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 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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I've read quite a few of the threads where people respond in uptight manners. I get that not everyone is open to many things but again I think it's whatever two people are comfortable with unless it's illegal. Some things are just simply WRONG like kiddie porn, beasteality or rape.


if you've read "quite a few" threads.....I would think you would have run into the numerous "kinky" threads that are already here....
and found out....."Kinky" is in the eye of the beholder.
What one person thinks is kinky.....another things is vanilla.

But, hey, it makes for another fun thread for peeps to break out their witty remarks!!
 pleasurelimits
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 9
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Define Kinky
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:02:36 AM
isntafraid that isnt kinky that is just sick
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Define Kinky
Posted: 4/16/2009 1:23:15 AM
Kinky: Showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes, especially of a sexual or erotic nature. Nothing to do with consensual or shame or guilt. If it's "bizarre" or "deviant" then it is, by definition, kinky. So kinky depends on the audience; in some places women on top is bizarre; and in other circles, NOT tying some up is deviant. I draw the line at pain and humiliation. If you need to be in pain, or be humiliated, in order to feel sexually gratified; you need to find yourself attracted to someone besides me.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Define Kinky
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:48:13 AM

Kinky: Showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes, especially of a sexual or erotic nature. Nothing to do with consensual or shame or guilt. If it's "bizarre" or "deviant" then it is, by definition, kinky. So kinky depends on the audience; in some places women on top is bizarre; and in other circles, NOT tying some up is deviant. I draw the line at pain and humiliation. If you need to be in pain, or be humiliated, in order to feel sexually gratified; you need to find yourself attracted to someone besides me.

I agree with you.. however.. *some* people need a *little* pain stimulus in order to climax. I like a little tweak/tug/pull/pinch on the nipples just as I'm orgasming... I like a nice firm to hard bite on my shoulder... and the odd slap on the backside. It's not the pain that triggers things for me, but the rush of chemicals that flood my body making me hyper sensitive to even the lightest touch... but.. since you don't do *pain* I guess I don't get that release. Hehehe.. just saying.

I never did understand the humiliation aspect of it all... but then, it's taken me YEARS to build myself up to where I am now, I'm not about to let some lousy two bit lay tear me back down.. and I don't provide that to anyone either. It just seems so wrong to me.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 16
Define Kinky
Posted: 4/16/2009 5:02:34 AM
What Windllover said.

No pain play, no domination, and no strange looking machines and I'm generally game for anything; some people call that kinky, I call that liking variety.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Define Kinky
Posted: 6/3/2009 10:40:16 AM
Kinky sex usually involves difficult or uncomfortable positions and acts. After sex, you will want to stetch like you do after most workouts. This phase is known as "getting the kinks out" so that you can return to "normal" non-kinky activities.
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Define Kinky
Posted: 6/3/2009 11:03:49 AM
romny! I'm shocked and disgusted that you could ever do such a thing!
Tsk tsk tsk...

*Gets out a bus schedule...*



Everyone has their own definition of kinky. And with how common most kinks are these days, it's not really something that's easily defined anyway.

For me, it's anything that goes beyond simple enjoyment of sex and sexual pleasures.

Bondage, floggings, spankings, roleplay... that sort of thing I'd label as kinky.
Now of course, those things often tie into sex... but they're not usually about the sex itself. They're used to heighten the experience. Bring pleasure in other means.

I've known a few women who I could easily bring to orgasm through spankings.
While for others, it did add to the experience, but wasn't sexual in nature on its own (they enjoyed being spanked while I enjoyed them, but not just spankings on their own).

Of course, this all also tends to mesh in with fetishes.

Where is the line drawn between them? I don't know... and I don't care.
People should just do what they enjoy.

As long as it's consentual (and legal), then they can do whatever the hell they want.
 slybandit
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 6/3/2009 12:42:13 PM
Well, let's see.

If you can only get off by doing it handcuffed in a hot-tub while being whipped by a 'little person' (I gather many of them call themselves that n0w) dipped in butterscotch, you are officially *kinky*.

Anything else is hardly on the radar.
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 6/3/2009 1:31:02 PM
this has been done SOOOOOO MANY TIMES already!!
 daaaveman
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 25
Define Kinky
Posted: 6/3/2009 1:31:18 PM
A bad joke about kinky:

A guy is sitting at the bar looking depressed with his head hanging. A beautiful girl notices and walks up to ask him what's wrong.

"My girlfriend just broke up with me because she says I'm too kinky", he says.

"What a coincidence. My boyfriend just broke up with me because I'm too kinky", she replies.

One thing leads to another and they head back to her place.

She retires to the bedroom to put on her leather, latex, fishnets, and get her toys.

When she walks back in the living room, the guys is leaving, just headed out the door.

"Where are you going? I thought we were going to have fun.", she cries.

He replies, "I already f'd your dog and sh*t in your purse. I'm outta here."
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 26
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Posted: 6/3/2009 1:50:02 PM
Kinky is a subjective word... Anything I wouldn't do is kinky. Anything I would do, but wouldn't like for my mom or my boss to know about, is slightly less kinky.

 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 6/3/2009 4:03:11 PM

what do YOU consider kinky?


This is the sucky part. Some folks think kink is what some folks think is normal everyday goings-on.

I'm not gonna make a list, but I will say that I tend to border on the deviant side a bit. I think though, that "Kinky" is mostly just a word to describe one willing to try ALMOST anything.
 flghtwings
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Define Kinky
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:41:45 PM
The difference between SENSUAL and KINKY is whether you tickle her with a feather, or whether you use THE WHOLE CHICKEN!!
 NotGorshkovAgain
Joined: 4/29/2009
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Posted: 6/9/2009 11:07:26 PM

Using a feather is erotic, but usung the whole chicken is kinky!


Eating the chicken afterwards is perverted.
 Wildcard74
Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 6/10/2009 12:54:46 AM
It has been said before that the term "Kinky" is subjective. I've met women who thought a single act of oral sex was "kinky".

Someone's vanilla is someone elses French vanilla butter pecan chocolate deluxe and vice versa.
 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/14/2009 10:46:16 AM
Sexual terminology is just that! Terminology! It sells and makes money. Kink was a term used for, and by, the beatniks many years ago. What transpires between two, or more, consenting adults is personal to them. They may practice Kink, as in fetishes, swinging, orgies, or even vanilla. In truth, it is all sex and pleasure. The media has made millions by "tapping" into the terminology, and creating their own images to represent "kink!" In most cases, they have created the terminology to represent the "acts" of pleasure.

Whatever you participate in, just enjoy it. Life goes by way too fast.
 100eagle
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/14/2009 5:40:16 PM
I don't think of kinky as a negative. Like you say, whatever people like to do is fine so long as it involves consenting adults.

I tend to be more meat and pototoes in general, although I definitely enjoy a threesome. If the woman is more adventurous than me, I am easily pushed into the adventure. My only limits are no other guys as active participants and nothing goes in through my back door.
 100eagle
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/14/2009 5:43:09 PM
"ass eating :D"

I'm not into that either.
I guess there are probably more things that are beyond my boundaries, things I just don't think about.
 Nazgul29
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:00:02 PM
Well my ex girlfriend was giving me oral in a library and I gave her a very public facial. It was funny watching her hurry to the bathroom with a lot of cum on her face.
 Nazgul29
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 40
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Posted: 6/15/2009 2:02:37 PM
A lot of it (my cum) was stuck in her right eye and she couldn't see very well. The funny thing is, she couldn't say it was snot cause there was too much on her face. We got kicked out because of it. Good times good times.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 6/15/2009 2:49:55 PM
Quite simply, kinky is defined by one's REFUSING partner. If one requests a certain performance or behavior as a sexual or pleasurable act and the other partner refuses, that act is "kinky".

If an act is performed AND enjoyed by BOTH partners in a given relationship, then by **MY** definition that act is NOT kinky.

You may have noticed that my definition of "kinky" extends to TWO partners in a given relationship. I make NO mention of a THREE-party or more relationship OR orgies, things that **I** consider "kinky" and therefore beyond my reach of being enjoyable.


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Msg: 4 -- Your definition of kinky is non-consensual?


**MY** definition of "kinky" **IS** a non-consensual act. If BOTH
parties find pleasure in a given act, it is NOT kinky. It may be
"out-of-the-ordinary" or "not-mainstream", but if the act results in
PLEASURE for ALL involved, it is NOT "kinky".

YOUR description of "Missionary Position", IMHO, **IS** kinky by **MY** definition, NAMELY, the ACT was NOT enjoyed by ALL involved.
 ymmij1759
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 6/15/2009 3:16:22 PM
Oddly enough, I only get off on 'kinky' porn. The regular shit just does not do the trick.
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