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 balrog78251
Joined: 7/24/2008
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i just wanted to say i got out of a relationship with a 43 year old and it sounds pretty much like this but i have a ? if you dont mind why lie about all that crap and drag it along for a whole year and a half just come out and be honest about it so no one gets hurt i mean dont bring up stuff that you dont mean leave it to me to find the crazy ones but i will admit i dont regrate any of it it was a great experiance and well i dont plan on going back i kinda liked the whole bossy and ****ed at thing i cant figure it out ive never meet a bigger excuse me for saying **** in my life but well i kinda liked it i guess the age thing is more intimadating then the younger i dont know
 gracengracie
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 6/3/2009 2:44:35 AM
I would just make it simper....OLDER WOMEN are more confident.
Once you trust and like yourself, you feel free which is a wonderful thing when you make love or have sex ( depending on yr case).

There are plenty of articles about why men prefer older women. Poster's have mostly given the reasons why. What I recall from a Yahoo or MSN article I read some months ago:

1. Older women do not need to prove themselves, they are more confident.
2. Older women are financially stable, not looking for a man to pay their bills.
3. Older women cant get pregnant, so they can enjoy sex with less worries.
4.Older women don't not have the need to fit in. They already have a place in society, like have been wives, are mothers, etc, etc.
5. Older women are not looking for a husband for the most part.
6. Older women are comfortable with their bodies.
 1dustyroad
Joined: 4/17/2011
Msg: 130
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Posted: 8/19/2011 9:57:39 PM
Boredom with the same o same o is the reason we explore more and new and different. The older we are, the more we've learned. I supect the person who started this topic only met an ol;der woman or two and come to this shellow conclusion. Is young and dumb something older and wizer people bounce around younger people. Nope. Once we learn how good sex can be. We are more likely to be like Debinks. Men too if they have focused on their sex. multiorgasms are possable for older men. So I say it's not about inhibited. but about being smarter.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 131
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Posted: 8/20/2011 5:12:59 AM

It is actually my belief that the trend in younger men being interested in "cougars" and "MILFs" is entirely driven by the porn industry. When I was in my 20's, absolutely none of my circle of friends had any interest whatsoever in much older women. Of course, if there even was a whole genre of porn dedicated to that at the time, none of us had the easy access to it that the Internet now affords.


I agree with this. I don't believe that older women and younger guys has been happening all along. Not to the degree it is now. I dare say the cases of this years ago, were much more rare. I don't think it has just become more open. When we were young, we knew what our peers were up to. Part of the immaturity thing, was that young (teens/20 something) people are not usually good at keeping secrets. We knew who was screwing who, generally speaking.
I do think that women and men both get sexier with time and experience. I'm sorry if that offends anyone who is real young. You younguns have your own perks that we can't compete with, so enjoy and embrace life right where you are at. Like someone here said, it passes so quickly.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 8/23/2011 10:46:07 AM
Much Less..!!
Depending on the parameters of 'Old'..!!
I rather like an 'older', less inhibited, agressive Lady..!!
Very much as I am less inhibited..!!

I used to be Mr. SHY...but with some training, respect and self-confidence, I can try to impress a woman with more than a 9 x 2 manhood..!!
Older women are looking for more than Lumber...
but they sure know what to DO With It..!!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 133
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Posted: 8/23/2011 2:56:07 PM
OP- ain't there a country song called "older women, are beautiful lovers"


seriously- the older woman being better lovers thing is a bit of a myth at some level...while true in others...


it means by age 35, the average woman is beginning to have her biological clock kicking in gear...ticking away telling her to procreate more before her uterus has to reitred to pasture...

she has had enough sex at that point in her life that she is likely more comfortable with actually having sex and realizing that they have to do something more than lay there like a dead lay.


of course, at the same time - a young woman who is still incredibly innocent with men and has not been beat up by men emotionally....to me those women are incredibly erotic...
 nowordscandescribeme
Joined: 7/29/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 8/23/2011 5:08:04 PM
messege 7 Pitch Blease Nailed it..

I've always had a natural attraction for women between 32-40 and always connected better with them, found them to be more appealing to me, and big part of it, is because their matured, they know what they want, and their not afraid to go for it, they know there bodies alot better, and they know how to use their body's to get results.

They just cut through th bs, and usually are more secure, and open. God Bless you lovely older women =)
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 135
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Posted: 8/23/2011 6:09:08 PM
All I know is that if I don't find a man soon, my prime will have left and it'll be too late to enjoy! Just my luck! Sheez...


Shortly before my nephew married his kayak partner, both at age 32 (first time each), I jokingly asked her what the urgency was, to get married and all, and asked her if her bio-clock was ticking. She nodded her head, and said, "What's the past tense of 'tock'?" At about that same time, talking with my older sister, I mentioned that I'd just seen an interview with Jane Fonda, and that I liked what I'd heard. Her take was that Jane had devoted her life to pleasing men, and my sister just said, "Pffft. What's the point in that?"


Those changes/attitude adjustments that women go through as they age, discussed in previous posts, aren't reserved exclusively to women. Women do seem to start wound too tight, but kinda loosen up with, well, use. lol Men, often wild at first, seem to "tighten up" as they age (pressurized by job demands, supporting a family, trying to get most of the "honey-do's" done so there's some sex in the offing, etc.).
Comes a point in every human's life, after some measure of use and abuse, that the light comes on about just whose life is getting led by whom. lol
25 is probably years away from that, and most start shedding the inhibitors before 50.

From this thread, and the several others that she's started, my sense is that OP hasn't quite found her balance yet, or a good place to start from each morning. Pretty standard for a 20-something, soooo, Bon chance, OP.
 ForumFlashLight
Joined: 5/16/2011
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Posted: 8/23/2011 7:59:03 PM
Well, your theory that 35 is not the peak for biological reasons...could stand to be informed by some research. Ask your ob/gyn if you don't believe all these experienced women.

35 is the average peak for a very good reason. Prior to that, the ovaries take turns releasing an egg. After that average age, it goes double-barrelled frequently.

Since that is the average peak, and we are climbing that peak gradually, you may actually feel the hit at around 30-31....as a serious uptake in desire. Surprisingly, shockingly serious. Nothing really to do with beliefs or attitudes.

I was supposedly infertile, but became pregnant at 36. For very good reason...increased desire x increased frequency x increased awareness of that ovulatory time frame (not consciously aware of the actual ovulation window but I did want to slam somebody up against a wall).

Others things change too. Take it as good news of good things to come.

YES. Older women are less inhibited about sex than we were in our 20s.

Doesn't mean we'll steal your boyfriends.

Just means we might teach 'em a thing or two.
 Jypzee
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 137
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Posted: 8/23/2011 9:16:56 PM
the #1 reason i have heard stated by younger men as to why they like older women is: older women r not into all that drama....seems younger guys aren't either.....
 groovygirl69
Joined: 8/19/2011
Msg: 139
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Posted: 8/26/2011 1:47:14 PM
Sadly that is not how biology or evolution works. It isn't about "having time to recover". It is about what genes get passed on most frequently.

If an older woman has a better chance to pass on her gene's then the biology will follow that by virtue of directing the populace towards older women being more desireable.

Of course it could be completely random and a product of genetic drift for that matter.

I think that older women are sexier becuase they have fewer body issues, know what they want, and have way more experience. They are also further removed from the sexual guilt that so plagues so many young girls.

Just my take.
 ClaireChristine
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 140
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Posted: 8/26/2011 11:17:54 PM
Good one! Beauty is as beauty does and doesnt substitute for a bad attitude as you say. Chemistry is a mysterious elusive thing and cannot be predicted or defined.

I agree that as women mature they lose the need to please at the expense of their own wants perhaps and can be more uninhibited in their desires as well as losing the fear of pregnancy which is a huge one and often financially independent too.

There is no mystery as to why lots of young guys go for the older woman.
No commitment, learn a thing or two and maybe splashes the cash around.
However being able to go all night and having a hot bod doesnt make up for a lack of
sexperience and selfish attitudes.
 valleyguyaz
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 141
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Posted: 8/27/2011 3:26:13 AM
from my experiences i would have to say that older women are less inhibited.i think younger women seem to appreciate the moment less than older women.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 142
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Posted: 8/27/2011 5:57:11 AM

from my experiences i would have to say that older women are less inhibited.i think younger women seem to appreciate the moment less than older women.


What a charmingly equitable post!!!! Spanks no one, gives kudos to all.

"Appreciate the moment"? Reminds me of Yoda's admonition to Luke-always thinking about where's he going, never where he is. Lol
I dunno, I did bump into a slew of exquisitely pliable "coeds" (such a divisively demeaning separate-but-equal word, lol) in college, and I've been on the hunt for the spirit of a wild child ever since.
 Jypzee
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 143
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Posted: 8/27/2011 7:53:00 AM
some people have preferences...like some want BBWomen (or BBMen)..some are so into the feet or other body parts (big boobs, ect)..some want people from outside their race, some want others of their same sex, and some prefer older women (or men)..there's no accounting for taste...
 malldva1
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 144
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Posted: 8/27/2011 9:34:45 AM
I can tell you from my own experience, before I hit 40 I had very little sex drive and was pretty inhibited. I'm sure my Catholic upbringing and very sheltered parents had EVERYTHING to do with it. I also did not know my body very well and I didn't know how to express what I liked or disliked. But, after 40 I started wanting sex all the time, to the point where it is was all I could think about. Thank goodness I've discovered the joys of using a vibrator. It has taught me volumes about what my body can do :) But, given how quickly the transition from low libido to high libido occurred, I have to guess that it was hormone related. I went through menopause at 45 and my sex drive is still through the roof. And now that I am more educated about my body, I am not the least bit inhibited. Its more like "Hey, lets see what happens if we do THIS ..." :)

I really wish they gave out vibrators to teenage girls in high school. If they did, there wouldn't be a need to hand out condoms
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 146
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Posted: 8/27/2011 11:18:19 AM
Thank goodness I've discovered the joys of using a vibrator. It has taught me volumes about what my body can do :)


You're an engineer, and you just now discovered the tool set?!!!!! Lol Kind of a late bloomer, it seems. lol

But, given how quickly the transition from low libido to high libido occurred, I have to guess that it was hormone related.

Better living through chemistry! lol I've known about that testosterone kick for a looooong time. lol


I went through menopause at 45 and my sex drive is still through the roof. And now that I am more educated about my body, I am not the least bit inhibited. Its more like "Hey, lets see what happens if we do THIS ..." :)


ROFLMAO!!!
That's the engineer training kickin' in. Blinded by science. Lol


I really wish they gave out vibrators to teenage girls in high school. If they did, there wouldn't be a need to hand out condoms


I've been preaching that very thing on this site for, oh, a couple years now, and I think you're the first one who I've seen say the same thing. BUT, I was thinking the vibes could be learning devices, like those dolls that they program to cry in the middle of the night and then send them home with high school kids to see just how much they really want kids, lol- not as and end product, to all-consume ya (that's what video games are for!). I think you're 'sposed ta move through the "training" with all that self-discovery so that you can take on a live toy!


I'm 46 and I look about 35 . . .


K, what's with the shameless self-promotion but no pics on the profile? lol My experience on this site tells me mere word-pictures are just not good 'nuff. Lol


and I don't have children at home now so it's true, once all the parenting thing is done and you know who you are and what you want to do with your life, The freak comes out.


You went from the first birth til the last one left to get freaky? !! Lol Must be another late-bloomin' engineer.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 147
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Posted: 8/27/2011 12:19:15 PM
~OT~ Back in the day? I was a prude. Not a usual prude....a P-R-U-D-E!!! Thank God for aging and becoming comfortable with "who" I am. Geez, how I survived all those years is a mystery to be now.
 1dustyroad
Joined: 4/17/2011
Msg: 148
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Posted: 9/23/2011 5:32:58 PM
I don't know what happened to this form. or when I started it. I' 56 and I'm sure I didn't write it 20 years ago.. What I ment about older women, was whay you were discribiing in the first part of your post. I agree I noticed it when I was about thirty. But it is still true today. for me and what I know. My last relationship was as good as the one that made me aware of the differance between younger and older women. Now ... all the women I know are older.. I can even date younger women now and they are still older then the women who was 7 years older them me when I was 30. I think it is just lack of experance and some of the mind games or head trips/ guilt trip parents put on out generation. I can't say if that is still true today because it's been a while that I have had sex with a 25 year old , or a 35 year old.. Or a 45 year old for that mattter. To me 50 is a younger woman. But I can say that alot of sex is in the mind. and being able to let go of what ever it is that keep a women from enjoying sex more is sometning they have to learn to do. Like men having multable orgasms. I was over 50 when I fiset experanced that. So for one to thing that it can't get better, or not to know that it can get better is just holding them selves back. That goes for both men and women. Being smarter is the key I believe. at 20 -30 years old. You just don't know as much as when older people . Unless you read of someone older teached you. Younger women don't date older men but women will date younger guys. Guys learn alot from older women. Girls learn over time by luck. Because they don't date older guys. If you are planning to have a family. dating someone your own age may be best and maybe that is whay girls don't date older men. Older women normally have kids allready and are out for better sex and end up being the teacher. All the young guy has going for him is youth. Older people make better lovers.
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 149
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Posted: 9/23/2011 6:14:33 PM
I agree that as we mature we become less inhibited. Know what we want and dont take any crap.....As for feeling sexy, I always have been quite highly sexed and I think that is something you are born with...We go through phases of course and at 35 I was having a wild time socially as I had come out of a long term relationship and wanted to experiment. I was dressing more sexily and was more confident. I even received a few marriage propoals along the way.

Will I get the partner I want as I age, probably not......
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
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Posted: 9/23/2011 6:19:27 PM
Toefactor
Just not true......A woman can usually get sex when she wants it... due to the slut nature of men.....Desperate??? Give me a break......Less uninhibited is just that. We know what we want and have a high sex drive, often more so as we age due to no fear of pregnancy etc....
 Coyotefeller
Joined: 8/1/2005
Msg: 151
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Posted: 9/23/2011 6:30:37 PM

I used to be Mr. SHY...but with some training,....


I was expecting to read : "I used to be Mr. SHY..
..but with some training and a lot of abuse I finally
gave up and let em go at it"
 BigJ_78
Joined: 2/15/2011
Msg: 153
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Posted: 9/24/2011 4:01:30 AM
I always prefer having sex with older women, 40-50's...Theyre less inhibited, and generally not looking to get married, especially to someone my age...They've already been through the bs of marriage, divorce, multiple breakups,fighting over kids etc...Unlike a lot of younger women who may look great but are still stuck in the Disney/Hollywood fantasy of a Prince Charming coming along & having a lifelong perfect fairytale romance....Older women have already learned about that, and can simply enjoy a good sexual romp with a hot younger man...They just purely enjoy sex for what it is, no need for attaching all kinds of strings to it.

Plus , older women are usually fixed, or on steady birth control....Birth control is a #1 priority for me with a sex partner, and thats something that younger girls are usually much less reliable with.
 bullfrog12
Joined: 4/24/2009
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Older women are less inhibited?
Posted: 9/24/2011 5:14:45 PM
I think as some women get older they feel they are the boss and controlling ,then the husband leave,and they feel they can still find the prince they never had and they will never will have.
 Billion_Dollar_Man
Joined: 6/5/2011
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Posted: 9/25/2011 2:55:34 AM
I've dated older women my entire life. I love the conversations. Many say that I have an old soul and am very mature for my age. Many of the older women are much more attractive than younger ones because they took care of themselves when they were younger. I will admit that the sex for me has been much better with older women. The younger ones were lazy, complained about pain, or weren't adventurous, while older women do everything to please you.
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