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 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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We know 5 couples well. 2 of have been together for over 20 years...not married. In my social circle marriage and long term commitment are not synonymous. Actually, hasn't been since the earl 80's or so. Do all of you folks live in some Bible toting rural town somewhere?

Some of the posts from my gender are embarrassing. They come across as letters to the editor out of a 1930's homemaker magazine.
 JaiNai
Joined: 7/6/2013
Msg: 420
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/2/2013 8:38:41 AM
George Clooney has been married once.
When I meet a man over 50 who has never been married, I do wonder why. Is he afraid to take the chance? Has no one ever wanted to marry him? Is there something wrong with him?

Doesn't mean I wouldn't date him.

I also wonder the same about women over 50 who've never been married. I just can't imagine being that age and never having experienced marriage.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 8/2/2013 9:25:05 AM
-^^^^^

If you can't imagine it then you must have a very limited imagination. Were you raised in a small village or do yo live on a remote farm? What I 'can't imagine is someone with such a myopic and narrow set of experiences in life not to be aware of alternative lifestyles.

I find it quite easy to imagine a woman over 50 and not having experienced marriage. Very easy. I've known quite a few.
 JaiNai
Joined: 7/6/2013
Msg: 422
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/2/2013 2:44:33 PM
One doesn't have to imagine it. It's a fact that there are men and women over 50 who have never been married. From your post it would appear that you've only known women in that category.

From my personal viewpoint, I can't imagine what it would be like to be that age and never married. I don't actually try to imagine other people's experiences. It's just not one of my imagination priorities.
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/2/2013 3:34:16 PM
I'd be less concerned about someone never married than some posters locked in their small minded worlds.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 424
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/2/2013 4:16:30 PM

Reading some of the posts by the ladies & being a 52 yr old who has never been married or has kids. The phrase that springs to mind is "don't juge a book by it's cover". Blimey George Clooney is over 50 never married or had kids would you girls turn him down. The principles the same.


Um…..hm.

Since that was your first post I’ll go easy on you and just say, (some) women prefer not to be collectively labeled together like groupies for George Clooney, nor do we (some of us) appreciate being called “girls.”

And, NO……….it ain’t the same.

I don’t care what a man looks like, or how much money he supposedly has (I mean that IS Georgie’s criteria, correct?) I won’t allow myself to be used up and tossed away just to spend some time with him. Now he might be a very nice, funny man so we could be friends but that’s it.

OT

I really don’t care, and I wouldn’t judge a man for being over 50 and never married, as I wouldn’t want him judging me for my life choices. I’d rather get to know him for who he is; not imagine what his age and marital status implies.
 reallylucid
Joined: 5/27/2013
Msg: 425
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/4/2013 4:05:13 PM

I have come to this questions through my dating. Many women question a man over 50 been never married and come to a quick judgement of not even given a chance.


I just got out of a "relationship" (at least I kept thinking it was) with a man over 50 who had never been married. It took me 3 years to figure out it wasn't, so I'd have to say, I did not come to a "quick judgement".

I may be slow on that relationship thingie!
 JerseyTea
Joined: 5/19/2013
Msg: 426
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/18/2013 12:39:58 AM
I have come to this questions through my dating. Many women question a man over 50 been never married and come to a quick judgement of not even given a chance. Tell me ladies what is so bad about not being married over 50. Many times these men just haven't found the Miss right to live everlasting with. Why is this a turn off?

I have to disagree....I think both sexes questions this, and I'm hopeful they interpret the answers based on the individual...and not a stodgy, bitter old crank who can't change to accommodate new love, new situations, etc. in fact, I'm counting on it.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 427
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/18/2013 9:14:05 AM
If it bothers a woman, keep chasing the men who have been in multiple marriages and divorces. They seem like such a better catch.
 mermaid140
Joined: 8/29/2012
Msg: 428
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/18/2013 2:55:11 PM
Not to change the subject.
But, How about the question... You're divorced? What did you do? Really?? I just love that question...
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 429
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 8/30/2013 8:10:42 PM
May I make it another 5 and have a roll with this one.
Will they question that I escaped divorce - by never getting married ?
doubtful - I am not on their radar. I doubt I warrant the inquisition.

how did I make it to 50 without the alimony, child support, and divorce ?
by pure gile, luck..... and I am 5-6.
"Love" a nice little diorama of duration, proximity, frequency, money and you can convince yourself that you are 'in' it
"Attraction" lets you add in ht, weight, age - and six seconds of 'look'
start pulling them away like legs of a table, and it will collapse - early and often
 alexberks
Joined: 6/23/2006
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Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 9/7/2013 7:39:31 AM
I have to ask - how about the bloke who suffered a complete derailment of their sexual development earlier?

I suffered low-level sexual abuse from peers which caused me to shut down completely. It's only now that I'm fighting to reclaim those bits of me - I'm 43 now, but am currently recovering from cellulitis in my legs and getting the weight back down (I ate as analgaesic through the abuse years).

There is a possibility that I might be able to enter the fray for the first ever time in my 50s... would be one hell of a wrench if I;ve done all this work - to die a virgin.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 431
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 9/7/2013 8:20:00 AM
I view the men that are past 50 and never married or had children as the most intelligent of the males . They never had to suffer the joy of being dragged by their heels through no fault divorce court , after their wife was unfaithful . If you are the man they really put it to you . Even if you end up with full custody , there is no support for single fathers who have custody . Only in rare cases will a single father get any form of support when they have custody . That is how biased the legal scene is , so you intelligent men didn't miss anything by not getting married .
 SambaDeUmaNotaSo
Joined: 11/6/2012
Msg: 432
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 9/12/2013 3:40:52 PM
I am 52, single, and never married. I am in a wonderful relationship now, and I am only here for the forums.

I was engaged, in my 30's, for less than a week. The woman's family had already booked a "House of Worship," selected an interior decorator, and was moving things along at a blinding pace.

That all would have been fine with me, but it simply wasn't the right woman.

I proposed on the plane, on the way to meet the woman's parents. But first, I had wrapped the ring in a paper towel and put it in my pocket, planning a surprise proposal. However, I emptied my pockets before the flight, and threw the ring into the garbage, at the airport. That probably was a sign.

In my late 40's, I put a very large down-payment on a heart shaped diamond, as per the woman's preference. I planned to propose in the very near future.

I thought that I had fallen in love with a woman that had no children. I was wrong. She had informally adopted the neighbor's child. I ignored all the clues - a photo of the child on the keychain, photos of the child all over the house, the child's frequent spontaneous visits, and all the discussions about this child, and what she needed at the mall, at school, and everywhere else. I did not end up proposing. The down-payment became a very large never used credit at the jewelry store.

I would very much like to be married, but for this to happen, there has to be a solid match. This isn't about looks. It is about a match of essential personal qualities and values, and shared goals and styles.

I fall into the category of "never met the right woman," better stated as "never met the woman that is right for ME."

I think women are wonderful. I think marriage is beautiful.

There are many never-married single people like me, with lots of love to give, and we are waiting for our true love.
 silverfox97027
Joined: 9/18/2009
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Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 4/26/2014 7:28:52 PM
Don't you think that's a little unfair,i'm soon to be a 59 yr old guy who is single and unmarried.I've had a few girlfriends and a couple of them were live-in relationships unfortuntly they didn't end in marriage so why all the judging?I would love to find a sweet lady to get married too,where are they all at? I'm ready and willing for a relationship.
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