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 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 51
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LittleWant:

I don't get the midlife crisis thing and everyone having it. I'm very content with my life and have no need to compete with others on what vacations they go on vs. me or if I'm mssing out on life or not, or what I have vs. other people. I don't have the drama of romance and the consequences of reproduction and the drama you have to get wrapped up in while in those situations.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 9/5/2010 8:36:26 PM
Well, I've been married but didn't have kids.
Sometimes I think, it could have been more fun the other way around.
 92sc
Joined: 9/18/2010
Msg: 53
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 9/21/2010 8:47:05 PM
How can they ......if they didn't knock out a few kids in their 20's?
They live in a different time frame.
 KissMyKarma
Joined: 9/9/2010
Msg: 54
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 9/29/2010 7:22:33 PM
I've seen a few people, men and women, go through this.
But they've all been married.

It's like one day, literally, one day, they decide they've had enough of what their life is about and change it all up.
In the course of about 6 months they go get a new car, new wardrobe, new partner, different house, new kids, contact lenses and fake boobs.
Like somehow all the old stuff didn't do it for them and somehow all the same new stuff will.

I don't know if it's a bonafide phenom, but I know I've seen it.
But it's certainly not something everyone goes through.
And I wonder if some people's whole life is a crisis, so there's no point in sectioning out the middle part....
I suppose I would define "crisis" in this context as implusive, wandering, filling a void with all the wrong stuff kinda crisis. Maybe a certain amount of inner panic or avoiding the dissillusionment of life crisis.
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 55
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/1/2010 2:27:16 PM
I think happily married people with children have midlife crisis less frequently then divorced, unhappily married, childless or never married.
 Inanna44
Joined: 9/24/2010
Msg: 56
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/1/2010 11:43:49 PM
since we don't have to pay for a kids higher education or lose out financially from a divorce we have lots of options on dealing with mid life crisis. travelling the world and visiting a cosmetic surgeon are good starts.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 57
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/3/2010 7:33:58 AM
JS:

I tend to disagree. I know myself and what I've always wanted. I never got suckered into believing only marriage and reproduction makes you happy. I've lived my own life on my own terms - no one else's.
 HORSEFLY1234
Joined: 8/17/2010
Msg: 58
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/6/2010 10:26:11 AM

this is me... but it's not desperation - more depression.

until last year, i never even owned my own home. and i've never learned how to drive nor owned a car, nor travelled much at all.

i'm just a loser all around...
[slickwilliesvoice]Hillary, is that you?[/slickwilliesvoice]
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/6/2010 8:50:48 PM
Midlife crisis has nothing to do at all with kids, marriage, or the like. Midlife crisis is the term given to the emotional changes one goes through sometime between the ages of 40 & 60, and is nothing more than a term coined by a psychologist for these naturally occurring changes (likely hormonal, if you ask me). Let's not make a mountain out of a molehill!
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 60
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/8/2010 6:32:18 AM
For me it's not so much a "mid-life crisis", but many oppties/goals that I want to accomplish/have since I don't have to put any kids through college, etc.....Yes, I have them, but sure ain't no CRISIS!
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 61
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/8/2010 8:32:01 AM

they must be the best guys ever,fancy having no stress in your life,but that what makes life worth it at time.

husbands,kids,lovers,isnt thats what its all about?
Bet they have a disese,like,aversion to even getting close to anyone and at least having a go at life.


^^^Not necessarily. Not having a wife/husband and kids does not mean people don't have stress in their lives.

Is having a "go at life" defined by marriage and children? Not at all. Unmarried people do have relationships, family, etc....they just opt for whatever their reasons are to not take that route (marriage/kids).

For me life is about; being the best person/daughter/sister I can be while fulfilling my life goals and living a happy/healthy life!!! The rest is gravy..............
 tinkerbellcgy
Joined: 9/17/2005
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/8/2010 9:23:22 AM

they must be the best guys ever,fancy having no stress in your life,but that what makes life worth it at time.
husbands,kids,lovers,isnt thats what its all about?
Bet they have a disese,like,aversion to even getting close to anyone and at least having a go at life.


One only need ask if you have worn those rose coloured glasses your entire life? Gee, I seem to have experienced stress and all the other things that accompany day-to-day living the same as any other human being does as they walk through the path of life. The only exception is that the stress that I experience is not shared with anyone but borne entirely upon my own shoulders. It is a choice I made consciously.

I haven't looked upon my life as a "disease" or an "aversion to getting close to anyone" or "at least having a go at it" as you so succintly stated that those of us who chose a path other than marriage . Exhibiting tunnel vision, especially when donning rose coloured glasses, leaves one with a narrow view.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/8/2010 4:03:05 PM

husbands,kids,lovers,isnt thats what its all about?

you wonder if people who define themselves by their relationships know who they are - or even if they exist - when no one else is around.
 92sc
Joined: 9/18/2010
Msg: 64
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/10/2010 5:37:29 PM
It's been rough I went to a dealer and test drove a mini van. As I drove I thought about selling my motorcycles and drumset and boat , etc and imagined kids in the back seat as the imaginary wife told me joey needs this and jimmy needs that and how the water heater isnt working right. I went back to the dealer and told him its neat but I'm not ready yet.


" they must be the best guys ever,fancy having no stress in your life,but that what makes life worth it at time.
husbands,kids,lovers,isnt thats what its all about?
Bet they have a disese,like,aversion to even getting close to anyone and at least having a go at life." .......nope anybody can breed......
 StevieCashmere
Joined: 4/22/2009
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/23/2010 12:15:40 AM
Not everyone has a midlife crisis ~ and this kind of cliche seems to only happen in western lifestyles !, where people make life so complicated !

~stevie
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 66
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/23/2010 12:31:56 PM
I'm kissing the ground in gratitude myself and am on the verge of buying my 1st home. And...they tell me that it is never too late to fall in love. Sometimes it isn't a bad thing to be what society considers a late bloomer. It's all good!
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 67
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/2/2011 10:31:40 PM
never married, no kids,
garage full of bikes,
a jeep
a classic convertible
finishing a Masters Degree
Heading overseas.

No crisis needed.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 68
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/3/2011 6:00:23 AM
I think (mid life crisis) it's when you want what you haven't got/haven't experienced because the realization of a life half over suddenly hits...

so maybe for those never married, they want to get that way... for those with no kids, they want them?

Just guessing :)
 whatevs_meh
Joined: 1/4/2011
Msg: 69
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/15/2011 6:43:48 AM

never married, no kids,
garage full of bikes,
a jeep
a classic convertible
finishing a Masters Degree
Heading overseas.

No crisis needed.


Well no kidding you're not going through a crisis. You have your crisis kit at the ready. How would you even know if you're going through one? Would you have a burning desire to put up a white picket fence and buy a minivan?
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 70
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:46:03 PM
Like King Henry VIII of England, not having a son and heir?

A mid life crisis is when you wake up and say to yourself "Is this all there is?" That can happen to anyone, married, single, widowed, or divorced, under 45 or over 45.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 71
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:52:16 PM

Like King Henry VIII of England, not having a son and heir?

Bad example.He was married repeatedly and had many children.That psycho b*st*rd doesn't fit the topic of the thread at all.
 navycanuck
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 72
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/17/2011 3:35:28 PM
I am 51, never married, and have no kids. Personally I couldn't be happier and have no regrets. I am not going through a midlife crisis as I don't feel I have missed out on anything. I had a fantastic career in the military and seen as well done things people can only dream about. What is there to regret? I am still happy with my life; I get out with my friends, I travel, I still take classes to learn new things; and best of all I am almost debt free as I didn't have anyone to support. Honestly other than work stress and of course debt stress; I haven't had any major stress that has taken its toll on me. I think kids and marriage would be stressful as you have to wear many hats and have to please everyone but yourself. At least this is how my married friends describe it. Most wish they never had kids or a spouse and wish they could just be alone for a while. So, i am thinking I am lucky to not have married or had any kids. My only downside is trying to keep the weight off at my age which means many hours working out and watching everything I eat; but if that is the worst of it; then I will get through it.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 73
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/1/2011 2:46:44 PM
the white picket fence and mini van would indeed by a crisis for me.

One of the prominent stickers on the ADV bike is
"Death before Minivan"
 Seakytten
Joined: 10/2/2010
Msg: 74
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/8/2011 9:58:55 AM
I don't have any children and I've been single for the last 27 years so my 'mid-life' crisis has been going on for years I think. Actually OP, I see myself as a book with each chapter revealing something new about what I still want to do or where I want to be.

I still love to travel and I've planned a few trips in the future to Africa and Egypt. I can go alone and have just as good of a time as if I were going with someone else. I still want to sky dive at some point...it isn't a priority but it's on my list. I wanted to start an aquarium a few years ago and now I have a 55-gallon fresh water aquarium with the most beautiful fish you've ever seen..next year I plan to start a salt water aquarium raising coral..I guess I just never stopped dreaming about what I wanted to do when I turned 30, 40 or even 50 and made sure that whatever path I took in life I would still have the choice to make whatever dream I wanted come true. :) If that's a mid-life crisis then I've been in it for the last 40 years. lol

I'm just glad I don't want a tattoo or 10 piercings in my ears. (Although I'ma thinkin' about getting a piercing in my belly..)

kytten
 Dan99993
Joined: 11/29/2010
Msg: 75
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/10/2011 1:01:56 AM
If I'm going through a mid-life crisis, it's to want to get married to the love of my life.

But I don't feel in a crisis. Just the road is long and winding..
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