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 valerie555
Joined: 1/25/2012
Msg: 198
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Yes. It's hard to focuson more than one at a time.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 199
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 7/20/2012 11:30:19 PM
It is up to you who you date. Unless I am in an exclusive relationship I would date whoever interests me to keep the options open and everyone is entitled to do that. If a woman is interested in you seriously she will concentrate on you, otherwise not. Cyberspace dating is competitive because of the number of men that women have to choose from and women are spoiled for choice very often if they are in any way attractive. Dating one at a time is for those that have serious interest in a person and want to develop the connection.
 shoopashoes
Joined: 5/16/2012
Msg: 200
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 7/21/2012 1:14:23 AM
I date or chat in general to one at a time. As honestly it tends to take some time to even find one you seem attracted to and get along with. However as the poster above says, this does constantly backfire. However I am not at the point to be speaking or trying to meet 5 people, as for me that would show none of them were more then anything will do rather then be alone.
I do cut them off very quickly now and just keep moving along as soon as they start the obvious games or are clearly lining up a lot. But no I only want to date someone who stood out from the start ( same as any ex ), not just end up with someone who really could of been anyone in the bunch.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 201
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Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 4:00:28 PM
I would MUCH prefer to date one woman at a time
however,
too many women are flakey, game players. And, I've learned the hard way, if you put all your eggs in their basket, they will disappoint every single time.

Better to have 2 (or more if you can do it), going at the same time.

My experience with women has been, "Two is one. And one is none." Unfortunately, for a lot of women, if they don't think you have any other options, they will act a fool.

Very difficult for me to do now, as an old codger, but, "back in the day", if a woman acted up, I was "on to the next".

This one time, at band camp...............................a woman I was into, pulled a "disappearing act" on me for a few months........................turned out she was pregnant with (another) kid from her baby daddy.

She resurfaced months later. By that time, I had met a much more attractive (childless) woman. I had the most gigantic s-eating grin on my face when she called me talking about, "Sorry I disappeared but..........................."

I was like, "No problem. I am seeing someone else." She was like, "Well........................ can't you date two women at the same time?"

"Sure I can, but I don't want to."

Bye.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 202
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 4:43:55 PM
You resurrected the 3 year old thread to tell us this story?
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 203
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 5:12:20 PM
I date zero at a time. It simplifies life.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 204
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 5:15:33 PM
Yup, but I have met 2 women on the same day once. [first meets that just happened to work out that way] But I would have quickly cancelled the second meet on short notice had the first lady been one of those rare ones I wanted to see again for an actual "date".

The "force" is strong that way.

Very strong.
 MillaKitten92
Joined: 9/23/2015
Msg: 205
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 7:24:32 PM
I try to date one at a time, usually ends up that way. I'm in a difficult position at the moment but it might be simpler ooor more complicated than I thought not sure. I am guessing I will see. Although I am enjoying being single now. Really getting used to it. It is rather pleasant really. Lots more time for hobbies he he. I'm growing blueberries and strawberries inside. Hoping to add blackberries or raspberries to my collection. Also want to get a fluval edge 12 gallon aquarium and put some cute fishies in it. Need to wait till my desk comes though, it was *supposed* to be in this week but nope.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 206
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Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 8:36:30 PM
I date one at a time- once a year.

(Provided I hit all the lights, the wind's at at my back, and I going down hill- maybe)
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 207
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 8:50:35 PM
Going out on with 1-3 dates with someone is not an exclusive relationship. I don't necessarily put all of my eggs in 1 basket that early. Even when a first or second date goes well, there is no guarantee that there is going to be another date due to a variety of reasons. If things start to get more serious between us after 3-5 dates, then I will consider an exclusive relationship.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 208
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/30/2015 8:06:54 AM

Focusing on one at a time can (and usually does) shoot you in the foot.


So does dating all 5 of those women at the same time. No matter what, it's ultimately going to come down to picking one, or picking none of them. The more you know about the person, the easier that choice is.

There needs to be balance and communication. Remember, dating those other 5 could cost you the girl you end up wishing you were with. You can't learn that much about that many people at one time. You kind of do need intimacy to really get to that point. (not sex, intimacy in the way that every professional on the topic uses the word)

Both approaches to dating have their pros and cons, you can't really say that one is better than the other. But depending on what your relationship goals are, one way will tend to give a slight advantage over the other.
 ClooneysMentor
Joined: 8/2/2015
Msg: 209
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 10/3/2015 1:58:06 PM
Harems are expensive.



Yup, but I have met 2 women on the same day once.


Ahh...The Double Header

Tried one of those once and it backfired.

I got too tipsy on the lunch date and was sunburned by the dinner date :(
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 210
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 10/3/2015 2:36:44 PM

Yup, but I have met 2 women on the same day once.


I did too. One woman needed to reschedule it was the only mutual free time we had. I had lunch with 1 woman at noon and drinks with another woman at 8pm.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 211
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 10/3/2015 2:47:29 PM
Rockin Trucker 82 got deleted now?
 ClooneysMentor
Joined: 8/2/2015
Msg: 212
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 10/3/2015 2:48:44 PM
I think him and Motown are taking things offline.
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