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Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 110
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I prefer if a woman swallows. I think its all part of the after-effect. Kinda like the fact that if you rub a mans toes right after orgassm it feels great. Why? who knows but he did just have an orgasm which is one of the best feeling in the world man or woman. But it still feels good to have my chest rubbed right after. Its kinda the same as if a man just finished and you got off at the same time and he just rolls over and falls asleep or leaves. Is that exciting? No. Same thing for a guy and he just had an orgasm and wants to see his baby gravy swallowed. Its already in your mouth just swallow it.
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 111
Men receiving oral
Posted: 1/23/2010 12:46:39 PM
Just wanted to chime in on this topic.
Something recurring that's kind of annoying me, many people are saying deepthroat is gross or its all about power play like the man being in control.

Well got news for you people, every guy likes head a different way, i'm uncut and the head is WAY to sensitive for you to suck on just much so that if thats ALL you gonna don't bother, cuz a)it hurts after a while b) you not gonna make me nut that way.

and another thing i've seen weird comments about SPIT...someone actually said spitting on a****during head is gross...I must be gross then cuz I LOVE wet/drooly bjs.

as to the great swallow/spit debate...I've only finished from head a handful of times...BUT I aim in that direction a lot haha...and well either or I don't care...but THE WORST you can do is A) cum james bond trying to squirrel out of a death trap B)make EWWW/GROSSS/PUKIE face C) race for the washroom to hurry and spit D)SCREAM for a kleenex or towel to spit into...those are all major turn offs...and would personally ruin the orgasm i'd just gotten.
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 115
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Posted: 1/28/2010 7:34:58 PM

ronnieb77To me it was like this amazing level of acceptance.
BINGO!!! You said in 10 words what would have taken me pages. (no surprise to anyone who actually reads my posts, LOL) ohjees You also nailed it on 1 & 2. The BJ IS MUCH BETTER if she continues with a light technique afterwards, letting you "cool down"; and technique is MUCH more important than specific act. Actually, I think it is every bet as important to look down, and know she is enjoying herself. If she's really trying, a mediocre BJ becomes a lot more enjoyable. For me, I think that's a majority of the enjoyment of deep throating. I think it's more attitude; the sensation itself isn't anything to write home about; but just knowing that she is genuinely doing something to try to please you goes a long way with me. As to swallowing; not trying to show my age, but that is something that has found it's way into mainstream since I was an adult. Porn has added very few positive things to mainstream sex; but I think this, and women simply being more comfortable with their sexuality, are two biggies. (no pun intended). It has been a while since I've had a lover who didn't swallow; but I think as long as she didn't act like it was a radio active contaminate, we would probably be fine. Nothing kills a buzz like a woman making a face, and pointing it away from herself. Regarding spitting; for those women who are willing to take it in their mouth, but not swallow; dribble it back on him, and play with it a little. Leaning over and blowing one into the trash can is also anticlimactic, (pun intended).
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 1/28/2010 8:26:41 PM
Like some have said, it creates a continuation of the experience. But most importantly, it's even more pleasant if you feel that your woman is *drinking you* in. Instead of accumulating sperm and then spitting it out, as if it were dangerous or gross than to keep it in your mouth.

It's more exciting, more fulfilling, less inhibited. I won't make a big deal if she doesn't, I'm just saying it's more exciting, more fulfilling. The yuck factor tends to get in the way of great sex...

(except for something really yucky, such as poop..)
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 119
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Posted: 9/25/2012 7:32:37 AM
Doesn't make much difference to me....but personally, i'm all about the visual of finishing "on" a woman in strategic locations vs in when it comes to oral. I just happen to find it sexier, so do the women i'm with who enjoy a visual.
Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 120
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Posted: 9/25/2012 7:50:14 AM

Spitting/swallowing.. that doesnt really matter. Swallowing is seen as "dirtier/kinkier" and or a sign of affection by some guys. I dont know about affection, but its definitely kinkier to me since so few women do that. Same goes for DT. The sensation of going the whole way down with all the different pressures and textures in the mouth can be fantastic if done right to no big deal or even painful if done wrong (straighten your neck, our**** dont do angles well when hard! lol). However it just looks amazing.
The feeling of DT is nothing compared to a woman that not only knows how to use her mouth/tongue/suction pressure very well, but also knows how to use her hand/hands in tandem with the mouth. One on the shaft, one on the balls, and I'm your love slave. I'll take that over DT any day of the week.

People that concentrate on trying to force DT either have watched too much porn, not enough experience with a good BJ, have control issues.... or any combination of the above.
Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 121
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Posted: 9/25/2012 7:53:22 AM
I forgot to mention, the best part about a BJ is the end. Good oral that continues through and beyond orgasm is crazy good. I dont know about everyone else, but you got a near 50/50 chance of me going right back up.. and the attempt at a 2nd orgasm is waaaay more sensitive than the first go around.
Just like when a guy continues to go down on a woman after she's had an orgasm or 5. The sensitivity is off the charts.
Joined: 2/17/2011
Msg: 122
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Posted: 9/25/2012 8:03:23 AM
hi there

im VInce 31 from mtl and i can tell u a BJ does feel great especially when the girl knows what to do. I have had some bad blowjobs already and a few good ones. A good 1 must be long and not rushed take your time and make him feel special and enjoy the fact that ur making someone happy. Oh and for swallowing as long as i cum i dont really care where it goes.
Joined: 9/1/2012
Msg: 123
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Posted: 9/25/2012 10:16:27 AM
Does it matter if he spits or swallows? What if the shoe was on the other foot? I am not sure how I would react to a man spitting away after doin the deed...but it would be an interesting conundrum indeed.

I'm sure if you were to ask the man you were with he would happily give you his take on what he cares or doesn't care about. What is the point in polling the masses? I would bank you could get a hundred different reasons for preferences in here, and at least a hundred messages asking you to expand on the many compliments you get on your expertise. Slow day in the mailroom?
Joined: 7/31/2010
Msg: 124
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Posted: 9/25/2012 11:41:10 AM
Saying that you don't understand why a man would want to be deep throated, is like me saying that I don't understand why a woman would want me to put my penis all the way inside of her instead of just the tip.
Joined: 7/30/2012
Msg: 125
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Posted: 9/25/2012 2:17:57 PM
Its very pleasureable; because, of the errogenous zones that are involved. I hope you appreciate my 2 cents.
Joined: 4/27/2012
Msg: 126
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Posted: 9/26/2012 4:55:09 AM
Some guys probably feel offended if a woman doesn't like their semen but for statistics sake, I don't care if she spits after.
For those who are afraid to let a guy finish in the mouth, the things that turn a guy on is seeng the woman go all the way pleasing, seeing as we feel this great orgasm, and of course the sensations received.

I was lucky to experience deepthroat as not all women can do it I believe.
It's a HUGE turn on to see a gal swallow my entire**** and feeling her lips at the very base of the shaft.
It's a different orgasm than a regular BJ, both are awesome for sure, but for deepthroat it's the feeling on the base of the shaft and also the head rubbing in the throat. The positive is a woman doesn't get to taste it that way if she's not too crazy about it.
Joined: 9/10/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 9/27/2012 12:02:00 AM
Once I give it to her I don't care what she does with it !!! My opinion!
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 128
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Posted: 9/27/2012 12:29:30 AM

1) The best part about a woman swallowing (in my opinion) is the continuation of the blow job. After she swallows she'll continue to give me oral for a few minutes longer. It's kind of like running.... you warm up, go do your workout, then cool down. Blowjobs shouldn't just END because I climaxed. There needs to be a slowing down process. So yes, I prefer the woman to swallow.

I've always said it's the gift that keeps on giving. I love to keep licking and sucking until he can't take it anymore. After he gets off, if I continue, his pleasure is just multiplied. He does this uncontrollable twitching that I just love, until he asks me to stop.
Joined: 8/2/2012
Msg: 129
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Posted: 9/27/2012 1:51:27 AM
No it is not a big deal but what makes a big thing is the media and movies. They show it as something so wild that anything else is not worth it. A woman who offers to please a man in that manner is giving him a pleasure and he should complain about spitting or swallowing and just enjoy the moment.
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 130
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Posted: 9/27/2012 3:29:32 AM
vicxstar: I just think it is rude and disrespectful to not swallow. If you like the guy enough to fvck him, one would think if you care about him--you would. Ejaculate is not a gross thing. It is a life creation thing and wonderful part of him. Maybe it is the degree of emotional involvement you have with the person. Just mho.

I never considered myself a spitter (but then again I never realized the true definition of what one was)...I mean I always let the guy cum in my mouth, but because my gag reflex is very strong, my throat closes and the cum will just sit in my mouth...there are times I can then...eventually...swallow it, but usually I let it dribble it back on him and play with it and never had any complaints...I also never stop using my mouth while this is all happening as I don't think him ejaculating is a gross thing...
I do agree that both partners needs to finish to full completion...when a guy cums they shouldn't run to the bathroom or use a tissue or however they do it to spit it out...I don't think what I do falls under the 'spitter' category but because I don't swallow I guess it does...

Oh, and to answer your me, it has nothing to do with 'emotional involvement.'
Joined: 7/27/2012
Msg: 131
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Posted: 9/27/2012 11:23:32 AM
OP... You have to have strong lungs and the ability to hold your breath for a long time to perform deep throat. You hold your breath while going deep down on a man. The muscles in the back of your throat will tighten around him the deeper he goes. This is where you feel like you are gagging but really it's the muscles that will tighten then release, tighten then release. This is where holding your breath becomes important as you can get approximately 6 to 8 deep long thrusts before you have to come up for air! It's when his movements are too fast, too hard and too quick for you to time your breathing that you will run into problems with gagging.

It sounds like to me that you really do not enjoy giving head! You will have to work on the mental attitude before you can really prepare yourself to fully give him what kind of pleasure he asks of you. If you don’t like swallowing, and like to spit it out each time, stop trying to figure out why it’s so important to a man. Just realize that you are not the type of woman that fully enjoys giving head to a man and swallowing. It’s ok not to like it! Not everybody does. You don’t have to perform the duties if you really don’t want to. Figuring out why a man loves deep throat or why he wants his woman to swallow will not change your mindset as to why you dislike doing it in the first place. You have set your limits to what you enjoy and don’t enjoy and that’s all there is to it! Find someone that doesn’t care if you swallow or deep throat. You will never be able to please someone who does enjoy that if you find it disgusting or pointless.

Find someone that agrees with how you like to give and receive and go from there.
Joined: 12/24/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 9/28/2012 2:56:18 AM
i m totally agree wid u, tongue works far better than deepthroat
Joined: 6/8/2012
Msg: 133
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Posted: 9/29/2012 12:48:14 PM
I really don't care what you do with the "result" of

swallow, that points its the same for me unless you decide to spit it all over something that can get

While I don't really care I was intrigued by one girl who would finish the job and then get up, walk all the way to the bathroom and spit it out in the sink....I always figured it was a taste thing but it would seem getting up and walking into another room would take far longer to deal with the taste than to swallow. I just found it funny more than anything.
Joined: 5/27/2012
Msg: 134
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Posted: 9/29/2012 1:06:07 PM
sweety its the ultimate like you sqirtting by an orgasism from your gspot bb
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 135
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Posted: 11/29/2012 9:51:45 AM
It doesn't ~Really~ long as you Both enjoy the experience.
Enjoyment is Everything!!
It's the same with Cunni-....
Even if I got no more than a good 2-fister in return....I'd Still want to go down on her....Several times a day!!
* G R I N *
Joined: 8/22/2012
Msg: 136
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Posted: 12/3/2012 8:31:19 PM
When I was a virgin, the first woman I was with went down on me immediately. When I climaxed, it changed my life. When she went and spit and washed her mouth, it changed again. She told me she forgot to tell me, she didn't like the taste. But later on that day, she was back down there again. I didn't know what to do, she didn't believe I was a virgin and I left her after a week or two of this and didn't have sex again for 5 years.

Now, a woman who is obsessed with head is all I seem interested in. I am usually celibate for years due to this, also due to the fact I don't sleep around, I don't canvass drunk women for sex and I don't seem to be able to figure out how does one end up in a relationship with a Fellatrice or a woman with an oral fixation? I never found out how, and asked around a lot. Tons. Never found out how to find my compliment. I heard a lot of 'I am that kind of girl.' over the years but all posers.

It is a big deal if a woman loves what she does. If she doesn't, then don't do it. Period. I don't. If I don't want to or like to do something intimately, they know up front. I would like to also for no one is obligated and if you are with someone who doesn't, then you are with the wrong person.
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 137
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Posted: 12/4/2012 7:36:23 AM
LOL...alright she speaks! it and its all up too the woman....Ive said bfore if your lucky enough to recieve oral from her its up to her what she does at the end!....bravo! go girl! a great holiday and be safe!
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 138
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Posted: 12/4/2012 9:24:56 AM
As far as swallowing.... Im on the same page a poker. If your not going to swallow, don't make an ordeal out of it. For me though, geeting deep is most important. Nothing like the sensation of her nose on my navel when I am deep inside. A lot of women use the hand wrapped around the shaft to make it seem like its deep, but I find that turns into a J/O session with her mouth as the receptacle. I prefer hands were not used.
Joined: 2/22/2006
Msg: 139
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Posted: 12/12/2012 12:33:53 PM
I'm with you. As long as my lady partner firmly milks me until I am completely done climaxing, she has given me her all and can do as she wishes tastefully.
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