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 92sc
Joined: 9/18/2010
Msg: 76
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It's been rough I went to a dealer and test drove a mini van. As I drove I thought about selling my motorcycles and drumset and boat , etc and imagined kids in the back seat as the imaginary wife told me joey needs this and jimmy needs that and how the water heater isnt working right. I went back to the dealer and told him its neat but I'm not ready yet.


" they must be the best guys ever,fancy having no stress in your life,but that what makes life worth it at time.
husbands,kids,lovers,isnt thats what its all about?
Bet they have a disese,like,aversion to even getting close to anyone and at least having a go at life." .......nope anybody can breed......
 StevieCashmere
Joined: 4/22/2009
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No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/23/2010 12:15:40 AM
Not everyone has a midlife crisis ~ and this kind of cliche seems to only happen in western lifestyles !, where people make life so complicated !

~stevie
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 78
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/23/2010 12:31:56 PM
I'm kissing the ground in gratitude myself and am on the verge of buying my 1st home. And...they tell me that it is never too late to fall in love. Sometimes it isn't a bad thing to be what society considers a late bloomer. It's all good!
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 79
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/2/2011 10:31:40 PM
never married, no kids,
garage full of bikes,
a jeep
a classic convertible
finishing a Masters Degree
Heading overseas.

No crisis needed.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 80
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/3/2011 6:00:23 AM
I think (mid life crisis) it's when you want what you haven't got/haven't experienced because the realization of a life half over suddenly hits...

so maybe for those never married, they want to get that way... for those with no kids, they want them?

Just guessing :)
 whatevs_meh
Joined: 1/4/2011
Msg: 81
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 1/15/2011 6:43:48 AM

never married, no kids,
garage full of bikes,
a jeep
a classic convertible
finishing a Masters Degree
Heading overseas.

No crisis needed.


Well no kidding you're not going through a crisis. You have your crisis kit at the ready. How would you even know if you're going through one? Would you have a burning desire to put up a white picket fence and buy a minivan?
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 82
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:46:03 PM
Like King Henry VIII of England, not having a son and heir?

A mid life crisis is when you wake up and say to yourself "Is this all there is?" That can happen to anyone, married, single, widowed, or divorced, under 45 or over 45.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 83
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:52:16 PM

Like King Henry VIII of England, not having a son and heir?

Bad example.He was married repeatedly and had many children.That psycho b*st*rd doesn't fit the topic of the thread at all.
 navycanuck
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 84
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 2/17/2011 3:35:28 PM
I am 51, never married, and have no kids. Personally I couldn't be happier and have no regrets. I am not going through a midlife crisis as I don't feel I have missed out on anything. I had a fantastic career in the military and seen as well done things people can only dream about. What is there to regret? I am still happy with my life; I get out with my friends, I travel, I still take classes to learn new things; and best of all I am almost debt free as I didn't have anyone to support. Honestly other than work stress and of course debt stress; I haven't had any major stress that has taken its toll on me. I think kids and marriage would be stressful as you have to wear many hats and have to please everyone but yourself. At least this is how my married friends describe it. Most wish they never had kids or a spouse and wish they could just be alone for a while. So, i am thinking I am lucky to not have married or had any kids. My only downside is trying to keep the weight off at my age which means many hours working out and watching everything I eat; but if that is the worst of it; then I will get through it.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 85
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/1/2011 2:46:44 PM
the white picket fence and mini van would indeed by a crisis for me.

One of the prominent stickers on the ADV bike is
"Death before Minivan"
 Seakytten
Joined: 10/2/2010
Msg: 86
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/8/2011 9:58:55 AM
I don't have any children and I've been single for the last 27 years so my 'mid-life' crisis has been going on for years I think. Actually OP, I see myself as a book with each chapter revealing something new about what I still want to do or where I want to be.

I still love to travel and I've planned a few trips in the future to Africa and Egypt. I can go alone and have just as good of a time as if I were going with someone else. I still want to sky dive at some point...it isn't a priority but it's on my list. I wanted to start an aquarium a few years ago and now I have a 55-gallon fresh water aquarium with the most beautiful fish you've ever seen..next year I plan to start a salt water aquarium raising coral..I guess I just never stopped dreaming about what I wanted to do when I turned 30, 40 or even 50 and made sure that whatever path I took in life I would still have the choice to make whatever dream I wanted come true. :) If that's a mid-life crisis then I've been in it for the last 40 years. lol

I'm just glad I don't want a tattoo or 10 piercings in my ears. (Although I'ma thinkin' about getting a piercing in my belly..)

kytten
 Dan99993
Joined: 11/29/2010
Msg: 87
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/10/2011 1:01:56 AM
If I'm going through a mid-life crisis, it's to want to get married to the love of my life.

But I don't feel in a crisis. Just the road is long and winding..
 vtsnowflake
Joined: 1/21/2011
Msg: 88
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 6/8/2011 1:02:56 PM
I'm 52, never married and no children. I don't feel I missed out, it is just something that wasn't meant to be. I had a lot of struggles in life.
Because I am maternal and had free time, I watched after my nephews when my sisters worked. I give my love to them .
I would love to have a husband to love and care for...and scold and hug, lol. But at the same time I cannot put my life on hold until this happens. If I did, it would indeed be a midlife crisis.
I can still get married and baby my husband!
 Mermaidtoo
Joined: 1/31/2010
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Posted: 6/10/2011 2:33:05 PM
Good for you!! Sounds like you might have been a bit emotionally abused by your family/mom? Anyway, I say live up to your own standards & values! You're a mature woman now, no need to give all your power away to dysfunctional family members. Get your power back by creating a 'family' of friends who love you & accept you the way you are. Join a women's group. If alcohol is a problem within your family, Alanon for women is excellent for your self-esteem & sence of yourself.
Mega congrats on your home, now how about driving lessons?
 Mermaidtoo
Joined: 1/31/2010
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Posted: 6/10/2011 2:39:47 PM
DivineBovine, I wrote you a reply, but somehow it ended up on page 4. Just wanting tolet you know...
 LoveTheThunder
Joined: 1/29/2011
Msg: 91
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 6/18/2011 9:24:37 AM
I think that any sane person reaches a point in his/her life where they realize that more sand has passed through the hour-glass than there is remaining. One thinks about dreams and goals they had, and there comes a point when you realize "you can't have it all or do it all". At that point, people reassess what is important enough to them to change their life priorities, regardless of marriage or children.
 blueyeguy4u
Joined: 10/24/2010
Msg: 92
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 6/18/2011 11:57:37 AM
I'm 49,never married and no kids.I rode jetskis for a living most of my adult life.I have heard of the mid-life crisis but dont think I will have one.I dont feel like I have missed out on anything in life.Dating at 50 is another story all together.It seems women over 40 that still look good and take decent care of themselves as I do,are looking for a guy with money or a guy with a harley.Finding a woman that isnt going through a mid-life crisis is almost impossible,lol.....Or maybe its Oklahoma.Has anyone actually ever seen a height to weight chart?. Its called a BMI,body mass index..I dare you to look at yours,lol..
 forumchickonly
Joined: 4/30/2013
Msg: 93
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/8/2013 3:12:19 AM
I have not bred nor have I married .But I do do what makes me happy and gives me "me "time . Be it a road trip in the ute or ride my motor bike or go travel overseas.Nothing to crisis about here lol
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 94
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/8/2013 5:43:47 AM
I haven't had a mid life crisis. I guess my entire life has been one long, extended mid life crisis.
 pageforyou
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 95
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/8/2013 6:21:17 AM
It's been too long since I've heard your "voice", Serenity! I'm glad to see you around. : )

I'm having a stage but not a crisis. Having children does not mean they will be around you, for some people.
I had a son who has recently made me a grandmother. As he ages ( now 25) I become more and more of an inconvenience than anything else, in his eyes. THAT is how his "group" of men friends have always treated their Mothers, if they are single ones. He held out and we enjoyed each other' company till he turned 18. Then for some reason ... everything about me was "The Devil" ( no he's not religious). It certainly knocks the perceived notions I had about my future with him, right out, especially now that my son has a son of his own.

I'm not the cloying type and live in a different city. Still ... it's become "work" to go see him and the baby. He seems to have no basic social clues, even though he was noted for it by those he touched, till he left home. He enjoys putting me down for the brief time I am there and his wife is often conveniently absent.

Never have I put people down for not having children. For treating their dogs like they are ... maybe. : )

I did my best to ensure I didn't have the outcome I do with my now adult child and it wasn't enough to achieve that. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

I feel for my grandson, didn't think I would, so I keep the visits going, albeit less often and shorter. ;/
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 5/8/2013 6:53:07 AM
Those people that never been married or had children , most likely , are very happy people .I bet they are the smart people who saw this mess arriving with the failure of the institution of marriage . They avoided the trap most of us fell into .
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 97
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Posted: 5/8/2013 10:04:55 PM
Well 46 here never married and no kids, As happy as a clam. No idea about the midlife crisis what it should feel like or be like. What kind of effect it should have on me if I do go thru one right now? ? Need to lose 30lb but I'm very healthy no problems ... One thing I do know that if I would have dated or god forbid married the ex GF, I would have never been doing as well as I'm now... Damn life is good and I swear my life gets better midlife crisis or not.. So when people say that married men are better off then single men they should look again. I know that I'm not the only one who feels like that. I'm one of those people who are truly happy. Sometimes I wonder if there is any benifit what so ever to actualy be in a relationship.
I think midlife crises is when people wake up one morning and feel that they wasted most of there life and want to find what they could have had.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 98
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/9/2013 8:24:11 AM
I found many middle aged people who were happy to be alone now have health issues & financial worries, now they see the benefits in being partnered & are scrambling in the 11th hour...

THAT turns me off, big time!


I concur. In fact, that's where the old expression, "They're either looking for a nurse or a purse" comes from. I've noticed this is especially prevalent in people that had a close brush with death, e.g. a health scare such as cancer, heart attack, etc. or those that were involved in a major accident of some kind.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 99
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/9/2013 10:52:15 AM
^^^^^^^^ It could be the type of people are you around... Most of the people I see are active and in fairly good to excelent shape. If you go to meet up group that I go to, You would meet anywhere from teens to early 80s. With most are being between early 20s to late 50s. Almost all of them are single, So that would say being single is good for many people. I meet those people at outdoor activities most of the time. Maybe If I hang around Bingo places there would be diffrent kind of people to meet.
Change the places you go to and the type of people you meet. I'm more worried that I would end up having to take care of someone be it money or health.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 100
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 5/9/2013 11:40:12 AM
It could be the type of people are you around... Most of the people I see are active and in fairly good to excelent shape. If you go to meet up group that I go to, You would meet anywhere from teens to early 80s. With most are being between early 20s to late 50s. Almost all of them are single, So that would say being single is good for many people. I meet those people at outdoor activities most of the time. Maybe If I hang around Bingo places there would be diffrent kind of people to meet.


It has absolutely nothing to do with the people with whom I socialize. A debilitating car or motorcycle accident can happen to anyone at any time. Moreover, there's often a genetic component involved that predisposes a person to develop heart disease or certain cancers---even in a person who appears to be fit and active. I once met a seemingly fit man who had suffered a heart attack while playing tennis.
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