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 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 3
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It'll probably start innocently enough, then they'll start making changes "to serve us better'.

Such as setting limits on the # of posts you can make each day unless you're a paying member. Limiting the number of non-paying members allowed onto the site at any one time, so if the limit is already reached, you get shunted to a page explaining the benefits of being a paid member. Etc, etc.


I wonder, if this "payment" is to show other members you're serious about meeting someone, do you get a refund if you don't end up with someone?
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/6/2009 6:47:15 AM
I found that one as well yesterday. I won't be paying to upgrade my membership as I'm only serious about the forums. Overall I don't think it's going to help much. I agree that there are people on other paid sites who aren't very serious so paying a membership isn't going to make them any more serious. How does just paying a fee prove that someone is serious about dating?
 SpunkyPector
Joined: 2/24/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/6/2009 7:40:37 AM

Besides, everyone has a different defintion of what "serious" means when friendship/dating/relationship seeking.
We're all "serious" when the right situation/person comes along. ;)


I agree with this statement wholeheartedly
Also if someone is only out to get laid & not actually find someone they'd be happy with for a relationship...why wouldn't they pay?

If this actually happens, & those of us who've been here FOREVER ...my question will be "are we viewed as not serious if we don't pay?" hmmm
I certainly wouldn't pay for something that hasn't been working for over 3 years, so why would I pay to make someone else think I'm serious? There are many who are not what they claim to be as it is, so seriously does the big guy truly believe this will help clear out the rifraf? Not gonna happen... you'll just end up with another breed of rifraf.
Much as it's nice to view people who're in the same boat ~ when it really comes down to it...face to face is the only way to know if any relationship will work.
Enjoy your day Y'all
Keep Smilin`
 redsss
Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/6/2009 11:47:02 AM
I agree with Dano .

I will not be paying either!
 redsss
Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/6/2009 4:08:32 PM
Just because someone pays to be a member doesn't mean that he/she isn't going to play the games that some of the people on this site do.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2009 3:32:04 PM
Considering how many men are on sites like AFF,it makes you wonder if most of the guys who do upgrade are going to be in the "intimate encounter" category. Then they're sure to get laid when the women know they're "serious".
 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/8/2009 8:58:59 AM

I won't pay for an upgrade.... not worth it as I feel I am intellegiant enough to figure out quickly enough who is serious or not.



Ummmmm... don't want to rain on your parade, but you misspelled intelligent...


Sorry, couldn't resist... hope you know I'm just teasing you a bit, I've had several spelling mistakes here myself.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/8/2009 10:25:42 AM
Here I thought upgrading would be something that only men would probably do. While perusing profiles in the "friends" category I came across a lady who has taken the plunge. No,I'm not going to say who. You'll have to look for yourself.
 juan mo oclock
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/8/2009 2:26:35 PM
well this thread just got boring..............
 armaegis
Joined: 8/25/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/8/2009 10:46:08 PM
I have a female friend who is on both pof and one of the other paid sites, and she says that in general she has better luck with the paid site. It's not that the people are necessarily of higher quality, but there's less "crap" on the paid sites. Sure there are still idiots and dogs looking for a quick lay, but there's fewer of them.

The internet already allows anonymity and subsequent jackassery to the masses, but the lowest common denominators would rather do it for free.
 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/9/2009 9:48:20 AM
Like I said in an earlier post, do you get your $$ back if you aren't successful in finding someone?
 JustKeepSmiling
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/9/2009 12:28:21 PM
Yesterday, I received an email from "Bigfish", who apparently is Markus... I never realized he had a profile page as well as BEING the Big Fish in the pond.

The subject line was: Free Serious Member Upgrade

Markus wrote:

" You have been a member for a long time you have a good reputation and you have been seriously looking for someone. As thanks for supporting the site for so long I am going to give you a free serious member profile upgrade for a year!

Try it for a week or so and let me know how it works out! You can see what the upgrade does here! Do not order it as you already have it for free.

Markus."
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Sure enough, of a sudden my profile shows the yellow sunburst, on my profile page where ads used to be, beside my thumbnail when it shows anywhere, beside my profile name in an email sent... and apparently when I show in someone's search results my info will be in a gold field rather than the usual blue field.

How do I feel about this? Like I'm being used as an unwitting schill in this scheme. I did not "jump on board" to look "serious". In fact, I had written on my profile in January that I am currently not looking. I had left my profile up, since I have made many friends here, and brought many friends TO this site. We drop update notes to one another.

I was even compelled to write to my special man , let him know that NO, I did NOT pay to look Special to prospects on this site.

For now, I am reading and investigating how others are reacting to this -- but I think it will not be much longer before I hit "reply" on Markus' email, to let him know, "Thanks... but No Thanks."

Anyone else get "gifted" this way?
 armaegis
Joined: 8/25/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/11/2009 12:05:46 PM
I wonder what proportion of free upgrades has gone to men/women.
 Lucette325
Joined: 2/2/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/11/2009 8:55:46 PM
Let The Fish Swim Free!
 MsTree
Joined: 6/20/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:52:42 PM
This is the same thing I was asking about. So, if I don't pay means I am not serious? What a crock. NOT HAPPY ABOUT THIS.
 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/18/2009 1:37:59 PM
They tried something similar on the somespamsite site a while back; changed it so you had to be a paying member to view other people's webcams.

The change lasted about 1 week, when it was realized by the owners of the site that over 90 % of those that cammed were non-paying members, and if they couldn't watch other people's cams then they wouldn't turn their cams on. The number of people going to the sight dropped off steadily until they changed back to the old policy.
 MichaelPollard
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/18/2009 10:46:35 PM
I have no problem with an upgrade to "serious member" on filling out extra questionnaires, etc.

My problem is that the site clearly says that "it’s 100% FREE – there are no charges, ever."

As such, if an upgrade is offered, it should be a free upgrade. In fact, the Serious Member upgrade appears to be a free one, requiring questionnaires to be filled out in order to qualify.

Until you get to the end and it asks for payment.
 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 40
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Posted: 6/19/2009 6:18:48 PM
I'd still like to know, if you shell out for serious member status & after a time ( say 3 months) there's no noticeable change in the # of people you date off PoF can you get your money back?
 susan_cd
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 6/21/2009 1:37:35 PM
^ ^ ^ ^ I know, just putting the idea of a refund if serious member status doesn't improve anything ( other than the owner of the site's bank account). No way they'd agree to a refund if things don't pan out.
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