time to know if you are actually attracted. Since 99% of people want some sort of instant gratification these days what you end up with is a lot of frustrated people in relationship after relationship because what they think is attraction isn't really TRUE attraction. You would think people would have realized this fact and try to think a little deeper about what real attraction is. This probably won't happen since human beings are actually pretty stupid for the most part if you look at the big picture and see the ridiculous things in life we seem to place the most importance on. Evolution can't happen fast enough because we sure need it.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 7/11/2009 1:20:12 PM

Msg: 70 -- definitive written proof that with men....it is a numbers
game.


The pursuit of any ONE or any THING is ALWAYS a numbers game,
regardless of the gender of the pursuer.

This sort of pursuit is EXACTLY like fishing.

If you want a fish, you choose the bait. IF you choose correctly, it
is a guaranteed HOOK.

If your choice is wrong, your line lies idle without a hint of a
nibble, except when you reel it in and find the bait is GONE and the
hook is EMPTY.

The fisher's decision on bait ALWAYS determines the outcome. Bear in
mind that the BAIT is ALWAYS evaluated; **ALWAYS**!!!! It may be
smelled or licked, but it NEVER escapes the evaluation process.
Further, the HOOK is GUARANTEED if the bait has SUFFICIENT appeal.



Msg: 71 -- "won't know if I will that fast, but in 10 seconds, I'll
definitely know if I won't EVER" LOL!


ANY woman I have EVER encountered has ALWAYS decided in LESS than one
minute whether she will or will NOT. Since you seem to have
DELIBERATELY focused on the "will NOT", an encounter with me will most
likely result in a "will NOT" decision on your part. Your negative
decision has no more effect on me than to change my target.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
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Posted: 7/11/2009 2:05:39 PM


Msg: 72 -- 1) Always look your best


Not even worth mentioning, but it DOES go without SAYING. One MUST
look one's best REGARDLESS of one's endeavor.



2) Keep your mouth shut until asked, and then keep it brief.


This is what MANY women PREFER you to believe. Personally, I keep MY
desires up front and FOREMOST. I am, of course, willing to compromise,
but I REFUSE to sacrifice. If one finds a need to sacrifice in a given
relationship, then one has found a parasite to shed.



3) Get the hell out of her sight so she can think about that brief
encounter.


If she senses the need for me to get out of HER sight for ANY reason,
she is INCOMPATIBLE with me and deserves no further concern from me.



New words to live by, I guess.


The only WORD to live by is COMPATIBILITY. Most important, do YOU make
HER happy? If not, the relationship is a LOST CAUSE.

Second, does SHE make YOU happy? There again, if not, find someone
ELSE. The both of you can only HARM each other emotionally.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 7/11/2009 2:47:16 PM
I think it'd be better put that for the MOST part, within the first 10 seconds, she knows if she is and will be attracted to you, by raw physical attributes. That's not to say there can't a gray area that may extend the shot clock... but in that case, she's not ga-ga over you, and uncommon situations would have to occur to later make her be really attracted.

If they're attracted to you (not ruined by a deal-breaking personality), that means they're willing to sleep with you. Doesn't mean right then and there, but when "her time is right", whenever that is.

The angst against single guys & sexuality, and single girls & sexuality is equal, and all stems from this:
Single guys are "dogs" or "pigs" if they are horny.
Single girls are "sluts" or "skanks" if they are horny.

It's tradition's way to prevent people from sleeping around, aided by natural jealousy and suspicion, too. Women tend to call other women out on it with angst. A majority of guys do not do that with their gender.
 Ender330
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Posted: 7/12/2009 7:45:59 PM
I don't know anymore. As I have gotten older I am a lot more hesitant to have sex with a women. I know right away if I would have sex with her based on that level of attraction. Soon after that I start thinking about her and all the cons that may come with a night with her or even a few nights or more. There seems to only me one PRO but always many CONS!

Besides here are so many other fun things to do than having sex!
 BubblyGalSmiles
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Posted: 7/12/2009 10:09:15 PM
Only if you kiss me in 10 seconds...it's all in the first kiss for me! Mess it up, and you're out. If you're a great kisser, I can be persuaded/seduced...uhm-m-m-m-m!! To answer your question directly though,...of course not!...I'm not that shallow (but...if you have bad teeth, bad bad breathe or BO...the answer is YES! never, never, never!! I'd know in 2 seconds.
 cw35
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Posted: 7/13/2009 7:23:21 AM
kit: Actually attraction DOES grow on people. I would never have had my best relationships if it required me to be physically attracted to them instantly. I've started with zero physical attraction and over time found those same people to be the most beautiful I've ever seen. This is how I know that making snap judgements about someone based on the physical aspect in is both stupid and short sighted.
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