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 lindaq01
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 20
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It seems to be to superficial anyway. The guy seems to be focused more on age and looks even though some of them says they are looking for a friend.. also Do men lie about their age.. they look much older in picture than age listed, but one guy told me I was two years older that I was too old.. but he looked older to me..
 lindaq01
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 4/18/2009 6:22:23 PM
you are correct, be polite always and respectible you can part in 15 mintues and be friends.. but dont lie.
 lindaq01
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/18/2009 6:29:28 PM
i wouldnt date anyone younger than 5 years. Never did. But that is so creepy that they would play around with you to get your money.. it is kinda dangerous all the way around and deceptive, why cant people be honest at this age anyway. I dont know if it is worth the risk.. I guess that is why this is good-- being advised what to watch out for and to be aware.
 Meeting_At_The_Crossroads
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 23
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Posted: 4/5/2013 9:30:49 AM
These have been said before, but I think these state them pretty well...

1. On line dating has it's perils. Think it through. Get a little attitude. Tough up. Post a pic. Email, phone, meet for a drink. Decide if you want to do it again. It scared the stuffin' outta me, but I got over it. Now I'm having more fun. No expectations (just show up), meet mostly nice people, enjoy that part and learn to 'just say NO (thanks)' when necessary. Be polite and respectful,...then evaluate, adjust and move on.

2. If I add you to my favorites, please take it as a wink, read my profile, and get back to me if there is any interest on your part.
If I should contact you and there is no interest on your part please, simply do not respond I will take it as an answer in itself.
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/5/2013 11:17:32 AM
You should probably add that there are alot of curmudgeons on the site, especially in the forums. They tend to think their job is to ridicule and insult anything and everything anyone else says. In time, you will learn who they are.
 coderedjulia1
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/5/2013 11:54:29 AM
I have noticed that you really shouldn't give out your number until you know for sure that there is something between the two of you. I hate giving out my number, and I lose interest and the guy is constantly bugging me.
 wolftxusa66
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 4/5/2013 12:25:27 PM
I'd paraphrase 1 to "don't wait too long", doesn't have to be right away.
And 2: If you set up an email, make sure not to use your name. abc at yahoo dot com may show "John Doe" in square brackets, if you fill it in, even if your address doesn't show it.

I have no issues with phone numbers. I don't keep calling if we don't match or communication fizzles.

All others are good.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/5/2013 10:58:56 PM
Playing by the rules is boring.
 Quasimodo11543
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/6/2013 12:28:33 AM

I have noticed that you really shouldn't give out your number until you know for sure that there is something between the two of you. I hate giving out my number, and I lose interest and the guy is constantly bugging me.


Yanno, back in the days before cell phones if you didn't give someone your number you'd better be well stocked on batteries cuz you're gonna be alone a lot. Nowadays, it just seems like everyone is so god awful paranoid about something as stupid as a phone number.

MOST, of your own safety is contingent on YOU and how you approach it all, meet in a public place, make certain someone knows where you are going and you will contact them when you leave, who you are there with. Christ, no wonder so many people are single these days, afraid of their own shadows. If someone decides to become a pain anymore I guess it's because you just pulled a vanishing act on them. Everyone screams you don't owe anyone anything but when you commit what many will deem an offensive, rude, disrespectful behavior, what do you expect? If you aren't interested in someone after meeting, at least have the balls to tell them. There can be many perils to dating period, but not every person you meet is a full blown, psychopathic, axe murderer.

There is only 1 rule for online dating or dating in general, keep your head out of your ass. Your brain will make much better decisions this way as it will be getting sufficient oxygen to function properly. I have no problem dealing with someone who can't take no for an answer.
 liftnw8z2
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 4/6/2013 9:51:10 AM
No. Most important rule is "be perfect or go home."
 jc91607
Joined: 1/21/2013
Msg: 30
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Posted: 4/6/2013 4:41:23 PM
The most important rule is that you should not expect to attract people here who are of a higher quality than you normally date in real life. Sites like this are great for getting you in contact with larger numbers of dating prospects, but it will not improve the quality of people you can expect to date.

You see too many balding dudes who ride the bus to work online expecting to meet models and have orgies with them. You see too many obese 40-year-old women with 5 kids from 15 different fathers online expecting to find doctors with six pack abs who will whisk them off their feet and marry them.

I would conservatively estimate that half the whining and moaning that occurs on these message boards is because people are refusing to acknowledge this very important rule.
 ochikergirl
Joined: 2/25/2013
Msg: 31
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Posted: 4/6/2013 5:30:23 PM
OK - here are a few more rules that really need to be observed:
1. Don't send a pic of your penis.
2. Don't send a video of your penis in action.
3. Don't ask for a nude pic.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/7/2013 1:15:15 AM
Wear flame retardant clothing when entering the forums. It gets scorching in there with all the flaming going on.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 33
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Posted: 4/7/2013 12:11:48 PM
Everyone online is a stranger unmet.
Most, thankfully so.
Just mere chimeras.

so give no thought to them.
no matter the interaction.
(good or bad)
Only give thought and emotional energy to those who you may meet
or know in real life.

There really is no reason to get worked up
over characters in cartoonland.
 35brock
Joined: 3/20/2013
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/7/2013 12:23:49 PM
Be yourself. Don't have high expectations.
 lostnfoundluv
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 4/7/2013 12:29:52 PM
talking to your date before meeting saves lots of time effort and money.
 ochikergirl
Joined: 2/25/2013
Msg: 36
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:55:30 PM
Actually, I think not talking too much to your date is better. I noticed that when I talk to a guy for a long time and then I meet them, I usually don't like them. But if I don't talk to them too much - maybe once or twice - then when I meet them, it's usually a good meeting.

Another rule: They say girls lie about their age and weight, but guys lie about their height and weight. Ask them to snap a pic as they're talking to you.
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