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 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 130
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I think women wear heels so they can appear taller and because they make their feet look smaller. Let's face it, human feet aren't in the slightest attractive.


Many men think high heels are sexy and even like women to wear them in bed:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts14898579.aspx


As far as makeup is concerned, I have yet to see a woman that does not love to put that gloopy black stuff on their eyelashes that make their eyelashes clump together in rigid black gloopy masses. That and lipstick seem to be what a lot of women wear and as far as I can see lipstick fades rapidly and smears over just about everything.


Not all women who wear make-up are high-maintenance. There is now a mascara that lasts for 28 days and doesn't clump. There is also lipstick available that lasts all day and doesn't smear.
 tin48
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 131
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/11/2012 11:31:01 PM
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 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 132
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 3:59:50 AM
well....if i have a professional matchmaker set me up with dates and potential mates..i'm going to look my best. Not tuxedo or anything..but clean-shaven, nicely dressed, cologne, etc.
I prefer a woman who dresses up to meet me..it shows she put forth some effort..not just came from the beach..or working out in sweats and squeezed me in between birthday parties at the pool. :-(..or something along those lines.
I do prefer a woman who glitters and gets noticed.....i especially look for well-manicured nails..(french is the best), some unique jewelry, heels (sexy), and clothes that are up to date and flattering.
I love that scene from Rainman (dustin Hoffman) at the casino bar..he says to tom cruise..(she's very sparkly)..why would i want to meet a woman who seems like she didnt care what she looked like?
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 133
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 5:09:02 AM
Just because a woman is in casual clothing doesn't mean she didn't care about how she looks.

As for jewelry, I can't recall ever giving a crap about a piece of jewelry a woman was wearing. If anything, a lot of expensive jewelry tells me to proceed with caution. Lots of costly maintenance ahead...
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 134
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 7:16:37 AM
As for jewelry, I can't recall ever giving a crap about a piece of jewelry a woman was wearing. If anything, a lot of expensive jewelry tells me to proceed with caution. Lots of costly maintenance ahead...


I've found that many men don't even know the difference between expensive jewelry and cheap costume jewelry---a woman could be wearing a Cartier watch costing several grand, and they wouldn't know what it was.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:01:23 AM
Old money wants a woman that is more natural as far as makeup and bold fashion trends that garner a lot of comments/attention..

Look at the Kennedy wives that have let themselves age..They can get anything done they want to.

New money seems to like the high maintenance, implants, 500 dollar hair a month and garish jewelry type more.
Look at what Trump goes after.



Its the same basically with REAL people with REAL money usually

My experience anyway..

I also do not define success as having a lot of money..it's being happy with what you do and the people you are with.

As far as the average JOE..Some think 35 k is money and others 75 -150k.
 Midwest_Southwest
Joined: 9/9/2012
Msg: 136
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:12:15 AM

Success just can't be measured in dollars. Definition is too narrow.


I agree.


"High maintenance" can mean:
1. Needs lots of time
2. Needs lots of effort
3. Are very fussy and particular
4. Are difficult and troublesome
5. Are annoying
6. Have high expectations of her partner or date
7. Will be quick to reject a person if those expectations are not met
8. Hard to please, not easily impressed
9. Takes forever to get ready
10. Something all but the most patient and tolerant men should avoid like the plague.



High maintenance to me, implies someone with issues...they are usually late, self absorbed, need the latest fashions, need constant adoration, want only to lead a plastic life and are never happy.


Some single rich men are very high maintenance themselves, so it would make sense if they were compatible with high maintenance women. They’d have a similar view of what’s important and what to give and expect from a relationship.

I watched the documentary Unraveled, about Marc Dreier, last night and that is one VERY high maintenance man! But I think that there’s a certain percentage of rich people who have the same values and attitudes about themselves and others that Dreier has- the self anointed Brightest and Best- and I think they’d naturally prefer someone with the same values and attitudes.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 12/12/2012 8:33:38 AM
Higher maintenance seems to be an odd term for this thread. Men and women alike usually want someone who thinks and feels the same way they do or similar.

There are so many different types of success and different means to that success to determine that every successful man wants or needs the same type of woman that the next successful man wants or needs. You have successful race car drivers, successful ranchers, successful oilmen, successful entrepreneurs that own plumbing, electrical, ac/heat, restaurants, etc. You have those CFO types who run major corporations and then you have your successful doctors or attorneys.

There is also the person born into success who continues that path and the person who gained success much later in life. Each type would most likely see their success differently and prefer mates that define their success differently.

No two successes are necessarily alike and so their needs may be quite varied.

Most men who are successful need a woman who adequately projects the same manner of success that they have established and so they seek the type of woman who can promote them rather than stifle them. Try to picture a cowboy with a punk rocker on his arm....:-)

If the man's success comes from earthy, outdoorsy, environmental activities then he probably would not be suited to a woman who thinks the outdoors is yucky stuff.

You just need to define who you are and what your style is then you can seek someone who compliments you. Matchmakers are not perfect.
 tiff7777
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 139
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 10:59:08 AM
I'm going off on another tangent here. I dated a doctor, I called him Dr. Lastname, as a joke. His eyes lit up, he got off on it. So, he was kinda vain, 17 years older, very controlling. He'd had a miserable childhood and took his success very seriously. If he and I went to social events, he expected me to be dressed to the nines, heels, hair, make-up. I wonder, if this issue, is the successful man were a nerd or socially inept in high school or college, now, he's out to prove to everyone that his date is super - hot. I also, dated a lawyer, with a similar attitude. By the way, doctors and lawyers, are off my list. Game-changer for me. I don't care if he drives the local garbage truck, just be nice to me.
 CaptainAmericaOO7
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 140
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Posted: 12/12/2012 11:28:00 AM
I'm sure that probably the majority of people on a free dating site are not all that successful in business. I count myself there. Having said that, I have noticed people aged 45+ seem to be harder workers and more committed workers, trying to produce what people want when they want at a cost they want and at the quality they want. In terms of what I want from women....

I like fishnet stockings, short skirts and heels. I don't demand them though. In fact one of the ladies I am acquainted with is about 250lbs and never wears anything but flats and jeans. I like her personality a lot.

I am constantly amused to see women staggering past in heels and on occasion when they have a chance to speak with me I ask them if their feet are killing them and they invariably say either yes or it's not the feet it's the shoes.

Vanity seems to cause women a lot of pain and I'd really rather not insist that women go through all that. I've seen women in sub zero temperatures in heels and short skirts trying to please their men. I think it's ludicrous. I think it's as ludicrous as the insistence that girls wear mid-calf socks and knee-length skirts to school on cold days. All that bare flesh exposed to the elements. No thank you.
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 141
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Posted: 12/12/2012 12:12:29 PM
to me..i dont care if its expensive or not..as long as she is wearing it..and it 'sparkles'..lol..seriously though even some nice indian handmade jewelry thats unique (but inexpensive) is fine..i think we got off topic a bit..
Its all about 'presentation'..and wanting better things in life..or settling.For example..some people are fine with a burger & fries..to them....thats a gourmet meal..for others..not so much..
High maintenance can mean many different things..for example..a woman that takes an extraordinary amount of time to get ready (2-3 hours) is high maint. to me. My ex-wife spent 45 minutes on her hair alone (after a shower, shave, etc.) ..and we were always late for dinner..a party..etc.hence..why she is an 'ex'..lol..
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 142
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Posted: 12/12/2012 1:39:47 PM
Yep all lawyers and doctors were nerds in school and grew into prima-donnas. Date the sanitation worker instead. I assume you will have more in common.

You always want to avoid people who sought education and careers. Those people are just too full of themselves.
 siestabeachlover
Joined: 12/5/2012
Msg: 143
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 4:13:32 PM
I desided a long time ago to please myself, and if some lucky guy wants to tag along, then the fun begins!
 Just___Jim
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 144
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 4:33:55 PM

Higher maintenance seems to be an odd term for this thread. Men and women alike usually want someone who thinks and feels the same way they do or similar.


Or the op is trying to find out how to move up in that direction of social class.....

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.....& to truly love her is beyond that. Now that is success to me.

As birds of a feather,usually try to flock together. And when they don't, sometimes old similarly will rise to the surface later that will rock the boat....jmo & observations who went that route.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 145
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 6:16:45 PM
I seem to always get the guy who like actives like camping, fishing and hiking. BUT I wear heels where ever I go, yes even the grocery store. It is hard for these guys to understand I dont wear heels to please them BUT because I like high heels. IT is a girl thing.

I hate to show up on a meet and greet in my new heels, a great dress ( I love dresses, but maybe even jeans and a nice top) and my favorite perfume only to find a guy in shorts he mowed the lawn in. There is a difference between high maintenance, low maintenance and NO maintenance, regardless of if it is a man or a woman. I think when it comes to thing like maintenance of one's looks you should date right across from you. It saves you and the other person a great deal of trouble in the long run.
 WolfSpirit29
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 146
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 6:37:34 PM
What ever happened to real love? Open and honest communication? Getting to know someone for their brains not what they look like? Wow. I truly miss the old school ways.

Once the looks and sex are gone, if you don't have communication, the relationship is O V E R! Jmo.
 FML2013
Joined: 11/16/2012
Msg: 147
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 7:33:53 PM
^^^^ Agree! Totally. (Y)
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 148
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Posted: 12/12/2012 8:43:53 PM
Water seeks it's own level. Hipsters gravitate towards hipsters. Done up with the done up. Alphas with alphas. Down to earth gals and down to earth guys. Vegans with vegans. People are really, in the end, just looking for a mirror of themselves, the familiar.

It's not worth your time trying to figure out if someone thinks you are a zero. You said you met successful businessmen who are pretty much so zeros to you. Clearly, being a good businessman doesnt always make a guy a good dating prospect.

My experience has shown me I am a zero to just about everyone. I do not dress up in heavy make up, heels, whatever..I am very down to earth, dress nicely but comfortably. There's no way I am going to attract a hot looking alpha..just no way. I dont have anything he's looking for.

But I am true to myself, and don't struggle with trying to be something I'm not.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 149
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/12/2012 8:55:38 PM
I can relate to what HiHeels has to say though...I am in real estate so I have to look pulled together 99% of the time even "off the clock" because I never know when a client might see me out and about. Most of the men I had first meets with did not show up dressed to impress even though they were in sales, IT, attorneys, etc. If successful men can demand a woman who "sparkles", can a successful woman demand a man who also "sparkles"?
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 150
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/13/2012 7:02:07 AM
By high-maintainance, i think of gold-diggers. I most certainly don't want one of those. They take your money then move to the next victim. Hookers are cheaper and abetter prospect thanthat kind of woman!
As far as cosmetics are concerned i am a minimalist - not into women who paint themselves up like cheap hookers.


Hmmm that's certainly not what I think of when I hear the term high maintenance. To me that means someone who requires more attention/ upkeep than their counterpart...someone who likes/demands the best of everything and therefore can be very hard to please.


Some men want women who wear make up and heels, others want the natural look. The odd thing is I doubt any of you, ask the man what he prefers before you show up! Hahaha! You have your own preconceived notions of how you look best.


I for one wouldn't ask him what he prefers, au natural or make-up. I'm assuming he knows what he likes otherwise he wouldn't have contacted me.

...mae
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 151
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/13/2012 7:50:19 AM
I for one wouldn't ask him what he prefers, au natural or make-up. I'm assuming he knows what he likes otherwise he wouldn't have contacted me.

...mae


BINGO... we have a winner here!
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 152
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/13/2012 8:19:51 AM
I would think that if a successful man preferred a woman who I though was high maintainence he probably would disagree with me that she was high maintainence.

It's a good thing we are all not looking for the same characteristics and qualities in a mate. If we were then very few of us would end up in a relationship as most of us are as unique as snowflakes ( I thought a flake analogy was appropriate for POF )
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 153
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/13/2012 12:24:18 PM
Some successful men do want the high maintenance women. They are looking for someone they can take place to show off what they got. For some people its all about how they want others to see them. They dress and act and drive the car to project the image they what others to see them as. While some after they done working go home and take the suite off. So they can work in the garden go hiking, Or do other fun things. There are places where you need to dress up and others where you can dress down and be your self. Its all the outlook you have in life. As was said already people like to find someone who fits into there life style. As not all men want the the high maintenance woman. Plenty of guys when they get home and its time to relax like the outdoors which would be hiking and camping.
That being said I must say its nice to sometimes get all dressed up have a woman who is dressed nice and sexy to go to a dinner and a walk with.
 WolfSpirit29
Joined: 11/22/2012
Msg: 154
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?
Posted: 12/14/2012 8:59:26 AM
I think a better question would be....does high maintenance = vanity?
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