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 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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i am 38, i have had 3 long term relationships
all of the women i lived with , are, intelligent , creative,and open minded, not to mention very sexual,

i would not have it any other way

i have found that casual sex is boring, you do not even know your partners body, or mind
so i need both, in a woman
 *closer
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 63
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Posted: 4/15/2010 7:27:47 AM
Ditto^^^^^^^^^^^

"F*cker's", imo,are way too afraid of love and commitment to be worth the investment of time,care or risk.

Give me a man with the balls to stick around long after the lust dies down a bit,and we have a WINNER!
 *closer
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 64
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Posted: 4/15/2010 11:20:40 AM

"to stick around long after the lust dies down"
Why? By that time the woman is long gone... Men are made out to be the horn dogs, but I found that beyond the honeymoon phase women want sex more. They'd leave before I do.


OK....I get the point..it's not a male/female thing.It's an individual thing.My bad.
All I know is that a Lover is someone who loves...and a f*cker is just that.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 4/15/2010 1:36:47 PM

Is it possible to have the best of both worlds?


A lady in the streets and a whore in bed.

Yes, it is possible and it is called a two way street
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 4/15/2010 2:46:57 PM

All I know is that a Lover is someone who loves...and a f*cker is just that.


You can love someone you're f*cking, and f*ck someone you love. In my experience, that's the best kind. If I can't have both, then I probably won't stick around.
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 4/18/2010 12:08:53 PM
^^^^What he said!
 usmcjohn1142
Joined: 11/19/2006
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Posted: 2/16/2015 8:19:18 PM
I had both once and I let it slip away. Nothing beats a lover and a friend.
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 69
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Posted: 2/17/2015 5:43:56 AM
To me they are kind of the same thing, or perhaps that is because I am demisexual/ kinda asexual lol.
1. Making Love - intimate/passionate; generally shared with a significant other or someone you have genuine feelings for.
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2. F*cking - more casual; needs driven/just WANTING to have sex.

Cant have 1 without 2 and can't have 2 without 1. Or maybe all of it for me is 1 but a bit of needs mixed in. Although considering I haven't had sex for months and haven't and wouldn't ever bother to seek anyone for 2 (casual emotionless sex), it further supports my theory for it being only for 1 (sex with genuine feelings) for me.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 2/17/2015 7:11:22 AM
funny, I thought a fcker was the a$$shole who just cut you off in traffic.

there are times where a quickie with your lover is fine. you both just want some wild monkey sex. An eye-opener to greet the new day. an orgasm may just be a gift to your lover, an experience to share. just hopefully not the beginning of a pattern.
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 71
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Posted: 2/17/2015 9:46:34 PM
Sounds like a good way to get STDs or end up on the Maury show.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 72
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Posted: 2/17/2015 11:09:30 PM

Is it possible to have the best of both worlds?
A lady in the streets and a whore in bed.
Yes, it is possible and it is called a two way street


YES I agree.
The same way you can have a gentleman on the street and a fabulous lover behind closed doors.


Much better than the alternative.

A whore in public and a cold fish behind closed doors. Who wants a man like that!!!!
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 73
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Posted: 2/17/2015 11:56:40 PM
brown eyed woman

The Madonna/whore complex. The men who want a respectable wife, i.e. not sexually uninhibited, soon look for the sexy lover elsewhere. They are the victim of their own double standard. It is possible to have both in one woman but some men seem to be intimidated by that. Had a guy do everything he could to sexually stimulate me and when I responded, called me "bad". Religious indoctrination has a lot to answer for. I could tell I would be nothing but FWB to him, so I didnt see him again. What women want is really "ravishment and respect".

I have had love and no sex and sex with no love, and then both together. I prefer that and would not settle for less ultimately. .
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 74
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Posted: 2/18/2015 1:09:24 AM
physical is just that but in many cases one or the other get caught up....when Im with a woman I give my all and enjoy her to the fullest which sometimes gets me in trouble......lol
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 75
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Posted: 2/18/2015 3:15:54 PM

Here's the dilemma...can you really have both in one person?

Yeah. I guess when you're in an LTR, you can't get that heightened "thrill" to a high degree -- although some couples will role-play and dress up and do stuff where they'll get a good taste of that. But you'll still have your truck-stop quickies with your GF/wife, and you'll have your times with candles and such, too. Just like you'll have your romantic Valentines Day with them, and then on March 14th you'll have Steak & BJ Day. A relationship doesn't have to carry one theme. If you only look at your SO as a "romantic entity", and that's all they Can be in your mind, then there's something missing.

I had both once and I let it slip away. Nothing beats a lover and a friend.

Oh, a Friend w/ Benefits? Yeah, I guess so. ;)
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 76
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Posted: 3/3/2015 4:24:36 AM
Never screwed unless both were happy bout it and there was some sort of magnetism....lol
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