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 smokefriendly
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 91
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I don't think it is an age thing. I think it is more experience. Sex is almost like drugs. As you get excited and pleasure from one specific act you are always looking for more of a high.

I remember getting my first BJ, nothing could have been better. Then I got my first deep throat, again, nothing better. Always looking for something new and exciting, it is in our nature.
 tigershark7778
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 92
Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:20:31 AM
They want sex the most at that age because it's their last chance to poop out a kid.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 96
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Posted: 3/26/2009 4:00:50 PM
oohlala: Even if it is true what you say...who's problem is this? Us older women...or the boys who think such? Seems to me, if anyone ( which I'm not saying is so) is guilty of bad behavior here, it is the young guys who upset you..how we are as older women isn't going to change..took many of us years to get to the place we are...and most of us are very happy about it...and as others have said, you won't understand till you get here...it isn't an insult, it is just the truth...I didn't get it either at your age...

I have a lot of younger guys hit on me...but, in truth, most wouldn't consider me for a long term or marriage relationship..when they grow up a bit...they will be looking for more than what they think is "hot" sex...like children and family, emotional connections, life experiences in common...it will not always be this way...

And I'm absolutely positive they aren't all that way now...don't worry about the ones who don't behave in ways you approve of..seek out the ones who do...
 relaxedtimede
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 98
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Posted: 3/27/2009 8:02:45 AM
obviously I cannot speak for the women. The reason I enjoy sex with older women is because they just do not dwell on things that younger women do. It is a comfort factor with the person. I can remember being with women in my 20's where a BJ was so gross and they just did not know how to express their sexual desires.
 SuzanneKat
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 100
Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 3/29/2009 5:27:44 AM
Speaking for myself, intimacy keeps getting better with age. Once past menopause and the thought of getting pregnant was no longer a factor a whole new world opened up. The bad thing is most men my age are looking for younger women. They have no idea the fun they are missing with an experienced woman that knows what she wants. I have to laugh every time I see a male profile that he is looking for someone 20 yrs. younger. Be careful what you wish for ... Sure older women may not have the bodies they did when they were younger (who does) but we sure know how to use them to not only satisfy our partners but ourselves over and over again.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 101
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Posted: 3/29/2009 9:35:32 AM

makes me wonder why an older woman would want to date a younger guy, too... especially if she was smart and successful in her own right.


I can't speak for everyone...but a simple answer would be: because it's fun?..lol...and some women if they are smart and successful, took them a while to get there, and they are now ready to have some fun ? Depends on what they are looking for. My educated guess would be, that, most of the time, they aren't looking for long term either. I have dated mostly men younger than me most of my life...only once or twice was it a significant difference(more than 7-10 years) ..but, it was never something I was specifically looking for, just the way it worked out. And a not meant to be, but slightly sarcastic response is: because they can?

For all the attendant disadvantages, including not likely to be long term, some of the advantages are nice for the short term...they are not likely to be bitter or jaded, they are more active and fun, you feel younger when with them, they are often far more appreciative of you, and they haven't yet developed any preconceived notions about women , most likely. I mean, turn it around...why do some older men like dating younger women? (aside from fertility).

I really don't believe it is some evil plan to steal all the young guys from the young girls, and like I said, it all works out eventually..those few that actually work for more permanent situations, are in the minority..

I do find it interesting that there are far more threads on here about older women and younger men than vice versa...there is still a stigma about women making unconventional choices.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 3/29/2009 9:57:41 AM
there is still a stigma about women making unconventional choices.


The more the subject is discussed and extolled, as it seems the majority of posters here do, the less novel and "unconventional" it becomes.
I see the older woman/younger man issue far differently; your choices have an element of finality, or at least consummation, while the male's choices are more conventionally whom to pursue. I also think that your gender's behavior, for a host of reasons, is more newsworthy. Lol.
My sense of the treatment of the older women/younger man issue is that it earns the approbations of a large majority of the vocal pofers (however faulty that sample, and any poll sample, may be), while any preference, occasionally stated, but far more often presumed, of an older male for a younger woman is by virtual consensus (on pof forums) decried and vilified (despite the rife claims that the older man/younger woman is "accepted" societal practice).
Is pof representative of the real world? LOL!! Yeah, I can just anticipate the responses to this rhetorical question. But the pof posters do come from a "realer world" (I think, Lol), and almost all of the posts I read seem to have at least a dash of RL mixed in. Lol.
These are just my impressions, riddled with exceptions, but I do believe that women have and exercise an abundance of choices in RL, and the "stigma" you mention is, at best, media coverage. I saw an interview of Dick Cheney recently, and the interviewer asked whether he was aware that the Iraq war was overwhelming disliked by the general public. His blithe but sincere response was, "So?" Nobody probably cares about what he said, anymore than he cared about public opinion, but the point of this is that his views/behavior would go unnoticed, as in never an issue to be discussed, if he did not hold the power to act upon his impulses.
JMHO. Peace.
 EvilLolli
Joined: 12/7/2008
Msg: 109
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Posted: 3/29/2009 7:18:53 PM
Maybe the confidence comes from them knowing they have the know how and the ability to use it? The more often you are successful at accomplishing something(minor task or amazing orgasm)the more it does to boost your confidence. Confidence in one arena of life does not always translate confidence in all arenas. You may be a confident public speaker, but a timid bedroom mouse.
Sexual prowess is a diffent animal than know-how. You can "know how" to give a BJ, but the prowess comes into play when you do it well and enjoy it. It also has to do w/ a willingness to learn and have fun w/ it. Its the difference between the mechanics of the act and the expression of the act.

The combination of confidence, know-how, and sexual prowess can be a lethal combination in the world of dating and sex. All three are needed to create a really wonderous experience, otherwise you end up w/ an imbalance.
 49nholden
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 111
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Posted: 4/1/2009 10:58:59 AM
Yes older women are generally less inhibited indeed and are experienced and are not hung up on the little things that a young women may be. As an old dude of course I can appreciate this and maybe understand how the young fellas would seek that experience and comfort of an older woman.
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 Whatyouc
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 4/9/2009 2:59:53 PM
dlm get's it, and that's very sexy. Confidence is a magnet to men just as it is to women. Surely you all realize that you are drawn to a man who is comfortable in his own skin. Someone who doesn't need your approval to be themselves.
Knowing what you want and simply going for it without reservation is sexy.
Accepting your own body and your own sexuality is too.
Give me a woman who doesn't second guess herself. One who isn't worried about what you'll think of her in the morning because she knows it's not her issue, it's yours.

Great sex is a gift you give to your lover and she in turn gives back to you. dlm is right, it is about what happens before and after. Touch, anticipation, connection, trust, closeness, flirting, playing, teasing. With the right older woman the indecisiveness is gone, and you can concentrate on each other. How hot is that?
 Street King
Joined: 5/25/2008
Msg: 119
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Posted: 4/11/2009 3:42:02 AM
You missed one really important one. Older woman in their 30s who keep their bodies in good shape are far more attractive and sexier than a woman in her 20s. Its like comparing a woman to a little girl. There's NO COMPARISON. Older women simply look alot better than younger women and they're WAY MORE SEXIER too.javascript:smilie('')
 Street King
Joined: 5/25/2008
Msg: 120
Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 4/11/2009 5:22:19 AM
From my experience age doesn't really make a difference. Yeah on the one hand older women seem more sexier and more physically attractive because they're poise and physique are more womanly than a 20 something. It's the same correlation with a 20something year old guy and a 30 something year old man. For the most part the older man will be more manly and distinguished than his younger counterpart. But if you get past the surface aspects there is no difference sexually. I've been with 30 somethings and 20 somethings. They're exactly the same: same fears/insecurities/emotional baggage, etc. The only difference is that as a woman grows older she becomes better at hiding her pain with a facade of "confidence" while when she was younger expressed it erratically. This is where the whole notion of older women being less sexually inhibited -having sex like a man comes from. It's a facade. A woman was never designed for this based upon natural masculine/feminine principles. In the context of a long term relationship these older women will become the same 20 year olds that they're supposedly more mature than. That's why many of these so called older woman -younger man relationships are so brief. They have to be quick because once you get past the infatuation stage you trigger the the emotional guards and as a result the younger man realizes nothing changes. That emotionally she's the same 20 year old in a 30+ or 40+ body.; she's emotionally stunted. Many older woman who tout the experience card usually haven' t grown emotionally. As a result they choose to act like men when dating/relational intimacy/sex are concerned. All it takes is an individual with the right keys to unlock a woman's heart and soul and all of this older woman non sense goes quickly out the window. - The game hasn't changed just the players have changed.
 Elizabeth42
Joined: 4/2/2009
Msg: 121
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Posted: 4/11/2009 7:17:00 AM
Older women, in my opinion, are not less inhibited, but are a little wiser in their choices of partners. We are more experienced, for the most part, than younger women, but how inhibited or not inhibited is based mostly on your feelings for the other person. Trying to impress someone with all the exciting things you know about sex is silly....and even if you have only read about it in a book and want to try it, it's sometimes not an easy thing to discuss with someone else. Usually, when you are very young and you marry, you know next to nothing about real sex....and so you may well be somewhat inhibited about sex. Then, should you get divorced you quickly learn a lot more....perhaps faster than you think. You go through learning that people will lie about all sorts of things and you learn to watch for red flags...and it's smart to follow that little bit of hesitation you may have. Once you get to know someone and know that you can trust them, then you become unihibited to whatever degree your own personal experiences will let you.

How's that for a thought for an "older" lady???
 3Therm0pylae0
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 6/1/2009 8:57:52 PM
All I can say is that of the women I've been with, the older ones win it in the bedroom. I don't mind the younger ones, but usually, they're more inhibited and selfish and expect me to do everything and be greatful that they're in bed with me, instead of us both just enjoying ourselves and appreciating each other. The mature attitude of older women will always keep me coming back.
 WhiteKnightX
Joined: 4/7/2009
Msg: 126
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Posted: 6/3/2009 12:05:35 AM
Posts 4 and 5 made some very good, often-overlooked points...my compliments. I didn't have time to read all of this, but i didn't notice anyome mention that older women (and men) are more eperienced than younger ones, and have learned how to please their partners. It seems like people will always be less inhibited about doing anything when they are better at it.
 balrog78251
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 127
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Posted: 6/3/2009 1:55:36 AM
i just wanted to say i got out of a relationship with a 43 year old and it sounds pretty much like this but i have a ? if you dont mind why lie about all that crap and drag it along for a whole year and a half just come out and be honest about it so no one gets hurt i mean dont bring up stuff that you dont mean leave it to me to find the crazy ones but i will admit i dont regrate any of it it was a great experiance and well i dont plan on going back i kinda liked the whole bossy and ****ed at thing i cant figure it out ive never meet a bigger excuse me for saying **** in my life but well i kinda liked it i guess the age thing is more intimadating then the younger i dont know
 gracengracie
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 6/3/2009 2:44:35 AM
I would just make it simper....OLDER WOMEN are more confident.
Once you trust and like yourself, you feel free which is a wonderful thing when you make love or have sex ( depending on yr case).

There are plenty of articles about why men prefer older women. Poster's have mostly given the reasons why. What I recall from a Yahoo or MSN article I read some months ago:

1. Older women do not need to prove themselves, they are more confident.
2. Older women are financially stable, not looking for a man to pay their bills.
3. Older women cant get pregnant, so they can enjoy sex with less worries.
4.Older women don't not have the need to fit in. They already have a place in society, like have been wives, are mothers, etc, etc.
5. Older women are not looking for a husband for the most part.
6. Older women are comfortable with their bodies.
 1dustyroad
Joined: 4/17/2011
Msg: 130
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Posted: 8/19/2011 9:57:39 PM
Boredom with the same o same o is the reason we explore more and new and different. The older we are, the more we've learned. I supect the person who started this topic only met an ol;der woman or two and come to this shellow conclusion. Is young and dumb something older and wizer people bounce around younger people. Nope. Once we learn how good sex can be. We are more likely to be like Debinks. Men too if they have focused on their sex. multiorgasms are possable for older men. So I say it's not about inhibited. but about being smarter.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 131
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:12:59 AM

It is actually my belief that the trend in younger men being interested in "cougars" and "MILFs" is entirely driven by the porn industry. When I was in my 20's, absolutely none of my circle of friends had any interest whatsoever in much older women. Of course, if there even was a whole genre of porn dedicated to that at the time, none of us had the easy access to it that the Internet now affords.


I agree with this. I don't believe that older women and younger guys has been happening all along. Not to the degree it is now. I dare say the cases of this years ago, were much more rare. I don't think it has just become more open. When we were young, we knew what our peers were up to. Part of the immaturity thing, was that young (teens/20 something) people are not usually good at keeping secrets. We knew who was screwing who, generally speaking.
I do think that women and men both get sexier with time and experience. I'm sorry if that offends anyone who is real young. You younguns have your own perks that we can't compete with, so enjoy and embrace life right where you are at. Like someone here said, it passes so quickly.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 8/23/2011 10:46:07 AM
Much Less..!!
Depending on the parameters of 'Old'..!!
I rather like an 'older', less inhibited, agressive Lady..!!
Very much as I am less inhibited..!!

I used to be Mr. SHY...but with some training, respect and self-confidence, I can try to impress a woman with more than a 9 x 2 manhood..!!
Older women are looking for more than Lumber...
but they sure know what to DO With It..!!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 133
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Posted: 8/23/2011 2:56:07 PM
OP- ain't there a country song called "older women, are beautiful lovers"


seriously- the older woman being better lovers thing is a bit of a myth at some level...while true in others...


it means by age 35, the average woman is beginning to have her biological clock kicking in gear...ticking away telling her to procreate more before her uterus has to reitred to pasture...

she has had enough sex at that point in her life that she is likely more comfortable with actually having sex and realizing that they have to do something more than lay there like a dead lay.


of course, at the same time - a young woman who is still incredibly innocent with men and has not been beat up by men emotionally....to me those women are incredibly erotic...
 nowordscandescribeme
Joined: 7/29/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 8/23/2011 5:08:04 PM
messege 7 Pitch Blease Nailed it..

I've always had a natural attraction for women between 32-40 and always connected better with them, found them to be more appealing to me, and big part of it, is because their matured, they know what they want, and their not afraid to go for it, they know there bodies alot better, and they know how to use their body's to get results.

They just cut through th bs, and usually are more secure, and open. God Bless you lovely older women =)
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 135
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Posted: 8/23/2011 6:09:08 PM
All I know is that if I don't find a man soon, my prime will have left and it'll be too late to enjoy! Just my luck! Sheez...


Shortly before my nephew married his kayak partner, both at age 32 (first time each), I jokingly asked her what the urgency was, to get married and all, and asked her if her bio-clock was ticking. She nodded her head, and said, "What's the past tense of 'tock'?" At about that same time, talking with my older sister, I mentioned that I'd just seen an interview with Jane Fonda, and that I liked what I'd heard. Her take was that Jane had devoted her life to pleasing men, and my sister just said, "Pffft. What's the point in that?"


Those changes/attitude adjustments that women go through as they age, discussed in previous posts, aren't reserved exclusively to women. Women do seem to start wound too tight, but kinda loosen up with, well, use. lol Men, often wild at first, seem to "tighten up" as they age (pressurized by job demands, supporting a family, trying to get most of the "honey-do's" done so there's some sex in the offing, etc.).
Comes a point in every human's life, after some measure of use and abuse, that the light comes on about just whose life is getting led by whom. lol
25 is probably years away from that, and most start shedding the inhibitors before 50.

From this thread, and the several others that she's started, my sense is that OP hasn't quite found her balance yet, or a good place to start from each morning. Pretty standard for a 20-something, soooo, Bon chance, OP.
 ForumFlashLight
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 136
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Posted: 8/23/2011 7:59:03 PM
Well, your theory that 35 is not the peak for biological reasons...could stand to be informed by some research. Ask your ob/gyn if you don't believe all these experienced women.

35 is the average peak for a very good reason. Prior to that, the ovaries take turns releasing an egg. After that average age, it goes double-barrelled frequently.

Since that is the average peak, and we are climbing that peak gradually, you may actually feel the hit at around 30-31....as a serious uptake in desire. Surprisingly, shockingly serious. Nothing really to do with beliefs or attitudes.

I was supposedly infertile, but became pregnant at 36. For very good reason...increased desire x increased frequency x increased awareness of that ovulatory time frame (not consciously aware of the actual ovulation window but I did want to slam somebody up against a wall).

Others things change too. Take it as good news of good things to come.

YES. Older women are less inhibited about sex than we were in our 20s.

Doesn't mean we'll steal your boyfriends.

Just means we might teach 'em a thing or two.
 Jypzee
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 137
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Posted: 8/23/2011 9:16:56 PM
the #1 reason i have heard stated by younger men as to why they like older women is: older women r not into all that drama....seems younger guys aren't either.....
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