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Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 150
What is wrong with men?Page 3 of 25    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25)

Men are often lacking in brain cells.

That's okay. I'm satisfied that the ones I actually got are working.

Don't sweat it. Many of them will 'grow up'.

I hope not. I've avoided growing up so far and I'd be devastated if I had to grow up for some reason.

Older men - Messaging you is a bit like purchasing a lottery ticket. Nothing to lose.

Sending anyone a message or doing most anything else is the same way, so I'm not sure what your point is unless you really think you have something to lose by sending an anonymous person a contact message.

Older men - Shallow men will mostly message you.

A ``shallow'' man is one who wants something you don't have. Get over it. How many preferences do you have that could be called shallow? My guess is none, from your own point of view or that the ones you admit to having are inconsequential and you would fold on them in a second if necessary. Guess what? Just about everyone else who hasn't figured out that preferences are just preferences will say the same thing, although their philosophically deep and meaningful preferences aren't likely to coincide with yours.

Men are not programmed to grow emotionally and intellectually.

That statement would only be interesting if you had some way of demonstrating its veracity.
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 152
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Posted: 2/14/2009 10:09:43 PM
Lol...... There's nothing wrong with men. Men are visual beings and every man fanticizes about doing a sweet young thing no matter how repugnant she photo number six.

So, lets get this straight, you put out photos of yourself in suggestive poses like you were trying to get a job in a soft porn mag and you are "amazed" that the midlife crisis genre tries to "hook up " with you.....????

Ignorance truly is bliss, and very entertaining.....
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 154
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Posted: 2/14/2009 11:24:02 PM
I admit it, I'm a cradle snatcher myself. I'm 58 and sometimes I hit up on women 48 years old. I know I'm probably taking advantage of them and their lack of life experience, but I enjoy having a woman that young on my arm as a trophy girl friend.

Why do 40+ men hit up on you on this site? Because it's easier than trying to do so in a bar. They probably send messages to hundreds of girls. It only takes one "yes" to make their efforts worthwhile. Some men have brains in their heads and some men have their brains in their pants. Block them out or don't answer....but don't get in a sweat.
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 156
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:13:43 AM
Old men will alway covet young women. That has always been the case. Lets face the facts. Young women are firm and attactive. Older women can be this as well, but you are attractive. Though My search range is not that low, I understand the mistake. I can't really fault a man for not knowing his limits, if we didn't know our limits we'd still be walking. In the end if you dont want an email from someone above x set your filter there. BTW about 1/2 of emails i recieve are from women 12 to 14 years my senior.


Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 157
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:30:58 AM

Young women are firm and attactive. Older women can be this as well, but you are attractive.

The inanity of the above post is . . . inane and contradictory. So, older women can be the same as young women, but yet, young women are attractive? I guess I had better get out my burlap bag--no need in even trying to be presentable.

OP, your pics invite men in. I am not saying this in a negative way, because my pics do the same thing. If a man sees a picture he finds appealing, he will most likely contact that woman. If you are offended by what men say to you, then you need to be less appealing.

I do notice on perusing your profile, though, that you have a limit on the age of the men who can contact you--38 is your max. You either changed this after you started the forum, or you are complaining about a nonexistent problem.

I do have to ask, though, what is the difference between a 38 year old man and a 40 year old man? And a 40 year old man usually doesn't have a 24 year old daughter, not unless he begat her when he was 16.
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 164
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Posted: 2/15/2009 8:55:54 AM
Nothing's "wrong" with men. Neither is there anything "wrong" with women. Some are decidedly "strange" in their behaviour on both parts, but it all seems that there's someone for everyone or we would have gone the way of the DoDo bird by now.

- Some women prefer older men because of the intellect they can't find in men their own age.
- Some older men prefer younger women because they like to "train" them or figure if they haven't yet learned the ways of the world yet, they won't catch on to their deliberate deceptions.
- Some women prefer older men because they can feed off their money and station in life that younger guys haven't acquired yet.
- Some older men prefer younger girls because they think they can buy their affections when they have little else to offer in the way of personality to someone their own age.
- Some women prefer older men because it gives themselves the illusion of maturity by proxy (doesn't make the illusion a fact).
- Etc., etc.

And then there are some women and some men who go through life being themselves and being genuine, no matter their age. It's the ulterior motives of either that generally winds up being their own undoing and who appear to be the most bitter in the forums.

And then there are the poor unfortunates, men and women of any age, who are just plain dumber than doornobs and manage to propagate the species.

Unfortunately, a large number of men and women, no matter their age, will never understand which category they fall into, because self-ignorance is apparently bliss. The fun part is watching them defend that ignorance to the point of making said ignorance apparent to everyone else around them.
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 169
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Posted: 2/15/2009 9:41:51 AM
Strangely enough, I find the overly deliberate lip pouting in 5 out of 7 pictures more provocative than anything else being displayed in them. The most honest picture is the "ugly" one - but then who would want that one to be the bait that catches the fish, no matter the age of the fish? The rest are somewhat "contrived". That being said, I don't take exception to the pictures at all. I take more exception to what she has to say in this thread and other threads and her attempt at manipulating the readers. Fortunately, "most" are able to see through it, whether they be male or female.
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 175
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Posted: 2/15/2009 10:05:41 AM
misssynne - The gummy fun loving one, although likely showing more of your true personality, is the "ugly" one. Which do you think is the most serious? My favourite of all of them is the side view with the squirrel strictly because it looks the most natural.

Ahhh...but a second look reveals you've done further editing with your pictures and the ugly one is no longer there.

I'm not saying they're mechancially enhaced....obviously the one you just deleted was the most natural one. Your pictures are "contrived", in the main, because they are "posed". Nothing the matter with that either because you are wanting to get that side of you across to the viewer........

Nope...don't be ashamed of your posed pictures - be ashamed of your deliberate manipulations and feigned simpering - which is uglier than any picture you could post.

Example of your manipulations: asking why men would be interested in you, people telling you the pictures could be part of the reason, then doing the feigned simpering thing of "everyone's angry and out to get me - I can't help it if I'm beautiful and anyone who doesn't agree with me is angry and old"......but then you knew all that throughout this post, so why attempt to continue the ruse?...just more posturing and posing in the verbal form would be my guess
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 181
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Posted: 2/15/2009 12:25:12 PM
"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!"...

I thought that ad was hilarious when it ran...Never thought I'd actually see a real person who would say it with a straight face!

Maybe it's a european thing...

No one hates you hon...I'm sure it's more like amused bewilderment ...with a pinch of annoyance...very funny to watch you go... ...

I'm thinking possibly you are much more intelligent than you 'appear' though...Personally, though I do find you quite attractive to look at, I wouldn't DREAM of ever considering contacting you...and that, even before I read your posts...Rest assured...your posts here will surely help to dissuade all but the most deluded 'creepy old guys'. Good work! Keep typing...I'm sure you'll find your pof inbox traffic will be progressively much more managable as you express your inner self!
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 183
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Posted: 2/15/2009 12:38:01 PM
Iiiiiiii know! Too funny. Perhaps a Pantene commercial revival is what is sought after??
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 187
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Posted: 2/15/2009 1:21:31 PM
This is really trolling on and on and on. There are mail settings for a reason. It is that simple. Older men will contact younger women, Older women will contact younger men, if allow via the setting. You've really got all of the answers you would need on this topic but it is going on and on and on....

Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 189
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Posted: 2/15/2009 1:29:22 PM

I'm thinking is she "trolling?"


Funny I was getting emails from 20-30 yr olds

Joined: 7/20/2007
Msg: 195
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:20:46 PM
OP --- your problem is NOT A PROBLEM...

Just go to the main POF page -- then GO TO the - MAIL SETTINGS menu tab -- Click on it with your mouse --- Then on the very first line -- after Gender --- is an entry box ....
Age Between To

This means you choose -- ages like Between 20 to 39 --- or Between 22 to 36 -- this means YEARS OF AGE..

If you choose a setting lower than 40 (the 'to') --- then YOU WILL NOT GET MAIL FROM MEN OLDER THAN 39 years of age.

Your problem is NOT A PROBLEM OP ...



Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 199
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:08:39 PM
Women a lot older than 40 seem to be hunting down all the college age guys so maybe guys my age think only young women are left. I'm a liitle confused by your post because your age range on your profile goes to 38. That's pretty close to 40. I don't think you know what you actually want because if it bothers you so much just lower the age by 10 years in your profile. This smells like an attention getting thread to me.
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 200
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Posted: 2/16/2009 6:09:32 AM

No offense to the guys as girls do it too. I just don't see many 40 year old women confidently expecting a 20 year old guy to marry them.

Its all relative anyway. I'm 59 and probably just as "hot" as you'll ever be. But, I'm not attracted to age. I'm attracted to a certain kind of person. Everyone is way too hung up on chronological age.

Some of the men on this site and others are just as immature and undesirable at 68 as they were at 20 and some of the 20 somethings are more mature at 20 than their fathers. I'm attracted to "men" who are confident, powerful, tender and know who and what they want.

Why the Hell would I want to marry any of them or "expect" one of them to marry me? If its marriage you're looking for, narrow your search. There are a lot of men on these sites who would love to "bag" you, but wouldn't marry you if their life depended on it.
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 203
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Posted: 2/16/2009 9:10:31 AM

How can I ever send a serious forumpost when the people act like it's kindergarten.....

Write your posts for an older audience.

it is about why old men think young women would have any form of interest in them!

Hard to say, but who am I to question good fortune?

And if it is the law of nature then surely nature didn't want young women to breed with saggy old men?

Dianabol - Breakfast of Champions
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Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 205
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Posted: 2/16/2009 9:38:08 AM
Op, I'm curious.... Would you date a 39 year old?
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 206
What is wrong with men? Not a thing! ;)
Posted: 2/16/2009 10:09:59 AM
Graham what do you have in common with this young girls?

A nice arse.......................................

Really? I know at my advanced age my eyesight is failing, but I think the reason I can't say for sure if I agree about your "arse" that your head is blocking the view.
What was that about intelligence and sarcasm?
You left yourself wide open there, my friend.
Cindy O
Joined: 4/21/2008
Msg: 211
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Posted: 2/16/2009 4:11:59 PM
hey, if you don't want them, i'll certainly be intereed.
Joined: 8/23/2008
Msg: 214
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Posted: 2/16/2009 9:12:14 PM
Sweetie! That's if I may call you sweetie. E=MC2 so you're 24, and the other person is in their 40's. If a plane drop out of the sky and you both were occupying the same space at the time of are both lost...its all relative!

When all the world is young, And all the trees are green; And every goose a swan, And every lass a queen; Then hey for boot and horse, And round the world away! Young blood must have its course, And every dog his day.

When all the world is old, And all the trees are brown; And all the sport is stale, And all the wheels run down; Creep home, and take your place there, The spent and maimed among; God grant you find one face there, You loved when all was young.
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 216
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Posted: 2/17/2009 12:24:02 AM

just like she posted this deal. O poor little ol me. I am so hot that old farts email me. o give me more attention.

However, she left out the crucial question, which is of the ``old farts'' who would date someone her age, how many would email her.
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 219
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Posted: 2/17/2009 5:51:49 AM
Geeze, I'd have to date someone 77 to date someone old enough to be my "daddy"

I'd never thought of that before.....I could be the young chickie poo and he could be my sugar

I'm cracking up here. I guess its all relative anyway. I wouldn't have any interest in a "dude" who wore his ballcap on backwards or worse yet sideways, wore huge baggy pants or sports shorts, whose a$$ in a pair of boxers is exposed and with whom you couldn't fight the urge to pull them up and duck tape them to his waist, flip flops and thought a great night out was pounding a ton of brewskies in the local hang out.

Nor would I have any interest in spending any time with a guy in a pair of double knit slacks and grandpa shoes with a comb over and nasty nails whose belly exceeds his spandex waistband.

So, I guess there's someone for everyone and I'll just continue to enjoy life and enjoy being me.

Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 221
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Posted: 2/17/2009 6:07:00 AM
I wouldn't want a "boy" to train like a performing seal.....puullleeeezzzeee! No matter who I choose to spend time with, he of any age, will be a man, complete in himself, knowing who and what he is.

There are no benefits, just differences. Men are men. The plumbing is the same, the attitudes are the same. The only attraction is something indefinable that passes between the eyes.

I'm attracted to generic "men" who are self confident, romantic, intelligent, creative, kind and generous in every way.
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 223
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Posted: 2/17/2009 8:29:29 AM
Read the book "The Evolution of Desire" by Dr David Buss. In it he explains why men are attracted to younger women. The abridged version is "a woman a man can reproduce with is most appealing" to a man. That is the reason an 18 year old guy finds and 18 year old girl attractive, a 28 year old man finds and 18 year old girl attractive, a 38 year old man finds an 18 year old girl get my drift.
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 224
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Posted: 2/17/2009 9:13:17 AM
Promise: Don't try telling this to any women in here. You could get hung. I can see two people of any ages dating if there is a real connection but I don't think this is usually the case. I get a kick out of the hypocritical viewpoint most older women have when it comes to this topic though. Most think it's perfectly fine when they chase younger men and it's always because they think they look so great for their age or are "young at heart". (Most cliche POF line ever). If a man is doing the same thing, he's sad, pathetic, immature, having a crises, blah blah blah. They usually make fun of older men's physical appearance too as if their liver spots, cottage cheese and underarm flaps are the signs of utmost beauty. Top this all off with an arrogant attitude and what man wouldn't want an older woman? Not saying it's every woman but it sure seems like a lot.
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