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 big22blue
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different strokes trustediva, everyone is different. all in what you want and what you're looking for at that time. women that are decked out aren't always high maintenance. It is all in how you deal with how you look. A lady can look decked out in jeans or in a little black dress. the details and accessories often give it that push. don't worry about makeup, focus on how you want to look when you walk into that room to see your guy and what you want him to see. that is all any of us have.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
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Posted: 12/24/2011 8:22:18 PM
an interesting enough thread that deserves to be revived....
 Synectics
Joined: 7/7/2010
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Posted: 12/25/2011 7:37:24 AM
"High maintenance" can mean:
1. Needs lots of time
2. Needs lots of effort
3. Are very fussy and particular
4. Are difficult and troublesome
5. Are annoying
6. Have high expectations of her partner or date
7. Will be quick to reject a person if those expectations are not met
8. Hard to please, not easily impressed
9. Takes forever to get ready
10. Something all but the most patient and tolerant men should avoid like the plague.

What I think is wrong is when a woman demands these things from someone when she isn’t capable of providing them for herself. Or when she forces a man to go into debt just to maintain a facade, which isn’t affordable for either of them. A man complying with such demands need to reassess his involvement with this type of woman and bid her farewell.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 12/25/2011 8:53:04 AM
I like high self-maintenance women.
 313ezlivin
Joined: 10/22/2011
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Posted: 12/25/2011 10:37:10 AM
Noooo some of us really dont want high maintenance. Humble and natural I'd want. Why?? Cus how are you gonna go mud bogging or just jump in a lake on a hottt summer day if your worried your eye lashes are gonn a fall off or your 500$ weave will be ruined..... natural beaty is for me, makes for adventures and not a trophy... peace
 TryAgan
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Posted: 12/26/2011 4:47:08 AM

I like high self-maintenance women

Even better would be a high-performance, maintenance-free kind.
 Seakyttten
Joined: 9/22/2011
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Posted: 12/26/2011 6:42:48 AM
I was told today by a matchmaker that successful, intelligent executives want women who are on the medium-higher maintenance side. ie. they do their hair, wear makeup, heels, sexy clothes. They aren't interested in more 'earthy' women- I guess like me. The men she set me up with said I didn't seem to spend much time getting ready to meet them. I didn't wear makeup (once I didn't- I met him for a coffee while I was running my son's birthday party at the pool). She told me it wasn't that they were looking for a woman 20 yrs younger, just one more 'done'

So what is it that men look for. One man looked at me and immediately decided I didn't look good for him. So, I've met 4 men and I'm zero for 4. comments?


Based on my experience when dating successful men in the past op, I found they wanted more of a 'trophy girlfriend' more than anything and I base my definition of 'successful' men in the legal, medical or investment field. I was supposed to just 'appear' at functions wearing make-up, high heels and dressed to the nines when in essence I couldn't WAIT to get home, wash all that crap off my face and lounge around my place in my sweats.

Who cares what men are looking for nowadays? What matters is what you're looking for and how comfortable you are around someone. I don't take any comfort in getting into a man's $40,000 sports car and having him take me to a jewelry store that you have to hit a buzzer in order to enter..then him whining to the sales clerk about his rolex not working properly. (This actually happened to me last year..I couldn't wait to leave the store..and him.)

If dating a successful man means me having to be someone I'm clearly not then I'll take a blue-collar worker any day of the week! :) Since I wear no make-up at all anymore and barely wear shoes unless they're flip-flops (I live in Florida), then I don't suspect many 'lawyer types' are going to want me accompanying them to the opera anytime soon.

Seakytten
 CptJohnSheridan
Joined: 11/23/2011
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Posted: 12/26/2011 9:00:04 AM
If you seek people for whom their appearance as judged by others is of high importance to them, then you should also expect that shallowness to be projected upon you.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
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Posted: 12/26/2011 8:48:22 PM
Successful men see an attractive wife as a reflection of their success. You are their "trophy" and they think you should shine like a jewel. You will be trotted out at company functions and judged like a prize mare. The more compliments he gets on having such a beautiful, smart, put-together wife, the more deeply he will love you...as he would any possession of great value

If that is what you want, get thee to a spa for highlights, a mani-pedi and some designer heels. But if you want down to earth, look for a guy who is a middle class schmoe who will love you for who you are inside. You'll be less wealthy, but you will be happpier.
 aremeself
Joined: 12/31/2008
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Posted: 12/26/2011 9:54:51 PM
these guys seem to GET those kinds of women too.
not a shortage of them types.

they probably get recycled too.
 FloridaLady46
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 12/27/2011 2:34:48 PM
I think the OP should have asked the matchmaker exactly what the men didn't like about her. Unlike POF where you might have no follow up after an unsuccessful meet and greet, this matchmaker could have questioned the men. Maybe it was not her appearance, but something else that turned them off.

In my opinion, I do believe that most people want someone who places as much effort in their appearance as they do, or better.
 letzgo4it
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Posted: 12/27/2011 9:53:39 PM
I agree, and will take it one step forward. Men who are high profile (and/or who think they are) feel that they are personally judged by OTHER MEN with regard to the woman on their arm, and the sad truth of the matter is that they ARE.
 aremeself
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Posted: 12/27/2011 10:11:11 PM
Do successful men want higher maintenance women?

not necessarily, but they look good.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 7:43:09 AM
I agree, whenever I have been at pricier venues, or nice venues, I notied that the women looked more put together & the men had the $$

I enjoy successful men, therefore, I try to appear higher maintenance, while I consider myself medium, LOL

Some successful men don't care 4 higher maintenance as long as the woman is naturally attractive...
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 8:14:02 AM
Haven't read most of the posts here, but I get the drift. It is a bash the successful guy thread, because after all, successful guys are merely shallow human beings who care only about money and appearance . . . . sure thing. The facts are different of course. Most successful men generally are intelligent, confident,know how to talk to and motivate people, have high emotional iqs, etc. Of course they want women similar to themselves. Has nothing to do with wanting a trophy wife, but wanting a wife who is attractive, has class, is intelligent, etc. If you define higher maintenance women to mean shallow or baitchy women, what successful guy would feel he needed to put up with that? Successful guys have options after all. They don't have to settle for women who are too fat to fit in a door, too dumb to hold a conversation, so low class that you can't hide all of their tattoos, etc.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 12/11/2012 8:24:23 AM

I was told today by a matchmaker that successful, intelligent executives want women who are on the medium-higher maintenance side. ie. they do their hair, wear makeup, heels, sexy clothes. They aren't interested in more 'earthy' women- I guess like me. The men she set me up with said I didn't seem to spend much time getting ready to meet them. I didn't wear makeup (once I didn't- I met him for a coffee while I was running my son's birthday party at the pool). She told me it wasn't that they were looking for a woman 20 yrs younger, just one more 'done'

So what is it that men look for. One man looked at me and immediately decided I didn't look good for him. So, I've met 4 men and I'm zero for 4. comments?


It surprises me that a woman would be matched up with men that would repeatedly reject her. A good matchmaker would be familiar with the concept of leagues. In other words, she wouldn't normally set up a person who's an 8 or 9 on the attractiveness scale with a 6. The one exception are the very wealthy clients. Those people can pretty much afford to buy whatever they want---and they will take advantage of that.


Some successful men don't care 4 higher maintenance as long as the woman is naturally attractive...


"Successful" and "naturally attractive" can be subjective.
 CaptainAmericaOO7
Joined: 11/5/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 8:54:17 AM
By high-maintainance, i think of gold-diggers. I most certainly don't want one of those. They take your money then move to the next victim. Hookers are cheaper and abetter prospect thanthat kind of woman!
As far as cosmetics are concerned i am a minimalist - not into women who paint themselves up like cheap hookers.
 tulipsforme474
Joined: 11/25/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 9:59:52 AM
"I enjoy successful men, therefore, I try to appear higher maintenance, while I consider myself medium, LOL"

Some women will whore themselves out to the highest bidder. I would rather be who I am, why pretend or "appear" to be something you're not. Sounds disengenous and juvenile.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
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Posted: 12/11/2012 10:12:24 AM
This was a funny thread! So much strange information and bizarre thoughts, kinda makes you laugh.

Why is it that no one can seem to understand we ALL are different? Success to one is failure to another. How do you measure success? Is it title, money, possessions...seems that's what most of you think. Believe it or not, many successful folks have made it big, and not changed a bit. Yes, there are those who let it go to their head.

I'm not judging, just sayin, that I doubt many on here know a slew of the successful. Most(and I count myself among them) worked incredibly hard to achieve that success. Sometimes, it cost them personally in relationships, or in life choices they made. At some point, you can choose to keep climbing the ladder or say 'hey, I am successful enough'.

I have transitioned to a different role in life. I was the guy who wore a suit everyday, for 30+ years. Now it's tough to get me to wear a tie, one day a month...

back on topic: I find it funny as well about what the women are saying! lol There were a couple of threads kicking around here just a while ago, where women complained about the guys showing up in sneakers, shorts and a t-shirt for a date. Hahahaha! So which is it ladies? You want the guy in cutoffs or the guy in a suit, or somewhere in between?

Some men want women who wear make up and heels, others want the natural look. The odd thing is I doubt any of you, ask the man what he prefers before you show up! Hahaha! You have your own preconceived notions of how you look best.

As for one posters descriptions of the "successful", I doubt she has the bill right. A plumber, a carpenter, or any guy can get their hands on a $40,000 sports car, try putting a $1,2,3 in front of that 40K...for someone successful. As for the Rolex, if you pay $10K for a watch, it SHOULD work right, that isn't whining, that's demanding what you paid for. As for the buzzer at the door, doesn't happen at Tiffany's, Van Cleef and Arpel's...so that is on the guy who owns the store, NOT the customer.

If women don't want to wear the heels, or the make up, then don't. But don't b1tch to us guys...we didn't invent them, blame that on fashion, or the people who make shoes. Same thing with the "opera", you don't like opera, don't blame it on some successful guy, if it's something he enjoys, and you don't...DON'T DATE HIM!

As for "high Maintenance"...I doubt there are many men who want that. High maintenance to me, implies someone with issues...they are usually late,self absorbed, need the latest fashions, need constant adoration, want only to lead a plastic life and are never happy. I think some of you are confusing the lives of Trump, the movie and TV stars, athletes with real life.

"better than the rest of us" behavior, or boorishness is not limited to the behavior of the successful. I have seen many very attractive women with the same EXACT attitude, who didn't have a pot to piss in!

Time to wake up and smell the coffee!
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
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Posted: 12/11/2012 10:13:54 AM

Some women will whore themselves out to the highest bidder. I would rather be who I am, why pretend or "appear" to be something you're not. Sounds disengenous and juvenile.


That was harsh and mean, but I guess that was you being who you are, so I can respect that.

Blonde Angels post, while partly tongue in cheek, did not suggest anything other than she enjoys
her make up and likes to appear put together at all times, so she can attract the type men she is interested
in. Nothing wrong with that.

How you got "whore" out of that is beyond me, unless it was some sort of projection or therapy tactic.
 tulipsforme474
Joined: 11/25/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 10:26:08 AM
"whore out" was tongue in cheek as well, it's an expression and not meant to call any poster (including Angel) a whore. And I guess some will dress up, go the extra mile and shoot for the high end guy but is it worth it. If you are "medium" and like to pretend "hign maintenance", who are you fooling...just yourself as other see through it.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
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Posted: 12/11/2012 12:00:03 PM
Before he retired, my uncle was the CFO for the 4th largest telecommunications provider (at that time) in the country. He's got a net worth in the millions. He has been faithfully married to the same woman for nearly 50 years and she is very down to earth. They live in a modest 5 bedroom house in a suburban subdivision and they shop at Home Depot, Walmart and the like. If you ran into him and my aunt, they would be in jeans and you'd swear they had just come to town from the farm ...well, until you got a look at my aunt's wedding set and my uncle's Lexus truck. Not all men who are successful want a trophy wife, but knowing his colleagues, I would say my uncle is the exception and not the rule.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 4:42:44 PM
The Mom from "Honey Boo Boo" seems like a sweet person who is alot of fun, but...do you think most men would want to date her? I'd consider her appearance to be lower maintenance. I am sure her man is happy w/ her, but do you think a man who earns 100K would be?

There's a lid 4 every pot!

Wearing heels, dresses, skirts, makeup, perfume & curling your hair may make a woman medium maintenance, but certainly not a whore...it makes her feminine looking-whereas a whore is someone who has sex for $ regardless of their appearance or gender!
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
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Posted: 12/11/2012 5:10:15 PM
I wouldn't know who the mom from Honey Boo Boo was if she were standing right in front of me.

Personally, I prefer a woman who looks great in jeans and flats and is willing to go out and do an all day hike in the mountains. The heels and dresses and all that other junk is just window dressing anyway. But I have always dated mostly professional women, so I get that there is a time and a place for dress up. Most of the time, I prefer to wear and be with people in casual attire.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
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Posted: 12/11/2012 6:37:42 PM
^^^ Paderic, not only will I agree, but I'll "raise you one"- I prefer a man who wants to be nakie & work up a good sweat, smearing off the makeup, if he is really sweet & asks nicely, I'l leave the heels on 4 him ;0P
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