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Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 38
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In my opinion a man who enjoys oral also enjoys giving and to give is to receive. Thus a man probably thinks that is just a wonderful gift that a woman desires him enough not to want to spit him out but to indulge every last drop. We ladies are salty too.

I've never dated a woman in my life who put much stock in receiving. Girls I date are givers. Everyone is different. My best guy friend only really likes to give and doesn't care about receiving much. Everyone is different. I'm the exact opposite of him.

That said, I am a good bf/husband/whatever and if I am with a partner who wants to please me (by swallowing because it makes it 1000 times better with the intimacy involved) I always, always, always drink pineapple juice. It makes everything much better.

What it really comes down to is respect. Both people have to be compatible and respect each other. If I met the love of my life, and she was truly the love of my life, even if she didn't like swallowing she would do it once in a while - just like once in a while I would do something for her.

No relationship is perfect. Every relationship requires compromise. And most importantly, selfish people ALWAYS have crap relationships.

Joined: 6/8/2007
Msg: 40
Men receiving oral
Posted: 4/29/2009 7:51:10 AM

Swallowing allows us to enjoy it and relax, rather than having to worry about telling you when we are about to and have to worry where to cum.

Very true. I cannot relax if I have to worry about when I cum and let her know, blah blah blah blah. Now, some women may have not matured past their teens or 20s sexually, and will call it gross and such. Those women are simply excluded as possibilities.

I have said it before and said it again. I'll eat a women through multiple orgasms without spitting her on the floor, without a clothespin, without complaining - I actually love to do it - and I expect the same in return. I would never force a woman to do something she doesn't want to do. It's called sexual incompatibility - and you move to the next one.
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 41
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/4/2009 9:31:50 AM
I dont really like cumming anywhere besides in a woman's vagina .. but whats really bad is pulling out just before you cum ...only did that a few times when younger and it sux ..oral or me is fore play and im going to be pounding your vagina by the time i cum
Joined: 2/21/2009
Msg: 43
It's all good.
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:58:48 PM
Spit, Swallow, Dribble Drool...Whats the difference??

The difference dear girl is in who it is (but you know that) and it is an act of submission to him (and you know that too) and an act of control of him (and you know that as well).

and i will add you are a delightful girl
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 45
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Posted: 5/12/2009 9:01:56 AM
IMO, fellatio is 90% enthusiasm and 10% technique. For a few women, nothing's a bigger turn-on. Having known one, I can say that just watching that intense enjoyment was so erotic I never paid attention to the details of what she was doing.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 46
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/12/2009 10:41:45 AM

Well, you're no fun

I was gonna reply to that guy, and his ilk, with "just sit down and STFU", but, especially coming from a woman, your choice of words is waayy more devastating.
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 48
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/15/2009 11:03:41 PM
Swallow or not, I just like the oral.
Joined: 10/20/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 5/16/2009 8:47:22 AM
There actually is a psychological aspect to it which is that when a woman swallows it is the full acceptance of the man and his whole being. It is just part of our mental make up. It is as if we are being rejected in some way when a woman doesn't swallow and it is horrible when she spits it out in front of us. Maybe if a woman was good at misdirection she could get the guys attention away and then wipe it into a Kleenex or something but don't let him know you are doing it if you want him to have even increased feelings for you. Most men don't know it or won't say it but it does mean something to us.

It also has a physical aspect too because as someone else said we don't have to concentrate to let the woman know when we are ready to go because that actually takes away from what the woman worked so hard to achieve.
 Mexico Joe
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 50
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/16/2009 8:57:43 AM
Do you enjoy recieving oral? cause if you wouldnt have to ask that question...
Some women like to deepthroat...and or swallow...just a personal preference...I wouldnt ask my partner to do anything I wouldnt do if I were in her shoes and vice versa...

But yes deepthroating feels good...its a smaller hole than ur mouth...and some women have BIG mouths (just like most men but in a BIG loud mouth way) so the smaller hole for some men I guess would dig it...
Gagging sounds make me im out on that...but if she wants to do it...and it turns her on and enjoys doing it...kinda hard to say NO!!! just go with the FLOW!!!
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 5/16/2009 9:49:28 AM

Isn't the feeling the same for you men when a woman sucks every last bit out of you and then decides to spit? Really have just finished blowing your load, right?

It's already in your mouth, so what does it matter if it goes down your throat?

Another is why is deep throating so enjoyable for you men.

I don't find it that enjoyable. I think that myth was created by the porn industry, and guys who aren't self aware of what truly gets them off believe it.
 Mexico Joe
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 52
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/16/2009 10:06:00 AM
I think the editor of this post watches too much porn? yet they get paid 2 do it...
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 53
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/16/2009 1:00:06 PM
You don't have to swallow, but gagging is a turn off, spitting is rude anywhere you go, and honestly if it makes your man happy deepthroat until you are tired, you expect a man to make you happy then don't be a hypocrite and decide ( unless it hurts or goes against your moral fabric ) you don't want to do certain things to make your man happy. Next thing you know you will stop cooking, cleaning, working a real job and expect your man to put up with all your non sense and swallow it happily, sorry you'll be alone with this kind of thinking.
Joined: 12/22/2004
Msg: 54
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Posted: 5/16/2009 1:08:05 PM
Swallowing is a purely mental thing. All men would prefer a woman to swallow, but some get more hung up on it than others. Deep throat is the best. It is probably comparable to a womans feeling of having it all inside of her but I would imagine the sensations are different. Deepthroating while having a tongue roll up and down on the shaft is great. While a girl is tugging on my balls at the same time as this is pure bliss.
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 56
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:30:23 PM
ummm Yankee Girl,, can't you think of anything better to do with it than "put it in your PURSE" ??!!!!! LOL LOL LOL!!!
that's really gonna gunk things up.... its not like chewing gum that you put back into the wrapper ya know....
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 57
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Posted: 5/17/2009 1:48:58 PM
My personal point of view is that I do this for special persons who don't expect it but desire to experience it. It's not something I enjoy doing, but have done. Its not something I want to do all the time - special occasion only.I notice a lot of men want it but I'm doing that for my special someone only....That is just something I feel is reserved for a man who is committed to me.

Just my point of view.

Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 58
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:14:28 PM
After enjoyably reading almost the entire thread on this, here's 2cents worth (or a 1/2 cupful, whichever way you care to measure)....

"Does it really mean a big deal for a woman to swallow"
that's gotta be relationship-specific - obviously yes for some, no for others.. if you watch much porn (and carefully), you won't see a lot of women actually 'swallowing', although they give the appearance - psychologically, it could mean the most intimate trust and love from a partner to down-the-hatch, as opposed to spitting, 'pursing', hiding it under the pillow for later, or trying to disguise the discharge from the mouth with a polite swipe of a washcloth across the lips (kinda like spitting out a piece o' fat into a napkin at the dinner table. eh?)... please please please! don't jump out of bed, run to the bathroom and hawker in the sink .... GRRROSSSSS - i would personally NEVER want to have oral sex with someone that did that regardless if it was an award-winning performance - how TACKY can you be? you might as well take a shower, shave your underarms, trim your toenails, brush your teeth, and gargle while you're at it!!!
i feel giving and receiving oral sex is the highest level of lovemaking two people can share - it is the most intimate contact that we can make: kissing the sexual organs of each other's bodies - if a woman is really into pleasing me, she will swallow simply because it is the most natural conclusion to the act itself; however seductively letting it run out of her mouth onto her chest, or back onto me where she re-enlists her talents of mouthstrokes, isn't a problem either; just as long as she does truly enjoy what she's doing out of love and being turned on by pleasing me, and knowing that in so doing, she will be pleased in return. and ladies, the enthusiasm is not something you can fake - you can fake the swallow, but not the desire.

"why is deep-throating so enjoyable"
if done well, it puts a signficant amount of pressure on the glans of the penis, which is where (we all of course KNOW) the most sensation occurs - many women think giving oral sex is just about sliding their mouth up and down the shaft; some (as you self-described) at least realize there can be numerous sensations aroused by using the tongue and fingers, especially the tongue ( i once reached orgasm with a woman's tongue alone because she was exTREMEly talented with it!), and especially important is SUCtion.
Gagging in itself is not a turn-on for any guys to my knowledge; what gagging does is cause the mouth and throat to become flooded with saliva, and, with the proper amount of suction added, gives the man the added sensation of a wet p****y.

if you have been complimented many times, you needn't be concerned, eh?
and we haven't even crossed over into the land of tea-bagging or constriction.....
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 59
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:40:30 PM
oh i forgot to mention - one way to unobjectionally disguise the displeasure of the flavor is to simply have a drink of some sort conveniently available if possible - my ex-wife particularly liked Pepsi afterward; another girlfriend , just a bottle o' water was kept handy; another just finished the glass of wine she brought with us... the sensation of the semen is quickly washed away and no one is the wiser, eh?
Joined: 11/27/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 5/19/2009 8:23:40 PM
well i think this is definately a prefrence issue because some girls just dont like swallowing. i also think and im sure many wont agree that its a little more gross to hold it in your mouth and then spit and not lady like haha i have always looked at it as more of a fairness issue though because when you think about it when a guy goes down on a girl hes pretty much swallowing all of her juices maybe not in the same way as when a guy gets off but hes tasting it either way so i just think if a guy is willing to do it for a girl its only fair to do it back but thats just me not saying everyone should feel the same. however most guys dont taste like candy so if you try it and its really unbearable then just get creative and let him finish somewhere else i doubt he would complain. i dont think most guys really would complain about not swallowing it but i think its more of a mental thing because its just the idea that youre willing to take all of him like that, that turns him on the same thing with deep throating. i dont believe that a guy really feels much difference when deep throating especially since its something that can only be done for a short short time, i believe its just the idea of it that gets him off more than anything. however i dont believe that most men would toss aside a woman who was decent at just giving a bj just because she doesnt swallow or deep throat, its more of just a bonus for them.
Joined: 8/8/2008
Msg: 63
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Posted: 5/19/2009 10:12:36 PM
You can read 7 pages of guys saying they dont care. What they don't say is how flippin awesome it is when you volunteer it and when there is no cleanup. So you can roll the dice or you can rock his world your choice. Neither is right or wrong.

And for all the girls who say we should taste our own and see how we like it... SHUT UP

Trust me if you think ours is bad you should have a wiff and a taste of what your packin half the time. Omg eww after a few minutes I have to take a tablespoon into my mouth. Ok so what about the 20 minutes of sour leakage I had to take. And we can't spit so shove it.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/19/2009 11:41:47 PM

Trust me if you think ours is bad you should have a wiff and a taste of what your packin half the time. Omg eww after a few minutes I have to take a tablespoon into my mouth. Ok so what about the 20 minutes of sour leakage I had to take. And we can't spit so shove it

Sour leakage??? Where are you picking up your dates? The free VD clinic??

And as for a blow job lasting 'a few minutes' ?? Well... you are young.... you'll get more experience and be able to hold out a little longer eventually.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 66
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Posted: 5/20/2009 1:11:33 AM

Ok, time to rant.

Hun, have you slept with every 18-25 year old guy out there? Has every older guy you've slept with lasted 5 hours?


If you do ever get the opportunity to sleep with a young guy again maybe you should give the man a shot, because I can guarantee you that stereotype has gone out the window with every girl I've slept with around the time they loose count of the orgasms.

Think about that next time foreplay involves a desperate race to the pharmacy before they close.

What? Hit too close to home??
It was a flippant smart ass reply to an (IMO) asinine statement. Nothing more.

What orifice are you pulling '5 hours' from??
"A little longer" ... meaning... perhaps 20 minutes (wanna know what orifice I pulled that number out of??) or whatever satisfies the giver and the receiver at that particular moment in time.

And as far as 'opportunities' go ... no thanks... I'm not a cougar... not even the slightest bit curious. I didn't even want to date 18 year olds when I was 18.

Rant all you want... this thread isn't the place for it. Go ahead and email me if you feel the need to rant at me more. The only restriction I have on my emails is "Must not do drugs".
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 67
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/20/2009 4:48:08 AM

Trust me if you think ours is bad you should have a wiff and a taste of what your packin half the time. Omg eww after a few minutes I have to take a tablespoon into my mouth. Ok so what about the 20 minutes of sour leakage I had to take. And we can't spit so shove it.

Where do you get your gfs? sour=yeast infection, bad hygiene, other kind of bacterial infection, etc...

If you don't like/appreciate it, maybe you should stay away? If I had a date and I ran into a post like that by him I'd make sure he's keep his face and hands and body away from me.

And I had to chuckle at the "few minutes" :p
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 69
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/25/2009 5:27:08 AM

So, basically half the peeps on here are complaining about giving oral. Maybe we should ban it if it's that unpleasant.

Naahh, let's just ban the people who complain, not the concept.
That is the pof way, after all. Lol.
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 70
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Posted: 5/25/2009 8:14:48 AM
it does not matter to me as long as she suck's me.
Joined: 2/4/2009
Msg: 71
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Posted: 5/26/2009 4:57:20 AM
Who gives a f--- if she swallows it or not it feels wonderfull to get to that point of an orgasm . sperm was created to fertilize an egg in a woman I 've had women do both some like it and some don't . Andrew Dice Clay said they had to chew when they received his load He said there was so much there that they needed a fork and a knife . I saw an bukake adult movie where a woman had a cum bong from several men . how gross can you get? No big deal though if you like it knock yourself out I am not going to sweat it . However I have been thankfull to acheive and to receive .
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