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 glebo123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 87
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??Page 4 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
This isn't something I like to admit but it can give you a great prespective. I happen to have this problem and it's a recurring issue with me. I would say definately give him a chance and if it doesn't work assure him that it's no big deal. Just keep trying and if it works, it works, if it doesn't, than it doesn't simple as that. All he needs is to be more comfortable with you, and making a big deal about it will not happen at all. It is also a huge pride/ego buster to a man. I would recommend not speaking about it to him, if he's comfortable talking about it he'll come to you. But I can't stress enough that you need to ensure him that it's no big deal it will help matters a great deal. If you like this guy as much as you say you do than sex should just be a bonus anyways. If the problem persists, than I'd recommend going to the nearest stag shop/love shop and picking up a pill called 'Rise'. It works great, and doesn't take long to kick in.
 wolftxus
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 89
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/21/2009 12:12:54 AM

if you have a stopwatch handy ask him when he's ready to try then yell "Go!"....

OP, perhaps PhxNiceGuy is onto something. On your next date, tell your guy upfront it is his last chance. When the mood is right, tell him he has 20 seconds to get it up, or else he is history. Just to add to the pressure, make some predictions about that you don't expect it to be very big anyway. About three seconds after he drops his undies go 'tic toc ... tic toc ... tic toc' and stare impatiently at his organ. Get real close as if to verify that something is happening, then back off and shake your head in disbelief. As you gently push him towards the door, complain about how his impotence makes you feel as a woman...

On second thought - could it be that your attitude has something to do with it?

I liked another poster's comment, too, that the little man is trying to tell the big man something. Sometimes he knows better and plain refuses. Don't worry about your looks though, such cases are usually more about your behavior.
 Smuggler
Joined: 11/21/2006
Msg: 90
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Posted: 3/21/2009 3:46:23 AM
YES YES YES and yes again.
Sex is 90% in the brain speak to any theapist, or read any book, on the subject.
If this guy is great, and you have a connection, and you like him, for Gods sake do something.
Get him some Viagra to kickstart him.
You owe it to yourself, and to him
 ohio07
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 91
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/21/2009 1:01:37 PM
She couldn't cum/"squirt", should I give her another chance? Of course! See how silly this question really is?
 BlueEyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/21/2009 5:00:05 PM
Everyone deserves another chance.
 1984,loveis
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 93
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/21/2009 9:18:16 PM
IF you really CARE for him HELL yeah
 MandaKay
Joined: 3/14/2009
Msg: 94
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/22/2009 11:30:16 AM
I'm not a 2nd chance person. But for this...yes. Give the guy a 2nd chance. Now, if the next time it happens, he still has trouble. Talk and see what might be going on. communication works wonders.
 idoc_steve
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 97
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/23/2009 2:20:09 PM
Guys get uptight..sometimes it's more of a problem in the beginning of a relationship with a new woman in your life. I've been there...and the women have been totally understanding and patient and treated it like a nonissue. Within a week or two everything was right back up to speed. I noticed that I had this problem to some extent in all 3 intimate relationships during my first foray out to the field in over 16 years of marriage, but it was less of a problem each time.

Any woman who will shoot a guy down because he can't perform on the first, or second, or third time..or whatever..is in my opinion very shallowminded and does not have a good capacity to understand her partner nor an inclination to care all that much.

At the very least, talk about it and find out what the issue is. If the guy has a permanent problem then that's another matter entirely but it's something he oughta let you know about.
 Lookinatcha1
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 98
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/23/2009 2:32:12 PM
It all depends on how you really feel about him. Have been in a relationship for nearly a year and he is having more and more problems. As a woman, I want great sex, which includes a penis that is hard. It becomes difficult to determine what you feel for the guy and what you want sexually. At some point, you have to make a choice, do you want awesome sex or do you want a relationship with a man who may not be able to get an erection, even with "the pill"....
Good Luck Girl,
I will be going back home alone and looking for the relationship I need...
 clearbluecolors
Joined: 1/8/2009
Msg: 99
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/24/2009 1:36:00 AM
You are a very wise man
 cowgirl_loves_heels
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 100
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/24/2009 6:50:21 AM
just cause its not hard dont mean he dont like you its cause the mans got lots on his mind and cant **** at the time lol ...
 Joeld49
Joined: 8/12/2005
Msg: 101
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Posted: 3/24/2009 6:52:40 AM
No, I think you should dump him for his sake. Given the sensitivity that you show by even asking this question, he would be better off without you.
 MizBexReturns
Joined: 3/17/2009
Msg: 102
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/24/2009 6:53:07 AM
It is rare that I ever post in this particular forum, mostly because I cannot believe how much private detail people make public. I cannot imagine sharing this detail in a public forum. Having said that, I can't help but wonder if YOU did your part. Given the nature and detail of your post, I'm leaning towards no you didn't.
 RAULV-BB
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 103
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/24/2009 7:21:35 AM
dont go "ahead" give him "head" and plz make sure you are waxed.
 RAULV-BB
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 104
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 6:36:49 AM
you are making a really big deal out of it, seems to me you are here to get laid more than anything else, "FIND THE MAN NO THE GAME"
and for those girls emails that i got after my first post, ..........we men always will be kids, so make sure to wrap the toy with a bow and sexy papper. if you dont get it, good luck with the Energ. Bunny !
 allInkedup
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 105
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 7:16:57 AM
Nerves play a big part in it, it happens to all of us. Being that this happened tells me hes a sensitive person and isn't lead by his around by his****...so consider youself lucky.. wait till the occasion happens again, im sure it'll work out better...
 smokefriendly
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 106
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 9:08:09 AM
Absolutely. You want to base the whole relationship on a small blip on the radar? Maybe you should ask yourself what he is thinking. Maybe he is thinking that he was not excited by you, huge possibility.

If I sleep with a woman and she is not sopping wet I do not think I should dump her.
 tigershark7778
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 107
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:16:58 AM
He might have a prostate problem or ED, but that's just my professional non-certified medical opinion.
 2Irish1
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 108
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:22:09 AM
Has it ever been concidered he's a Leprechaun and it was up...you just couldn't tell?

Either that or Viagra...
 derek2486
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 109
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:37:04 AM
Go Down on him. Did you try that. And yes nerves can do that. You built it up so much.
I bet you were the lay on the bed type and didnt even help his cause. Stop being lazy turn a porno on kiss his neck get him tipsy and it will take care of itself.
 Gone To The Beach 09
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 110
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:16:07 PM
The OP sounds inexperienced and unsure of herself. She might not know that most women do not climax thru intercourse by itself.

She might be interested in learning about some of the other things she might be missing if she gave up on this man, since he was eager to please her.

A well known Radio Psychologist once said that for some women, foreplay IS the play.

By experimenting, I have learned some foreplay techniques that have pushed women who were sexually capable, to a primal scream, rolling orgasm, female ejaculation, and sometimes a series of each, where vigorous intercourse by itself will not : )
 marisia
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 111
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Posted: 3/26/2009 1:30:08 PM
Definately. Nerves can play a big part. It would be much more worrying if he had a hard on but was a selfish lover. As he was generous and enjoyable and he was able to talk about the situation sounds like he could be a great boyfriend in bed and out. as he will probably equally good qualities out of the bedroom..:
Ive been in both situations. With the man who sometimes stayed soft, the sex was wonderful, intimate, giving, fun. But iv also had a very selfish lover and in the end i felt completely used and ended the relationship. The selfishness extended into all parts of the relationsip.

There are lots of reasons for inability to get a hard on depending on age.
Nerves, alcohol, drugs social and prescription, illness the list is long.
Good luck, if you like this man see him again
 redkatt
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 112
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Posted: 3/26/2009 2:24:25 PM
Yes, it happens even to the "best" of them.

Give him another shot.
 mydoggie
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 113
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:54:45 PM
Well, what makes you think that the second time will be different?
 NewRulesIRule
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 114
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/27/2009 3:42:59 PM
Of course give him another chance, a lot of guys go through that sort of thing, it's called performance anxiety. It sucks but nothing Viagra won't fix!
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