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 catchmeifucan
Joined: 2/26/2004
Msg: 69
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??Page 6 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
May be we got some aliens or witches (if at all it's true that their images don't get captured in a photo)
Anyway, don't know, i guess it's personal preference, may be he could have dissed you and you meet him up somewhere and slap him
 catchmeifucan
Joined: 2/26/2004
Msg: 70
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/13/2004 3:22:36 AM
Jackson, in your "any help" thread it was clearly stated that it's the situation with your pic and it appeares as though most people agreed on that, Change the pic and smile for the camera this time.
 rockarollawoman
Joined: 11/6/2004
Msg: 72
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/13/2004 6:32:18 AM

to the world you may be one, but to one you may be the world


that's the coolest expression i've ever heard in my life!
 Kellysexybabe
Joined: 3/23/2004
Msg: 76
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 7:28:48 AM
guys do it too..
here are some rules for pictures

no pictures of you eating
clear pictures are good
no pictures of kids(not good)
the more naked the better

whats with the pictures with flowers and other stupid things thats what i want to know?????
 the_big_bad_wolf
Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 81
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/14/2004 10:43:29 AM
o k maybyer if i had the proper eqiuptment to post a pic if i knew how and also why post your pic? if someone doesnt like you they have your pic!! think about it..
 MrFrankenstein
Joined: 12/12/2004
Msg: 96
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/13/2004 1:51:01 AM
giggleparts made the good point that people should be comfortable with themselves.
I agree.
(However, I know Im not, and many people aren't, either :)

But having a pic on the profile is the only real way to be 'seen' - is this shallow? Yes.
A bit vulnerable? Oh yes :)
But its the way things seem to work generally.
So I grit mah teeth and up the pic and hope.

(If you don't see my pic, its still awaiting approval.

I'm not one of the 'no pic for me' team :)
 MrFrankenstein
Joined: 12/12/2004
Msg: 100
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/13/2004 9:31:50 AM
I'd respond with something sensible but I'm too busy with the rush from the compliment from rheanna .. :)

actually, coming from the country I do, I can sort of understand why a lot of guys dont post their pix - it can be seen as an admission to the world that 'Hi, I'm a loser and single - and I cant really find a soulmate in real-life'. Now I know that isnt true, but dang, the little twinge experienced inside when I hit 'send' to upload my pic, tells me that I have a whole bunch of conditioned idea's and preconceptions about online dating that I have to override. Are my neighbours or co-workers going to see this and s at me? Is this an admission of failure in real life? You know, all those dumb thoughts that we never talk about :) (Then I look around at whats available locally, and realise, its the only sane option left to me :P )
 marcostranostra
Joined: 5/18/2004
Msg: 105
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 12/13/2004 2:02:24 PM
See, this one is quite easy to explain I myself have had friends who have done this and not because they had some pretruding digusting bloated wart or growth or something but because they are just too d*mn cheap and their poor broke a** cannot even afford the busride let alone the 20 bux to shell out to get to the Walmart to get a Camera!
The Truth Hurts...Marcostranostra..
As much as I do not want to admit it I myself have had this problem at(weep...weep)one time..yes believe it I was and still am dirt cheap.....thank you this is my first post .
 Martel
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 113
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Posted: 12/14/2004 3:25:19 PM
Hey Vanni -

Just ask! Some people may simply want to get to know whom the real person is before getting into superficial physical details. Of course, some people are all about the physical, and that's fine too, but there really is more to life than that. I know that I look good (well, decent well, decent, anyway) and if a woman responds to what I have written about myself without having seen a picture, then I am more likely to want to get to know her. Certainly i am like most people in that I need to be physically attracked to a woman before there could be a romantic connection, but the funny thing about physical attraction is that it changes if there is an emotional, psychic, or intellectual attraction. Personality really is very attractive, unless all one wants is sex. Nothing wrong with that at all! But, if that is what drives a person, then that person needs to be honest about his or her motives.

Martel

If some one will not send you a picture after you have made contact, however, then DELETE!
 honestly
Joined: 1/16/2005
Msg: 119
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 1/20/2005 3:03:10 PM
I posted my pic. Does that mean girls will msg me now? Oh yeah, I'm a movie star too...
 Hot Buttered Soul
Joined: 6/25/2007
Msg: 125
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 11/26/2007 1:58:57 PM
When I dont see a picture at least in the message someone sends me.. it tells me Im going to be disappointed. Only once have I ever seen someone who didnt have a profile picture, and found her to be attractive.

I just recently made pictures manditory for initial contact. I am not interested AT ALL in engaging conversations with someone who is hiding. And usually, from my experienece, it's for a reason.

Pictures are as important, even more important than profiles. Just like the old fashioned approach at dating... your sitting there somewhere.. someome catches your eye... you find them attractive... your eyes meet... the rest is history.....
 EagleEric
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 135
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 3/7/2008 12:51:26 PM
I can only speak for a couple of examples I know of:

1. Guy is fat and hideous and ashamed to post his pic. He's hoping his not abundant charm will attract the lady. It won't in most cases. Occassionally he'll snag something, so even the horrible can find something.

2. Guy is very ill and also very appearance challenged. He just wants some company via email. He'll string you along forever without you ever meeting him.

3. Guy hates women and this forum gives him a perfect outlet to attack them. Of course, he wants to remain anonymous as possible, since he might run into his victims in the grocery store or wherever.

The Eagle
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 139
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:16:28 PM
There is not excuse for not posting your photo on a dating site. No matter your profession, if you are looking, you are looking! Who cares? Unless you are hiding your non so attractive looks or you are married, there is no reason not to post your picture on dating sites.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 142
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 8/7/2008 2:17:52 PM

let me explain and if you do not understand then i would never be interested anyway.my story is differant.i date models i know the only reason they date me is because how i look and there is much more to me than that.i want a women who wants me for me.because i am kind caring understanding just a good guy.most women who meet me or just into the looks what about am i a nut or crazy.when women meet men like me or look like me and things do not work out the women says he is a nut.thats why i say looks or overated and therefor no picture if you like me as a person my looks are a bonus.i have given women pictures though but i will not post one.nothing to hide not a secreat life or something and i get alot of emails and dates not because i am goodlooking no because i am a good guy.bye the way were is your picture i have jokes too.


So you don't post pictures just because you "date models". I have dated models too and I post my pictures. You want women to look at you not for a picture because you think you are good looking. But by the way you write, with all those gramatical errors you don't sound as intelligent as you want us to perceive from you pal!
 lindy_3333
Joined: 3/6/2006
Msg: 151
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Posted: 8/9/2008 6:00:31 AM
wow scorpio,
How negative your whole comment is! One million in one? Well, interesting. I know 10 people right off hand, maybe more, if I would think about it, that are now married due to meeting online. That is over a period of 6 years, so not sure if that enters into your odds, lol. I think your odds are a bit off. But if one is so sure something can not happen, then one will do whatever instinctively to make sure it doesn't happen so they can justify their thinking.

I agree, the odds are low, but so is going across town to bars, or outdoor festivals in a community, in finding "the one" that will last a lifetime.

Sounds like you feel that posting you photo won't help your odds. But then again, if you do not, you will never know. The less one does on a profile, the less likely one is to find "the one". So that helps justify your thinking. Heck, even UGLY people online find love and long term commitments. So it cant be about that.

Sounds to me like you aren't really ready to find the one anywhere. If one is seriously looking, they will try a number of venues. Serious people do what is available to find happiness. And a with a free site like this, how can you lose even if you do not find them HERE!? lol Why would one close even one door to finding a life time of happiness??? Seems self-defeating to me....But, hey, it IS only MY opinon!
 lindy_3333
Joined: 3/6/2006
Msg: 152
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Posted: 8/9/2008 6:17:31 AM
laceysintown,

There really are some legit reasons not to post a photo. But, if that is so, then the guy usually puts in his profile he will send one if asked or if you are interested and email and ask for one, he will send one. Your statement is overgeneralizing. I have met men who do not have photos, but I don't frequently, and none fit your scenario.

Even if there is a photo, it doesn't mean it is a recent one! I have met a number of men who had phots that showed hair on the head and them within a normal weight range. I meet them and they are 300 lbs more, and some are bald! So, pics don't always mean much either.

One guy was standing by this nice expensive car too in his photo..... lol.. yeah... he didn't own it! Said it drew the "chicks" . To me those things all are deceit. (No, I didn't care about the car, wasn't why I met him. lol) Once deceit enters the picture, you can almost bet more will follow along the way. So some things in the photos aren't always real anyway!! One needs to use caution about all things in a profile. Photos are just one of them, and probably the least important to worry about. Photos are just an aid.

So, if you really think all men posting a photo are for real, or all guys without one are married, taken or hiding something, you might lose out on the love of your life....

As always, everything in balance, and the above, just my opinion,

Linda
 WokkaWokka
Joined: 12/5/2005
Msg: 153
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:25:46 AM
it weeds out the women who can't read
 animation303
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 154
Y dont guy's post there pic in profile??
Posted: 10/20/2008 9:22:38 AM
makes no friggin difference either way for me.
 Go Rin No Sho
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 161
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Posted: 1/31/2009 2:31:55 PM

Guys don't post their picture usually for one reason, THEY ARE MARRIED.

Take it from one who knows from experience........they ARE hiding something, or, usually......SOMEONE!

First response, bulls*it.
Second response, absolutely true. Personally, I am hiding your shallowness from yourself, so you can continue to judge who is worthy of your attention based solely on their physical appearance. I am unattractive, some would call me ugly. Doesn't hurt, been called worse. I know that there are some ladies who can and do read my profile sans image, because they've e-mailed me and asked specific questions about things in my profile.
So, I guess it comes down to what you are looking for - physically attractive but don't know (or care) squat about what's behind the facade, or what's inside is at least equally important as what's showing.

May you find what you are looking for.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 162
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Posted: 1/31/2009 5:15:36 PM
The same reason why some women claim not to have a picture. They want a person to like them based on personality. Not looks.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 163
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Posted: 1/31/2009 8:03:45 PM

I dont get it , y dont guy's post there pic in profile, i can understand the ones that are just looking for sex but what abt the other ones... U read in there profile am a sexy, attractive blah blah..... THEN y not post it if u are all that???

At the moment I have several pictures up, but I'm also applying to become an FBI agent. If I am successful at becoming one, you'd better believe I'm taking any photo of mine off of the internet ASAP.

I know a lot of people who don't have photos because of the nature of their job.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 165
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Posted: 2/16/2010 3:08:43 PM
Do you guys show up for dates wearing a mask?


What if someone sees you out in public!!!!!




:facepalm:
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 170
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Posted: 2/17/2010 6:00:55 AM
It doesn't matter why SOME men don't have pics. If you require pics to talk to someone, then set a restriction on pics, or don't respond to any who don't have one.

As long as a person without pics isn't searching for or messaging people with pics (that would be sort of hypocritical) then it doesn't matter.

If two people who don't know what the other one looks like want to try and meet in person blind, that's their prerogative.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 174
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Posted: 2/17/2010 8:13:27 PM

What does not having a picture on your profile have to do with meeting in person without having seen what the other person looks like? If a person doesn't have a picture on his or her profile, that doesn't mean he or she is unwilling to send one privately. This discussion is about why someone people may not have pictures on the profiles, not about why some people may not want to send out pictures at all.

Based on being in the forums a long time, people who ask this question aren't asking about people who are sending private pics, they're talking about people who won't send one at all....or won't disclose one for a long period of time.

If someone is complaining about someone not posting a pic but revealing one privately, that'd be kind of silly. If that's the case (I didn't get that from the OP but didn't read every message following) then disregard what I said - but that's usually the complaint.

And there is nothing wrong with messaging those with pics on their profiles even if you don't have one (I happen to mostly message women without pics).

There is if you don't want them to see yours, but you pick them based on theirs and/or ask them for (more) pics. It's hypocritical. Obviously those who really don't believe in dating based on looks won't choose others by that same criteria.

Of course it matters why someone doesn't have pictures. Having a particular occupation shouldn't mean that you are unlikely to find a partner (as may especially be the case if it is very difficult to meet people offline where you live). And the person who require pics may be missing out on someone perfect for her or him.

My saying it doesn't matter means it could be a number of reasons - but it still is what it is. The pic's not there. Period. For those who'd rather see one, it's pointless to ask why - you just move on. Those who don't post pics know that they'll get less response without it, so if they choose not to post one, it is what it is.

Those who require pics require pics. Most of them don't care who they're missing - if they were that concerned, they'd change that criteria. But who cares? Those who don't won't miss those people. Everyone's happy.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 176
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Posted: 2/18/2010 6:41:43 AM
^^^I happen to be a live and let live person. So to me it doesn't matter why someone doesn't care - it is what it is. People do what they do and want what they want. *shrug*

I could rationalize why people who don't want women under 5'6" have that preference (because I don't fit it), but honestly who cares? Someone who's not interested just isn't interested. I'd say they're missing out on me, but if they're not into a woman my height - they're not missing out on anything. Some people don't fall into other people's group of interest. Life's too short to ask why.

Not adding a picture restriction works for you based on what you're here for. Adding it may work for someone else based on what they're here for. Beyond that, why ask why?
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