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 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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What is wrong with men?Page 2 of 25    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25)

And me naturally cant understand why a man would date someone that is as old, a wee younger or a bit older than his own children. That makes me almost think of pedophelia.

Here we go again. Men are attracted to women who appear to be sexually mature enough to get pregnant, and healthy. That's it. The women who most easily display those physical characteristics are in their very late teens to mid twenties. We didn't consciously choose to be attracted to you, evolution made that decision. Whether or not we have children does not change anything. Men who are attracted to pre-menstrual girls or post menopausal women will have their dna die out. Which is why so many older women go to such great lengths to look young, and for men, it doesn't really make any difference, because what enables a male to be a good protector and provider isn't nearly as dependent on his age. Most women are quite content with one adequate sexual episode every few hours, which pretty much any man up to maybe seventy can manage. Hence, why we think we can date 20 year olds. And, a good relationship does not require two people to have 'everything' in common, which is why people of vastly different ages can get along quite well. A few wonderful things are enough; we have friends to fill in the other interests. It's more about how we make people feel about themselves that makes all the difference in the world.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 81
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Posted: 2/13/2009 8:55:05 PM
FTWFella msg 79

Same age difference .... my ex-wife did not leave for 17 years. THEN she kept coming back for some ..... you know lol.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 85
What is wrong with men?
Posted: 2/13/2009 10:10:38 PM

Here we go again. Men are attracted to women who appear to be sexually mature enough to get pregnant, and healthy. That's it. The women who most easily display those physical characteristics are in their very late teens to mid twenties. We didn't consciously choose to be attracted to you, evolution made that decision. Whether or not we have children does not change anything. Men who are attracted to pre-menstrual girls or post menopausal women will have their dna die out

Yes indeed, here we go again.
We no longer live in caves, stampede wolly mammoths over cliffs, or have our children eaten by sabre toothed tigers. Velociraptor steaks are not on sale down at Hometown Grocery.
The species is not in danger of dying out unless some cataclysmic armageddon of epic biblical proportions occurs and takes us ALL out in one fell swoop.
Granted, unevolved young females who think they need a provider/protector may be enticed to let an elderly male THINK he's her man, but from what I've heard, a lot of those women were going behind the old man's back to get her offspring fathered by young virile dudes with healthy and vigorous sperm.
Dream on.
Cindy O
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 10:14:11 PM
If you were 17 then maybe they would be your father. But alot of people that are in their 40's that have kids in their 20's got married either in highschool or shortly after. At the most the age difference would be like having an uncle. Kinda of that in between age where sometimes not old enough to be your parent, but had your parents had you in highschool maybe that's what you've come to expect as being the typical age difference, 2o years difference. Some parents wait till their in their 30's to have kids so it would more likely with some people in their 20's that a 50 year old would definitely be like your parent. If you don't feel comfortable with it, by all means don't respond to them and just go on, let it go. Demi Moore was seeing Asthon Cutcher and while some may have said something about it, it never really became much of an issue. Just see who you are comfortable with because such an age gap could cause problems. You are less likely to relate to each other.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 11:14:49 PM
Well I know why I get contacts from men younger than my children, because so many women have told them how flattered they are by their attention and many of them had sex with these boys. So hey, if they contact enough of us old ladies, they know they will get lucky sooner or later. Personally I'm not at all flattered, nor do I need that kind of attention, so I block them, filter them out, whatever works and ignore them. I have zero interest and I can imagine how boring it is for the OP to have to put up with the opposite problem. But again, I'm sure enough old men get lucky when hitting on pretty young women to make it worth their while, or maybe they actually get off on just contacting them, even if they don't get an answer, there's no accounting for the actions of others.

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biscuits! There are biscuits? I want some too! Damn, I hope they are still warm, is there honey? Seriously, I haven't had a good biscuit in a long time. I'm sure there was some sort of implied insult here somewhere (I haven't read the whole thing yet) but I don't care, I want the damn biscuit!
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 11:53:42 PM
But I want one, how about half of one? A bite???
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 92
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Posted: 2/14/2009 12:55:01 AM
Lets get her guys ........

We can split up the biscuits
 quarked
Joined: 5/23/2008
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Posted: 2/14/2009 2:17:31 AM
I'm 24. Would it help if I emailed you, OP?
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 2/14/2009 5:26:51 AM

Here we go again. Men are attracted to women who appear to be sexually mature enough to get pregnant, and healthy. That's it. The women who most easily display those physical characteristics are in their very late teens to mid twenties. We didn't consciously choose to be attracted to you, evolution made that decision. Whether or not we have children does not change anything.

But here's the thing. Women are attracted to younger men but we don't function in society by following our biological urges alone do we? And having children should change things, not in terms of who you are attracted to but when you act on those attractions.

Yannow, if a guy or a woman wants to date someone that is 20 years their junior, I could give a fig and in some instances, there is a real match between maturity, intellect, etc. Demi Moore rings a bell, junior was studying at MIT I think when he was "discovered" and it couldn't have been easy stepping into that family and yet he seems to have done it well, friend to the girls, no angst between the testerone laden people, and believe me, if there was b.s. going on, the tabloids would have ferreted it out by now.

Anywho, my point is that for me, children changed this issue a great deal. If I had no kids, it might turn heads if I dated someone that was 24 but I probably wouldn't give a shit if I liked the guy. Now, I do have a dilemma because of the kids. My stepson whom I raised for 10 years and in whose life I have now been for 18, just turned 30. It is, well ookie to consider dating someone younger than he is. My daughter turns 17 next month, if my bottom age range had not already been determined by her brother, she informed both myself and her father that neither of us could date someone 10 years her senior or younger. This seems reasonable to me. That makes my other bottom line currenly 17, or 27 years younger than me, oy.

Childless people, who cares, with the practical exception of whether the younger person wants to spend the last decade or so of his/her life alone because the other person has already kicked the bucket. I think for people that have children it should make a difference and give me a break, if the person is off-limits from day one, you don't allow yourself to fall in love with them, not rocket science. Yeah, you could pass up the love of your life so because I don't think there is only one of those, find someone that might still be alive when you are 70.
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 108
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Posted: 2/14/2009 8:13:36 AM
Perhaps the question should be:

"what is wrong with attention-seeking troll posters constantly whining about something easily fixed with the mail filter settings?"
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 115
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:26:19 AM

I wish more girls your age thought like you because most of the time young girls are being conned by these old guys.

I have a daughter close to your age and I'd hate it if some guy my age was dating her. What does he have to offer her.


you really think a 24 -year old woman is a 'child' unable to make these decisions on her own?


that's only 6 years after she could decide on her own to enlist in the military and risk her life in some foreign hellhole..

I mean do you have to coddle someone their whole life? I'm sure the OP can choose whether to accept or reject any overtures, as she has done..

do you know what 'pedophile' means? it doesn't mean someone attracted to a 24- year old..

it means those with the sickness towards a child, not an adult..keep a little perspective..you cheapen the label 'pedophile' by applying it to anyone interested in someone 5+ years younger than themselves, or whatever cutoff you have decided is 'acceptable' to you.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 116
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:29:42 AM
I suggest you all confront yourself and try to find the seed for all that anger. Can't be easy to be so angry.


Seems that I recall something about glass houses and throwing stones...
The title of the post suggests that there is something "wrong" with men.
Look, sweetie, it's a dating website. If men you aren't interested in contact you, simply delete their emails. Set your filters.
Some of this post just makes me go...hmmm...
Sounds like a little drama here with Mom's boyfriend,at some point?
(to the tune of "Just a Closer Walk with Thee")
Just a bowl of butter beans
Pass the bicuits,if you please.
I don't want no collard greens
Just a bowl of butter beans.

Cindy O
 FTWFella
Joined: 7/20/2007
Msg: 117
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:35:23 AM
Those who do not understand the sex drive - mating drive of men and women are guilty of ignoring the genetic biology of humans - or are perhaps ignorant of it.

Our genes drive the production of hormones and brain chemicals - it is pre-programmed - and cannot be altered except by induction of other chemicals (environmental contaminates).

Our sex drive - mating drive programming can be subdued a bit by cultural influences - but it is not really changed from 10 to 20 thousand years ago - which was not really changed from the 250 thousand years of recent human lineage - nor from the millions of years before that.

A few hundred years of modern cultural influences - a few decades of imposing 'politically correct' behavior mandates - has not changed and will not change the basic sex drive of men - and that sex drive is to reproduce - create offspring - and men are programmed to find a mate who can and will reproduce. It matters none at all - that this behavior is often inappropriate for the time, age and circumstance we find ourselves in this 'modern world'...

Any woman who does not want to get messages from men over age 39 on POF can set her profile that way - and she will not get messages from them - so I don't believe the problem is a real problem - it is easily corrected.

FTWfella
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 119
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:53:29 AM
I hear the same thing, age is only a number. Someone who is 20-30 yrs older is not going to have the same things in common. I get 63 yr olds looking. If my mother was here they'd be great for her. She looks just like me, just 24 yrs older.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 123
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Posted: 2/14/2009 11:22:35 AM

The problem lies in within you , personally as a younger man just reading this I would not even consider stopping on the side of the road to help you with a flat.

Oh, you base your decisions on who to help on how they look and/or their perspective on life,rather than the fact that helping someone if it's in one's power to do so, IS THE FREAKIN' $#%!! RIGHT THING TO DO.
My Gawd, I don't happen to be blessed with kids and grandkids, so would folks that do help me out here; Are the attitudes displayed by the OP and a couple of other young posters, the NORM these days? I certainly hope not!
Cindy O
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 127
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Posted: 2/14/2009 12:03:27 PM

I would stop and help you CindyO

I appreciate the sentiment, but, despite my advanced age and increasing frailty, I still have the mental agility and the finger strength/dexterity to whip out the cell phone and dial road service. Good insurance beats the hell out of banking on my looks to get help.( I've been told fairly often(by guys!) that if I wasn't so damn independent, it would be easy to get all kinds of help with stuff based on my looks,but I wasn't brought up to solve problems with my smile and my ass,so I just wouldn't ever be comfortable coping like that.
Cindy O
 arcticdude
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 136
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Posted: 2/14/2009 3:53:54 PM
There's plenty wrong with 'men'. 'Men' is a pretty damned big segment of the population...bound to be some problems among them...

You are perfectly well within your rights to have age preferences...Just like 40 yr old men are! Ha! go figure!...People expressing their preferences! The nerve!
Just make it very clear on your profile that you are not interested...and set your e-mail settings!
Easy enough to do...


P.S.:I just heard on the news about a 13yr old somewhere who fathered a kid...better roll back to 36 now!
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
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Posted: 2/14/2009 6:39:45 PM

As my profile shows I have limited the age.... But still get messages from men that age.


probably because all the men your age are busy emailing me!
 Zephyr2553
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 152
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Posted: 2/14/2009 10:09:43 PM
Lol...... There's nothing wrong with men. Men are visual beings and every man fanticizes about doing a sweet young thing no matter how repugnant she is.....ie photo number six.

So, lets get this straight, you put out photos of yourself in suggestive poses like you were trying to get a job in a soft porn mag and you are "amazed" that the midlife crisis genre tries to "hook up " with you.....????

Ignorance truly is bliss, and very entertaining.....
 parklabrea
Joined: 1/4/2009
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Posted: 2/14/2009 11:24:02 PM
I admit it, I'm a cradle snatcher myself. I'm 58 and sometimes I hit up on women 48 years old. I know I'm probably taking advantage of them and their lack of life experience, but I enjoy having a woman that young on my arm as a trophy girl friend.

Why do 40+ men hit up on you on this site? Because it's easier than trying to do so in a bar. They probably send messages to hundreds of girls. It only takes one "yes" to make their efforts worthwhile. Some men have brains in their heads and some men have their brains in their pants. Block them out or don't answer....but don't get in a sweat.
 JLarsson
Joined: 7/11/2007
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:13:43 AM
Old men will alway covet young women. That has always been the case. Lets face the facts. Young women are firm and attactive. Older women can be this as well, but you are attractive. Though My search range is not that low, I understand the mistake. I can't really fault a man for not knowing his limits, if we didn't know our limits we'd still be walking. In the end if you dont want an email from someone above x set your filter there. BTW about 1/2 of emails i recieve are from women 12 to 14 years my senior.

cheers


joe
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 157
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:30:58 AM
^^^^

Young women are firm and attactive. Older women can be this as well, but you are attractive.


The inanity of the above post is . . . inane and contradictory. So, older women can be the same as young women, but yet, young women are attractive? I guess I had better get out my burlap bag--no need in even trying to be presentable.

OP, your pics invite men in. I am not saying this in a negative way, because my pics do the same thing. If a man sees a picture he finds appealing, he will most likely contact that woman. If you are offended by what men say to you, then you need to be less appealing.

I do notice on perusing your profile, though, that you have a limit on the age of the men who can contact you--38 is your max. You either changed this after you started the forum, or you are complaining about a nonexistent problem.

I do have to ask, though, what is the difference between a 38 year old man and a 40 year old man? And a 40 year old man usually doesn't have a 24 year old daughter, not unless he begat her when he was 16.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 164
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Posted: 2/15/2009 8:55:54 AM
Nothing's "wrong" with men. Neither is there anything "wrong" with women. Some are decidedly "strange" in their behaviour on both parts, but it all seems that there's someone for everyone or we would have gone the way of the DoDo bird by now.

- Some women prefer older men because of the intellect they can't find in men their own age.
- Some older men prefer younger women because they like to "train" them or figure if they haven't yet learned the ways of the world yet, they won't catch on to their deliberate deceptions.
- Some women prefer older men because they can feed off their money and station in life that younger guys haven't acquired yet.
- Some older men prefer younger girls because they think they can buy their affections when they have little else to offer in the way of personality to someone their own age.
- Some women prefer older men because it gives themselves the illusion of maturity by proxy (doesn't make the illusion a fact).
- Etc., etc.

And then there are some women and some men who go through life being themselves and being genuine, no matter their age. It's the ulterior motives of either that generally winds up being their own undoing and who appear to be the most bitter in the forums.

And then there are the poor unfortunates, men and women of any age, who are just plain dumber than doornobs and manage to propagate the species.

Unfortunately, a large number of men and women, no matter their age, will never understand which category they fall into, because self-ignorance is apparently bliss. The fun part is watching them defend that ignorance to the point of making said ignorance apparent to everyone else around them.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 169
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Posted: 2/15/2009 9:41:51 AM
Strangely enough, I find the overly deliberate lip pouting in 5 out of 7 pictures more provocative than anything else being displayed in them. The most honest picture is the "ugly" one - but then who would want that one to be the bait that catches the fish, no matter the age of the fish? The rest are somewhat "contrived". That being said, I don't take exception to the pictures at all. I take more exception to what she has to say in this thread and other threads and her attempt at manipulating the readers. Fortunately, "most" are able to see through it, whether they be male or female.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 175
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Posted: 2/15/2009 10:05:41 AM
misssynne - The gummy fun loving one, although likely showing more of your true personality, is the "ugly" one. Which do you think is the most serious? My favourite of all of them is the side view with the squirrel strictly because it looks the most natural.

Ahhh...but a second look reveals you've done further editing with your pictures and the ugly one is no longer there.

I'm not saying they're mechancially enhaced....obviously the one you just deleted was the most natural one. Your pictures are "contrived", in the main, because they are "posed". Nothing the matter with that either because you are wanting to get that side of you across to the viewer........

Nope...don't be ashamed of your posed pictures - be ashamed of your deliberate manipulations and feigned simpering - which is uglier than any picture you could post.

Example of your manipulations: asking why men would be interested in you, people telling you the pictures could be part of the reason, then doing the feigned simpering thing of "everyone's angry and out to get me - I can't help it if I'm beautiful and anyone who doesn't agree with me is angry and old"......but then you knew all that throughout this post, so why attempt to continue the ruse?...just more posturing and posing in the verbal form would be my guess
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